Understanding Your Venus Sign : Your Personal “Love Jones”

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“Sister to the distant, yet risin’ star….Is your name Yemaya? Oh hell nah, it’s got to be Oshun….” – Larenz Tate “Brother To The Night” (A Blues For Nina)

Venus.

Yes, some of us know her by this name.  In tandem, she is Ma’at, the constantly achieved condition of and requirements for the ideal world, society and person.  Rightness, balance and harmony permeates her being. She is Ana, Anat, Aphrodite, Astarte, Ashtar, Aurora, Sachar, Eos, Ina  or Ishtar.

In the Yoruba realm, she is Oshun (Osun), the personification of beauty and sensuality. Not the pursuer, but the pursued. So lovely and enchanting that you don’t even have to set your gaze upon her to appreciate the form. Delicacy, refinement and taste are never strangers to her door.  Oshun has reduced feminine wiles to a science, and could’ve written Robert Greene’s “The Art of Seduction” with her eyes closed.

To quote the late, great Guru from Gangstarr :”she knows what she wants, and just how to get it.” According to a pataki, which is a sacred Yoruba story, Ogun, who was the God of iron in Orishaland, was banned from the city after a quarrel with his father. As a result, Ogun  decided to relocate Dolemite style: WAY down in the jungle DEEP !

So, now Ogun is ghost and the whole community is feeling it. There’s no quality iron in arms length and brighter days seem to be a thing of the past. But wait! Who saves the day? Oshun, knowing her own power, offers to spread honey all over her body to lure Ogun back to the city. She knows he can’t resist. Now, I think this was the “G” rated version, but long story short, : Iron making was brought back to humankind.

This story easily connects to the way Venus operates: the use of feminine power with the highest aims and ideals in mind.  Astrologically, Venus symbolizes the “team player” in all of us. Do we share? Play well with others? Can we live in harmony?

Also, it speaks to our desire to love others and be loved in return; a mutual exchange of the gift of happiness. Venus is the principle of attraction- most specifically in relationships. The sign where your Venus is located in your chart will give clues as to whom you may be attracted to and how you express this attraction.

As a general rule of thumb,  A Man’s Venus sign describes the traits of his “ideal” woman. There are other aspects, or planetary relationships which can modify this, but nevertheless, the Venus sign contains clues about what attributes turn a Man’s head. So, how do you express your love Jones?  I’ve brought some musical selections to help illustrate so we can get to the bottom of this.

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Venus in Aries

“Let’s Get it On” by Marvin Gaye ; “Let’s Git it On” by Smif-N-Wessun

If your Venus is in Aries, you want action. Plain and simple. You’re very independent and have no room for the plodders. Your love style is fiery, passionate and you heat up quick.  In a Man’s chart, this Venus placement says that he wants a woman with spunk who knows her own mind. Someone who has plenty of passions to immerse herself in whether he’s in the immediate picture or not.

Venus in Taurus

“Solid as a Rock” by Ashford &Simpson

Taurus wants to be comfortable. The bull seeks a union that’s both solid and enduring. Yes, she’ll take some flowers and a nice dinner. Candlelight is great too. However, you don’t have to take things over the top because of Taurus’ inherently earthy quality. What she really wants is for you to show her that you value the consistency of the relationship. Also, that you appreciate even the smallest gestures of affection and the efforts to assist in your comfort. In a Man’s chart, this placement says: I know you have a Ph.D, but common sense will win my heart. Simple doesn’t mean simple-minded, but could we take it easy on the Jung and Freud tonight? Thank you.

Venus in Gemini

“How Many Ways” by Toni Braxton; “What’s the 411?” by Mary J. Blige feat. Grand Puba

Variety and communication. The exchange of ideas. More than any other Venus placement, Gemini needs to be talked to and stimulated mentally. It’s advisable that you go ahead and purchase the unlimited minutes package on your phone, and while you’re at it, go ahead and buy a scrabble game and give up the 7:30 pm time slot for Jeopardy for the next few years. With Venus in Gemini, there is also some new and interesting topic to delve into in order to fuel the tremendous capacity for curiosity. When this placement is in a Man’s chart, he likes his women quick-witted, mercurial, versatile, youthful, well-informed and studious.

Venus in Cancer

“Come Close” by Common &Mary JBlige; “Tender Love” by Force MD’s

True intimacy is the cornerstone of this placement. Venus in Cancer wants their love Deborah Cox style: sentimental. All the better if you can create a safe, private nest for the two of you as a shelter from the harshness of the world. Venus in Cancer prefers a relationship where their needs don’t necessarily have to be implicitly stated all of the time.They figure that you’re close enough to them to intuit how they’re feeling. In a Man’s chart, this placement will rub your back softly as you cry watching “Beaches” for the 100th time. He wants a nurturer. His ideal woman is kind, sensitive, maternal, with an innate sweetness. A great listener and supporter.

Venus in Leo

“Spotlight” by Jennifer Hudson; “Flashing Lights” by Kanye West & Dwele

If you have Venus in Leo, you need to be a star. And not so much where everyone knows your name, but this absolutely has to be reality in your small kernel of the universe. Your deep sense of dignity and your thirst for unique, creative self expression follows you with every move you make, as it begs too be recognized. To boot, this personal pride is attached to your personal relationships. Nothing less than being the King or Queen will do. You need praise, admiration and recognition as numero uno. In a Man’s chart, it’s indicated that he wants that Queen. A Venus in Leo Man would like nothing more than to have a woman whom he can show off to the world. Complete with a sense of style, flair and drama about her. A woman who is large-hearted with time, energy and resources.

Venus in Virgo

“Flawless”by Phife; “Top Ten List” by Masta Ace Incorporated

While Venus in Virgo is not the astrological placement that will overwhelm you with passion, it’s a combination of utilitarian success. Venus in Virgo is the type of partner who will show you on an everyday basis, through the most practical ways, that they love you. Usually, Venusian Virgo’s are not big fans of public displays of affection, but are surprisingly lusty behind closed doors. Again, another way to show you that they care. Sometimes the downfall of Venus in Virgo is just being too downright picky. You have your list and your checking it twice for the perfect Man or Woman who never appears and you find yourself alone in a room staring at the wall and in the back of your mind hearing your conscience call. Men with this placement are typically attracted to highly intelligent, discriminating, outwardly prim and proper women. The Librarian who eats Dewey decimal for breakfast or the health advocate who will write you a dissertation on gluten-free foods or holistic healing techniques.

Venus in Libra

“Perfect Match” by Cella Dwellas ; “Real Love” by Mary J. Blige

In Libra, Venus is just thinking about how great it is to be back in one of it’s home signs. There is no placement which can top this one when it comes to the desire for a true partnership. The thought of shared activities and the social whirl excite those with Venus in Libra.

A sense of justice, fair play and cooperation stays in the forefront. Not to mention the thought of how “we” are going to look to everyone as a couple. This is not inherently a negative pondering. However, when overdone, you have two people who have morphed into this entity where no one is able to say their names separately anymore.

A Man with Venus in Libra would be attracted to a woman who is graceful, charming, tactful and very socially adept. Someone who has a pronounced interest in maintaining a relationship with love, peace and harmony as the building blocks.

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Venus in Scorpio

“Undying Love” by Nas ; “Tsunami” by Res

As many of us know, whenever Scorpio enters the picture it gets heavy. Venus and Libra has purchased all of the hallmark cards, so there is none left for this placement. Now…. it’s time to get down to the nitty gritty. The gut level. Scorpio is all or nothing, and if you choose all, they need you to prove it. Yes, they will gladly take payment in blood if that’s what you were wondering.

Venus in Scorpio possesses and insatiable desire for an intensity filled bond. Their idea of true intimacy is not glossing over the faults of one another, rather it is confronting hard core emotional truths about the root causes of issues. Not for the faint of heart, but monumentally transformative if you have the steel reserves to play in that arena.

A Venus in Scorpio man would be attracted to a woman who possesses a profound depth of character and a sense of mystery. Someone who refuses to skate on  life’s surface. She can be exposed to all of the refuse and garbage contained in the seedy underbelly of existence and not bat an eyelash. Yes, she is hard to come by and has many men saying “My tires don’t look THAT bad slashed, I needed a new set, anyway.”

Venus in Sagittarius

“Distant Lover” by Marvin Gaye; “Truth” by Dwele; “Joy” by Talib Kweli &Mos Def; “No Tears” by Pete Rock & Leela James

Venus in Sagittarius wants expansive love. Those with this placement are very enthusiastic regarding the object of their affection and would like nothing better to wax philosophical at 4 in the morning in a hostel in Prague.

They envision a partnership as a mutually mind broadening experience. They require the space and freedom to fly solo and require honesty and trust from their partner. What they are truly seeking is a friend. Heavy emotional demands are not their scene, as it can wear on their optimistic and naturally buoyant temperament.

Men with this placement are attracted to women who are well-traveled(physically or mentally), eclectic, philosophically inclined, open minded, with a great sense of humor. The inspirational type who fuels their fire to reach even greater heights.  High minded ideals permeate this placement, so a direct line to truth is paramount.

Venus in Capricorn

“Old School” by Doom & Talib Kweli; “Faithful” by Common

Venus in Capricorn takes their relationships very seriously. At it’s highest expression, there is the potential for a deep sense of duty and responsibility to their partner. A maturity that says: “I’m going to make this relationship work no matter what.” A unshakable integrity which aligns the consistency of thoughts, words and deeds. Sliding to the lower end, this becomes fear. Insecurity which ignites a need to dictate or control the partner motivated by an illusory, mis-defined “love”. If these fears can be diagnosed and treated, this  combination can serve as a model relationship to others. Men with this placement are attracted to women with ambition and a sense of purpose. Women with traditional values who are goal oriented and know the process of delaying short term gratification for more permanent, substantial gains.

Venus in Aquarius

“No Ordinary Love” by Sade “I got cha Opin” by Black Moon

Venus in Aquarius is wide open. Original, independent, avant-garde, non-conformist- you name it. They make their own traditions and it’s this very spirit which makes them so attractive to others. They do, however, require a considerable amount of freedom in relationships and it wouldn’t be a bad thing if the union was a tad bit unconventional. Unless other facets of the chart strongly mute this placement, this is not a white picket fence type. Venus in Aquarius wants to convey the message that they accept you for who and what you are. They just ask that you truly do the same. Venus in Aquarius men are attracted to original Women. Those who are ahead of their time and unafraid to stick out. Bold women who live by their own code and have firm, logical reasons why they do so. Quirky? Offbeat? Well… the Venus in Aquarius man can dance to that rhythm.

Venus in Pisces

“Love No Limit” by Mary J. Blige; “Infinite Possibilities” by Amel Larrieux

It is very fitting that I began this piece with a photo from “Love Jones”, which is one of my favorite movies. If I had to assign an astrological placement to the film, Venus in Pisces would surely be it. Poetic Love. The type of love that enchants you and envelops you in it’s rapture. You no longer know (or care) about the time on the clock or the day of the week. Just lie here with me and keep blissing out. Let’s go watch the sunrise… no the sunset…. no the full moon. Sharing intimate, innermost thoughts. The Visions and possibilities are endless, but is it real? Can it stand the test of time when the wind blows and steals the haze of euphoria only to purchase reality? Men with Venus in Pisces are attracted to artistic women. Women that know imagination is the biggest nation in the world. Poets, mystics, spiritual seekers. Venus in Pisces men will embark on that journey in a heartbeat.

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Sun & Moon Blends For Sagittarius

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Sagittarius Sun, Aries Moon: The individual’s life fuel consists of free form and enthusiastic exploration of ideas , concepts and knowledge. The energy is blended with a reigning need to have an impact on his/her immediate environment. This person not only wants to know everything, but also wants to be top ranked.

Sagittarius Sun, Taurus Moon: High minded ideals blend with an internal security base that’s practical. Lofty aims are nurtured in a solid environment. This has the potential to result in material progress and the broadening of horizons.

Sagittarius Sun, Gemini Moon: A blend of analysis and synthesis. One has the potential to see the forest AND the trees. Tremendous enthusiasm in the direction of eclectic learning, along with the quest for holistic understanding is evident .

Sagittarius Sun, Cancer Moon: A keen, sensitive intelligence emanates from the emotionally adept teacher of higher truths. Wide ranging, universal thought blends with imaginative impressions from the intuitive realm. The quest for freedom and security needs must work in tandem.

Sagittarius Sun, Leo Moon:  A fervent quest to unearth meaning blends with an emotional need for acknowledgement and recognition as a special personality. The celebrity evangelist or the grandstanding scholar.

Sagittarius Sun, Virgo Moon: Elevated thought is grounded in the realm of the pragmatic.  The wide lens view is focused and given precision in order to maintain both a comprehensive scope and accurate communication of ideas.

Sagittarius Sun, Libra Moon: A blend of the vast intellect required for large-scale ideas and the social adroitness needed for their refinement. Interpersonal dexterity anchors the enthusiastic expansion of worldview via higher education.

Sagittarius Sun, Scorpio Moon: A far and wide search gains intense focus via the reigning need to plumb the depths of existence and leave no stone unturned. Truth is the goal whether upright or crass.

Sagittarius Sun, Sagittarius Moon: The individual is stimulated by the freedom to influence/shape thought and needs their opinions respected and to be taken seriously. A need to stretch boundaries is fused with the hope of future progress.

Sagittarius Sun, Capricorn Moon:  The person’s vitality is activated through experiences which produce significant meaning and have practical application. There’s a need to structure the life energy and pursue concrete accomplishments.

Sagittarius Sun, Aquarius Moon: There’s a drive to search high and low for anything which will provide a more expansive worldview blended  with a reigning need to dismantle the trappings of cultural and societal conditioning.

Sagittarius Sun, Pisces Moon: Synthesis of exploration and transcendence. Core life energy consists of the desire to widen one’s scope. The need is to selfless service to humanity in an extraordinary way via a spiritual calling. Merging the higher, metaphysical mind with the ultra receptive inner core.

Aquarius Sun, Pisces Moon

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*Excerpt from the upcoming “Book of Aquarius”

Where there’s unity, there’s also room for diversity.

You’re most definitely fueled by the aspirations of being your own person, but there’s also a need to tap into the collective consciousness; to be a part of something greater than yourself.

For you, fulfillment lies in dissolving all of the petty and artificial barriers which cause us from solving universal problems.

Often, you may feel a tension of sorts. Specifically between merging and individuation. Emotionally, the idea of submerging your ego in service of greater ideals appeals to you. However, you wont feel sane if you’re not allowed to bring this world the creative gifts that YOU and ONLY YOU can.

If not careful, you can cop to victim status. Distancing yourself from doing your real work and claiming that no one understands you. So, it’s important for you to understand that to rebel, or go against the grain may create a certain distance because everyone isn’t ready for the concept of radical change.

One of the potential lessons contained in this Sun/Moon blend is: to join together in a common cause, everyone doesn’t have to be the same. In fact, differences need to be recognized.

You fall into a trap when you think that to make a difference in this world and affect social change, you have to be a carbon copy or replica who purchased a “revolutionary kit” for $19.95 containing certain cookie cutter phrases, prescriptions, ideologies, physical items and so forth.

If you want to maximize your potential, you can be the spokesperson who distributes the message that everyone looks at things in a slightly different manner, and through that uniqueness of perspective, a multidimensional view is formed, which arms us with more possibilities in curing what ails our basic humanity.

You can let the world know that individuals are present to strengthen the group.

What will you contribute to the masses that’s innovative?

Pisces Sun, Virgo Moon

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The blend of a Pisces Sun and Virgo Moon consists of the individuals core life energy being directed toward  working with the invisible and intangible elements of life.

The sun’s placement suggests that the person is stimulated by an orientation to their inner world which consists of all things symbolic. Music, myths, dreams, films, etc.. pervade the consciousness in hopes that they may be expressed through some creative and artistic form.

The Virgo Moon uses the Pisces sun’s light to reflect a personality which needs to give practical manifestation to these ethereal concepts. There’s an emotional requirement to be exacting, proper and correct about how these particular energies are applied into the world.

This blend symbolizes the no- nonsense metaphysician who is able, through using the Virgoan skills of analysis and discrimination, to make otherwise nebulous concepts, pragmatic and workable in the real world.

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Sagittarius Sun, Aries Moon

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To fight for a cause that we believe in can truly be a noble thing. Accepting the challenges of leadership and the possible consequences is something that’s often discussed and written about, but practiced on much more rare occasions. If there’s a Sun-Moon blend that has the potential to move the world through the strength of conviction, it’s Sagittaries/Aries.

In a birth chart, when the Sun is placed in Sagittarius and the Moon in Aries, the core life energy of the individual is geared toward the aiming and shooting of  free flying intellectual arrows supported by a broad and expansive thrust of thought. The Sagittarian arrow’s symbolic desire is to swiftly travel it’s terrain with a wide, telescopic overview and as few limitations as possible.

This is the Archer’s forte, and it’s all in the name of discovering a meaning to life which is ultimately greater and more comprehensive than when the arrows initial journey began. There is an infinite quest to unearth the significance of interrelationships which explain what we once thought was inexplicable.

The light of the Sagittarian Sun is used by the Aries Moon to reflect a person who needs to “ram” and charge his or her way into the world with forceful impact. The reigning need of the personality is to make a strong and significant statement of personal identity. To actively engage in life through competition with self and others.

The Moon’s placement in Aries suggests that the individual is sustained and nourished through tests of will and courage; through flexing one’s muscles and honing their strengths. This Sun-Moon combination is dynamically energized by passionate faith and the potential potency of big ideas and large scale enterprises. With this blend, subtlety takes a back seat as the principles of desire and expansion are expressed in the most straightforward manner imaginable.

Typically, with this Sun-Moon blend, honing in on intuition and operating off of hunches is second nature. However, there’s a fine line between blending intellect and bravado effectively in order to meet life’s challenges and foolheartedly acting on whims and placing yourself in physical, intellectual or emotional danger. The Sagittarian Sun/Aries Moon individual must learn how to tow this line very skillfully.

Possibly the least constructive behavioral manifestation of this solar/lunar pairing is the dogmatic know-it-all and the overtly aggressive personality which rationalizes “operating independently” as the total disregard of any type of input from outside sources. This potential quality of impulsive action is further explained by David Shapiro:

“If we consider the formal characteristics of impulsive action, certain ones easily come to mind. For example, I have mentioned that impulsive action is speedy; it is typically quick in execution , and more important , it is speedy in the sense that the period between thought and execution is usually short. To mention another, it is usually abrupt or discontinuous in contrast to normal activity , which ordinarily seems to follow from avowed or at least perceptible aims of visible preparations.”

If the individual with this combination should engage in extremely self-centered thought which gives way to haphazard action it can morph into the behavioral manifestation of an  overfunctioning “Type A” [with the “SS” to go along with it] personality.

A productive blending of these Sun-Moon energies has the potential to result in a Visionary who not only possesses the courage to lead, but also the intellectual acuity and flexibility to recognize when it’s appropriate to be receptive to the input of others and cooperate on the basis of strengthening their personal relationships.

Reference: “Neurotic Styles” by David Shapiro

 

Gemini Sun, Sagittarius Moon : Full Versatility

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You ask:

What if my message is chalked up as having little to no significance? What is no one respects what I have to say?

With this Sun/Moon blend, these can be questions of concern.

If you believe in your words and get out of your own way, you have the capability of showing a wide range of  intelligence.

Your life energy is focused into areas which require adaptability and a multi-faceted approach. The potential and raw materials are there for you to be a quick study. In order to maintain your sanity, diversity and fresh approaches must be present.

Dissemination of information is your forte and you have the reigning need to have what you disperse reflect profound and far sighted vision. Employing and stretching your intuitive capacities is part of a road map to get where you need to be. Going above and beyond your immediate environment, whether that’s out of the country, or a short vacation from the left brain.

Let your youthful, tireless curiosity lead you into the land of synthesis and synergy- searching for connections, even if they seem unrelated at the time. You need to live robustly and largely without pretension, so getting bogged down in “classification” , facts and figures can lead to paralysis in trusting the bounty of your philosophical insight. Chances are, you want to communicate high ideas and ideals to a wide variety of people.

Be confident that they’re waiting to hear what comes out of your mouth.

Cancer Sun, Aquarius Moon

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One of the most challenging parts of our unfoldment as human beings is undergoing the process of developing into autonomous people. Staking the claim of our own identities outside of the structures which can either serve as liberating forces or stultifying traps: family, educational institutions, friendships, racial groups, gender roles, etc……

Around Adolescence, which is roughly between the ages of 12 and 18, the desire to have our unique personhood validated and affirm ourselves a distinct individual is intensified.

We want to create our own codes, live by independently established values and put our original stamp on our life patterns. Most likely, we’re not solid in exactly who we are at this point,  so the freedom to try on many hats and experiment with various identities is paramount.

There are a number of tension filled conflicts which arise during this stage: peer pressure, the beginning of consistent contact and relations with the opposite sex, major concerns about body image, attractiveness, popularity and the dilemma of “fitting in” or “standing out”. 

To think that all of these polarities, complete with consistent points of crisis will be resolved neatly and cleanly by our 18th birthday is a fantasy. The process has merely started…..

The combination of  the Cancer Sun and Aquarius Moon highlights the anxious, uncertain yet exciting and electric oscillation between remaining rooted and forging forward; between the past and the future.

In a natal (birth) chart, when the Sun is in Cancer and the Moon in Aquarius, the individual is fueled by emotional and familial security. The core life energy seeks the familiarity of a tribe of like-minded individuals. The Cancerian energy is inclined to seek bonds and connections with others whether they’re “blood”, or simply because their ideologies and worldviews click.

It should also be mentioned that the dysfunction of Cancer attunement is manifested behaviorally as the inability to release these bonds, thereby holding others (and themselves) as emotional hostages. The motivation behind this behavior is often because they feel they’ve given so much of themselves through warmth, caring and active listening that it should be returned in equal measure.

The Aquarian Moon uses the Cancerian Sun’s light and energy as fuel to create a personality whose nourished by anything unconventional which doesn’t fall under the criteria of a humdrum existence. There’s a reigning emotional need to be acknowledged as a unique individual complete with all of the quirks. This person won’t be fulfilled until it’s settled that they’re “not like everyone else”.

Additionally, this Sun-Moon blend calls for the person to challenge the same tribe which stimulates their core life energy.

The misuse of the Aquarian Moon energy can be seen in behavior which is rebellious without a cause and slavish to the “fad” of non-conformity just for the sake of it, which is actually conformity by default.

When used constructively, the tension of this challenge can accelerate and broaden life development.

The Cancer fuel that’s used in belonging must make friends with the Aquarian Moon’s need for the personality to individuate.

A possible positive outcome of this Sun-Moon combination is someone who can make their “home” anywhere. An individual who has released the guilt of unnecessary familial obligation and claimed their birthright to view life through their own unique lens while remaining rooted in healthy attachments and relationships which nurture their self-actualization.

Moon-Jupiter Contacts in Relationships

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In synastry (relationship astrology), when there’s contact via aspect between one person’s Moon and the other’s Jupiter, or vice versa, it opens the door for a wide array of possibilities.

The Moon symbolizes our deepest emotional needs reflected in the form of a personality. Security, comfort, warmth, nurturing and receptivity are all fall under lunar domain.

Jupiter represents amplification, elevation, protection and magnification. Jupiter’s archetype expands whatever it touches from the highest, most inspirational peaks to the depths of gluttony, exaggeration and overindulgence.

With this dynamic present between partners, both of you may feel that you “can’t get enough” of the other person. That there’s no such thing as too much. With these planets aspecting one another, there’s a sense of mutual admiration and protection.

Also, the tendency to hold each other up to the highest ideal. There’s immense potential for a heightening of mood. when in each other’s presence. An infusion of tenderness and heartfelt emotional exchange.The open sharing of feelings.

The flip side of this aspect is that the individual worlds of both partners could be stamped with the stigma of being hopelessly mundane in comparison to the union. This dynamic can contribute to a lackluster effort to explore the world on their own terms and inhibit the joy of independent discovery. The relationship then turns into “life is no fun without you.”

As with any synastric aspect, much of the degree and style of its functioning depends on the level of maturity and  self-awareness of the individuals involved.

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Relationship Astrology: Sun-Moon Contacts Between Partners

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In Synastry (the astrology of human relationships) Sun-Moon contacts are heralded as a textbook factor of compatibility. While one must explore the birth charts and life experiences of both people, it STILL goes deeper than that.

The Moon has no light of its own, it  uses the solar energy by reflecting it into the universe.

Is this a “good” thing? I don’t know. Is it “bad”? Again, same answer.

I’d say it just is, and whatever we choose to make of it is our decision.

When there’s Sun-Moon contact existent between two individuals, one may have indeed met their true reflection. The parts we love about ourselves and the one’s we may be attempting to escape are right there for us in plain view if we pay attention. Essentially, the identity and aspirations of one individual are connected to the other’s emotional fulfillment.

Who one is becoming may provide nourishment and sustenance to the other. In fact, both people work in this shared dynamic. There’s an atmosphere which brings light to emotions and subconscious material— you know….. the kind which we may be projecting on others, but that’s very much a part of our own psyche.

Sun-Moon contacts serve us as an archetypal meeting of the inner masculine and feminine, and this is NOT gender specific.

These designations are more based on symbolic archetypes and less on whether you’re a Woman or Man. Either way, there’s a fusion of the mover, shaker, and generator ; the part of us that’s active, becomes aroused and asserts, and the instinctive, receptive, yielding energy which speaks to accommodation and containment.

So much of Astrological compatibility depends on the state of consciousness that two people are operating from. If both people have made solid commitments to personal integration, these contacts can prove to be much more enjoyable and sustaining than if they haven’t.

Operating functionally, there’s a climate of mutual support, emotional security and the affirmation of the humanness of both partners. Each person has a clear, illuminated  vision for the relationship and more importantly, and objective view of the other.

In an alternative scenario, we’re staring at parts of ourselves that we may have suppressed because it’s not flattering to our egos. So, of course, it’s always the other person that has “issues”. If they would just “see the light”, everything would alright.

What this dynamic produces in both parties is distortion. Instead of a sunny day, it’s a cloudy one which diminishes the capacity to truly relate to each other. So, instead of human to human contact, one or both partners has been reduced to “hey YOU over there!”

It’s understood that another person can’t “make” us whole. However, working with these contacts in a relationship can certainly provide us with valuable material for understanding what it’s going to take to reach those heights on an individual level. The questions about this Synastry aspect center around whether we’re willing to take responsibility for the material that’s OURS and work with it developmentally rather than casting blame or shame on a person that we claim to love and respect.

We would like to believe that we’re great ALL of the time, at least that’s what the bathroom mirror says, right?

The news flash says: we’re not.

The outlook is dismal if we’re not willing to confront the root causes of WHY we are the way we are. But, if we can find it in ourselves to explore this labyrinth, with loving, nurturing support from our significant others, we can certainly bring our psyches into balance and find out more about what can make us whole.

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Astrological Compatibility & The “3 Dynamics” : A Broader View

 

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When traveling the road of Astrological compatibility, much of the writing I’ve read implies a point of view which excludes what I would call “holistic energies”, from the picture.

There seems to be more of an emphasis on whether “this sign works with that sign” rather than how intimate relationships can be part of a gateway which serves our total development.

So, the focus becomes whether Scorpio and Sagittarius “get along” versus what types of relationships are necessary to grow into the type of people we’re supposed to become.

One of the things I discuss frequently with clients are three dynamics, which are simultaneously individual, yet inseparable.

When considering what a truly “compatible” union actually means, all of these passages must have the potential to flourish:

(1) The dynamic of personal development– When we’re dealing with questions of compatibility. It’s essential that we ask about our own potential to develop within the framework of the relationship. Often, we find ourselves wildly attracted to the prospect of being involved with a partner only to discover later on that the coupling stifles, rather than nurtures the person we’re aspiring to be. In essence, we find ourselves trapped. While one part of the relationship may be “adequate”, we feel a certain discontent which could possibly morph into animosity, because we’re well aware that we want to maximize our gifts on a wider scale.

(2) The dynamic of the “other’s” development–  Much of what was just said now applies to the other person (or people) we may be relating to. The questions we must ask ourselves now center around if we’re providing adequate space and support for our partner(s) to grow. Due largely to our conditioning, we may feel that we should now receive exclusive “priority” in every possible situation because we’re in a relationship. However, the fact remains that our partner had goals and objectives which were completely outside of us before we met, and it’s most likely that they still do. We now have to question our capacity to develop strategies which make room for and encourage them in their pursuit of self-expression.

(3) The “shared” dynamic – This ebb and flow deals with synergy. Everything we are as a “couple”. Our collective philosophy and mission statement of the relationship. It’s what we wish to produce as a “team”, and the energy we enjoy when both people have been pursuing their self-actualization and bring it back into the fold as a tool for learning and instruction, as to strengthen and expand the union. Also, questions emerge as to what type of relationship we’re expressing to the community at large. We ask how us being together helps to affect the lives of others, and what our aims are, if any, for adding to the advancement of the collective.

 

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I’m putting forth the idea that compatibility be viewed in a much wider context than it has been, or else we’re most likely selling ourselves short from a holistic view.

When we ignore the totality of our being, we can easily create room for significant imbalances to creep into our relationships. We may love being with our partner, but suddenly realize we have “no life” outside of her/him.

Or, we may become so caught up in outside pursuits that we don’t effectively prioritize that special time needed for cultivation of our relationship.

In addition, we could become so engulfed in presenting a “front” to society as a “power couple”, managing our image to appear in a certain light, and forget all about the larger purpose of why we came together.

Truly effective astrology produces many more questions for further exploration than hardcore answers. I’m inviting all of you, who may be involved with a partner(s), or thinking about embarking on the journey of an intimate relationship, to carefully consider this food for thought and digest what you see fit and eliminate what doesn’t serve you at this time.