The Astrological Relationship Quartet: The Moon, Mercury, Venus & Mars in Partnership

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Lets make no mistake about it: embarking on the quest of analyzing the many forms of human interaction can be a Herculean task.

With all of the rich variations of personality and shades of behavioral nuance to take into consideration, deriving chemistry, whether in friendships, work situations or partnerships is certainly nothing to sneeze at.

The focus of this article surrounds intimate relationships. In Astrological language, the appropriate term to describe the art of comparing individuals’ birth charts for the sake of compatibility is called synastry.

Often, when compatibility is discussed in popular magazines and similar publications, the focus

is strictly on Sun signs, a.k.a, the sign that were all familiar with. While this emphasis provides valuable information concerning our aspirations and what type of fuel we require to sustain our vitality, much more needs to be taken into consideration when deriving a complete picture of how two people mesh. Ideally, in a fully functioning relationship, we incorporate all of our planetary energies to some degree. For this piece, I would like to explore what I call the relationship quartetin partnership Astrology, better known as the Moon, Mercury, Venus and Mars.

All of us have these planets placed in our birth charts in one of the 12 zodiac signs. The style in which that planetary energy would most likely manifest, or be distributed is suggested by the particular sign which finds its home there. When one persons placements are compared with another, we start to derive a clearer picture of what the energy exchange” may look like.

The Moon: “Love is a House

If you ever need warmth or comfort, darling I’ll be here to hold you near. All I demand is you be my security. Love is a house, and you got the key.

– “Love is a House by The Force MDs.

In partnership Astrology, the Moon symbolizes our deepest emotional needs. Its one of the planets, along with Venus in the “intimacy network. When considering lunar dynamics between people, questions arise such as: Do I feel safe with you? Can I relax and be at home with you? Or even, “Don’t I know you from somewhere?

Our Moon signs say much about how were able to navigate the terrain of feelings and adjust ourselves to the instinctual fluctuations and reactions, to lifes ebbs and flows. Additionally, how

we nurture others, and the type of care that we require. Comparing Moon energies between two people raises questions surrounding sensitivity and responsiveness to the inner life of the participants, living arrangements and overall feelings of security and emotional compatibility.

Mercury: Tell Me If You Want Me To

But to my great surprise, ever since Ive looked in your eyes, I had one question for you…Tell me if you want me to, give you all my time….I want to make it good for you, cause you blow my mind. I promise boy that I’ll be true, youre the perfect find so tell me if you want me to

Tell me by Groove Theory

When it comes to overall compatibility, Mercury is an extremely underrated planet. As much as said about a meeting of the minds” and being on the same page, the winged messenger doesn’t get nearly enough of its just due. In plain language, Mercurial compatibility asks: Whats the vibe when we talk? Whats the subject matter of our conversations? Whats the style of the mutual process of exchanging ideas and information?

Understanding how Mercury functions in your chart as well as your partners can give you much needed insight as to why one of you wants to discuss feminism and the other NASCAR, and why this is or isn’t problematic. Also, why one of you may be the best listener in the world and the other can’t get a word in edgewise.

Venus: Come Share My Love

And I’ll give you all I have to give, all the love/all the joy/ my heart can give…hoping you will share the same with me. -“Come Share My Love by Miki Howard

Venus is the second planet in the intimacy network, and sharing is caring could definitely be the phrase that pays when describing the dynamic of its energy.

Venus is about relating to another person. Accommodating, inviting, charming and alluring. Its related to what we find beautiful and pleasing and what we enjoy. When we start to examine Venusian energy between partners we ask:

Do I like being around this person? Do we have fun together? “Is this a fair and equal partnership? “Do I find you attractive?What are the shared values in this relationship? Or equally important: “How do my partners values differ from mine?

How many of us know someone who said they weren’t a good match with someone because their tastes didn’t match? For this: check Venus out.

Mars: “Lets Talk About Sex

Lets talk about sex now/to the people at home or in the crowd/ it keeps coming up anyhow Dont be coy, avoid or make void the topic, cause that ain’t gonna stop it.

-“Lets Talk About Sex by Salt-NPepa

Passion. Heat. Raw, primal energy.

These are the themes which emerge when delving into the symbolism of the red planet.

Martian energy suggests the application of will, action and going after what we want. Mars’ sign provides clues on our different styles of doing this. The sexual energy level is also related to Mars, so if you want to explore if and how your partners libido cranks up, peep the planet.

Philosophically, we ask: Whats the sex game like? “How do we get angry and fight? Whats the m.o. for pursuing ones desires?

Along with Venus, Mars tops off the erotic potpourri, or as Astrologer Stephen Arroyo states:

The harmony (or lack of it) between ones own Venus and Mars energies and the Venus and Mars attunements of another person might be described as interpersonal emotional/erotic energy exchange.

Yeah…. It might be a long night.

Along with the relationship quartet, we have other planets and factors which make a significant contribution to synastry through augmentation, intensification or amelioration in both charts. Astrology should be understood holistically, as the whole is always greater than the sum of its parts. This article is just a mere piece to the complex and ever unfolding puzzle called human chemistry.

Astrological Interpretations: The Sagittarian Mind Cookbook


As a professional Astrologer, one of the points which I continuously stress is that standard, or “cookbook” interpretations of planetary and house positions, aspects, midpoints, etc should only be considered as brief commentaries to get our mental juices flowing. There is no “last” word on Uranus in the 9th house, or Moon-Pluto contacts.

While this is the case, I would also like to offer up that cookbook interpretations are necessary and helpful in helping us to begin the process of deciphering meaning. Astrology is an art based on holistic perceptions, so how each factor in a birth chart relates to every other is of utmost importance. However, as a teacher, I would like to offer up a series of cookbook interpretations with soul to help each and everyone of you on your journey of understanding your birth charts. I’ve decided to move forward with this project with the understanding that the whole is greater than the sum of its parts, but it’s also helpful to understand the components.


Saturn in Scorpio: Our Fears of Transformation


On Friday October 5, 2012, Saturn made it’s way into Scorpio for roughly a 2 1/2 year stay until the end of 2014. While there are numerous ways to interpret its significance, if we follow the continuum of planetary progression by sign, this should provide us with some very strong clues.

Saturn’s ingress into Libra symbolized the “quality control” phase in regard to relationships. Often, Saturn is unfairly characterized as a “bad” planet. It’s consistently referred to as the “grim reaper” and it’s archetype is painted as a severe taskmaster hopelessly bound to convention.  While I don’t totally dismiss any of these ideas, I think it’s time that we examined the other side of the coin and look at what makes Saturn’s principles and energy so integral to our progress.

Saturn is a planet of responsibility.

Saturn asks that we exercise our internal fortitude in order to respond to the situations which we’ve created in our lives. The ringed planet symbolizes integrity, which insinuates wholeness: that our thoughts, words and deeds are in consistent alignment with one another. This results in an inner compass which becomes undivided. A unified front which we can always consult in times of need. The kicker to this is that it takes WORK AND COMMITMENT : two more Saturnine principles.

Unfortunately, as a general population, we often gravitate toward that which demands the least of us. We’re regularly figuring out ways to cut corners, to get the maximum returns for the minimum amount of  time and effort expended. With Saturn’s move into Scorpio, I expect there will be more emphasis on intense focus of energies.

I must admit that if I were to rank the planets on their “feel good” vibe, Saturn wouldn’t make the top five. However, we must remember that what feels good to us, isn’t necessarily always beneficial to our overall well being. I’m sure most of us can point to an instance where we met disaster all in the spirit of euphoria.

One of the larger questions with this planetary shift is: Are we afraid of our own transformation?

Saturn in Libra was a time signaling the structuring and solidification of relationships. This could be because we entered  some type of  partnership and pushed ourselves toward a greater degree of commitment, or we’ve ended one and now have more clarity and definition as to where we stand in the greater scheme of things. We now have a solid idea of what relationships we wish to invest more time and energy towards, and those which aren’t worth the deployment of our resources. Either way, Saturn in Scorpio offers marvelous growth potential.

We have the opportunity to deepen the relationship bonds which were formed during Saturn in Libra, as well as unearth a more profound version of reality. Coming to terms not only with the riches that reside in our connections , but also the fundamental humanness, frailty and vulnerability which often times surrounds intimate relating. In the words of Carl Jung:

“The meeting of two personalities is like the contact of two chemical substances: if there is any reaction, both are transformed.”

If we’ve broken ties with what was dysfunctional or extraneous in our lives, we have a grand opportunity to examine our negative patterns. Complexes, doubts, fears and inhibitions which possibly might have contributed to the overall dynamic. 

Now, we can embark on the road to facing the reality that we’re not what we once were, that things are not the same.

This period asks that we internalize Saturn principles at their most authentic levels. Also, we must keep in mind that Saturn is directly linked to the law of compensation, as we only get out of this process what we’re willing to put into it.

Are we hesitant to participate in this process of self-scrutiny because we’re afraid of what we’ll find? Or, will Saturn in Scorpio be a situation encouraging the sentiments of Marianne Williamson?

“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequateOur deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measureIt is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It’s not just in some of us; it’s in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.”

Psychologist Abraham Maslow calls the phenomena of how we resist personal transformation and repress our greater potential the “Jonas complex”:

“We fear our highest possibilities (as well as our lowest ones). We are generally afraid to become that which we can glimpse in our most perfect moments, under the most perfect conditions, under conditions of the greatest courage. We enjoy and even thrill to the god-like possibilities we see in ourselves in such peak moments. And yet we simultaneously shiver with weakness, awe and fear before these same possibilities.”
During Saturn in Scorpio, the planetary energies are ripe to regenerate the base of our internal power and authority. We must realize that having the courage and dedication to embark on this mission will ultimately produce crisis, which may prove to be quite painful.If we understand that a crisis is simply a turning point in our development where significant decisions must be made, and not a time of catastrophic proportions, then this phase can be seen as an opportunity rather than an ongoing set of problems. Because of our social conditioning, it may be easier to view it as the latter, especially because of the discomfort and upheaval it may bring. However, as Kahlil Gibran simply and eloquently states:
Your Pain is but the breaking of the shell that encloses your understanding.”

During this time we may find ourselves confronted with the intense need to examine our shadow. That part of ourselves which we try to bury because we feel it’s “undesirable” and not fit for public consumption.

A point well worth considering is: when held up to the light, the contents of our shadows have a much greater chance of being analyzed in an accurate manner where both the light and dark can be successfully and productively integrated. Otherwise, as Carl Jung suggests:

“Until you make the unconscious conscious, it will direct your life and you will call it fate.”

Saturn in Scorpio also suggests that we may find ourselves knee deep in examination of the impact of sex on our psyche. This symbolism summons our willingness, or lack thereof , to transcend, or eliminate our barriers and boundaries which we’ve constructed in order  to protect our vulnerability.

Do we resemble the animal who would rather DIE and be eaten alive than embark outside of its safe territory? Or, are we willing to engage in psychic and emotional nudity and undergo a symbolic death in order to be re-born at a much more potent level of intimacy?

On the whole, Saturn’s passage into Scorpio asks that we become our own psychologist. Demanding that we level with ourselves and be ruthlessly honestWe must tap into the real nature of our motivations. In this case,coming to terms with reality not only strengthens our life development, but it does wonders towards the healing of ourselves and others.