Viewing The Sun Sign as a Process

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“Unless you have prepared yourself to profit by your chance, the opportunity will only make you ridiculous. A great occasion is valuable to you just in proportion as you have educated yourself to make use of it.”
-Orison Swett Marden

The Sun.

It’s very difficult to mention the physical entity itself without discussing light or warmth. When bright and blazing, it’s impossible to ignore. Ironically, when absent the sentiments remain the same.

Astrologically speaking, the Sun symbolizes our life-force, purpose and vitality. For the average person, their first contact with astrology centers around sun-sign horoscopes printed in the newspaper or a magazine. To clarify, when another person asks you “what’s your sign?” they’re speaking of your Sun sign.

One of the common threads that I’ve noticed in a lot of astrological writing  is that of solely assigning  a set of attributes or personality characteristic to the sun sign without eluding to the process of the sun’s realization. 

You were born on December 2nd: Bam! You’re a Sagittarius. Automatically, you’re expansive, optimistic, philosophical a born teacher and traveler, etc… There’s no mention that Sagittarius is a process of growth and we must consciously develop our sun signs. In fact, there are many people who don’t necessarily identify with their suns, and the lack of a suitable explanation about the sun as potential could definitely qualify as a reason.

Our original birth chart doesn’t change. It’s symbolic of a cosmic snapshot of the positioning of the planets at the time of our birth.

However, as human beings, we have the free will to make choices which will aid in our progression and the realization of the potential as indicated by our sun sign. Or, the possible hindrance of capitalizing on our birth chart as a grand opportunity. We are not static, finished products. Therefore, we are always in the process of becoming a Virgo, Libra or Scorpio.

A couple of additional questions that stem from this discussion are: at what level are we living our sun signs? Also, what level do we desire to be living them?

In our natal charts, the Sun serves as our central operations system. It’s our core. If the chart represents our celestial government, the sun is the president. No matter what other features are contained in our birth maps, its synthesized expression manifests through the sun.

For every sign, there are a different set of experiences and developmental strategies which must be consciously implemented if we’re going to become the most developed version of what our sun signs represent.

To illustrate how the Sun is supposed to operate in one’s chart I’ve instituted some theme music by hip hop artist Dynasty. Please reflect and enjoy this track called “The Sun”

 

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Astrological Aspects To The Sun

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Sun- Moon : Illumination/importance of one’s racial and ancestral heritage. The power of the Ancestors. Mother & father. Anima & Animus. Race pride. Creative nurturing. Synthesis of the Masculine and Feminine archetypes. The creative Feminine. The sensitive Masculine.

Sun-Mercury: Creative communication. Communication intertwined with one’s identity or creative expression. The famous writer. A powerful orator. In hip-hop: the boastful emcee. One who puts his/her whole bring into speeches.

Sun- Venus : The beautiful ones. The importance of graceful expression. The Artist personified. One who gains energy through aesthetic appreciation. The bridge-builder. A born diplomat. The embodiment of Oshun. The archetypal musician.

Sun-Mars : Warriorhood personified. The application of will is essential to one’s personal/creative expression. The Masculine center of energy. “Oozing” raw sexual energy in an over manner. Hair-trigger temper. Visible and illuminated aggression. Righteous rage.

Sun-Jupiter: A teacher, scholar and philosopher seeking expression. The generous, grandiose self. Vastly bloated and full of pomposity. Thinks “God” is on his/her side. The “Professor at Large” (Shout out to Extra P!) “Bible Beater”. Dogmatically claiming the one and only path to righteousness. Moral Superiority complex. One with Big Ideas. Mega-Live. Reverend Do-Good (Shout out to De La Soul). Justice seeker. Believes in the power of positive thinking. Evangelical fervor permeates self-expression. There’s “a right and a wrong way.”

Sun-Saturn : Responsible illuminating of identity. Organization of self.  Jenoch or Mentor. Eldership. Finding oneself through pain and difficult experiences. No frills, no bullshit. The inner taskmaster. A serious, self-contained personal presentation. Enlightenment comes via trials, tribulations limits, restrictions and hard work. You shine through personal accountability and the constructive use of boundaries.

Sun-Uranus : Self-realization comes through putting one’s unique stamp on life, and questioning “standard” or “mainstream” ways of thinking, doing and behaving. Using personal creativity as a tool of innovation, yet accepting the alienation that comes with that. You’re one who gets called “crazy”, but gets quoted continuously over time. The hip-hop artist whose lyrics you finally “Get” much later on.

Sun-Neptune: The dreamer and idealist. The ethereal self-presentation. may be so concerned about unity with everything around them that they’re hazy on who they are. failing to establish appropriate boundaries with the collective. trying to be all things to everybody. A chameleon. A con-artist, selling unlikely hopes and impossible dreams. Spirituality is found through discovering a concrete self. Must discover the difference between being fluid and wishy-washy.

Sun-Pluto : Powerful Self – or creatively masterful manipulator. Must discover how to use personal power wisely and constructively. Can undergo multiple “deaths” in service of self-transformation. Understands the meaning of the “new birth”. can feel one’s own authentic personal expression is threatening, so they hide themselves, putting other on “remote control”. can have a transformative effect on others as a force to be remembered or a demagogue to forget. Charisma can empower or entrap.

 

Venus in Gemini: “The Love of Variety”

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As we explore the carousel that is Venus in Gemini, we do so with the understanding that Venus can’t be reduced or limited exclusively to “love” in one’s birth chart. There are far more associations which accompany the planet. However, for the purpose of this particular article, one’s idea of love, as viewed through the Venus in Gemini lens, will be emphasized.

For Venus in Gemini, love is intellectual exchange. Love is Great conversation. Love is Mind stimulation. Love is flexibility and the ability to roll with duality. Love is witty and flirtatious. Love is youthful. Love is a trip to Barnes & Noble. Love is coffee shops and crossword puzzles. Love is watching “Jeopardy” in bed.

When interpreting and analyzing this planetary placement, it can’t be repeated enough times that planets or signs don’t “make” you act in any particular fashion. They don’t “do” anything to us, per se. What’s really going on here is that you’re being provided some food for thought concerning how to utilize your natal placement to develop into a more complete and fulfilled person.

For those with a Venus in Gemini placement, change is to be welcomed as a friend and not a threat. This placement suggests that the most auspicious avenues for the love principle to be expressed are through variety, curiosity, mental stimulation and adaptability.

There’s an enjoyment that comes with a fresh outlook and an attraction towards the new and a abhorrence toward stagnancy in personal relationships. If one isn’t constantly being exposed to newfangled insights, their interest soon begins wither and there becomes an immediate question as to whether such as association is necessary any longer.

With Gemini being a Mutable Air sign, a quicksilver swiftness is suggested. When combined with the Venusian principles, there’s a need for the individual to circulate. When one feels entrapped either physically or through stultifying ideas, staleness and psychological stench can set in.

It’s important for those with this planetary placement to consider the “elastic” nature that they require in a partner. Ideally, you want a best friend with whom you can indulge in conversations about a variety of topics and bounce ideas off of. This may come in the form of ONE person, or many.

However, the most important virtue for you to employ is complete honesty about what this package looks like for you coupled with the ability to communicate that to another person.

Venus’ placement in Gemini suggests that intellectual invigoration is a must and the “quiet and mysterious” may not be the move for you. Being truthful about how you’re wired can save you a lot of confusion. Consider that finding solace in the fact that “everything isn’t for everybody” is a long-term victory for you.

You need to be appreciated for your wit and multifaceted nature and this is actually the key toward your sexual arousal. For you, eroticism begins in the mind. You would much rather debate the current political climate of our country than be exposed to constant grand and romantic overtures (unless the totality of the birth chart indicates otherwise). In fact, your approach to sex may be a more cerebral one where discussion and research of sex may be just as, if not more exciting than the act itself. You may also have a mental “merry go round”  that will allow you the flexibility of entertaining certain sexual acts that you wouldn’t necessarily act out under other circumstances.

While the physical appearance of another isn’t to be discounted by any means, the qualities of verbal dexterity, sharp intellect and unceasing inquiry seem to weigh more heavily in your longer term attraction to another person.

As a Venus in Gemini person, one of your most pressing developmental challenges is to use your intelligence and penchant for questioning as a means to discovering the new when it comes to things and people that are “established”. so to speak.

To paraphrase Marcel Proust :

“The real voyage of discovery consists not in seeking new landscapes, but in having new eyes.”

With this natal placement, your theme song is : “The Choice is Yours” by Black Sheep. In the truest sense, as a Venus in Gemini person, you can get with THIS or you can get with THAT. You can listen right here :

Moon-Jupiter Contacts in Relationships

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In synastry (relationship astrology), when there’s contact via aspect between one person’s Moon and the other’s Jupiter, or vice versa, it opens the door for a wide array of possibilities.

The Moon symbolizes our deepest emotional needs reflected in the form of a personality. Security, comfort, warmth, nurturing and receptivity are all fall under lunar domain.

Jupiter represents amplification, elevation, protection and magnification. Jupiter’s archetype expands whatever it touches from the highest, most inspirational peaks to the depths of gluttony, exaggeration and overindulgence.

With this dynamic present between partners, both of you may feel that you “can’t get enough” of the other person. That there’s no such thing as too much. With these planets aspecting one another, there’s a sense of mutual admiration and protection.

Also, the tendency to hold each other up to the highest ideal. There’s immense potential for a heightening of mood. when in each other’s presence. An infusion of tenderness and heartfelt emotional exchange.The open sharing of feelings.

The flip side of this aspect is that the individual worlds of both partners could be stamped with the stigma of being hopelessly mundane in comparison to the union. This dynamic can contribute to a lackluster effort to explore the world on their own terms and inhibit the joy of independent discovery. The relationship then turns into “life is no fun without you.”

As with any synastric aspect, much of the degree and style of its functioning depends on the level of maturity and  self-awareness of the individuals involved.

 

 

Venus in the Birth Chart : Your Personal “Love Jones”

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“Sister to the distant, yet risin’ star….Is your name Yemaya? Oh hell nah, it’s got to be Oshun….” – Larenz Tate “Brother To The Night” (A Blues For Nina)

Venus.

Yes, some of us know her by this name.  In tandem, she is Ma’at, the constantly achieved condition of and requirements for the ideal world, society and person.  Rightness, balance and harmony permeates her being. She is Ana, Anat, Aphrodite, Astarte, Ashtar, Aurora, Sachar, Eos, Ina  or Ishtar.

In the Yoruba realm, she is Oshun (Osun), the personification of beauty and sensuality. Not the pursuer, but the pursued. So lovely and enchanting that you don’t even have to set your gaze upon her to appreciate the form. Delicacy, refinement and taste are never strangers to her door.  Oshun has reduced feminine wiles to a science, and could’ve written Robert Greene’s “The Art of Seduction” with her eyes closed.

To quote the late, great Guru from Gangstarr :”she knows what she wants, and just how to get it.” According to a pataki, which is a sacred Yoruba story, Ogun, who was the God of iron in Orishaland, was banned from the city after a quarrel with his father. As a result, Ogun  decided to relocate Dolemite style: WAY down in the jungle DEEP !

So, now Ogun is ghost and the whole community is feeling it. There’s no quality iron in arms length and brighter days seem to be a thing of the past. But wait! Who saves the day? Oshun, knowing her own power, offers to spread honey all over her body to lure Ogun back to the city. She knows he can’t resist. Now, I think this was the “G” rated version, but long story short, : Iron making was brought back to humankind.

This story easily connects to the way Venus operates: the use of feminine power with the highest aims and ideals in mind.  Astrologically, Venus symbolizes the “team player” in all of us. Do we share? Play well with others? Can we live in harmony?

Also, it speaks to our desire to love others and be loved in return; a mutual exchange of the gift of happiness. Venus is the principle of attraction- most specifically in relationships. The sign where your Venus is located in your chart will give clues as to whom you may be attracted to and how you express this attraction.

As a general rule of thumb,  A Man’s Venus sign describes the traits of his “ideal” woman. There are other aspects, or planetary relationships which can modify this, but nevertheless, the Venus sign contains clues about what attributes turn a Man’s head. So, how do you express your love Jones?  I’ve brought some musical selections to help illustrate so we can get to the bottom of this.

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Venus in Aries

“Let’s Get it On” by Marvin Gaye ; “Let’s Git it On” by Smif-N-Wessun

If your Venus is in Aries, you want action. Plain and simple. You’re very independent and have no room for the plodders. Your love style is fiery, passionate and you heat up quick.  In a Man’s chart, this Venus placement says that he wants a woman with spunk who knows her own mind. Someone who has plenty of passions to immerse herself in whether he’s in the immediate picture or not.

Venus in Taurus

“Solid as a Rock” by Ashford &Simpson

Taurus wants to be comfortable. The bull seeks a union that’s both solid and enduring. Yes, she’ll take some flowers and a nice dinner. Candlelight is great too. However, you don’t have to take things over the top because of Taurus’ inherently earthy quality. What she really wants is for you to show her that you value the consistency of the relationship. Also, that you appreciate even the smallest gestures of affection and the efforts to assist in your comfort. In a Man’s chart, this placement says: I know you have a Ph.D, but common sense will win my heart. Simple doesn’t mean simple-minded, but could we take it easy on the Jung and Freud tonight? Thank you.

Venus in Gemini

“How Many Ways” by Toni Braxton; “What’s the 411?” by Mary J. Blige feat. Grand Puba

Variety and communication. The exchange of ideas. More than any other Venus placement, Gemini needs to be talked to and stimulated mentally. It’s advisable that you go ahead and purchase the unlimited minutes package on your phone, and while you’re at it, go ahead and buy a scrabble game and give up the 7:30 pm time slot for Jeopardy for the next few years. With Venus in Gemini, there is also some new and interesting topic to delve into in order to fuel the tremendous capacity for curiosity. When this placement is in a Man’s chart, he likes his women quick-witted, mercurial, versatile, youthful, well-informed and studious.

Venus in Cancer

“Come Close” by Common &Mary JBlige; “Tender Love” by Force MD’s

True intimacy is the cornerstone of this placement. Venus in Cancer wants their love Deborah Cox style: sentimental. All the better if you can create a safe, private nest for the two of you as a shelter from the harshness of the world. Venus in Cancer prefers a relationship where their needs don’t necessarily have to be implicitly stated all of the time.They figure that you’re close enough to them to intuit how they’re feeling. In a Man’s chart, this placement will rub your back softly as you cry watching “Beaches” for the 100th time. He wants a nurturer. His ideal woman is kind, sensitive, maternal, with an innate sweetness. A great listener and supporter.

Venus in Leo

“Spotlight” by Jennifer Hudson; “Flashing Lights” by Kanye West & Dwele

If you have Venus in Leo, you need to be a star. And not so much where everyone knows your name, but this absolutely has to be reality in your small kernel of the universe. Your deep sense of dignity and your thirst for unique, creative self expression follows you with every move you make, as it begs too be recognized. To boot, this personal pride is attached to your personal relationships. Nothing less than being the King or Queen will do. You need praise, admiration and recognition as numero uno. In a Man’s chart, it’s indicated that he wants that Queen. A Venus in Leo Man would like nothing more than to have a woman whom he can show off to the world. Complete with a sense of style, flair and drama about her. A woman who is large-hearted with time, energy and resources.

Venus in Virgo

“Flawless”by Phife; “Top Ten List” by Masta Ace Incorporated

While Venus in Virgo is not the astrological placement that will overwhelm you with passion, it’s a combination of utilitarian success. Venus in Virgo is the type of partner who will show you on an everyday basis, through the most practical ways, that they love you. Usually, Venusian Virgo’s are not big fans of public displays of affection, but are surprisingly lusty behind closed doors. Again, another way to show you that they care. Sometimes the downfall of Venus in Virgo is just being too downright picky. You have your list and your checking it twice for the perfect Man or Woman who never appears and you find yourself alone in a room staring at the wall and in the back of your mind hearing your conscience call. Men with this placement are typically attracted to highly intelligent, discriminating, outwardly prim and proper women. The Librarian who eats Dewey decimal for breakfast or the health advocate who will write you a dissertation on gluten-free foods or holistic healing techniques.

Venus in Libra

“Perfect Match” by Cella Dwellas ; “Real Love” by Mary J. Blige

In Libra, Venus is just thinking about how great it is to be back in one of it’s home signs. There is no placement which can top this one when it comes to the desire for a true partnership. The thought of shared activities and the social whirl excite those with Venus in Libra.

A sense of justice, fair play and cooperation stays in the forefront. Not to mention the thought of how “we” are going to look to everyone as a couple. This is not inherently a negative pondering. However, when overdone, you have two people who have morphed into this entity where no one is able to say their names separately anymore.

A Man with Venus in Libra would be attracted to a woman who is graceful, charming, tactful and very socially adept. Someone who has a pronounced interest in maintaining a relationship with love, peace and harmony as the building blocks.

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Venus in Scorpio

“Undying Love” by Nas ; “Tsunami” by Res

As many of us know, whenever Scorpio enters the picture it gets heavy. Venus and Libra has purchased all of the hallmark cards, so there is none left for this placement. Now…. it’s time to get down to the nitty gritty. The gut level. Scorpio is all or nothing, and if you choose all, they need you to prove it. Yes, they will gladly take payment in blood if that’s what you were wondering.

Venus in Scorpio possesses and insatiable desire for an intensity filled bond. Their idea of true intimacy is not glossing over the faults of one another, rather it is confronting hard core emotional truths about the root causes of issues. Not for the faint of heart, but monumentally transformative if you have the steel reserves to play in that arena.

A Venus in Scorpio man would be attracted to a woman who possesses a profound depth of character and a sense of mystery. Someone who refuses to skate on  life’s surface. She can be exposed to all of the refuse and garbage contained in the seedy underbelly of existence and not bat an eyelash. Yes, she is hard to come by and has many men saying “My tires don’t look THAT bad slashed, I needed a new set, anyway.”

Venus in Sagittarius

“Distant Lover” by Marvin Gaye; “Truth” by Dwele; “Joy” by Talib Kweli &Mos Def; “No Tears” by Pete Rock & Leela James

Venus in Sagittarius wants expansive love. Those with this placement are very enthusiastic regarding the object of their affection and would like nothing better to wax philosophical at 4 in the morning in a hostel in Prague.

They envision a partnership as a mutually mind broadening experience. They require the space and freedom to fly solo and require honesty and trust from their partner. What they are truly seeking is a friend. Heavy emotional demands are not their scene, as it can wear on their optimistic and naturally buoyant temperament.

Men with this placement are attracted to women who are well-traveled(physically or mentally), eclectic, philosophically inclined, open minded, with a great sense of humor. The inspirational type who fuels their fire to reach even greater heights.  High minded ideals permeate this placement, so a direct line to truth is paramount.

Venus in Capricorn

“Old School” by Doom & Talib Kweli; “Faithful” by Common feat. John Legend & Bilal

Venus in Capricorn takes their relationships very seriously. At it’s highest expression, there is the potential for a deep sense of duty and responsibility to their partner. A maturity that says: “I’m going to make this relationship work no matter what.” A unshakable integrity which aligns the consistency of thoughts, words and deeds. Sliding to the lower end, this becomes fear. Insecurity which ignites a need to dictate or control the partner motivated by an illusory, mis-defined “love”. If these fears can be diagnosed and treated, this  combination can serve as a model relationship to others. Men with this placement are attracted to women with ambition and a sense of purpose. Women with traditional values who are goal oriented and know the process of delaying short term gratification for more permanent, substantial gains.

Venus in Aquarius

“No Ordinary Love” by Sade “I got cha Opin” by Black Moon

Venus in Aquarius is wide open. Original, independent, avant-garde, non-conformist- you name it. They make their own traditions and it’s this very spirit which makes them so attractive to others. They do, however, require a considerable amount of freedom in relationships and it wouldn’t be a bad thing if the union was a tad bit unconventional. Unless other facets of the chart strongly mute this placement, this is not a white picket fence type. Venus in Aquarius wants to convey the message that they accept you for who and what you are. They just ask that you truly do the same. Venus in Aquarius men are attracted to original Women. Those who are ahead of their time and unafraid to stick out. Bold women who live by their own code and have firm, logical reasons why they do so. Quirky? Offbeat? Well… the Venus in Aquarius man can dance to that rhythm.

Venus in Pisces

“Love No Limit” by Mary J. Blige; “Infinite Possibilities” by Amel Larrieux

It is very fitting that I began this piece with a photo from “Love Jones”, which is one of my favorite movies. If I had to assign an astrological placement to the film, Venus in Pisces would surely be it. Poetic Love. The type of love that enchants you and envelops you in it’s rapture. You no longer know (or care) about the time on the clock or the day of the week. Just lie here with me and keep blissing out. Let’s go watch the sunrise… no the sunset…. no the full moon. Sharing intimate, innermost thoughts. The Visions and possibilities are endless, but is it real? Can it stand the test of time when the wind blows and steals the haze of euphoria only to purchase reality? Men with Venus in Pisces are attracted to artistic women. Women that know imagination is the biggest nation in the world. Poets, mystics, spiritual seekers. Venus in Pisces men will embark on that journey in a heartbeat.

©2013 by Sagittarian Mind Consulting

Mercury in Cancer

Mercury Aqua & Purple

With Mercury natally placed in Cancer, one’s inclination is to use the intuition as an informer to the direction that one’s thoughts need to take.

The person with this placement needs to think and communicate emotionally, as well as distribute messages which provide security to others. There’s an indirect bent to one’s speaking style and they’re able to pick up on subtle and underlying messages contained in non-verbal behavior that many of us miss. There’s strength here in imagination as well as a retentive memory which primarily contains a myriad of feeling responses rather than hardcore facts and figures.

The M.O. is to foster a sense of connection through interaction and the goal is developing intimacy, which means that a feeling of honest knowing surfaces as a result of  contact with others. Again, another strength with this placement is the ability to empathize and provide safe, non-judgmental spaces designed for open emotional expression.

Venus in Virgo : “Discriminating Love”

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“Everything keeps its best nature only by being put to its best use.” – Phillips Brooks

As we explore the method that’s Venus in Virgo, we do so with the understanding that Venus can’t be reduced or limited exclusively to “love” in one’s birth chart. There are far more associations which accompany the planet. However, for the purpose of this particular article, one’s idea of love, as viewed through the Venus in Virgo lens, will be emphasized.

For those with Venus placed in Virgo in the natal chart, Love is utilitarian. Love is continuous improvement. Love is pragmatic.  Love is service. Love is efficiency. Love is careful and continuous analysis. Love is health. Love is selective and discriminating. Love is paying attention.

With this arrangement, love needs are sought to be fulfilled in an environment which calls for the use of one’s faculties of discernment. While Virgo’s complementary sign, Pisces, is geared toward merging and unification, the Virgin’s direction consists of recognition and understanding of the difference between on thing and another.

For Venus in Virgo individuals “relationship competence” is of utmost importance, as a healthy developmental direction to which to proceed in puts emphasis on doing whatever is required to make relationships the best that they can be and operate in a healthy manner. These actions include picking the relationship apart, examining each facet thoroughly and determining its overall usefulness. As time goes on, the conclusions that one draws about what’s helpful and necessary for their partnerships will most likely change as a matter of principle and as an indicator of striving toward excellence.

One’s growth is naturally enveloped in the process of employing sound judgment in partnerships, and using these same unions as a vehicle for one’s own refinement and the betterment of the partner. Ideally, one’s relationships should work efficiently, like a well-oiled machine.

When placed in action, Venus in Virgo correlates well with the love language that Gary Chapman refers to as “Acts of Service” in his bestselling book “The 5 Love Languages”.

“Acts of service” consists of doing things that you know that your partner would want you to do or appreciate; seeking to please her or him by serving them. One would naturally know what their partner wanted after careful listening, analysis and observation which are all mercurial functions that are “at home” with the sign Virgo.

Also, as Chapman emphasizes, these acts of service would require thought, planning, time, effort and energy and if they’re done with a positive spirit, they would be expressions of love.

In regard to this placement “discrimination” is a key phrase. And, depending on our life circumstances, we may have only been exposed to the negative connotations associated with this term, which deal with the unjust or prejudicial treatment of different categories of people or things, especially on the grounds of race, age, gender or sexual orientation.

However, there’s another side to discrimination which indicates one’s ability to choose and make distinctions with care. Refinement of this faculty will most certainly be connected to one’s ability to maintain and execute relationships in a healthy and functional manner.

Potential challenge areas emerge for individuals with Venus in Virgo when their analysis goes too far, in that they attempt to answer every question: past, present and future – in order to account for every possible scenario without taking the actual plunge with their feelings in relationships. In essence, an self-inflicted paralysis and a robbing oneself of the right to possibly experience the love and relationship that you deserve.

Astrologer Jeffrey Wolf Green elaborates on this:

“Venus in Virgo people are plagued by a deep sense of inner doubt which is caused not only by the desire to deflate their egos, but also by the excessive inner analysis that creates a diversity of competing thoughts and perspectives. In turn, this can lead to an inner paralysis of their ability to take action as necessary. When these individuals consider some new project, or some new direction, or some new strategy leading to self-improvement, they will make these new ways seem so big and complicated that it reinforces their sense of personal inadequacy. Thus, they can defeat themselves before they even start. The way out of this self-defeating dynamic is to realize that the path to perfection, self-improvement, or the actualization of their abilities occurs one step at a time”

An important lesson for you to learn is: as efficient as you may be, there are no guarantees. You must take the initial steps involved in risk taking, and when you find yourself in the midst of a relationship, you must wholeheartedly INVOLVE yourself as opposed to consciously distancing yourself and playing the role of “remote tinkering technician”.

Also, it’s essential to understand that the same time and care that one puts in dissecting the relationship must be invested in considering the feelings of one’s partner. People aren’t “projects” and using your aforementioned powers of discrimination, to make the fine distinction between the two will benefit you greatly in the long run.

Understand that the pursuit of the ideal in relationships is both a natural and honorable inclination for you. To relinquish the belief that these aspirations must be accompanied by the excessive criticism of yourself and others, or that to be content and satisfied with what you have is accepting mediocrity is to invest in the breaking your own psychological and emotional chains.

References: “The 5 Love Languages: The Secret to Love That Lasts” by Gary Chapman

“Pluto Volume 2: The Soul’s Evolution Through Relationships” by Jeffrey Wolf Green

 

Venus in Pisces : “Blurred Boundaries”

Venus Teal & Chartreuse Circle

As we explore the mystification that is Venus in Pisces, we do so with the understanding that Venus can’t be reduced or limited exclusively to “love” in one’s birth chart. There are far more associations which accompany the planet. However, for the purpose of this particular article, one’s idea of love, as viewed through the Venus in Pisces lens, will be emphasized.

For Venus in Pisces: love is boundless. Love is romantic. Love is imagination. Love is fantasy. Love is returning to the spiritual source. Love is not easily or clearly defined. Love is universal. Love is unconditional. Love is suffering. Love is sacrifice. Love is transcendence. Love is nirvana. Love is a sea of oceanic tranquility.

If you have this placement in your birth chart, the ways in which your societal existence has shaped your definition of what it means to love and be loved bears serious consideration. The question becomes:

“Who told me how I was supposed to feel when I was “in love”?

Venus in Pisces at its best suggests that love can be extended in a uniquely intimate way whose ingredients are unconditional acceptance, empathetic connection and captivating union. 

At it’s worst, self-deception via creating one’s version of reality despite concrete information (evidence) to the contrary and deletion of important details from one’s experience to avoid pain or discomfort can reign front and center.

This placement suggests that one can be fixated on ideals, and this lens contains its admixture of beauty and challenges.  Where Venus in Pisces is concerned, the Victim/Savior game can firmly plant its flag for as long as the hypnotic state of “love over everything” remains etched in one’s psyche.

An inclination to respond to the suffering of others without discrimination can easily lead to one’s own demise as one can only see the potential in another, rather than the infectious energy that’s contained in their state of peril. So while one thinks they’re “saving” someone else, they become so enveloped by the situation that their heart, and sometimes pocketbook is in dire straits when the smoke clears.

There’s a need to merge with a partner to feel a sense of ever-growing closeness. However, differences between individuals don’t have to be viewed as potential threats which will erode the cohesiveness of a relationship.

One of the key facets of the developmental potential of Venus in Pisces is gaining the ability to see oneself and ones partners (intimate or business) clearly.  Issues surface when there’s an insistence on thinking that always seeing someone at their best is a higher form of love than acceptance of human frailty and imperfection.

In addition, One of the challenges of the Venus in Pisces individual can not only be to assuage the disappointment when a loved one reveals themselves as a mere mortal, but to also confront a lack of compassion toward oneself , because of the sheer intensity of  effort that one has displayed in trying to live up to an unrealistic ideal of being the perfect partner, or “on” under all circumstances.

We now return to the question: “Who told me how I was supposed to feel when I was “in love”?

With Venus in Pisces, one can be particularly sensitive and impressionable toward subliminal messages of what love is supposed to be about. Music, movies, advertisements and a host of other outlets can have significant influence.

In its constructive sense, this provides a host of imaginative and creative outlets to build upon an ever expanding mosaic of human feeling. In it’s maladaptive state, these messages are swallowed up with no filter whatsoever and the conclusion is reached that if you don’t have butterflies in your stomach, can’t eat and sleep without another person and aren’t thinking about them 24 hours a day and 7 days a week, it must not be love.

Concerning the concept and feeling of interconnectedness that’s suggested by Venus in  Pisces, there can be the misconception that everyone shares the same ideals where love and relationships are concerned.

One of the larger lessons here is: establishing reasonable limits and boundaries between partners in no way takes away from the “magic” of a relationship. When it comes to the significant dimensions of relationships, solid definitions  can actually ENHANCE the enchanting dynamic that you’re seeking to keep alive.

 

 

Venus in Aquarius: “No Ordinary Love”

Venus Teal & Chartreuse Circle

As we explore the territory that’s Venus in Aquarius, we do so with the understanding that Venus can’t be reduced or limited exclusively to “love” in one’s birth chart. There are far more associations which accompany the planet. However, for the purpose of this particular article, one’s idea of love, as viewed through the Venus in Aquarius lens, will be emphasized.

For those people with Venus placed natally in Aquarius, Love is experimental. Love is custom-made. Love is unconventional. Love is rebellious. Love is humanitarian. Love is questioning societal definitions of love. Love is futuristic. Love is progressive.

Love is a lifetime course in liberation.

You’re being urged to seek and find you’re unique brand of “normal” on the spectrum of love.

On a deep level, your relationships are designed to function as an agent for the examination of your social programming and conditioning.

It’s not your business to subscribe to the typical norms concerning love and sexuality and the freedom to make choices based on your inner convictions is something that’s a prerequisite to opening the doors of your heart.

After all, your brand of love needs to be designed according to your own standards, and how can something that feels forced or coerced into qualify as genuine love?

For you, love can even be a form of healthy rebellion provided that you’re being unscrupulously honest with yourself about your intentions. You could say that it’s encoded in your DNA to question what most people allow to pass through their mental sphere without even so much as the slightest pause.

The developmental potential of Venus in Aquarius is rooted in knowing that you can, and most likely will shock and or offend those who may fancy themselves as being more “traditional” , and that’s okay. However, living this life doesn’t come without cost.

You must be prepared for the feeling of alienation, which can regularly be present as a result of your ideology. However, on the other hand, blind compliance to the “model citizen” myth will more than likely leave you mentally and emotionally incarcerated.

Perhaps a more compassionate and fair position towards yourself would be to always remember your reasons for choosing the specific relationships that you have chosen.

If you’re actively doing this work, then love becomes progress.

In order to pique your interest in relating to another, uniqueness and a pronounced investment humanitarian themes and causes must be central.

If one isn’t “different” in a clear way, interested in activating change in the world , and concerned with issues outside their front door, they don’t stand a chance with you.

As a matter of fact, as Astrologer Jeffrey Wolf Green points out,  for Venus in Aquarius individuals, people who represent a radical departure from what *they* are often stimulate their interest:

“Such a person is intimately attracted to those that are radically different. The sense or experience of passion is linked with intimacy being ignited because of the fact of being different, which ignites the curiosity of Venus in Aquarius. Because Aquarius as an Archetype desires to know how whole systems and structures are put together, the curiosity function thus creates a Venus desire to know how the individual system of someone whom they are intimately attracted to is put together in such a way as to make them different. Inwardly resonating together in their individual differences born of rebellion thus stimulates this type of Venus in Aquarius passion for individual intimate relationships.”

It’s important to mention that a typical dilemma that may face you in relationships is encountering someone who wishes to have you “all to themselves”.

What you require, is a partner that understands and supports the fact that whatever you are in the context of the relationship, you will continue to be for the ENTIRE world, and that the characteristics that you’re SO loved and appreciated for, that comprise the core of your very being, aren’t just limited to your interactions with the person that you’ve chosen to relate to on a longer term basis.

In order for your relational needs to be met, you must have the feeling that your influence is being spread on a wider scale than the circumference of your bedroom. Also, it would help if your partner is an ally with you in your pursuits, as this can serve as a point of intimate connection.

For anyone with this placement, it’s entirely possible that one of the worst moves that you can make is unceasingly surveying what everyone else is doing in their relationships as a measurement of how yours should be conducted.

Experimentation is in your DNA and it must be strongly considered that it’s far better to go that route than to wholly digest the mandate of a real or imagined “authority” figure that tells you: “this is THE way.”

When it comes to you in relation to the Venus in Aquarius placement, there’s no shame in being viewed as “out of the ordinary.”

However, you must guard in taking an aloof  and reactionary stance against others in the form of a superiority complex that reduces others to “sheep” and “followers”.

The same freedoms that you value so highly in regard to your relationships need to be honored and extended to others.

If you will choose  to utilize your capacity for openness, tolerance and your humanitarian bent, this is entirely possible.

Reference:  Pluto (Volume 2) The Soul’s Evolution Through Relationships by Jeffrey Wolf Green

 

 

Mercury Through The Zodiac Signs: Capricorn-Pisces

Mercury Face

Mercury in Capricorn: Mental focus. The practical thinker. The “steel trap” mind. When placed in Capricorn, the intellectual faculties have the potential to operate with structure and organization. There’s a leanness with words, suggesting more of a concern with using the “right” ones which will ultimately carry weight, versus overloading the airwaves with superfluous explanations.

There’s an inclination for individuals with this placement to study subject matter of a serious nature. Also, light office chat around the water cooler is strictly prohibited. Developmental areas consist of transcending the fear of being “wrong”, which can paralyze or inhibit the capacity to communicate effectively. Remember: the steel trap mind can also be resilient, which can help you ward off the criticisms of others. Allowing the potential negative reviews of others to restrict your avenues of communication robs you of your gift of becoming a potential wordsmith.

Mercury in Aquarius: The futurist. Mercury in Aquarius suggests the potential to communicate in a manner that’s uniquely one’s own. With this placement, you’re forming your personal language that speaks to your spirit.

There’s a progressive. liberal and tolerant bent to one’s intellectual faculties, being open to the new and untried. Avant- garde and fresh approaches excite you. There’s also potential for the lightning-quick, instantaneous grasp of holistic understanding, which could be considered flashes of brilliance.  Developmental concerns are “giving up” on one’s own mind because others don’t seem to be thinking the way that you do. Also, intellectual rebellion which isn’t based on principle, but on a need to detach from the herd.

Mercury in Pisces: The Intuitive creative. Mercury in Pisces suggests a mental connection to the intangible realms of life. Also, potential access to ethereal worlds and the ability to obtain information that defies logical explanation. An acute picture-making faculty as well as an active dream and fantasy life are strengths of this placement. Dysfunctional expressions of this placement are selective memory, using words to deceive, confuse or manipulate; the inability to distinguish fantasy from reality or the creation of another mental world to escape feelings of discomfort.