With this Venus/Mars combination in mind, we immediately delve into the world of feelings, emotions, relational security and ideals.
The application of will is directed toward harmonizing and developing rapport. With a Venus sign ruled by the Moon and a Mars sign ruled by Venus, there’s an appreciation of sentimentality, affection, and the smaller, yet more intimate gestures which bring us closer to another human being. The ability to Intuit and just “remember” the preferences and needs of the “other” is highly pronounced.
For an individual with this cosmic makeup, emotional safety is about establishing avenues of trust and creating a safe haven where one can bear intimate feelings without being judged, ridiculed, threatened or manipulated. To engage in a mutual effort (teamwork) to help something grow, whether it’s a relationship or business partnership is a major part of this person’s life’s work.
There is a natural dynamic tension with this blend which can be illustrated by a person constantly having to adjust their approach to people because they struggle, due to sensitivity, with how to deliver feedback which may “upset the apple cart”. While they would like things to remain safe, there is a heavy burden of guilt should they become dishonest.
An important lesson is that one can’t be fearful of their own transparency as it undermines the true kindness which needs to be the foundation of all of their important relationships.
You can’t just brush your instincts to the side while grappling to find a more “cerebral” explanation.
A fair question may be:
What happens when you have to express certain thoughts and feelings to your partner that may upset the equilibrium in the relationship?
Sexually, there’s an expectation of coziness and private lust. What excites you is to “flip through” a portfolio containing a juicy gamut of feelings in service of a complete experience. There’s an emphasis on shared enjoyment and “returning the favor” in the name of true partnership. The erotic produces an emotional charge.
For you to be fulfilled, your emotions must link up with your ideals.