Aries Sun, Libra Moon

 

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The blending of the Sun in Aries and the Moon in Libra is fundamentally illustrative of the need to integrate the dynamics of the assertion of individuality and harmonious social relations. The natural opposition, or complimentary force between the signs calls for awareness of ourselves and the other.

With an Aries Sun, the person’s essential life energy and stimulus consists of thrusting the identity into the world with force and distinguishing the self as an individual, distinct from the herd,asserting and claiming themselves as number one in their chosen field of endeavor.

This solar placement suggests an initiating quality which can manifest behaviorally in the form of dynamic, courageous and empowering leadership when operating on a functional level. The Sun in Aries potential centers around the drive to leap forward into action and using their strength to defeat any impediments which may be present.

 

When operating dysfunctionally, the Aries Sun can manifest as someone who’s so vitally “alive” that they think they’re the ONLY one’s alive. The overfunctioning of the ego serves to alienate those who might otherwise be allies.

The Libra Moon uses the Sun’s light to reflect a personality whose nourishment depends on balancing self-approval with social appreciation. Where the Aries Sun is focused on self, the Libra Moon’s orientation is toward others, with a tendency to evaluate themselves from the observer’s point of view. Cooperation, social relatedness and the joining of forces toward a common goal are some of the emotional needs suggested by a Libra Moon.

 

When  the Moon’s placement in Libra is operating dysfunctionally, the individual OVER relates to others. He or she becomes confused about who they are outside of their relationships. There may be a ‘peace at all costs” philosophy at work where the person suppresses their identity in favor of amicable relations. However, this set up ultimately leaves the door open for animosity to creep in causing an eruption of epic proportions. The very dynamic which was trying to be avoided through accommodating behavior has now been created because the individual wanted to be seen as “fair” and “good”.

 Navigating the balance point between the assertion of self as a separate entity and the recognition of how that impacts our relations with other people is the key to constructively integrating this Sun-Moon blendTo have confidence that we can simultaneously claim our individual selfhood and relate as equals to our fellow human beings is essential.

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Neptune in the 7th House : “I Get High”

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In order to gain a fundamental understanding of the vast array of potentials of how the planet Neptune may operate in the 7th house of our birth chart, it is first necessary to introduce the idea of planetary process (Neptune) as well as grasp the field of life experience (7th house) where it’s operative.

With Neptune, we gravitate toward themes of merging, idealization, sacrifice, inspiration and elevation.  Also, in a more disordered state: deception, confusion, addiction, rescue and victim-hood. The domain of the 7th house covers expansive territory, but it’s most commonly known as the house of the “other”. As supported by designations of the 7th house throughout history, the other can take the forms of a primary relationship, such as a wife, husband or intimate partner or someone we deal closely with in business, or even have a line of communication as “open enemies”.

This placement isn’t necessarily the easiest to decipher because Neptune also has an association with the invisible; things which we can’t see with the naked eye, but are operative nonetheless. Therefore, an unconscious element is immediately added to the mix.

In its most constructive sense, Neptune’s position in the 7th house suggests that we have a storehouse or toolbox of Neptunian qualities to offer in our close personal relationships. Unconditional acceptance, a sense of unity, rhythm and flow and the capacity to inspire others to raise themselves to greater heights in their own lives. The term “muse” immediately comes to mind as we explore the magical feeling which can accompany the dynamics illustrated by this placement.

However, one of the challenge areas for anything Neptune related is to gain an unflinching sense of reality and to firmly and fully understand that a clear distinction must be made between what’s ideal and what’s concrete.

The call for those with this placement is serious exploration of how they can synthesize a sense of hope in their relationships with real participation. To consider how over idealization or glamorization of the other through projection may create a fantasy laden bubble, which in its most self-deceptive form, is given the label of “transcendence”, but is merely a cleverly concocted guise designed to shield oneself from the pain associated with disappointment.

With Neptune in the 7th house, cultivating the ability to see one’s relationships for what they are is of the utmost importance.

Returning to Neptune’s association with the invisible,  it’s worth exploring the concept that those who share this placement may work in collusion with partners by making secret and unconscious agreements which are not in their best interest. While the goal of unconditional love and acceptance is certainly admirable on the surface, the question which immediately arises is : “WHOM am I really loving?”

In many cases there can be a clandestine contract which binds partners to suspending many aspects of themselves which they feel are “negative” in nature in order to sustain intoxicating feelings of romantic bliss. Inherent in this contract is the understanding that the two people won’t overtly compete,  “step on each other’s toes”, or confront their obvious needs in the relationship. In short, maintaining a stance of mutual selflessness.

However, when the “fairy dust” clears and an initial intoxication has given way to sobriety, feelings of anger emerge because one or both parties start to feel as if they’ve been played, or sold a bill of goods because the other party isn’t “what they presented themselves to be.” The glamour of Neptune has now regressed into the victim status where everyone involved wants a “refund” for their glittery purchase they made months ago because it’s not operating in accordance with their rose-colored standards.

Douglas and Naomi Moseley write:

“Idealizers are seeing what they want to see, usually having to do with their own highest expectation of the person being idealized. essentially, idealizers are seeing only a very limited vision of a person. As they hold on to this series of selective perceptions, this ideal, what they’re seeing is essentially an illusion of their own creation. Their sight has more to do with a perfected ideal than an ordinary flesh-and-blood person. Extreme idealizers (perhaps the ones who most strongly believe they are offering unconditional love) will often refuse to see anything other than their ideal.”

While the person who is the object of such projections may be flattered initially, over time, discomfort develops because in their heart of hearts, they realize that they’re not being appreciated for who they really are, but rather an inanimate object of sorts that merely responds in a way which is in exact accord with the wants and needs of the idealizer.

“When people are only seen for their specialness and not accepted just as much for their ordinariness (which includes the shadow side), what they feel underneath the surface is rejection. When they feel rejected and defined by someone else’s expectations, one of the major consequences is anger. But, as idealized individuals, they’re not “expected” to have anger and they often push the anger out of their awareness.”

What we come to ponder in regard to a 7th house Neptune is why we automatically associate difficulty with negativity and disdain. A frame of reference that’s absolutely necessary for working constructively with this placement is that of discriminating between the challenges in relationships that are necessary for growth and victimization via the allowance of hurtful behaviors.

We must understand that self-inflicted suffering in relationships doesn’t make us any more “spiritual” than the next person. In fact, if we’re exhibiting this attitude we must ask what we get out of “falling on our swords” and permitting ourselves to endure what amounts to nothing other than  blatant mistreatment. Consequently, a formidable argument can be made that to see reality, with the utmost clarity, no matter how stark and sobering, is one of the ultimate functions that authentic spirituality serves.

For those with this placement, your theme song is :  “Good Times ((I Get High)” by Styles P.

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References:

Dancing in the Dark: The Shadow Side of Intimate Relationships by Douglas and Naomi Moseley (North Star Publications, Georgetown, MA)

The Houses: Temples of the Sky by Deborah Houlding (The Wessex Astrologer, LTD)

Introduction to AstroPsychology by Glenn Perry

Cancer Sun, Libra Moon : “The Emotional Memory”

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It is very important to understand that emotional intelligence is not the opposite of intelligence, it is not the triumph of heart over head — it is the unique intersection of both.” — David Caruso

How do you go about integrating Emotional perception with social acumen?

One of your life tasks is to explore this question along with an in depth consideration of the part that reciprocity plays within your personal relationships. Through active participation and building bridges with others, you increase the possibilities for illuminating and realizing the types of security and connections that energize you.

Putting it all out there” may be difficult for you, but you’ll have to come to grips with navigating this territory, both artistically and romantically. While a sense of attachment, or “belonging” to something or someone, possibly a biological or ideological “family” can generate a sense of grounding and empowerment, if it becomes your sole obsession, it can manifest in an unhealthy manner as “tunnel vision” of the heart.

Your psyche requires a balancing, which includes approaching the general principles of logic, fairness and objectivity with the same considerations that you provide for specific individuals.

A natural ‘square” relationship exists between Cancer and Libra which means that the ambiance of dynamic and developmental tension is present. These signs challenge one another. While this isn’t necessarily comfortable, a successful integration of both energies can heighten and increase the effectiveness of how they both operate.

You’ll know that you’re on the right track when a friend invites you to check out an art exhibit at the Guggenheim during the afternoon, and in the wee hours of the morning, another friend has phoned you looking for an empathetic listening ear because their relationship is on the rocks.

In her book “Aspects in Astrology” Sue Tomkins discusses the meaning and function of squares more in detail:

“Squares are useful too, because it is through meeting obstacles that we grow, either by refining our own position or making it stronger, whatever is appropriate.”

In the case of a Cancer Sun and Libra Moon, the tension may manifest through the lens of partnership, home and family. The possibility exists for competing concerns behind the requirements and challenges of carrying on two sets of relationships.

One of the most important lessons to learn for those with this combination is connected to the potential dangers of constructing an ultra-amicable front which masks one’s true feelings or vulnerabilities.

While becoming stuck in an instinctive “safe space” of feigning interest in others, one can diminish the dynamic of mutual interaction. If this is the case,  you may feel cheated because you’re rarely able to reveal your true feelings. Inner frustration follows and decisions can be made from a place of convenience rather than what gives you vitality. This is the classic cutting off your nose to spite your face; an attempt to live vicariously through others. The residue of dissatisfaction lingers around like an unpaid student loan debt that’s collecting interest.

The greater news for you, however, is that the mind and heart we never meant to be enemies. Both of them have valid ways of knowing and understanding. Successful navigation of your Sun-Moon blend isn’t a case where you devalue your capacity to feel and assign reasoning with a superior status.

In the book “Emotional Intimacy” by Dr. Robert Augustus Masters, he advances this point:

“Emotional illiteracy or lack of emotional sensitivity, understanding and savvy- has much of its rooting in the historical devaluation of emotion relative to cognition. Thinking clearly thus gets overly associated with dispassion or a muting of our emotions.”

“What we see here is the automatic identification of emotion with subjectivity in the sense that subjectivity is a failure to be objective. In fact, our logical faculties tend to lag behind our emotional “knowing” when it comes to making good decisions. This lag primarily occurs because our emotionally based take on a topic employs more of the brain and draws from FAR more data- and thereby processes it more multi-dimensionally- than does our purely logical take. Can we be objective and emotional at the same time? YES.

With a Cancer Sun and Libra Moon, your ability to be “civil” doesn’t necessarily have to come at the expense of sending your emotions to “go play in the other room.” The question to managing these energies comes down to making good decisions as to which faculties you will employ, and when. Driving this point home, Augustus Masters states:

“Distancing, dissociating, numbing or otherwise estranging ourselves from our emotions hobbles our capacity to act wisely and compassionately. Research has shown that deteriorated emotional functioning- likely caused by damage to brain regions involved in emotional processing, can retard our ability to make sound decisions even if our I.Q. remains intact. So if you want to make optimal decisions, DO NOT leave your emotions out of the picture.”

Astrologers Charles and Suzi Harvey provide counsel for the Cancer Sun, Libra Moon individual:

“When you can understand your different needs, you can direct your analytical talents to yourself and see that it is okay to be both needy and friendly, emotional and intellectual, self-protective and outgoing.”

The universe wouldn’t have conspired to grant you this particular blend if it wasn’t meant for you to have the opportunity to access the entire range of faculties and potentials contained in the Cancerian and Libran archetypes.

What sense would it make to possess this solar-lunar combination and have to “pick a side”?

Can the nurturer and the socialite be friends? Of course.

Can the artist and the healer have a productive relationship? Yes. In fact, it’s essential for them to bond in order for you to do your most potent work.

While you’ll be required to make decisions regarding the appropriate course of action where your mind and heart are concerned, if you’re truly committed to using what your sun-moon combination has to offer, you’ll be employing BOTH of them and your storehouse of resources will never be short.

If you have this blend in your birth chart, your theme song is : “Memory Of… (US)” by De La Soul featuring Estelle & Pete Rock. You can listen right here:

References:

Aspects in Astrology: A Comprehensive Guide to Interpretation” by Sue Tompkins (2002, Inner Traditions Bear and Company, Rochester, VT)

Emotional Intimacy: A Comprehensive Guide for Connecting with the Power of Your Emotions” by Robert Augustus Masters (2013, Sounds True, Inc., Louisville, CO)

Sun Sign, Moon Sign: Discover the Personality Secrets of the 144 Sun-moon Combinations” by Charles and Suzi Harvey (2009, Harper Collins, London, UK)

Cancer Sun, Sagittarius Moon : “The Sensitive Scholar”

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For you, emotional security is achieved through a telescopic breadth of perspective. Learning is your forte. Knowledge and understanding help you to feel safe. You feel that you must have ALL of the answers, or at the very least,  be teaching others in order to circumvent threats to your sense of well being.

Your life is a rainbow of the rich world of feelings and the wide world of embracing universals. It’s important to foster a family environment, whether by blood, or in your chosen field of endeavor.

Inner surety flourishes when your opinions are respected. A strong thrust of intellectual fire is present, blended with tenderness, warmth and a sympathetic listening ear. The quest for truth is a requirement, but the potential to temper it with sensitivity and appreciation for multiple perspectives is well within your grasp.

Hesitation and a constant need for reassurance can be a stumbling block for you. So can brooding in your shell when you don’t feel your philosophical outlook is being taken seriously.

A vivid imagination can serve you as a chief asset, and even when you’re prophetic, it’s with humility.

Your theme song is: “Message From The Soul Sisters” by Vicki Anderson. You can listen right here:

Venus in Aquarius: “No Ordinary Love”

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As we explore the territory that’s Venus in Aquarius, we do so with the understanding that Venus can’t be reduced or limited exclusively to “love” in one’s birth chart. There are far more associations which accompany the planet. However, for the purpose of this particular article, one’s idea of love, as viewed through the Venus in Aquarius lens, will be emphasized.

For those people with Venus placed natally in Aquarius, Love is experimental. Love is custom-made. Love is unconventional. Love is rebellious. Love is humanitarian. Love is questioning societal definitions of love. Love is futuristic. Love is progressive.

Love is a lifetime course in liberation.

You’re being urged to seek and find you’re unique brand of “normal” on the spectrum of love.

On a deep level, your relationships are designed to function as an agent for the examination of your social programming and conditioning.

It’s not your business to subscribe to the typical norms concerning love and sexuality and the freedom to make choices based on your inner convictions is something that’s a prerequisite to opening the doors of your heart.

After all, your brand of love needs to be designed according to your own standards, and how can something that feels forced or coerced into qualify as genuine love?

For you, love can even be a form of healthy rebellion provided that you’re being unscrupulously honest with yourself about your intentions. You could say that it’s encoded in your DNA to question what most people allow to pass through their mental sphere without even so much as the slightest pause.

The developmental potential of Venus in Aquarius is rooted in knowing that you can, and most likely will shock and or offend those who may fancy themselves as being more “traditional” , and that’s okay. However, living this life doesn’t come without cost.

You must be prepared for the feeling of alienation, which can regularly be present as a result of your ideology. However, on the other hand, blind compliance to the “model citizen” myth will more than likely leave you mentally and emotionally incarcerated.

Perhaps a more compassionate and fair position towards yourself would be to always remember your reasons for choosing the specific relationships that you have chosen.

If you’re actively doing this work, then love becomes progress.

In order to pique your interest in relating to another, uniqueness and a pronounced investment humanitarian themes and causes must be central.

If one isn’t “different” in a clear way, interested in activating change in the world , and concerned with issues outside their front door, they don’t stand a chance with you.

As a matter of fact, as Astrologer Jeffrey Wolf Green points out,  for Venus in Aquarius individuals, people who represent a radical departure from what *they* are often stimulate their interest:

“Such a person is intimately attracted to those that are radically different. The sense or experience of passion is linked with intimacy being ignited because of the fact of being different, which ignites the curiosity of Venus in Aquarius. Because Aquarius as an Archetype desires to know how whole systems and structures are put together, the curiosity function thus creates a Venus desire to know how the individual system of someone whom they are intimately attracted to is put together in such a way as to make them different. Inwardly resonating together in their individual differences born of rebellion thus stimulates this type of Venus in Aquarius passion for individual intimate relationships.”

It’s important to mention that a typical dilemma that may face you in relationships is encountering someone who wishes to have you “all to themselves”.

What you require, is a partner that understands and supports the fact that whatever you are in the context of the relationship, you will continue to be for the ENTIRE world, and that the characteristics that you’re SO loved and appreciated for, that comprise the core of your very being, aren’t just limited to your interactions with the person that you’ve chosen to relate to on a longer term basis.

In order for your relational needs to be met, you must have the feeling that your influence is being spread on a wider scale than the circumference of your bedroom. Also, it would help if your partner is an ally with you in your pursuits, as this can serve as a point of intimate connection.

For anyone with this placement, it’s entirely possible that one of the worst moves that you can make is unceasingly surveying what everyone else is doing in their relationships as a measurement of how yours should be conducted.

Experimentation is in your DNA and it must be strongly considered that it’s far better to go that route than to wholly digest the mandate of a real or imagined “authority” figure that tells you: “this is THE way.”

When it comes to you in relation to the Venus in Aquarius placement, there’s no shame in being viewed as “out of the ordinary.”

However, you must guard in taking an aloof  and reactionary stance against others in the form of a superiority complex that reduces others to “sheep” and “followers”.

The same freedoms that you value so highly in regard to your relationships need to be honored and extended to others.

If you will choose  to utilize your capacity for openness, tolerance and your humanitarian bent, this is entirely possible.

Reference:  Pluto (Volume 2) The Soul’s Evolution Through Relationships by Jeffrey Wolf Green

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Astrological Compatibility: We’re PEOPLE, not Signs

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Every now and then, I have to remind people: any two people, irrespective of their Sun signs are capable of having a successful relationship.

No matter what the chemistry (or synastry) looks like between the birth charts of two individuals, chances are, we’ll find ourselves having to make some adjustments when it comes to learning another person.

If we’re constantly going on and on about how we’ll never date a person of a certain sign or we “just don’t get along” with Scorpio’s or Capricorns, we may find that we create a self-fulfilling prophecy of sorts. Especially, if we have no desire to do the work which will actually help us arrive at the root of our issues.

Here are the facts; when it comes to ANY sign of the zodiac, they have their functional, or constructive expressions, as well as their dysfunctional or maladaptive ones.

If both parties are willing, and committed to aspiring to the highest expressions of what their signs (and entire birth charts) have to offer, then it’s entirely possible to have a fulfilling relationship.

Granted, there are definitely some relationships which may pose more of a challenge when it comes to day- to-day living.

Sometimes, in Astrological chart comparisons, we tend to forget about the actual PEOPLE involved and obsess over planetary placements, measurements, etc. It’s important to remember that everyone is bringing their unique histories and experiences to the party.

Family dynamics, cultural factors and environment also have to be considered along with the Astrology to identify the potential for compatibility.  We also must remember that despite the “shared” dynamic, the two individuals are still on their own distinct growth journeys.

More on this topic later…..

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Leo Sun, Pisces Moon : “The Creator”

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You were born to stick out, but maybe not for the reasons that immediately come to mind.  The simple fluidity of your natural personality can poeticize an already dramatic flair for self-presentation.

Gaining attention from others fuels your vitality. To be accepted and validated for just being you assists in your aspiring to greater heights, and also experiencing a oneness with the universe. However, it’s paramount that you don’t get so caught up in playing a role that you lose sight of what feeds you: connecting to spiritual source.

What you need is feelings of inner peace. this comes through nurturing your empathy, which is the desire to identify with the thoughts and feelings of others so you’ll know exactly where to radiate your light of inspiration.

Your confidence gradually increases when you feel like you’re uplifting humanity and bridging divisions. Your aspirations of self-actualization have the opportunity to shine most visibly through the recognition of the things which unite human beings rather than what keeps us at odds. Through this process, you’re achieving a more comprehensive understanding of what makes you happy in the intangible sense.

One of the dysfunctional and psychologically disordered manifestations of this combinations is getting high on other’s seeming admiration. Emotional intoxication as a gateway to grandiose ego inflation.

In essence, you’re a CREATOR.

Your theme song is “The Creator” by Pete Rock & CL Smooth

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Venus in Aries: “Shooting Your Shot”

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As we explore the territory that’s Venus in Aries, we do so with the understanding that Venus can’t be reduced or limited exclusively to “love” in one’s birth chart. There are far more associations which accompany the planet. However, for the purpose of this particular article, one’s idea of love, as viewed through the Venus in Aries lens, will be emphasized.

For those with Venus placed in Aries in the birth chart, love can be a battlefield, where you want to be number one with no question. Love can be a feeling of having to “fight ” for the object of your affection. Love is passionate involvement. Love is fiery. Love is independence. Love is victory. Love is risk.

Love is “shooting your shot”.

You have the potential to be the the “Love Warrior”.

Ideally, you have little problem being the initiator in forming relationships because (1) you don’t believe in wasting time and (2) there’s a dynamic thrust of identity projection at work. For you, personal relationships are a source of constant renewal, and the litmus test of the ones that serve you is how much motivation you feel to maintain them.

Independence is another key theme for you. Learning the lesson that: working in your own self-interest and selfishness are two different things will be of immense value to you in your journey.

When Archetypal Aries energy is present in intimate relationships, there’s a tremendous focus on impact: On the effect they’ve had on the other person. The continuous question is :”what’s new?”

A static existence without mutual independence is as debilitating as it gets.

The gist of an Aries infused relationship is: “take your resources and explore the world, and I’ll do the same.” Then, we’ll come back and share insights in a manner that benefits us personally and collectively.

In general, what you can provide and also what you expect from another, is a straightforward and shame-free manner of relating. Emotional directness doesn’t have to be a problem.Typically, this is a person who’s more concerned with affirmation of their being than apologizing for it.

Because of the focus on identity development, what the Ram seeks in a partner is someone who has found a source of  passionate involvement and stimulation for *themselves*.

Venus in Aries understands that to be deeply focused on what you love is to feel connected to the collective life force.

On a healthy level, the Venus in Aries individual desires to “push” their partner to fulfill potential. Always looking for ways to encourage stretching out of their comfort zone.

Dysfunctionally, they become obsessed with competition, feeling as if they have to continuously be “one up” as a source of psychological satisfaction.

Another appropriate question for Venus in Aries is: “How do I keep the fires burning?”

Aries energy is undoubtedly challenged with maintaining enthusiasm in relationships. With the natural ebb and flow of life, the initial “heat” which is automatically present in the beginning stages of a union must subside or take on a different form.

So, what will it be?

Do you choose air to fan the flames of your passions? More fire to set the world ablaze? Water to create steam? Or, earth to bring structure to your aspirations?

Great astrology raises effective questions.

Ultimately, no matter what you choose, know that you can, and are supposed to have an impact on your partner.

You have the capability to become a master motivator and a source of “juice”. Not only by your powerful words, but your life lived as a personal demonstration of how an identity and belief in a cause unfolds over time.

Venus in Aries also suggests a person that’s not adverse to risk in relationships.

Now, we return to the theme of  fearlessly going after the type of relationships which authentically suit your way of being: a.k.a.”shooting your shot”

Many years ago, I had the pleasure of coming across the work of Richard Idemon, an Astrologer who passed away in 1987. I picked up a copy of his book “Through The Looking GlassA Search For The Self In The Mirror of Relationships.”

One of the first ideas which captured my attention was that of our most fundamental need in human relationships being the re-validation of our basic myths. 

We all have a “story”, or mythology of sorts that we carry around with us. This basic psychic ground is a significant contributor to our sense of self.  As a result, the patterns which we consciously or unconsciously create are those which are going to keep co-signing on our basic myth.

Those relationships which we may feel less comfortable, or even highly unsettled are those which challenge our basic ground.

However, if growth and evolution in relationships is what we truly seek, we must ultimately head in this direction.

There is an excellent example given in this book regarding the physical territory of animals, which can directly be applied to the psychic territory of human beings.

All animals have a basic physical territory that they will not deviate from. Even when chased by a larger, more fierce animal, which is sure to eat them alive, they will not leave this territory. In fact, the animal in question will run until he/she can’t run anymore and double back into the jaws of the pursuing animal rather than leave it’s comfort zone.

If we apply this same logic and scenario to our human relationships, we now see that most of us would rather be “eaten alive” psychically largely due to our need for safety. Pushing ourselves into the unknown constitutes a psychological death. So, in our discomfort, we resist change with all our might.

What we may have failed to realize is that we won’t be able to evolve into any relationship which does not support our existing myths.

If our mythology casts us as unlovable, undeserving, fearful human beings, our relationship patterns can’t reflect anything else. The only people that we’re able to accept into our worlds at this time are going to be continual confirmers of that reality.

Even if genuine love hit us head on like a Mack truck, we would not realize it, nor could we appreciate it because of our insistence to clinging to these outmoded patterns.

It’s only when we decide to renovate and expand our personal mythology that we’re able to open our universe to a broader array of possibilities.

There are two examples given of very different relationship models. The first model is the static model and the second is the erotic model.

With the static model, the basic intent is to stay safe. To avoid risk.  As long as there are no major shake- ups, everything will be all right. “Mrs./Mr. Jones and I have been together for 30 years and everything is in it’s place just the way I like it.” However, the question remains: have you and Mrs./Mr. Jones really been together 30 years, or just one year 30 times over?

 The erotic model is far more riskybut the potential rewards are much greater.
 Having Venus in Aries natally, the erotic model of relationships is much better suited to your inclinations.
The question is: are you up for the challenge?
The prime goals of the erotic relationship model are: intimacy and growth, variety, openness to change, open communications, trust, varied and shifting roles, independence, and adult-adult relating. The author goes on to suggest that there are probably ten percent of people who have a sufficient amount of the erotic in their relationship to keep them on their toes; to have them aiming towards deep bonding and personal transformation. As you peruse this food for thought, it may help to take inventory of your personal relationships and ask yourself where you fall in the spectrum.
What are the primary goals of your relationships? What do the relationship patterns that you’ve attracted into your life say about your personal mythology and your basic groundDo you wish to embark on the journey of changing your myth? If you’re not entirely happy in where you stand in this area, please understand that you can  begin anew with a legend for yourself which reflects the highest possibilities for creating the types of relationships which will enhance the quality of your life and ultimately contribute to your personal satisfaction.

 

The shot is yours to take.

*Reference: “Through The Looking Glass: A Search For The Self In The Mirror of Relationships.” by Richard Idemon

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Leo Sun, Sagittarius Moon : “Star and the Sky”

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Here, we have a serious synthesis of warm regality and lofty and far sighted thought energy. With this Sun/Moon duo, the fuel of seeking recognition and validation for one’s uniqueness and irreplaceability is reflected and given form through a personality which aims to have an impact on the world through the ideas and IDEALS which permeate their life philosophy.

The Sagittarian arrows of expansive mental activity have the potential to be illuminated or scorched by the light of the Leo Sun, depending on one’s overall level of development.

Through this astrological signature, we develop a portrait of one who’s energized by the sheer enjoyment of life and the creativity and “play” elements that are included in one’s personal, explorative journey. Being liked, admired and seen as special by others boosts one’s vitality and having one’s opinions respected and taken seriously provides the emotional nourishment.

There’s no question that a fiery and robust spirit is present, which seeks an enormous amount of freedom to navigate the world with the specific purpose of finding more of themselves. The danger in taking this to the extreme results in a failure to recognize that you already ARE what you seek. With this combination, the notion of “hero-worship” should fly out the window because with the proper effort applied towards your personal development, you are indeed THAT HERO.

A noble warmth combined with a high-minded thirst for knowledge and understanding is the ideal for a Leo Sun, Sagittarius Moon blend.  When operating dysfunctionally, a haughty self-righteousness and an overly inflated sense of importance take the front seat, which not only blinds you, but also those around you, which in turn, obscures all of your good intentions.

More than anything, what you want is to live in passionate pursuit of ideals and then actually LIVE them out. With this double fire combination one must guard against “all INSPIRATION and no PERSPIRATION.”

Astrologer Noel Tyl states:

“Two fire signs in this blend take the ego-recognition energies and shoot them high: there’s drama, daring, adventure and love all lifted up to where ideals catch fire. The flow is almost too easy, and the enthusiasms that abound can burn up all the fuel. One can ride through life too easily on appearances and desires, rather than on effort and accomplishment.”

 

What we see as the ultimate goal stated in this combination of solar strength and distant contemplation, is:  to be as much of one’s authentic self as humanly possible by embodying and demonstrating one’s worldview through a shining example of exemplary behavior.

Your theme song is: “Star and the Sky” by Dynasty featuring Skyzoo

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Reference: Synthesis & Counseling In Astrology by Noel Tyl

Capricorn Sun, Pisces Moon : “Closer To My Dreams”

 

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In the case of the Capricorn Sun/Pisces Moon blend, inspiration that leads to perspiration and the establishing of concrete structures is the first concept that comes to mind.

Here, we have one whose ambition and life’s work to build something that stands the test of time reflected through a personality that needs to dream and be inspired. In examining this combination, some developmental lessons to consider are: in order for “creative visualization” to be truly CREATIVE, there must eventually be something to show for it. Also, there will no doubt be times where you must keep your nose to the grindstone and climb your mountain alone, without feeling any particular brand of inspiration. The sooner you realize that life’s reality is sometimes painstaking and mundane, the better. You’re not going to be able to thrive exclusively on “good feelings” or a perpetual high.

As an extension of the same lesson, it’s important to realize that just because you’re not doing anything in particular or able to label yourself incessantly busy doesn’t mean that nothing is happening or getting accomplished. The invisible forces that permeate your life must be given space to breathe and work. For you, solitude is a necessity from both the vantage points of strategizing and an intermittent “zoning out”. However, reasonable limits must be applied for maximum effectiveness.

Because hard work fuels the engine you’re equipped with, it will always be in the picture, as will themes of patience and delayed gratification. To gracefully accept this without feeling like you’re giving up on your dreams and to also, resist wallowing in self-pity or woeful tales of sacrifice can prove to be a colossal step in your maturation process.

Your theme song is “Closer” by Goapele. You can listen right here:

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