The Scorpio Woman: Untitled

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Modus Operandi: The depth explorer, the dark magician, the taboo finder, the passionate powerhouse, the wellspring of intesity, the private eye, the gateway to emotional honesty.

Where you can find her: In her dimly lit bedroom immersed in hours of self-reflection and deep introspection. Curled up for some “light reading” on Jungian Psychology. Experimenting with various healing modalities. Studying the Tarot or the Orishas. At a horror movie. Checking out the seedy portions of the internet. On the phone, having a “breakdown/breaktrough” conversation.

She doesn’t really have to say a word, yet her presence is unmistakable. Magnetism seems to want to be her friend as it oozes out of her being. However, very few can see into the unfathomable depths of which the Scorpio Woman is comprised.

Most attempts to box her in as strictly “sexy” get assigned to the place in her mind entitled “superficial bullshit”, as she knows that life, and its experiences run so much deeper, and actually pities the poor fools who indulge in such reductive language and placid thinking……..

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Developmental Lessons For Scorpio

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As we make the transition from Libra season into Scorpio, theres a shift in dynamic which we feel unmistakably. The urge for the scales’ collaboration and refined social intercourse gives way to a more instinctual and raw gut-level reality which encapsulates survival. How well we adjust to this season depends on how willing we are to face the shadows. After all, were dealing with less light to operate with at this time of year. Not only physically, but also on a psychological level.

Astrologer Howard Sasportas once remarked that Astrological archetypes are like an elevator; we tend to live them out at varying levels throughout our lives. Some of us aspire to the top floor of a sign, while others may stay on the ground level. Out of all of the signs on the wheel of life, Scorpio is probably the most appropriate to fit this analogy. The mythology associated with the 8th sign of the zodiac provides us with material which suggests the path of development for Scorpio via the evolutionary levels of the Scorpion, Eagle and the Phoenix.

While these stages suggestprogression in Scorpios growth, the signs overall unfoldment constitutes a necessary synthesis of the three.

If theres any sign which has become the constant victim of Astrological tabloid fodder because of a fundamental misunderstanding and mischaracterization, its Scorpio. Many times, when the water signs are discussed, we would be hard pressed to wrap our minds around it being a part

of that group. We read about the warmth, sensitivity and intuitive gifts of Cancer and the immense empathy of Pisces. Then, all of the sudden, theres also this sex-crazed, ultra intense, potentially cruel and vindictive Scorpion standing on the fringes. Dead last in the “feeling” hierarchy.

To understand this sign, we must delve into the aforementioned levels of existence. All which are necessary to Scorpio.

Each zodiac sign requires a particular type of fuel to operate at optimal capacity. For Scorpio, plumbing the depths of life is essential to its existence as oxygen. Its vitality is maintained through the act of delving and probing deeply into areas of life which some of us may fear to tread. Scorpions are nocturnal creatures, so theyre comfortable in the dark.

Its not that they feel theyll never emerge from that place, but they’re in search of a truth which must encompass both the sacred and the profane. For Scorpio, this investigation wouldn’t be honest if it didn’t include all parts of our being, even the ones which make us cringe; the ones which we question whether or not theyre even fit for “human consumption.

Living at the level of the Scorpion, one navigates in a state of relative isolation and close to the ground, operating on instinct. Theres an acute sense of any type of danger, perceived or real. While there is a longing for passionate emotional engagement, theres also an overwhelming pull toward privacy and self-protection. This is not so much out of fear of rejection like their

water sign counterpart Cancer, but more about the inner turmoil which constantly stirs because they feel like there may be too much vulnerability exposed by relinquishing control to others. Even if its death hangs in the balance, a Scorpion would rather sting itself than have anyone else decide any portion of its fate.

Transitioning to the Eagle level, the focus now widens to include more of the intellect. While the primal feelings remain intact, theres a fusion of the heart and mind which suggests a keen awareness in determining the motives of others. A penetrative perception which leads one to the heart of the matter minus all of the processed spin” of Libra, or the erudite and lofty musings of Sagittarius. This is the knot in the stomach and the tightened chest. The type of interactions where someone is squirming, but the bottom of the true essence of things is in

clear sight.

While this analytical discernment is needed on this level of existence, power becomes a key player in the equation. He or she who has the information has the advantage. The lesson here is that power can be used to hurt or to heal, and living exclusively in this space can expose Scorpio to a misuse of its piercing mental faculties.

Staying in this place, one could undergo struggles filled with intense emotional upheaval all in the name of gaining a psychological advantage. Trying to get one up” on others because the residue of wariness and fear still lingers from the first stage of Scorpionic development.

As the case with all water signs, its a necessary step in their evolution to release” something to grow. For Cancer, its the past. Outdated emotional slights. Memories that no longer serve in forward progress. For Pisces, its the overfunctioning of the egos contents in service of merging with the divine source within.

For Scorpio, letting go of the insatiable need to control the emotional responses of others is a

golden key if they wish to rise to the level of the phoenix.

Successful navigation of these steps is a lifetime task. We may crash and burn several times, undergoing various metaphorical deaths and rebirths. Ultimately, whatever weve decided to do, the third and highest level of progression of Scorpio is always waiting on us.

To arrive at the Phoenix level is to have immense courage. To become as revealing of our own inner psyche as we are probing of everyone elses. To not only participate in nudity at the physical level via sex, but to also take the risk of the emotional nakedness and exposure of authentic relating to other human beings. To gradually, but surely show your hand. To stop staring through the hotel peephole and open the damn door and let someone inside.

A Phoenix has made the intentional and conscious decision to rise. Facing the shadow within themselves, bringing the contents to the light so they can be more effectively worked with.

Using their own story of transformation as a vehicle to heal others and encourage them to break through any self-imposed chains of imprisonment. This is how Scorpio uses the dark, as a resource, to cast greater light on the human condition.

The Scorpio Mixtape: Deep Waters

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Shout out to all of the Scorpios!! That’s right…. You can now gear up to receive the silent satisfaction of having everyone else speculate about what’s really going through your mind.

Scorpio: You’re fueled by an incessant (and even obsessive) search for the raw truth.

We’re talking about the instinctual, gut level truth, which can’t successfully be grasped by using the diplomacy of Libra, which precedes your sign, or the high-minded intellectualism of Sagittarius which follows it. When the infamous Scorpio, O.D.B. said: “ooh baby I like it raw… ooh baaabbyy I like it rawwwww….” , who knows exactly what he was talking about, but this sentiment applies to how you prefer to live your life:

unfiltered, raw, straight to the heart of the matter. Piercing the veils of illusion which surround you one by one.

You’re in a perpetual state of relentless pursuit. Searching for the hidden jewels of life knowledge which will ultimately help you to grasp more personal power. Better than anyone, you know that these precious gems are not visible on a surface level. To harness them takes a sustained effort and a willingness to become acquainted with life’s underbelly.

While the zodiac faint of heart view this journey into the abyss as tabooseedy and grimy, you simply see this quest as a passage to true freedom. The light within the darkness. After this, you’re equipped with a fearlessness because you’ve already undergone a symbolic death.

Because of what you’ve seen and experienced, no one can kill you. Like the Scorpion, rather than allow others to determine your fate, you would rather sting yourself and control your own demise.

As a Scorpio, your season isn’t about the refined Ambercrombie and Fitch social graces of Libra, or the hearty backslapping joviality of Sagittarius. Others come to you. They’re drawn by your hypnotic intensity and smouldering magnetism. Why? Because you’re suggestive and you leave a myriad of possibilities to the imagination.

All of your cards aren’t even close to being on the table because you never want to give away too much. It’s not that you’re stingy, it’s more like you don’t want to waste your time with people who are unable to measure up to your true emotional demands. The Scorpio Prodigy put it nicely:

“You’re minor, we major, you’re all up in the game and don’t deserve to be a player.”

So, the appropriate advice when entering the realm of a Scorpio is:

don’t be a shook one.

It’s my pleasure to introduce a musical selection which embodies the essence of Scorpio in all of it’s depth and complexity. I’m working on having these songs available in downloading format for the upcoming mixtapes so we can really get live. Thank you for reading and enjoy!

Side  A

1. Behind Closed Doors – Pharoah Monch
2. Dirt All By My Lonely – Naughty By Nature
3. Deep -Elzhi
4. Hiding Place – Little Brother + Elzhi
5. Animal Instinct – Mobb Deep
6. The Exorcist – Little Vic
7. What It is – Pharoahe Monch
8. 187 – MOP
9. Onyx – Last Dayz
10. Mobb Deep – Get Dealt With
11. Gangster Boogie – Pete Rock Featuring Slum Village
12. The Best Secret- Pete Rock Featuring Lords of The Underground
13. Relentless- Kenn Starr featuring Kev Brown
14. Take Em’ Off The Map – Diamond D featuring Black Rob

Side B

1. Promised Land -Ras Kass
2. Product of The Basement- Kenn Starr featuring Sean Born
3. That Raw – Torae
4. Eyes Wide Open – Big Pooh featuring Ras Kass
5. Heavy – Dilla & Madlib
6. Right on For The Darkness – Curtis Mayfield
7. Silent Murder – Nas
8. Until We Bleed – Kleerup featuring Lykke Li
9. Betrayal – Gangstarr + Scarface
10. Sex, Sex, Sex -Nice and Smooth
11. Survival Test – Dilla & Madliib
12. If There’s a Hell Below – Curtis Mayfield
13. Tsunami – Res
14. We Will Survive -Nas

For your listening pleasure. Please enjoy the mixtape.

Moon-Saturn Contacts in Synastry

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Back in elementary school, I remember when we studied rocks and their various classifications. Some of them were used as components to build, i.e. for structural purposes, while others seemed to be a massive obstruction, and their weight actually helped to provide a blockade or control barrier for flooding.

When we look at Moon-Saturn contacts in Synastry, we could easily make a comparison to these basic lessons. When two individuals share these aspects in relationship Astrology, the structures and containment of the emotional life is a highlighted theme.

This dynamic can operate where both partners share a safe place to express their feelings without reservations because they’ve done the work to build a mature foundation of mutual dignity and respect. There’s a certain consistency of words and actions aligning via an external demonstration of commitment and endurance despite the hardships which may permeate the relationship.

With Saturn’s influence as a glue, or binding agent,  there’s a suggestion of the long-term.

However, just because something is “built to last” doesn’t always mean it’s not supposed to be evaluated and subject to elimination in our lives if it’s not functional.

Another perspective is that such contacts can feel like a weight that we just can’t get rid of. An overbearing itch that just can’t be scratched. While in the presence of our partners, we may feel an uncomfortable emotional restriction, as if we want to open up to them, but the heart just won’t cooperate because of fear of being controlled. As if one’s feelings are saying: “If I speak, I run the risk of being ruled over, and this makes me sad,depressed and full of anxiety.”

Ultimately, when we experience these planetary aspects with another, we have to make decisions about what we’re clinging to.

Are we holding on to a relationship, which we should have  let  go a long time ago?

Are we battling our own sense of inadequacy, thinking that no matter what we say, it won’t be “good enough”?

Do we feel worthy of love and affection? Are we able to recognize where we need to grow up in matters of the heart?

Saturn is associated with tests and responsibility. Also, what we yield from the planetary fruit depends directly on the amount of time and effort we’re willing to expend in regard to the essentials of our lives.

Will we accept the challenge, and gain wisdom through pain, trial and error? Or, will we try to institute short cuts only to find that we’re trapped in a barricade of our own making?

Taurus Sun, Gemini Moon

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*Excerpt from the upcoming “Book of Taurus”

Predictable variety.

Sounds convoluted, huh?

Never fear, because your Sun/Moon combination of Taurus/Gemini is designed to be adept in navigating ambiguous terrain.

What you aspire to do is create structures which have value to yourself and others, and you’re fueled by the use of practical methods. Additionally your blend suggests needs connected to variety and flexibility. Always having “one in the chamber” for good measure. After all, what’s life without choices?

One of the lessons you’re here to learn is that having a generally solid plan doesn’t have to limit your options any more than consideration of multiple avenues suggests indecision. However,  you must find the point where the common sense of life experience meets the youthful vigor contained in your curiosity.

Feeling the need to participate in everything that you think about throws you off-center as do  rigid claims that there’s only ONE best method of operation under ALL circumstances, without embracing the possibility of alterations at any time.

There’s no cookie cutter formula for success. Indeed, sometimes “slow and steady” wins the race and it’s better for you to have basic fundamentals in place before you consider any fancy maneuvering.  An integration of stability and agility can do wonders in your overall fulfillment.

In relationships, it’s vital that you recognize and honor the peace and tranquility which helps you to maintain sanity and the intellectual stimulation which nourishes your soul. With either dynamic at play, remember that there’s no crime in taking one’s time.

 

Living Your Sun Sign: Your Infinite Homework

For those individuals genuinely interested in astrology, there’s often an uneasy confusion due to the variety and quality levels of information that are available. Distinguishing well-written, in depth  and quality astrological analysis from shoddy journalism fakin’ the funk as life-changing zodiac forecasts becomes increasingly perplexing.

I can’t speak for everyone. However, for myself, the journey of astrological discovery began with the desire to learn more about my “sign”, also known as my sun sign.

So my words won’t prove to be confusing:

the term “sun sign” is used because it’s indicative of the placement of the sun on the day and at the time of your birth.

When astrologers refer to sun signs, in lay people’s language that means: “who you attractin’ with that line, what’s your name, what’s your sign?” 

Got it? Good.

The astrological writings which present our zodiac signs as a set of ready made, microwave, “just add water” characteristics are plentiful. However, this article will not be representative of that train of thought.

More and more every day, I’m arriving at the realization that our sun signs are more of a state of awareness than a pre-assigned set of personality traits.

Our signs represent our cosmic homework and life purpose. They’re symbolic of the destination we need to arrive at in order to release our creative potential and self-expression most effectively.

Being born under a certain zodiac sign doesn’t automatically “make” us anything. However, becoming aware of the experiences we need to undergo in order to fulfill specific aims based on the symbolic energy of the signs is a whole new ball game.

For example, the fact that you’re a Scorpio doesn’t instantly make you sexy, passionate, jealous, and intense.

However, as a Scorpio, you may need to align yourself with certain experiences which will allow you to develop your sexual magnetism, transcend feelings of vindictiveness or incite deep drives and passions.

As a result, these crises may prove to be quite intense and lead to a transformation in your fundamental nature. Which, in turn, aids in your personal development.

There are many of us who don’t “feel” like our signs. This could be due to a number of factors. It could be that there’s a significant influence from other signs’ energy within our birth charts. Or, it could also be that we haven’t grasped this fact:

we must to claim our sun signs.

The sun is not something that’s just handed over to us on a silver platter.The act of living consciously, with keen awareness is required if we plan on embodying the most evolved version of our signs.  We must discover and work in tune with our cosmic homework.

Aries: Pursuing  independence. Gaining the courage to stare adversity straight in the face and forcing it blink first. It’s okay to give yourself permission to go where no Woman or Man has gone before. It’s also okay to not give a damn about those who challenge your right to be absolutely, positively YOURSELF. You can do this in an enlightened way by peeping Libra’s diplomacy.

TaurusEstablish security and building wealth. Yes, I know seeing a big bank balance is cool, but life won’t work if you’re financially stable, yet morally and spiritually bankrupt.

Root yourself in life’s natural processes. Keep it simple, but remember: the only constant is change.Take a page out of Scorpio’s book of passion and that will give you just the jolt that you need.

Gemini:  Intellectual inquiry. I hope you can sit still long enough to read this!! You require experiences which pique your endless curiosityDiversity, variety, and multi- anything suits you. The devil is in the details, but you might want to check out how Sagittarius grasps the parts and weaves them into a holistic, meaningful philosophy.

Cancer: If you’re walking the sideways path of the Crab, gaining emotional intelligence is vital. Cancer requires experiences where they can thrust themselves into the nurturing, caring role.

Thereby employing their deep and acute sensitivity as a mechanism to support themselves and others.  In addition, to fulfill your potential, it’s essential that you establish a family,whether by blood or ideology. People with whom you can enjoy healthy human interaction out of choice and not dependence. Study Capricorn for clues on incorporating an ample dose of objectivity into your intuitive world.

Leo: You need experiences which will get you noticed. Your ruler, the sun radiates, shines and illuminates. This particular brand of glistening must be incorporated into your life in order to obtain wholeness.

 

It’s highly beneficial for you to receive individual recognition for your creative efforts and talents. However, observe and take note of Aquarius’ ability to incorporate others into their activity and creating a win-win for everyone involved. Use your mind as well as your heart.

Virgo:  The fuel that feeds you consists of experiences which will allow you to establish authentic priorities. Endeavors that clearly distinguish the essential from the trivial and unimportantEvents which will test your wisdom surrounding your ability, or inability to use your discriminating powers of the intellect in a wise and productive fashion.Yes, flaunt your mental craftsmanship!

 

Rest assured, whatever situation you find yourself in, you can improve it. The question is: will you? Turn to Pisces for lessons in empathy and compassion. To help remind you that humans aren’t a statistic or flow chart. No “system” replaces the personal touch.

Libra:  Collaborative experiences which serve as a your mirror are right up your alley. Teamwork, “full cooperation and total attention”, partnerships which require shared responsibilities.

That’s your language. Internal and external harmonizing which allows your beauty and creativity to flow into the world irrespective of the specific endeavor. This is your balance. You might want to holla at Aries for guidance on retaining a solid individuality within group dynamics.

 

Scorpio: You need the raw, gut level, instinctive truth. The experiences which will provide the intensity that you need to enhance your life force can’t be found in re-runs of “leave it to beaver”.

The psychological underworld in which you need to participate goes deeper than Eddie Haskell’ shenanigans. To feel alive, you must see through the veils of life’s illusions and confront it’s taboos.

What gives you the opportunity to do this better than delving into matters of a sexual nature? Or, digging deep into the recesses of psychology, the occult, and the study of power. As to not allow passions to totally consume you, take a page out of Taurus’ book on the calm life. Sometimes, an even keel can work for you.

Sagittarius: Do you have your mental, physical and spiritual passports ready? You must participate in the quest for higher, expansive and all- inclusive thought. Whether this search requires you to obtain a stamp on your visa or the inside of a library book, you have to embark.

Experiences in which you can  educate yourself and others and make your world just that much bigger is what your cosmic homework requires. The discussion and transmission of ideas, concepts and philosophies is music to your ears and food for your soul.

You have a friend in Gemini, who won’t allow you to become too grandiose. Incorporating a variety of viewpoints will help you to remember that YOUR truth and discoveries are just that. You can leave your “converter” at home.

 

Capricorn: Your cosmic homework is to accomplish and achieve while using your integrity as both a foundation and a guidepost. You require  experiences that will allow you to make your mark in this world through your ability to build mental and physical structures which stand the test of time.

Hard work, dedication and focus are resources which you can summon in abundance. When you’re able to participate in activities which activate your organizational skills, you’re well on your way to devising strategy for the completion of short and long term goals.

Ultimately, worldly honorsprestige and status await you. However, take heed to Cancer’s example of self-care and nurturing to put the icing on the cake.

Aquarius: You need a revolution. It doesn’t have to be one which consists of calling friends for bail money after your protest went awry, but in a matter of speaking, it’s about continuous revolt against the implanted voice of authority within yourself. It’s required that you undergo experiences which will usurp the pseudo- police and put the real you back in charge.

As a result, you will be in a position to serve humanity a catalyst. Asking others the important, shocking questions regarding just who they’re listening to when making life-changing decisions. Is it family, race, culture, gender…. or is YOURSELF? Yes, you’ve worn these shoes, so you’ll know precisely where on the path most are treading, but look to Leo to remind you of the warmth required for such important work.

PiscesCreate. Dream. Visualize. You must participate in experiences which will allow you access to the realm which bypasses the physical senses. After all, it’s your natural habitat. Once you stake your claim here, you have the potential to make significant spiritual progress.

The use of intermittent periods of solitude to participate in this world is strongly suggested. Upon entering, call on Virgo’s highly tuned powers of discrimination to prevent your mind from gathering wool. The precision of thought will help reduce cloudy logic and allow you to enjoy the marriage of intellect and intuition.

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Sagittarius, Dating & Relationships : A Deeper Look at The Archer

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If we’ve read enough sun sign columns, we’re familiar with both the constructive and the dysfunctional expressions of all 12 zodiac signs. We’re also well acquainted with each sign’s reputation when certain behavioral inclinations are concerned. The passionate intensity of Scorpio, the analytic precision of Virgo or the acute intuition of Cancer just to name a few.

So….. what about Sagittarius? You ask….

For whatever reasons, the Archer seems to have gained a reputation among the zodiac as the perpetual bachelor or bachelorette. The sign which prefers to stay free and unencumbered versus preferring a steady, long-term relationship or marriage.

I make the case, however, that there’s much more to this scenario than the ink written on the pages of these sun sign columns can tell us. We must adjust our thinking to a broader level to appreciate not a fragment of, but the entire Sagittarian archetype.

In much of the Astrological literature I come across, when Sagittarius is being analyzed, there seems to be a direct correlation made between the Centaur’s desire and need for freedom and the inability to commit to a long-term partnership.

If we examine Sagittarius on a deeper level, I think we’ll find that the lesser question is : “Why can’t Sagittarians commit?” and the greater question is: “What type of relationship encourages the Archer to explore long range possibilities?”

Most of us learned in “Research Methods 101” that the manner in which a question is asked predetermines the range of possible answers. If the question is: “Why can’t Sagittarians commit?” It automatically excludes the possibility of them being capable of committing to a partnership.

NOTE: This article is not only applicable to those with the Sun placed in Sagittarius, but also those with personal planets (Sun, Moon, Mercury, Venus,Mars) in the sign as well as Sagittarius rising.

Much of what’s written could also apply to those whose chart suggests a strong Jupiterian influence such as Jupiter placed in Sagittarius, in the 1st house, in major aspect to any of the personal planets and the Ascendant.

The Sagittarius Archetype

When analyzing Sagittarius, we must first consider the symbolism. Half Woman/Man and half beast. A Centaur or an Archer pointing its arrow emphatically upward into the vastness of the universe.

This entire picture broadcasts both the need for the arrow of thoughts and ideas to fly free through the open cosmos and the body to remain comfortably rooted in its animal nature. Sagittarius isn’t as much seeking to transcend his or her physicality as they are intent on successfully integrating it into the totality of their being.

The 9th sign of the zodiac seeks to find a deeper meaning in BOTH functions as a vehicle for constructing a personal philosophy. Sagittarius wants to take heed to the words of Paulo Coelho and “learn to recognize omens and follow them.” The Archer possesses an insatiable thirst for life experience and an enthusiasm for following his or her personal legend.

Relationships

For Sagittarius, where partnerships are concerned, it’s not so much a matter of whether or not they have the ability to commit, but rather WHAT they would potentially be committing TO.

When discussing Sags, Astrologer Steven Forrest once alluded to the concept of love being hard on the freedom that the archer so desperately needs- and it CAN be. However, it doesn’t HAVE to be soul draining.

One of the keys to relationship success for the Centaur is ruthless self-honesty regarding their own relationship needs. Especially when it comes to personal space.

Now, this “space” is not a free pass to go off half cocked and undermine the fundamental trust and integrity on which a solid, healthy relationship is based, but rather the freedom to think big thoughts; to dream about large scale ventures and contemplate life’s enormous questions. After all, this is the way of the Philosophical wiring which comes with the assembly of so many Sags.

 

If Sag finds the type of partner that understands this system and recognizes the importance of his/her life journey, they’re MORE than willing to commit. You may even catch one of them with bells on!! Astrologer Jeffrey Wolf Green writes the following about Venus in Sagittarius, which could be applied to any personal placement:

” The Venus in Sagittarius person is fundamentally restless, and is committed to the value of personal freedom to pursue any experience they deem necessary in order to discover and actualize themselves. The need for freedom permeates these people , and they generally will not tolerate any condition or constraint that inhibits their independence or freedom.

When such conditions or constraints exist, the Venus in Sagittarius person will progressively feel an inner alienation from those conditions or constraints, and the psychology or alienation becomes a causal factor or determinant in separating, at least inwardly from those conditions or constraints.”

Furthermore:

” In their intimate relationships, the Venus in Sagittarius person is forever needing and trying to balance their need for independence within the context of their relationship. Because these people have an almost absolute need for perpetual growth within themselves, they need and desire an intimate other who is also committed to personal growth.

This will then allow for the dynamics within the relationship to be defined by a mutual commitment to growth. in effect, these individuals need to be in a relationship where there’s an ongoing sense of adventure.

The Venus in Sagittarius person will simply experience a deep alienation from their partner when the relationship has degenerated into a stale, static routine. They need a partner who can mirror and reflect their own reality of intellectual and philosophical pondering. A partner with whom they can interact in this way at an equal level.

The Venus in Sagittarius person needs this  kind of  intellectual or philosophical stimulation and to be periodically challenged by their partner through such types of discussions. When this occurs, they will have a tremendous amount of respect for their partner, and will sustain their enthusiasm  for the relationship. When this does not occur, then they lose respect for the partner and become progressively alienated.”

A long time ago, I remember reading an Astrology book that said something to the effect of: ” to attract Sagittarius, you’ll need to act like you overdosed on positive affirmation tapes.” I had to laugh when I read that because it gives form to the potent thrust of Sagittarius’ buoyancy.

THIS is part of the package that Sagittarius is willing to commit to: life-affirming optimism, vitality;  a sense of the next physical or intellectual adventure just around the corner:

“By nature, the Venus in Sagittarius person needs levity, humor, lightness and optimism to pervade their intimate relationship. If their with a partner who is constantly too serious or withdrawn, this will also become a causal factor in creating a state of alienation and withdrawl  from such a partner.

They will naturally encourage the independent actualization and will develop a deepening respect for their partners who independently actualize their own life purposes. They will not respect a partner who just wants to hang on to them without developing their own identity or life purpose, or a partner who attempts to restrict their need for necessary freedom and independence.”

The Other Side of The Game

Since we’ve hopefully come to the conclusion that Sagittarius, like every other sign of the zodiac, is capable of fulfilling, long-term commitment, now it’s time to discuss what can potentially hold the Centaur back, where the Archer’s arrow misfires.

Polarized and Dogmatic Thinking

One of the dysfunctional expressions of Sagittarius energy is to listen and hear only through the filter of their own beliefs. When operating unproductively, there’s a tendency to to create a black and white scenario surrounding relationships. So, Sags feel like they’re either free as a bird floating in the crisp summer air or hopelessly bound to the ole ball and chain.

 

What the Archer needs to realize is that relationships require mutual sacrifice.

M-U-T-U-A-L sacrifice.

The Centaur can easily sabotage the ideal partnership he/she is seeking to create through a refusal to, as Paulo Coelho says: “to accept love as a stimulus.” The immature and underdeveloped Sagittarius sees love as a THREAT to his/her freedom; as something that’s going to deduct from them rather than add breadth and richness to their spectrum of life. Whereas the more mature version of the Archer, who has learned much from experience employs his/her openness as a means to grasp the supports that are being offered:

“If he has the courage to unearth his dreams, he then faces a second obstacle: love. He now knows what he desires to do, but he thinks he will harm those around him if he gives everything up to follow his dreams.

He does not understand that love is an additional impulse, not something which hinders one from going forward. he does not understand that those who truly wish him well are longing for his happiness and are ready to accompany him on his adventure.”

The Grass is Always Greener/Overly Futuristic Reverend “Do Good” Syndrome

“But….If I decide on THIS, what if something “better” comes along?”

I wouldn’t be surprised if this question hasn’t touched the brain waves of almost every Sagittarius infused individual. However, a potentially better question which garners consideration is:

“What are YOU doing in the HERE and NOW to make your CURRENT situation better?” It’s a classic Sagittarian pitfall to be so captivated by future possibilities that they’re tripping themselves up in the moment:

“Sagittarius is the sign most likely to be oblivious to the realities right in front of them that are obvious to everyone else because they are so focused on the distant goal. Since the road to hell is paved with good intentions, Sagittarius people need to be sure that their goals and ideals are grounded in what is truly possible.

They DO need a large guiding vision to motivate them in life, but they also need times of self-examination to assess whether they are themselves living up to their ideals. They like to preach to others (usually “helpfully” in their view), but if something doesn’t work out, well… that isn’t their problem. Sagittarius people rather dislike the heaviness of daily “reality” and personal or emotional problems.”

Sagittarius: here’s the bottom line. You’re natural, healthy idealism need not take a “hit” just because you’ve made the mature choice to temper it with a much needed dose of grounding and common sense. You must be painfully honest with yourself in regard to your vision for a partnership, as to not mislead others who may not want or need such and arrangement. What you choose to commit to is totally yours, but it’s important for you to know the “raw material” you’re working with in your psyche.

When it’s all said and done, it’s up to you to create a situation which honors your need(s) for independence, intellectual stimulation, levity and personal growth. While simultaneously accepting love as a stimulus and support. Recognizing a good thing when you see it and creating room for your partnership to play an integral role on your quest to follow your personal legend.

References: Person-to-Person Astrology: Energy Factors in Love, Sex & Compatibility by Stephen Arroyo, Pluto: Volume II : The Soul’s Evolution Through Relationships by Jeffrey Wolf Green, Paulo Coelho’s “Talks With My Master” (1982-1990).