Gemini Sun, Capricorn Moon

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The core of your being is illuminated by maintaining a youthful, breezy adaptability, as there’s an uncanny  ability to adjust to life’s situations irrespective of what’s thrown at you.

However, many times this is perceived as a lack of seriousness about life and that’s far from the case. Inside, you struggle from bouts of inadequacy because you always think that you should be “better” in relation to anything you touch or any interaction you have. There’s a tight grip on your heart and the playfulness serves as a way to ease that weight.

Taking responsibility for your emotional life is one of your greatest lessons to learn because at your highest potential you’re designed to live a life of integrity where the public and private you is aligned. You don’t have to fake it. The reality of your feelings is one of your greatest allies. So, curbing the tendency to bury significant emotions under a veneer of jokes only enables you to further evade the root of  issues that need to be addressed.

Once that accountability is established, you’ll feel more grounded and confident. In addition, you’re able to more effectively deal with the feelings of others with an air of detachment which doesn’t say ” I don’t care”, but rather finds an objective space which will prevent you from being swayed into unhealthy decision-making.

With your Sun/Moon blend, the “youth” and the adult can work in unison. Understand that all work and no play indeed makes you dull, but also there are definitely matters in life which require the sober, ponderous and strategic approach that is naturally yours.

Balancing your sociability and solitude is also a key theme when it comes to your cosmic signature. You need time to process things and this needs to be accepted.  You will need to find the sweet spot between focus and variety. You can’t be everywhere at once and this can scatter your energies as well as your brain.

If you’re able to successfully navigate this terrain, you will undoubtedly feel as if your ideas and your life in general has gained an “elastic pragmatism” where you can entertain possibilities, but have the common sense to know which ones are worth entertaining and which ones are merely flights of fancy.

At best, you possess a solid, hard-won emotional savvy along with a mental agility that can strip people and situations down to the bare bones. At worst you refuse to allow yourself the space needed to address your inner needs and overcompensate by convincing yourself and others that your life is nothing but fun and games.

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Capricorn Sun, Libra Moon : The Life Strategist

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Before stepping on a ladder and climbing upward, one of the first rules you must abide by is to make sure you have the proper balance. This is a perfect visual image when it comes to this Sun/Moon combination.

The idea of achievement in the tangible world is what fuels you. Aspirations of competence ignite your life force. Putting yourself “out there” in a big way is your ultimate aim; to step into an authoritative position and use your skills as a means to self-reliance.

Emotional harmony fulfills the deepest parts of your being. Finding a perfect point of integration which allows you to pursue a path to personal wholeness which includes consistency in thought, word and deed.

When you assertively take the reigns and agree to handle your business, there is no better life manager. You will discover within yourself a no nonsense approach where the incessant need to please or placate others is virtually absent.

With steady effort, you will find that you’re well equipped to pursue worldly ambitions in a practical manner, and not only gain material rewards, but also the status which comes with a reputation for being top notch at what you do.

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Capricorn Sun, Gemini Moon: “Mental Stamina”

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“Thoughts are things, so we find that different kinds of thoughts become different kinds of things. Thought is always creative; it must always create after its own type. It must always give form to something, and the something to which it gives form is not a thing of itself because the thought that creates the form is the product of the thinker. The thinker comes first, then the thought, and then the form.”

-Ernest Holmes 

To many of us, how the thought world operates is somewhat elusive. We may view the material manifestation of events and circumstances as purely “happenstance” or find some other type of rationalization as to why things are the way they are.

There are many alternate ways of considering how the world around us works, and this is one of the life tasks or missions of the Capricorn Sun, Gemini Moon individual:

to embrace a insatiable curiosity and multi-faceted inquiry regarding the manner in which your personal thought and concept selection influences your reality.

This Sun/Moon blend suggests that one has the potential for self-mastery and authority through diversifying life experiences and exposure to a multitude of viewpoints and perspectives. In addition to the contact with variety, one also needs to recognize, confront and navigate the duality that presents itself within ideas you choose to explore.

The fuel which Capricorn requires to function optimally is strategic and administrative. Devising a system of progressive steps to reach a desired goal or “bottom line.”  The solar light is reflected by a personality that has the need for choices and variation. The individual is fulfilled through variation and the absence of monotony.

The questions which come from this combination center around results; what’s visible as a demonstration of one’s mental abilities. The ultimate goal is to structure one’s life-force through the use of the intellect, adaptability and the capacity to build structures that last.

A dysfunctional expression of this combination is one who lacks discipline and focus.

There’s a distinct difference between having a variety of legitimate interests and only sticking with something until the euphoric newness wears off and then flitting to the next thing which captures your momentary attention.

In this case, “so many interests” may be used as a smokescreen for actually getting down to work; to facing the internal organization it takes to map out a successful game plan.

When operating effectively, there’s an establishment of a concentrative center  and stamina within the intellectual sphere. One is aware of their ability to select their thoughts, just like they do their meals or their clothes. There’s not only the realization that “garbage in equals garbage out”, but a self-appointed responsibility toward mental productivity, with the aspirations toward producing palpable success.

With this Sun/Moon blend, your theme song is : “Mental Stamina” by Jeru The Damaja featuring Afu Ra. You can listen here:

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Venus in Aries: “Shooting Your Shot”

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As we explore the territory that’s Venus in Aries, we do so with the understanding that Venus can’t be reduced or limited exclusively to “love” in one’s birth chart. There are far more associations which accompany the planet. However, for the purpose of this particular article, one’s idea of love, as viewed through the Venus in Aries lens, will be emphasized.

For those with Venus placed in Aries in the birth chart, love can be a battlefield, where you want to be number one with no question. Love can be a feeling of having to “fight ” for the object of your affection. Love is passionate involvement. Love is fiery. Love is independence. Love is victory. Love is risk.

Love is “shooting your shot”.

You have the potential to be the the “Love Warrior”.

Ideally, you have little problem being the initiator in forming relationships because (1) you don’t believe in wasting time and (2) there’s a dynamic thrust of identity projection at work. For you, personal relationships are a source of constant renewal, and the litmus test of the ones that serve you is how much motivation you feel to maintain them.

Independence is another key theme for you. Learning the lesson that: working in your own self-interest and selfishness are two different things will be of immense value to you in your journey.

When Archetypal Aries energy is present in intimate relationships, there’s a tremendous focus on impact: On the effect they’ve had on the other person. The continuous question is :”what’s new?”

A static existence without mutual independence is as debilitating as it gets.

The gist of an Aries infused relationship is: “take your resources and explore the world, and I’ll do the same.” Then, we’ll come back and share insights in a manner that benefits us personally and collectively.

In general, what you can provide and also what you expect from another, is a straightforward and shame-free manner of relating. Emotional directness doesn’t have to be a problem.Typically, this is a person who’s more concerned with affirmation of their being than apologizing for it.

Because of the focus on identity development, what the Ram seeks in a partner is someone who has found a source of  passionate involvement and stimulation for *themselves*.

Venus in Aries understands that to be deeply focused on what you love is to feel connected to the collective life force.

On a healthy level, the Venus in Aries individual desires to “push” their partner to fulfill potential. Always looking for ways to encourage stretching out of their comfort zone.

Dysfunctionally, they become obsessed with competition, feeling as if they have to continuously be “one up” as a source of psychological satisfaction.

Another appropriate question for Venus in Aries is: “How do I keep the fires burning?”

Aries energy is undoubtedly challenged with maintaining enthusiasm in relationships. With the natural ebb and flow of life, the initial “heat” which is automatically present in the beginning stages of a union must subside or take on a different form.

So, what will it be?

Do you choose air to fan the flames of your passions? More fire to set the world ablaze? Water to create steam? Or, earth to bring structure to your aspirations?

Great astrology raises effective questions.

Ultimately, no matter what you choose, know that you can, and are supposed to have an impact on your partner.

You have the capability to become a master motivator and a source of “juice”. Not only by your powerful words, but your life lived as a personal demonstration of how an identity and belief in a cause unfolds over time.

Venus in Aries also suggests a person that’s not adverse to risk in relationships.

Now, we return to the theme of  fearlessly going after the type of relationships which authentically suit your way of being: a.k.a.”shooting your shot”

Many years ago, I had the pleasure of coming across the work of Richard Idemon, an Astrologer who passed away in 1987. I picked up a copy of his book “Through The Looking GlassA Search For The Self In The Mirror of Relationships.”

One of the first ideas which captured my attention was that of our most fundamental need in human relationships being the re-validation of our basic myths. 

We all have a “story”, or mythology of sorts that we carry around with us. This basic psychic ground is a significant contributor to our sense of self.  As a result, the patterns which we consciously or unconsciously create are those which are going to keep co-signing on our basic myth.

Those relationships which we may feel less comfortable, or even highly unsettled are those which challenge our basic ground.

However, if growth and evolution in relationships is what we truly seek, we must ultimately head in this direction.

There is an excellent example given in this book regarding the physical territory of animals, which can directly be applied to the psychic territory of human beings.

All animals have a basic physical territory that they will not deviate from. Even when chased by a larger, more fierce animal, which is sure to eat them alive, they will not leave this territory. In fact, the animal in question will run until he/she can’t run anymore and double back into the jaws of the pursuing animal rather than leave it’s comfort zone.

If we apply this same logic and scenario to our human relationships, we now see that most of us would rather be “eaten alive” psychically largely due to our need for safety. Pushing ourselves into the unknown constitutes a psychological death. So, in our discomfort, we resist change with all our might.

What we may have failed to realize is that we won’t be able to evolve into any relationship which does not support our existing myths.

If our mythology casts us as unlovable, undeserving, fearful human beings, our relationship patterns can’t reflect anything else. The only people that we’re able to accept into our worlds at this time are going to be continual confirmers of that reality.

Even if genuine love hit us head on like a Mack truck, we would not realize it, nor could we appreciate it because of our insistence to clinging to these outmoded patterns.

It’s only when we decide to renovate and expand our personal mythology that we’re able to open our universe to a broader array of possibilities.

There are two examples given of very different relationship models. The first model is the static model and the second is the erotic model.

With the static model, the basic intent is to stay safe. To avoid risk.  As long as there are no major shake- ups, everything will be all right. “Mrs./Mr. Jones and I have been together for 30 years and everything is in it’s place just the way I like it.” However, the question remains: have you and Mrs./Mr. Jones really been together 30 years, or just one year 30 times over?

 The erotic model is far more riskybut the potential rewards are much greater.
 Having Venus in Aries natally, the erotic model of relationships is much better suited to your inclinations.
The question is: are you up for the challenge?
The prime goals of the erotic relationship model are: intimacy and growth, variety, openness to change, open communications, trust, varied and shifting roles, independence, and adult-adult relating. The author goes on to suggest that there are probably ten percent of people who have a sufficient amount of the erotic in their relationship to keep them on their toes; to have them aiming towards deep bonding and personal transformation. As you peruse this food for thought, it may help to take inventory of your personal relationships and ask yourself where you fall in the spectrum.
What are the primary goals of your relationships? What do the relationship patterns that you’ve attracted into your life say about your personal mythology and your basic groundDo you wish to embark on the journey of changing your myth? If you’re not entirely happy in where you stand in this area, please understand that you can  begin anew with a legend for yourself which reflects the highest possibilities for creating the types of relationships which will enhance the quality of your life and ultimately contribute to your personal satisfaction.

 

The shot is yours to take.

If you have Venus in Aries in your natal chart, your theme song is “Can’t Lose” by  Elzhi. You can listen right here:

*Reference: “Through The Looking Glass: A Search For The Self In The Mirror of Relationships.” by Richard Idemon

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Venus in Virgo : “Discriminating Love”

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“Everything keeps its best nature only by being put to its best use.” – Phillips Brooks

As we explore the method that’s Venus in Virgo, we do so with the understanding that Venus can’t be reduced or limited exclusively to “love” in one’s birth chart. There are far more associations which accompany the planet. However, for the purpose of this particular article, one’s idea of love, as viewed through the Venus in Virgo lens, will be emphasized.

For those with Venus placed in Virgo in the natal chart, Love is utilitarian. Love is continuous improvement. Love is pragmatic.  Love is service. Love is efficiency. Love is careful and continuous analysis. Love is health. Love is selective and discriminating. Love is paying attention.

With this arrangement, love needs are sought to be fulfilled in an environment which calls for the use of one’s faculties of discernment. While Virgo’s complementary sign, Pisces, is geared toward merging and unification, the Virgin’s direction consists of recognition and understanding of the difference between on thing and another.

For Venus in Virgo individuals “relationship competence” is of utmost importance, as a healthy developmental direction to which to proceed in puts emphasis on doing whatever is required to make relationships the best that they can be and operate in a healthy manner. These actions include picking the relationship apart, examining each facet thoroughly and determining its overall usefulness. As time goes on, the conclusions that one draws about what’s helpful and necessary for their partnerships will most likely change as a matter of principle and as an indicator of striving toward excellence.

One’s growth is naturally enveloped in the process of employing sound judgment in partnerships, and using these same unions as a vehicle for one’s own refinement and the betterment of the partner. Ideally, one’s relationships should work efficiently, like a well-oiled machine.

When placed in action, Venus in Virgo correlates well with the love language that Gary Chapman refers to as “Acts of Service” in his bestselling book “The 5 Love Languages”.

“Acts of service” consists of doing things that you know that your partner would want you to do or appreciate; seeking to please her or him by serving them. One would naturally know what their partner wanted after careful listening, analysis and observation which are all mercurial functions that are “at home” with the sign Virgo.

Also, as Chapman emphasizes, these acts of service would require thought, planning, time, effort and energy and if they’re done with a positive spirit, they would be expressions of love.

In regard to this placement “discrimination” is a key phrase. And, depending on our life circumstances, we may have only been exposed to the negative connotations associated with this term, which deal with the unjust or prejudicial treatment of different categories of people or things, especially on the grounds of race, age, gender or sexual orientation.

However, there’s another side to discrimination which indicates one’s ability to choose and make distinctions with care. Refinement of this faculty will most certainly be connected to one’s ability to maintain and execute relationships in a healthy and functional manner.

Potential challenge areas emerge for individuals with Venus in Virgo when their analysis goes too far, in that they attempt to answer every question: past, present and future – in order to account for every possible scenario without taking the actual plunge with their feelings in relationships. In essence, an self-inflicted paralysis and a robbing oneself of the right to possibly experience the love and relationship that you deserve.

Astrologer Jeffrey Wolf Green elaborates on this:

“Venus in Virgo people are plagued by a deep sense of inner doubt which is caused not only by the desire to deflate their egos, but also by the excessive inner analysis that creates a diversity of competing thoughts and perspectives. In turn, this can lead to an inner paralysis of their ability to take action as necessary. When these individuals consider some new project, or some new direction, or some new strategy leading to self-improvement, they will make these new ways seem so big and complicated that it reinforces their sense of personal inadequacy. Thus, they can defeat themselves before they even start. The way out of this self-defeating dynamic is to realize that the path to perfection, self-improvement, or the actualization of their abilities occurs one step at a time”

An important lesson for you to learn is: as efficient as you may be, there are no guarantees. You must take the initial steps involved in risk taking, and when you find yourself in the midst of a relationship, you must wholeheartedly INVOLVE yourself as opposed to consciously distancing yourself and playing the role of “remote tinkering technician”.

Also, it’s essential to understand that the same time and care that one puts in dissecting the relationship must be invested in considering the feelings of one’s partner. People aren’t “projects” and using your aforementioned powers of discrimination, to make the fine distinction between the two will benefit you greatly in the long run.

Understand that the pursuit of the ideal in relationships is both a natural and honorable inclination for you. To relinquish the belief that these aspirations must be accompanied by the excessive criticism of yourself and others, or that to be content and satisfied with what you have is accepting mediocrity is to invest in the breaking your own psychological and emotional chains.

References: “The 5 Love Languages: The Secret to Love That Lasts” by Gary Chapman

“Pluto Volume 2: The Soul’s Evolution Through Relationships” by Jeffrey Wolf Green

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Venus in Gemini: “The Love of Variety”

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As we explore the carousel that is Venus in Gemini, we do so with the understanding that Venus can’t be reduced or limited exclusively to “love” in one’s birth chart. There are far more associations which accompany the planet. However, for the purpose of this particular article, one’s idea of love, as viewed through the Venus in Gemini lens, will be emphasized.

For Venus in Gemini, love is intellectual exchange. Love is Great conversation. Love is Mind stimulation. Love is flexibility and the ability to roll with duality. Love is witty and flirtatious. Love is youthful. Love is a trip to Barnes & Noble. Love is coffee shops and crossword puzzles. Love is watching “Jeopardy” in bed.

When interpreting and analyzing this planetary placement, it can’t be repeated enough times that planets or signs don’t “make” you act in any particular fashion. They don’t “do” anything to us, per se. What’s really going on here is that you’re being provided some food for thought concerning how to utilize your natal placement to develop into a more complete and fulfilled person.

For those with a Venus in Gemini placement, change is to be welcomed as a friend and not a threat. This placement suggests that the most auspicious avenues for the love principle to be expressed are through variety, curiosity, mental stimulation and adaptability.

There’s an enjoyment that comes with a fresh outlook and an attraction towards the new and a abhorrence toward stagnancy in personal relationships. If one isn’t constantly being exposed to newfangled insights, their interest soon begins wither and there becomes an immediate question as to whether such as association is necessary any longer.

With Gemini being a Mutable Air sign, a quicksilver swiftness is suggested. When combined with the Venusian principles, there’s a need for the individual to circulate. When one feels entrapped either physically or through stultifying ideas, staleness and psychological stench can set in.

It’s important for those with this planetary placement to consider the “elastic” nature that they require in a partner. Ideally, you want a best friend with whom you can indulge in conversations about a variety of topics and bounce ideas off of. This may come in the form of ONE person, or many.

However, the most important virtue for you to employ is complete honesty about what this package looks like for you coupled with the ability to communicate that to another person.

Venus’ placement in Gemini suggests that intellectual invigoration is a must and the “quiet and mysterious” may not be the move for you. Being truthful about how you’re wired can save you a lot of confusion. Consider that finding solace in the fact that “everything isn’t for everybody” is a long-term victory for you.

You need to be appreciated for your wit and multifaceted nature and this is actually the key toward your sexual arousal. For you, eroticism begins in the mind. You would much rather debate the current political climate of our country than be exposed to constant grand and romantic overtures (unless the totality of the birth chart indicates otherwise). In fact, your approach to sex may be a more cerebral one where discussion and research of sex may be just as, if not more exciting than the act itself. You may also have a mental “merry go round”  that will allow you the flexibility of entertaining certain sexual acts that you wouldn’t necessarily act out under other circumstances.

While the physical appearance of another isn’t to be discounted by any means, the qualities of verbal dexterity, sharp intellect and unceasing inquiry seem to weigh more heavily in your longer term attraction to another person.

As a Venus in Gemini person, one of your most pressing developmental challenges is to use your intelligence and penchant for questioning as a means to discovering the new when it comes to things and people that are “established”. so to speak.

To paraphrase Marcel Proust :

“The real voyage of discovery consists not in seeking new landscapes, but in having new eyes.”

With this natal placement, your theme song is : “The Choice is Yours” by Black Sheep. In the truest sense, as a Venus in Gemini person, you can get with THIS or you can get with THAT. You can listen right here :

Venus in Scorpio: “Removing the Mask”

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As we explore the labyrinth that is Venus in Scorpio, we do so with the understanding that Venus can’t be reduced or limited exclusively to “love” in one’s birth chart. There are far more associations which accompany the planet. However, for the purpose of this particular article, one’s idea of love, as viewed through the Venus in Scorpio lens, will be emphasized.

For Venus in Scorpio, Love is depth. Love is emotional, psychic and physical nudity. Love is all of the cards on the table. Love is knowing each other as fully as possible. Love is secrets just between the two of you. Love is the exploration of taboos.

Love is about removing the mask.

For those who have Venus in Scorpio as a natal placement, you may feel misunderstood at large, because as a general population, we don’t value depth of interaction. Generally, we “eat up” most things sold to us without too much scrutiny.

Because the average individual isn’t into penetrating the veil of people and things (which is an attitude you despise), you tend to get an instant, and triggering label (which is trite to boot) slapped on you such as “crazy” or “psycho” without any investigation of  what your motivations or needs are in relationships.

For you, a large part of  interactions are centered around the wise and strategic expenditure of resources.  After all, your time and energy belong to you and aren’t to be played with or carelessly dispensed in several directions, thus weakening your passion and commitment. Your engagement with others is best expressed in FOCUS.

Often, a loathsome and unsettling feeling creeps in that keeps you on edge. It’s the one which says that there are very few people able to operate on the same level of intensity, and it could easily morph into self-induced damnation if one isn’t careful to check it at the door and find a suitable outlet for it to breathe.

There can be a reticence toward entering into serious partnership, not because one isn’t capable, but rather seeking surety that the other is absolutely committed to the raw intimacy that you crave.

For Venus in Scorpio folks, love is defined as the stripping down of defenses and pretenses. To accept what’s buried, no matter its condition, is something that you need in order to feel fulfilled. There needs to be the feeling that one is loving the REAL person, warts and all . Otherwise, it’s tepid and artificial.

The type of relationship dynamics which you seek are those which kill what’s detrimental to the flourishing of the union. This consists of the removal of all that isn’t infused with complete emotional honesty.

What needs to be remembered by Venus in Scorpio folks is: the type of bond that you seek isn’t a one way proposition. “All or nothing” doesn’t mean ALL from them and NOTHING from you. This isn’t a case where you ferret out your partner’s very thought and emotion like a detective, while simultaneously remaining a padlocked vault.

To use this placement effectively, you must summon the giving power of Venus, which means that you can choose to offer the vulnerability that you fiercely guard and protect as the ultimate gift to another human being. If it will help you, you can even make it a point to remind the other than most people don’t even get a look at that side of you.

For the fulfillment of your potential, this is a risk that must be taken at some juncture in your relationships. In accepting this instruction, please understand that it can’t and won’t be “nice and neat” like a 30 minute family sitcom where the loose ends are tied up before your dinner gets out of the oven. You may experience hurt feelings, betrayal, and emotions which surprise you and activate a heightened state of self-scrutiny.

However, if you’re willing to take such a leap, you give yourself the chance to offer and experience the transformative power of love. And, there’s nothing like betting on yourself.

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Venus in Aquarius: “No Ordinary Love”

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As we explore the territory that’s Venus in Aquarius, we do so with the understanding that Venus can’t be reduced or limited exclusively to “love” in one’s birth chart. There are far more associations which accompany the planet. However, for the purpose of this particular article, one’s idea of love, as viewed through the Venus in Aquarius lens, will be emphasized.

For those people with Venus placed natally in Aquarius, Love is experimental. Love is custom-made. Love is unconventional. Love is rebellious. Love is humanitarian. Love is questioning societal definitions of love. Love is futuristic. Love is progressive.

Love is a lifetime course in liberation.

You’re being urged to seek and find you’re unique brand of “normal” on the spectrum of love.

On a deep level, your relationships are designed to function as an agent for the examination of your social programming and conditioning.

It’s not your business to subscribe to the typical norms concerning love and sexuality and the freedom to make choices based on your inner convictions is something that’s a prerequisite to opening the doors of your heart.

After all, your brand of love needs to be designed according to your own standards, and how can something that feels forced or coerced into qualify as genuine love?

For you, love can even be a form of healthy rebellion provided that you’re being unscrupulously honest with yourself about your intentions. You could say that it’s encoded in your DNA to question what most people allow to pass through their mental sphere without even so much as the slightest pause.

The developmental potential of Venus in Aquarius is rooted in knowing that you can, and most likely will shock and or offend those who may fancy themselves as being more “traditional” , and that’s okay. However, living this life doesn’t come without cost.

You must be prepared for the feeling of alienation, which can regularly be present as a result of your ideology. However, on the other hand, blind compliance to the “model citizen” myth will more than likely leave you mentally and emotionally incarcerated.

Perhaps a more compassionate and fair position towards yourself would be to always remember your reasons for choosing the specific relationships that you have chosen.

If you’re actively doing this work, then love becomes progress.

In order to pique your interest in relating to another, uniqueness and a pronounced investment humanitarian themes and causes must be central.

If one isn’t “different” in a clear way, interested in activating change in the world , and concerned with issues outside their front door, they don’t stand a chance with you.

As a matter of fact, as Astrologer Jeffrey Wolf Green points out,  for Venus in Aquarius individuals, people who represent a radical departure from what *they* are often stimulate their interest:

“Such a person is intimately attracted to those that are radically different. The sense or experience of passion is linked with intimacy being ignited because of the fact of being different, which ignites the curiosity of Venus in Aquarius. Because Aquarius as an Archetype desires to know how whole systems and structures are put together, the curiosity function thus creates a Venus desire to know how the individual system of someone whom they are intimately attracted to is put together in such a way as to make them different. Inwardly resonating together in their individual differences born of rebellion thus stimulates this type of Venus in Aquarius passion for individual intimate relationships.”

It’s important to mention that a typical dilemma that may face you in relationships is encountering someone who wishes to have you “all to themselves”.

What you require, is a partner that understands and supports the fact that whatever you are in the context of the relationship, you will continue to be for the ENTIRE world, and that the characteristics that you’re SO loved and appreciated for, that comprise the core of your very being, aren’t just limited to your interactions with the person that you’ve chosen to relate to on a longer term basis.

In order for your relational needs to be met, you must have the feeling that your influence is being spread on a wider scale than the circumference of your bedroom. Also, it would help if your partner is an ally with you in your pursuits, as this can serve as a point of intimate connection.

For anyone with this placement, it’s entirely possible that one of the worst moves that you can make is unceasingly surveying what everyone else is doing in their relationships as a measurement of how yours should be conducted.

Experimentation is in your DNA and it must be strongly considered that it’s far better to go that route than to wholly digest the mandate of a real or imagined “authority” figure that tells you: “this is THE way.”

When it comes to you in relation to the Venus in Aquarius placement, there’s no shame in being viewed as “out of the ordinary.”

However, you must guard in taking an aloof  and reactionary stance against others in the form of a superiority complex that reduces others to “sheep” and “followers”.

The same freedoms that you value so highly in regard to your relationships need to be honored and extended to others.

If you will choose  to utilize your capacity for openness, tolerance and your humanitarian bent, this is entirely possible.

Reference:  Pluto (Volume 2) The Soul’s Evolution Through Relationships by Jeffrey Wolf Green

 

 

Venus in Capricorn: “Undefended Love”

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As we explore the structure that’s Venus in Capricorn, we do so with the understanding that Venus can’t be reduced or limited exclusively to “love” in one’s birth chart. There are far more associations which accompany the planet. However, for the purpose of this particular article, one’s idea of love, as viewed through the Venus in Capricorn lens, will be emphasized.

For individuals with the natal placement of Venus in Capricorn, Love is solid; you can take it to the bank. Love is enduring . Love is order. Love is structure. There are “rules” to love. Love is responsibility. Love is commitment. Love is a test. Love is integrity. Love is discipline. Love is work. Love is maturity, and like fine wine, gets better with time.

Love is the neutralizing of one’s defense mechanisms in order to open up the heart space.  In the words of Edwin Louis Cole:

“Boundaries are meant to protect life, not to limit pleasures.”

Two essential developmental questions for those with Venus placed in Capricorn would be: (1) What are my ultimate responsibilities in regard to my intimate relationships and (2) How can I become a model of integrity in my relationships allowing thought, word and deed to masterfully align?

It’s clear that this is a serious situation when the fulfilling of Venus’ relating needs are sought by way of the Saturn-ruled Capricorn environment. However, in this case, serious merely means that it requires immediate and skillful attention.

Contained in this placement, is an overarching strength in understanding the importance of delayed gratification and the awareness that REAL and ORGANIC relationship processes take TIME and WORK. If there’s anyone capable of sustaining long-term relationships, it is you.

In order to successfully navigate this placement, one must be willing to exert the necessary effort towards fostering which will likely be fewer relationships (as compared to many) of quality, substance and depth.

The focus here is not light and unfettered social butterfly-ism (see the elaboration of Robert Greene’s rule 16 in his “48 Laws of Power, which states that “too much circulation makes the price go down.”), but rather the establishment of solid foundations with others that build bridges of trust, honesty and mutual respect.

To facilitate this process, it’s key to understand the all important part that the lowering of one’s defenses and self-revelation plays in its overall effectiveness. For Venus in Capricorn, the thawing of a natural reserve can be difficult for a few reasons.

Concerning the more maladaptive expressions of Venus in Capricorn, Astrologer Jeffrey Wolf Green introduces a possible theory which outlines delayed emotional development and an intense blockage, constriction and compression of one’s feelings, as a result of induced guilt from the parental relationship:

“The Venus in Capricorn person has typically been born into family structures in which the parental reality has been defined by the consensus of the society in which they live. Consequently, the parental reality has typically had a heavy undertone in which the child has been expected to conform to the parental value system. When the child deviated from these expectations to conform, he or she was made to feel guilty in covert or overt ways through the use of judgment. A related dynamic within the general pattern of expectation to conform to parental values is one wherein the parents have projected on the child a rigid code of conduct that the child is expected to adhere to even when the parents themselves do not. The cliché “Do as I say, not as I do applies here.”

What can be gathered from this is that the Venus in Capricorn individual may have witnessed, and or been a part of an environment where vulnerability, open affection and free relating were not top priorities, but rather ” conditional love from a distance” and an authoritarian stance reigned supreme.

When we consider how this may filter into ones intimate relationships at worst, we arrive at an unremarkable need to “manage” one’s image and relationships borne out of an excessive fear of rejection or feeling inadequately “prepared” to participate in relationships. The compensation for this is to view relationships as a “game” where strategic moves, or having a “one up” carry more value than a mutual sharing of intimate feelings and thoughts.

Nevertheless, for those with Venus in Capricorn the universe’s call is for them to participate in the process of “undefended love”, a term coined by Marlena Lyons and Jett Psaris:

“Intimacy-direct, unmediated, heart-to-heart connection with ourselves and with others-can only occur when the heart is undefended. To cut through our personal differences, to reach the unveiled part of ourselves that is deep enough to express the most profound and untamed aspects of our being means learning how to love and be loved without defenses and without obstructions. It means cultivating the capacity to be emotionally present even when we feel exposed or vulnerable; learning to relinquish the many strategies we have employed to feel safe and in control; and finding the courage to love without guarantees or requirements.”

Like anything else, these things take time. So, it wouldn’t be fitting with the Saturn and Capricorn archetype, if one was expected to snap into this mode of being overnight. However, the greater lesson which can be learned through conscious and active participation with this placement is :

When you, the Venus in Capricorn individual, keep your heart open, you’re able to continue an unrestricted conversation with the source which moves you toward loving and constructive actions as well as healthy choices which will nourish you emotionally.

It’s important for you to keep your “feeling portals” open, as well as your mind, and to be consistently receptive to the myriad of life’s experiences.

Developing an inner dialogue with yourself allows you to stay in the “driver’s seat” and define your own experiences and attitudes when it comes to life, love, and relationships.

If you allow unpleasant experiences with one (or more) individual(s) to control the manner in which you live and love moving forward, you’ve essentially “given up the wheel” in favor of living in perpetual fear and doubt.

It’s vital that through your growth you increase your awareness.

And, it’s gravely important for you to avoid using temporarily unfavorable outcomes as a platform for beating up on yourself. A more constructive move would be to combine your newly discovered insights with your inner wisdom and allow the synthesis to reflect in your unique life perspectives moving forward.

Even through your pain and heartbreak you will discover a marvelous teacher. Pain shows us where our limits are, allowing us to say “ouch”.

If nothing led you to this point, how would you know what hurts? Better yet, how would you know when enough is enough?

As horrible as you may have felt (or may be feeling) during trying times, if you wish to fully participate in life and loving in the most authentic sense, sooner or later, you must risk the same painful emotions resurfacing in your life.

You could possibly spend the rest of your days attempting to employ more sophisticated tactics of pain avoidance, projection, self-protection, and the like. However, by all indicators, this is not what you truly desire to do.

With Venus in Capricorn, one of the best case scenarios is that you’ll arrive in a place which demonstrates that neither genuine honesty and vulnerability or healthy human boundaries restrict you from experiencing the love and relationships you crave and deserve.

It is through these boundaries that you maintain and preserve your self-love and respect while simultaneously allowing yourself to reach out and offer the key to your heart, as a sacred gift, to another.

If you have Venus in Capricorn in your birth Chart, your theme song is “Garden (Say it Like Dat)” by SZA. You can listen right here:

References: “Undefended Love” by Jett Psaris and Marlena Lyons. “The 48 Laws of Power” by Robert Greene. “Pluto Volume 2: The Soul’s Evolution Through Relationships” by Jeffrey Wolf Green

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Venus in Pisces : “Blurred Boundaries”

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As we explore the mystification that is Venus in Pisces, we do so with the understanding that Venus can’t be reduced or limited exclusively to “love” in one’s birth chart. There are far more associations which accompany the planet. However, for the purpose of this particular article, one’s idea of love, as viewed through the Venus in Pisces lens, will be emphasized.

For Venus in Pisces: love is boundless. Love is romantic. Love is imagination. Love is fantasy. Love is returning to the spiritual source. Love is not easily or clearly defined. Love is universal. Love is unconditional. Love is suffering. Love is sacrifice. Love is transcendence. Love is nirvana. Love is a sea of oceanic tranquility.

If you have this placement in your birth chart, the ways in which your societal existence has shaped your definition of what it means to love and be loved bears serious consideration. The question becomes:

“Who told me how I was supposed to feel when I was “in love”?

Venus in Pisces at its best suggests that love can be extended in a uniquely intimate way whose ingredients are unconditional acceptance, empathetic connection and captivating union. 

At it’s worst, self-deception via creating one’s version of reality despite concrete information (evidence) to the contrary and deletion of important details from one’s experience to avoid pain or discomfort can reign front and center.

This placement suggests that one can be fixated on ideals, and this lens contains its admixture of beauty and challenges.  Where Venus in Pisces is concerned, the Victim/Savior game can firmly plant its flag for as long as the hypnotic state of “love over everything” remains etched in one’s psyche.

An inclination to respond to the suffering of others without discrimination can easily lead to one’s own demise as one can only see the potential in another, rather than the infectious energy that’s contained in their state of peril. So while one thinks they’re “saving” someone else, they become so enveloped by the situation that their heart, and sometimes pocketbook is in dire straits when the smoke clears.

There’s a need to merge with a partner to feel a sense of ever-growing closeness. However, differences between individuals don’t have to be viewed as potential threats which will erode the cohesiveness of a relationship.

One of the key facets of the developmental potential of Venus in Pisces is gaining the ability to see oneself and ones partners (intimate or business) clearly.  Issues surface when there’s an insistence on thinking that always seeing someone at their best is a higher form of love than acceptance of human frailty and imperfection.

In addition, One of the challenges of the Venus in Pisces individual can not only be to assuage the disappointment when a loved one reveals themselves as a mere mortal, but to also confront a lack of compassion toward oneself , because of the sheer intensity of  effort that one has displayed in trying to live up to an unrealistic ideal of being the perfect partner, or “on” under all circumstances.

We now return to the question: “Who told me how I was supposed to feel when I was “in love”?

With Venus in Pisces, one can be particularly sensitive and impressionable toward subliminal messages of what love is supposed to be about. Music, movies, advertisements and a host of other outlets can have significant influence.

In its constructive sense, this provides a host of imaginative and creative outlets to build upon an ever expanding mosaic of human feeling. In it’s maladaptive state, these messages are swallowed up with no filter whatsoever and the conclusion is reached that if you don’t have butterflies in your stomach, can’t eat and sleep without another person and aren’t thinking about them 24 hours a day and 7 days a week, it must not be love.

Concerning the concept and feeling of interconnectedness that’s suggested by Venus in  Pisces, there can be the misconception that everyone shares the same ideals where love and relationships are concerned.

One of the larger lessons here is: establishing reasonable limits and boundaries between partners in no way takes away from the “magic” of a relationship. When it comes to the significant dimensions of relationships, solid definitions  can actually ENHANCE the enchanting dynamic that you’re seeking to keep alive.

For those with Venus placed in Pisces, your theme song is “Chaos” by Reflection Eternal (Talib Kweli & Hi-Tek) featuring Bahamadia. Please enjoy: