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For Venus in Cancer natives, love is warmth and security. Literally, “Love is a House”, Love is emotional nurturing and support. Love is acceptance. Love is a family by blood or worldview. Love is a cozy “nest”away from the madness of the world. Love is protection. Love is active listening. Love is sensitivity. Love is making room for vulnerability.
In the world of Cancerian Venusians, one of their deepest yearnings is to feel as if someone expended the time, care and energy to actually understand them. true connection is something that they value immensely and don’t take lightly.
As a matter of fact, when we speak of ANYTHING cancerian, the themes of emotional security automatically arise. for them, security means something that’s not in doubt. something that they can count on, something they can trust & something that leaves them no fear of being exploited or manipulated.
To nurture is to help things and people grow. the individual with this placement wants nothing more than relationships based on a commitment to MUTUAL nurturing. You’ll most likely see the “claws” of the crab only if they feel the emotional energy they lay out isn’t being reciprocated.
What the Venus in Cancer person values is something or someone that provides a sense of belonging. In relationships, someone they know that’s committed to creating and maintaining a safe space where they can listen and be listened TO and they can be themselves without judgment or ridicule.
There’s a wispy, whiny “crybaby” stereotype of this placement (as well as other Cancer ones) that needs to be scrutinized more closely or put away. For the tenacity of the crab has few equals. A combination of gut -level shrewdness & acute perception keeps them on point.
A major developmental lesson for those with Venus in Cancer is that of self-nurturing. It’s key that you develop a private space inside yourself that you can return to as a “sanctuary” of sorts. Although connection to others is important, to be a good partner to oneself is a non-negotiable.
In several respects, those with Venus in Cancer are adept at fostering the elements of what would be deemed the “complete” relationship. Offering the warm, cozy nest of safety and unconditional love. The recognition of the full gamut of emotions and feelings. The inclination to intuit a partner’s spoken and unspoken needs. Attention paid to “the little things”. Promoter of the private, intimate “just between me and you.” bonds.
While this sounds fantastic, another EQUALLY IMPORTANT developmental lesson for those with Venus in Cancer involves “helping” and “caring as a form of creating obligations in other people. If not careful, this can manifest as subtle, indirect manipulation. So, you want to make sure that EVERYTHING you do derives from the emotional truth.
Further instruction includes learning how to receive the same affection you provide and avoiding the unconscious creation of one sided relationships. Furthermore, understanding the warning signals and dangers of holding something or someone TOO tightly and confusing that behavior with love.
For the Venus in Cancer person, it’s important to claim your gifts of sensitivity, the ability to read emotional undercurrents, the ability to anticipate the needs of others, intuition and “mirroring”. It’s just as significant that you avoid projecting these on those close to you.
Understand that you’ll need to resist “clapping back” at others that say you have “too much” of the aforementioned qualities. Even if you’re unable to articulate your feelings in the moment, know that your internal radar has chosen to focus on a person or a situation that requires your attention. As a result of this, you must follow the rabbit hole until you get the answers that you require. For you, in most cases, when something doesn’t feel right, it usually isn’t.
At it’s best, Venus in Cancer can operate as a demonstration of the ideal feminine (irrespective of gender). and one who is capable of harnessing emotional support in quantity and quality with a relational style that’s sincere, soulful and heartfelt.