If we’re involved with social media to virtually any degree, there are permeating themes that are almost impossible NOT to notice.
One of these issues centers around Men, in general, applying their criticisms to Women’s weight without engaging in critical self-examination.
As a stocky, well-built man who loves his share of great food, wine and imported beer, I can advise Men that it would serve to benefit us to think about these criticisms more thoroughly and to ease up on the judgment.
Here some of us sit, on our couches, remote in hand, with every sports package available, ready to do damage to a 12 pack. The words “gym” and “workout” have suddenly become oblivious to our vocabulary.
Simultaneously, we’re indicting Women for “failing” to keep their bodies up to our “impeccable” standards. Only adding to the tremendous amount of pressure and scrutiny Women are under to begin with. This is of the hypocrisy “do as I say, not as I do” at its finest.
Let’s face it: It’s not an inaccurate statement to say that in general, Men have been given a pass on their looks. They’ve been sequestered from the societal microscopic dissection of their body image. Women have not.
There’s rarely, if any a persistent, glaring message which tells Men: “if you don’t look like (fill in the blank) Women won’t want you.”
There may be exceptions to this, but on the whole, we’re given somewhat of a societal pass from harsh judgement when it comes to our physical appearance.
Because of this, a large number of Women have fallen into the trap of allowing Men to dictate their feelings about their weight and overall self presentation.
Women: while a Man’s insensitive, poorly worded comment about your weight may initially take you aback, please consider that setting and maintaining your own standards in this area combined with seeking well intentioned, reasonable advice in the areas of nutrition and exercise is a strategy which deserves full consideration.