As we explore the labyrinth that is Venus in Scorpio, we do so with the understanding that Venus can’t be reduced or limited exclusively to “love” in one’s birth chart. There are far more associations which accompany the planet. However, for the purpose of this particular article, one’s idea of love, as viewed through the Venus in Scorpio lens, will be emphasized.
For Venus in Scorpio, Love is depth. Love is emotional, psychic and physical nudity. Love is all of the cards on the table. Love is knowing each other as fully as possible. Love is secrets just between the two of you. Love is the exploration of taboos.
Love is about removing the mask.
For those who have Venus in Scorpio as a natal placement, you may feel misunderstood at large, because as a general population, we don’t value depth of interaction. Generally, we “eat up” most things sold to us without too much scrutiny.
Because the average individual isn’t into penetrating the veil of people and things (which is an attitude you despise), you tend to get an instant, and triggering label (which is trite to boot) slapped on you such as “crazy” or “psycho” without any investigation of what your motivations or needs are in relationships.
For you, a large part of interactions are centered around the wise and strategic expenditure of resources. After all, your time and energy belong to you and aren’t to be played with or carelessly dispensed in several directions, thus weakening your passion and commitment. Your engagement with others is best expressed in FOCUS.
Often, a loathsome and unsettling feeling creeps in that keeps you on edge. It’s the one which says that there are very few people able to operate on the same level of intensity, and it could easily morph into self-induced damnation if one isn’t careful to check it at the door and find a suitable outlet for it to breathe.
There can be a reticence toward entering into serious partnership, not because one isn’t capable, but rather seeking surety that the other is absolutely committed to the raw intimacy that you crave.
For Venus in Scorpio folks, love is defined as the stripping down of defenses and pretenses. To accept what’s buried, no matter its condition, is something that you need in order to feel fulfilled. There needs to be the feeling that one is loving the REAL person, warts and all . Otherwise, it’s tepid and artificial.
The type of relationship dynamics which you seek are those which kill what’s detrimental to the flourishing of the union. This consists of the removal of all that isn’t infused with complete emotional honesty.
What needs to be remembered by Venus in Scorpio folks is: the type of bond that you seek isn’t a one way proposition. “All or nothing” doesn’t mean ALL from them and NOTHING from you. This isn’t a case where you ferret out your partner’s very thought and emotion like a detective, while simultaneously remaining a padlocked vault.
To use this placement effectively, you must summon the giving power of Venus, which means that you can choose to offer the vulnerability that you fiercely guard and protect as the ultimate gift to another human being. If it will help you, you can even make it a point to remind the other than most people don’t even get a look at that side of you.
For the fulfillment of your potential, this is a risk that must be taken at some juncture in your relationships. In accepting this instruction, please understand that it can’t and won’t be “nice and neat” like a 30 minute family sitcom where the loose ends are tied up before your dinner gets out of the oven. You may experience hurt feelings, betrayal, and emotions which surprise you and activate a heightened state of self-scrutiny.
However, if you’re willing to take such a leap, you give yourself the chance to offer and experience the transformative power of love. And, there’s nothing like betting on yourself.