“Sister to the distant, yet risin’ star….Is your name Yemaya? Oh hell nah, it’s got to be Oshun….” – Larenz Tate “Brother To The Night” (A Blues For Nina)
Yes, some of us know her by this name. In tandem, she is Ma’at, the constantly achieved condition of and requirements for the ideal world, society and person. Rightness, balance and harmony permeates her being. She is Ana, Anat, Aphrodite, Astarte, Ashtar, Aurora, Sachar, Eos, Ina or Ishtar.
In the Yoruba realm, she is Oshun (Osun), the personification of beauty and sensuality. Not the pursuer, but the pursued. So lovely and enchanting that you don’t even have to set your gaze upon her to appreciate the form. Delicacy, refinement and taste are never strangers to her door. Oshun has reduced feminine wiles to a science, and could’ve written Robert Greene’s “The Art of Seduction” with her eyes closed.
To quote the late, great Guru from Gangstarr :”she knows what she wants, and just how to get it.” According to a pataki, which is a sacred Yoruba story, Ogun, who was the God of iron in Orishaland, was banned from the city after a quarrel with his father. As a result, Ogun decided to relocate Dolemite style: WAY down in the jungle DEEP !
So, now Ogun is ghost and the whole community is feeling it. There’s no quality iron in arms length and brighter days seem to be a thing of the past. But wait! Who saves the day? Oshun, knowing her own power, offers to spread honey all over her body to lure Ogun back to the city. She knows he can’t resist. Now, I think this was the “G” rated version, but long story short, : Iron making was brought back to humankind.
This story easily connects to the way Venus operates: the use of feminine power with the highest aims and ideals in mind. Astrologically, Venus symbolizes the “team player” in all of us. Do we share? Play well with others? Can we live in harmony?
Also, it speaks to our desire to love others and be loved in return; a mutual exchange of the gift of happiness. Venus is the principle of attraction- most specifically in relationships. The sign where your Venus is located in your chart will give clues as to whom you may be attracted to and how you express this attraction.
As a general rule of thumb, A Man’s Venus sign describes the traits of his “ideal” woman. There are other aspects, or planetary relationships which can modify this, but nevertheless, the Venus sign contains clues about what attributes turn a Man’s head. So, how do you express your love Jones? I’ve brought some musical selections to help illustrate so we can get to the bottom of this.
Venus in Aries
“Let’s Get it On” by Marvin Gaye ; “Let’s Git it On” by Smif-N-Wessun
If your Venus is in Aries, you want action. Plain and simple. You’re very independent and have no room for the plodders. Your love style is fiery, passionate and you heat up quick. In a Man’s chart, this Venus placement says that he wants a woman with spunk who knows her own mind. Someone who has plenty of passions to immerse herself in whether he’s in the immediate picture or not.
Venus in Taurus
“Solid as a Rock” by Ashford &Simpson
Taurus wants to be comfortable. The bull seeks a union that’s both solid and enduring. Yes, she’ll take some flowers and a nice dinner. Candlelight is great too. However, you don’t have to take things over the top because of Taurus’ inherently earthy quality. What she really wants is for you to show her that you value the consistency of the relationship. Also, that you appreciate even the smallest gestures of affection and the efforts to assist in your comfort. In a Man’s chart, this placement says: I know you have a Ph.D, but common sense will win my heart. Simple doesn’t mean simple-minded, but could we take it easy on the Jung and Freud tonight? Thank you.
Venus in Gemini
“How Many Ways” by Toni Braxton; “What’s the 411?” by Mary J. Blige feat. Grand Puba
Variety and communication. The exchange of ideas. More than any other Venus placement, Gemini needs to be talked to and stimulated mentally. It’s advisable that you go ahead and purchase the unlimited minutes package on your phone, and while you’re at it, go ahead and buy a scrabble game and give up the 7:30 pm time slot for Jeopardy for the next few years. With Venus in Gemini, there is also some new and interesting topic to delve into in order to fuel the tremendous capacity for curiosity. When this placement is in a Man’s chart, he likes his women quick-witted, mercurial, versatile, youthful, well-informed and studious.
Venus in Cancer
“Come Close” by Common &Mary J. Blige; “Tender Love” by Force MD’s
True intimacy is the cornerstone of this placement. Venus in Cancer wants their love Deborah Cox style: sentimental. All the better if you can create a safe, private nest for the two of you as a shelter from the harshness of the world. Venus in Cancer prefers a relationship where their needs don’t necessarily have to be implicitly stated all of the time.They figure that you’re close enough to them to intuit how they’re feeling. In a Man’s chart, this placement will rub your back softly as you cry watching “Beaches” for the 100th time. He wants a nurturer. His ideal woman is kind, sensitive, maternal, with an innate sweetness. A great listener and supporter.
Venus in Leo
“Spotlight” by Jennifer Hudson; “Flashing Lights” by Kanye West & Dwele
If you have Venus in Leo, you need to be a star. And not so much where everyone knows your name, but this absolutely has to be reality in your small kernel of the universe. Your deep sense of dignity and your thirst for unique, creative self expression follows you with every move you make, as it begs too be recognized. To boot, this personal pride is attached to your personal relationships. Nothing less than being the King or Queen will do. You need praise, admiration and recognition as numero uno. In a Man’s chart, it’s indicated that he wants that Queen. A Venus in Leo Man would like nothing more than to have a woman whom he can show off to the world. Complete with a sense of style, flair and drama about her. A woman who is large-hearted with time, energy and resources.
Venus in Virgo
“Flawless”by Phife; “Top Ten List” by Masta Ace Incorporated
While Venus in Virgo is not the astrological placement that will overwhelm you with passion, it’s a combination of utilitarian success. Venus in Virgo is the type of partner who will show you on an everyday basis, through the most practical ways, that they love you. Usually, Venusian Virgo’s are not big fans of public displays of affection, but are surprisingly lusty behind closed doors. Again, another way to show you that they care. Sometimes the downfall of Venus in Virgo is just being too downright picky. You have your list and your checking it twice for the perfect Man or Woman who never appears and you find yourself alone in a room staring at the wall and in the back of your mind hearing your conscience call. Men with this placement are typically attracted to highly intelligent, discriminating, outwardly prim and proper women. The Librarian who eats Dewey decimal for breakfast or the health advocate who will write you a dissertation on gluten-free foods or holistic healing techniques.
Venus in Libra
“Perfect Match” by Cella Dwellas ; “Real Love” by Mary J. Blige
In Libra, Venus is just thinking about how great it is to be back in one of it’s home signs. There is no placement which can top this one when it comes to the desire for a true partnership. The thought of shared activities and the social whirl excite those with Venus in Libra.
A sense of justice, fair play and cooperation stays in the forefront. Not to mention the thought of how “we” are going to look to everyone as a couple. This is not inherently a negative pondering. However, when overdone, you have two people who have morphed into this entity where no one is able to say their names separately anymore.
A Man with Venus in Libra would be attracted to a woman who is graceful, charming, tactful and very socially adept. Someone who has a pronounced interest in maintaining a relationship with love, peace and harmony as the building blocks.
Venus in Scorpio
“Undying Love” by Nas ; “Tsunami” by Res
As many of us know, whenever Scorpio enters the picture it gets heavy. Venus and Libra has purchased all of the hallmark cards, so there is none left for this placement. Now…. it’s time to get down to the nitty gritty. The gut level. Scorpio is all or nothing, and if you choose all, they need you to prove it. Yes, they will gladly take payment in blood if that’s what you were wondering.
Venus in Scorpio possesses and insatiable desire for an intensity filled bond. Their idea of true intimacy is not glossing over the faults of one another, rather it is confronting hard core emotional truths about the root causes of issues. Not for the faint of heart, but monumentally transformative if you have the steel reserves to play in that arena.
A Venus in Scorpio man would be attracted to a woman who possesses a profound depth of character and a sense of mystery. Someone who refuses to skate on life’s surface. She can be exposed to all of the refuse and garbage contained in the seedy underbelly of existence and not bat an eyelash. Yes, she is hard to come by and has many men saying “My tires don’t look THAT bad slashed, I needed a new set, anyway.”
Venus in Sagittarius
“Distant Lover” by Marvin Gaye; “Truth” by Dwele; “Joy” by Talib Kweli &Mos Def; “No Tears” by Pete Rock & Leela James
Venus in Sagittarius wants expansive love. Those with this placement are very enthusiastic regarding the object of their affection and would like nothing better to wax philosophical at 4 in the morning in a hostel in Prague.
They envision a partnership as a mutually mind broadening experience. They require the space and freedom to fly solo and require honesty and trust from their partner. What they are truly seeking is a friend. Heavy emotional demands are not their scene, as it can wear on their optimistic and naturally buoyant temperament.
Men with this placement are attracted to women who are well-traveled(physically or mentally), eclectic, philosophically inclined, open minded, with a great sense of humor. The inspirational type who fuels their fire to reach even greater heights. High minded ideals permeate this placement, so a direct line to truth is paramount.
Venus in Capricorn
“Old School” by Doom & Talib Kweli; “Faithful” by Common
Venus in Capricorn takes their relationships very seriously. At it’s highest expression, there is the potential for a deep sense of duty and responsibility to their partner. A maturity that says: “I’m going to make this relationship work no matter what.” A unshakable integrity which aligns the consistency of thoughts, words and deeds. Sliding to the lower end, this becomes fear. Insecurity which ignites a need to dictate or control the partner motivated by an illusory, mis-defined “love”. If these fears can be diagnosed and treated, this combination can serve as a model relationship to others. Men with this placement are attracted to women with ambition and a sense of purpose. Women with traditional values who are goal oriented and know the process of delaying short term gratification for more permanent, substantial gains.
Venus in Aquarius
“No Ordinary Love” by Sade “I got cha Opin” by Black Moon
Venus in Aquarius is wide open. Original, independent, avant-garde, non-conformist- you name it. They make their own traditions and it’s this very spirit which makes them so attractive to others. They do, however, require a considerable amount of freedom in relationships and it wouldn’t be a bad thing if the union was a tad bit unconventional. Unless other facets of the chart strongly mute this placement, this is not a white picket fence type. Venus in Aquarius wants to convey the message that they accept you for who and what you are. They just ask that you truly do the same. Venus in Aquarius men are attracted to original Women. Those who are ahead of their time and unafraid to stick out. Bold women who live by their own code and have firm, logical reasons why they do so. Quirky? Offbeat? Well… the Venus in Aquarius man can dance to that rhythm.
Venus in Pisces
“Love No Limit” by Mary J. Blige; “Infinite Possibilities” by Amel Larrieux
It is very fitting that I began this piece with a photo from “Love Jones”, which is one of my favorite movies. If I had to assign an astrological placement to the film, Venus in Pisces would surely be it. Poetic Love. The type of love that enchants you and envelops you in it’s rapture. You no longer know (or care) about the time on the clock or the day of the week. Just lie here with me and keep blissing out. Let’s go watch the sunrise… no the sunset…. no the full moon. Sharing intimate, innermost thoughts. The Visions and possibilities are endless, but is it real? Can it stand the test of time when the wind blows and steals the haze of euphoria only to purchase reality? Men with Venus in Pisces are attracted to artistic women. Women that know imagination is the biggest nation in the world. Poets, mystics, spiritual seekers. Venus in Pisces men will embark on that journey in a heartbeat.