Relationship Astrology: Neptune-Ascendant Contacts in Synastry : The “Dream Merchant”

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When we think about Neptunian energy, something that is not immediately graspable comes to mind. It’s elusive, nebulous and boundless. Equally, it’s ethereal and enchanting.

Upon meeting another individual, the Ascendant, a.k.a., the rising sign is usually what we’ll encounter as being their “representative”. While the Ascendant isn’t our inner essence, it makes a statement about our orientation to the world and symbolizes the “vehicle” most aptly equipped to help us navigate our life terrain.

What do we make of it when one person’s Neptune contacts another’s Ascendant (or vice versa) via synastry?

The answers to this question can range from awe inspiring and soul stirring to unbelievably delusional and deceptive. With Neptune in the picture, idealism is at the forefront of the entire interaction.

Automatically, there’s an inclination to view each other in a state of how we would WANT things to be.

While not inherently harmful, what’s important is to make the distinction of what realities are present in the relationship without using that idealism to obscure things that we might find unpleasant or difficult to deal with. The trouble begins when we invent an alternative universe because we find that the one staring us in the face to be less than Nina Mosley and Darius Lovehall’s chance meeting at “The Sanctuary”.

There’s a fascination contained in these contacts, which in true Neptunian fashion, goes above and beyond description and catapults us into the world of inspirational visions. Chances are, if you have this aspect with another person, there is a “pull” of allure that you feel that you must explore.

There’s no doubt that the Neptune-Ascendant link can denote a spiritual connection and unconditional acceptance of the other person.

There can be a feeling of “purified” admiration for each other’s self-presentation. If both people are mature and authentic in what they show the world, this aspect makes for an uplifting one where they can be of assistance to one another, infusing creativity into one another’s aspirations.

On the flip side, if we allow our imagination to run buck wild with no concrete grounding, we’ll be somewhere screaming that this person “wasn’t what i thought they were” or falling victim to the wiles of “Mr. Dream Merchant” who warns us:

“I sell dreams/sell schemes, sell you anything for a bite of that cream/but once you get what you get it’s not as good as it seems- so just open up your eyes……”

Neptune-Ascendant contacts teach us to remain awake to the possibilities, while not allowing ourselves to be lulled to sleep into a ultra quixotic dream.

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Moon-Ascendant Contacts in Synastry: “Emotional Understanding”

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When it comes to intimate relationships, emotional understanding is undoubtedly one of the most vital pieces to the puzzle of success.

Between two individuals, when major contacts are present between the Moon and Ascendant, the potential for such a dynamic is just waiting to be realized. In my opinion, it matters less whose Moon or Ascendant is doing the contacting and more, that an open, heartfelt display of feelings be honored between the two parties.

The potential attraction exists because one feels secure in the presence of the other based on their overall identity projection. It’s like both people have sniffed out an invisible “shame-free” zone in which they can operate in. A haven where judgement is pushed to the side in favor of unconditional support.

Moon-Ascendant contacts suggest that the emotional states of both parties will be easily revealed to the other, so there’s really no use in trying to hide that bad day at the office because you didn’t receive the promotion. Yeah…. you’re gonna talk about it!!

This can be beautiful, or quite troubling at times because even though both partners are on the “same page”, one may be reading far ahead of the other.  Also, with so much free flowing emotion, it’s important to remember that advantages of gaining some distance so each person owns their “stuff” and resists projecting it on to the other.

Overall, the opportunities which exist within these contacts are a sense of safety; of never feeling “under siege”. This sets up the possibility of a fearless display of love. The type of relationship where anything can be shared with either party and the responsibility that comes with having the heart of the other in the palm of one’s hand is taken with the utmost seriousness and handled with absolute care.

Gemini Sun, Capricorn Moon

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The core of your being is illuminated by maintaining a youthful, breezy adaptability, as there’s an uncanny  ability to adjust to life’s situations irrespective of what’s thrown at you. However, many times this is perceived as a lack of seriousness about life and that’s far from the case.

Inside, you struggle from bouts of inadequacy because you always think that you should be “better” in relation to anything you touch or any interaction you have. There’s a tight grip on your heart and the playfulness serves as a way to ease that weight.

Taking responsibility for your emotional life is one of your greatest lessons to learn because at your highest potential you’re designed to live a life of integrity where the public and private you is aligned. You don’t have to fake it. The reality of your feelings is one of your greatest allies. So, curbing the tendency to bury significant emotions under a veneer of jokes only enables you to further evade the root of  issues that need to be addressed.

Once that accountability is established, you’ll feel more grounded and confident. In addition, you’re able to more effectively deal with the feelings of others with an air of detachment which doesn’t say ” I don’t care”, but rather finds an objective space which will prevent you from being swayed into unhealthy decision-making.

With your Sun/Moon blend, the “youth” and the adult can work in unison. Understand that all work and no play indeed makes you dull, but also there are definitely matters in life which require the sober, ponderous and strategic approach that is naturally yours.

Balancing your sociability and solitude is also a key theme when it comes to your cosmic signature. You need time to process things and this needs to be accepted.  You will need to find the sweet spot between focus and variety. You can’t be everywhere at once and this can scatter your energies as well as your brain.

If you’re able to successfully navigate this terrain, you will undoubtedly feel as if your ideas and your life in general has gained an “elastic pragmatism” where you can entertain possibilities, but have the common sense to know which ones are worth entertaining and which ones are merely flights of fancy.

At best, you possess a solid, hard-won emotional savvy along with a mental agility that can strip people and situations down to the bare bones. At worst you refuse to allow yourself the space needed to address your inner needs and overcompensate by convincing yourself and others that your life is nothing but fun and games.

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Sagittarius Sun, Leo Moon : “Glorious”

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A radiant, life-affirming enthusiasm permeates this combination, “firing up” the self-presentation.

Embracing your need for recognition, validation and attracting the attention of others leads the way to having your philosophies and opinions respected. An intellectually sophisticated approach to demanding “center stage” is necessary.

Your life energy is ignited through releasing exploratory thought arrows within the vastness of the universe. You’re fueled by the joys of guiding and instructing, using a panoramic, all inclusive approach to inquiries of the mind.

This is reflected in a personality which possesses a need to display their authority with regal luster. It’s imperative that you beam brightly, if only in your chosen corner of the world. The question which this sun-moon combination produces is:

How will you use your light?

Will you blaze a path of understanding for others which broadens horizons and opens up new vistas of awareness?

Or, will you fancy yourself a “celebrity preacher”, developing a God complex ?

Understand that a grandiose sense of self-importance is distinctly different than honest appreciation of one’s divinity.

Infectious enthusiasm is one of your reigning strengths; an ace in the hole.

It’s vital for you to realize that the fervor you express when relaying your convictions has the power to move mountains. It also has the capacity to lead people into the metaphoric “jaws of doom”.

If you want the world to listen to what you have to say, proudly personifying the noble and lofty ideals you espouse is one of the best things that you can do.

If you have a Sagittarius Sun and Leo moon, your theme song is :” Glorious” by Skyzoo & Pete Rock. You can listen here:

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Sagittarius Sun, Sagittarius Moon:”Oh My God”

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In a birth chart, when the Sun and Moon are placed in Sagittarius the core life energy which fuels the individual and the essential needs of the personality are inseparable.

The Sun’s placement in Sagittarius suggests that the person is stimulated by the freedom to influence and shape thought via free exchange of ideas, philosophies and opinions. There’s an inclination to view the world holistically, wanting to “take in” as much as possible through a broad, panoramic view.

The Sagittarius Moon uses the light and fuel of the Sun to reflect a personality who needs to have their perspectives taken seriously; to have their views respected.  

This lunar placement suggests an emotional need to stretch barriers and boundaries and to shoot their arrows of thought into the realm of the unknown fused with the optimism that there will be new and progressive discoveries made. 

Expansion in ALL forms serves as nourishment for lunar Sagittarians. A narrow or restrictive existence is an abomination to their principles.

Speaking of principles, it would help those with this Sun-Moon blend to understand this: the same freedom and justice which they so passionately fight for must be given to others who are on a quest for establishing THEIR own set of principles and philosophy of life.

When operating dysfunctionally, an individual with this Sun-Moon blend is capable of exhibiting the most hypocritical, inflated and self-righteous behavior. 

The vast, broad overview somehow shrinks into a dogmatic and subjective bastion of “exclusive” belief. It’s as if arriving at “truth” has only ONE formula and they’re the ONLY one who is in possession of the secret concoction.

This pride, manifesting at times as a rather exalted view of oneself (perhaps as the only one who can reveal the “truth”) , is part of the dualistic nature of Sagittarius, the symbol for which is the centaur- half horse and half human. Sagittarius has the lifelong task of integrating their more idealistic nature with their more unrefined, impulsive, egocentric tendencies.”

“They often think too highly of themselves and want to project an admirable image to others.

They like to feel idealistic and upstanding, but if they look at themselves honestly, they often have to admit that they are not as impeccably honorable as they like to think; for they can rationalize their behavior as well as anyone when it is convenient or advantageous to do so.”

A constructive use of this Sun-Moon blend is to teach and assist others in casting just as wide of a net for their OWN lives as they do for themselves.

To accept others with the open arms that they expect the wide world to embrace them with. To spread infectious enthusiasm in allowing others to find their personal truths rather than forcibly creating a ready made version for them. To realize that the Sagittarian higher mind not only has it’s roots in intellectual exploration, but also in human tolerance.

Your theme song is :”Oh My  God!” by A Tribe Called Quest

You can listen here:

Reference: Person-to-Person Astrology: Energy Factors in Love, Sex & Compatibility by Stephen Arroyo (Frog, Ltd. Books)

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Pisces Sun, Cancer Moon : “Flow”

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For this combination, the importance of nourishment derived from interior energies is as vital as the air we breathe.

After all, that’s the fuel you depend on to sustain yourself through everyday interactions with the world at large. Regular intervals of solitude are more a necessity than an indulgence, as they help you recharge your battery and clarify emotions. Behind closed doors, in the privacy of your heart is where you may experience a vivid spectrum of feelings from joy and elation to anger and grief. You regard your fortress of solitude as your “safe space”.

The potential exists to discover your true spiritual aspirations via the nurturing of your center. Authentic security is the “launching pad” which breathes life into a colorful imagination and an identity which is able to convey the language of idealism.

Your adaptability can serve you as a tremendous asset, as it’s possible to  adjust to the shape of the myriad of “containers” that your presented within your life sphere.

Gifted with an internal GPS (Global Perception System), you’re adept at translating mere words into the realm of emotional linguistics. A finely crafted antennae for soaking up mood and atmosphere is your birthright.

On a regular basis, You will undoubtedly be challenged to pull yourself out of your subjective “shell” and realize that just because you feel a certain way about a particular person, issue or situation doesn’t mean the entire world shares your sentiments. There’s something to be said for incorporating a measure of  detachment in your personal affairs.

One of your most prominent life lessons is that everything doesn’t require, or even deserve the same level of emotional involvement.  Healthy integration surfaces when you’re able to discern the flow of input and output needed and refine it to suit your interests.

You possess the capability of catapulting unconditional love  and acceptance to new heights, welcoming those who are deserving into your “family” or inner circle with open arms once they’ve passed your litmus test.

In your world, it’s only right that the vulnerability displayed on your part be accepted by others as a rich and rewarding gift. Instinctively, you hope that the recipient(s) will meet your desires with equal intensity. If not, the results won’t be so pretty.

At worst, you can resign yourself to the status of a brooding victim, or the “walking wounded”. You can become so engulfed in both legitimate past hurts and imagined slights that you delude yourself.

A futile search is launched for someone or something outside the self to rectify your internal situation. You start looking for the next big thing to latch on to as a means of escape from the realities you’ve yet to confront.

Consider finding a functional and constructive channel to provide an outlet for your deep feelings and artistic inclinations. Often, it can exist in the form of service which heals. Helping others to navigate the areas which activate their fears and insecurities. When it comes to this terrain you’re far from a novice.

Your theme music is “Flow” by Sade. You can listen here:

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Leo Sun, Taurus Moon: “Stay Shinin'”

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Earth and radiance.

Your “shine” is created through the recognition and harnessing of your inner value. Until you’re able to explore in all of its facets, what you’re worth, your personal projection ceases to generate the heat and light you aspire to.

Recognition, admiration and attention as a regal being ignites your spirit. Ideally this status is for the purposes of illuminating the potential in others as well as yourself, and allowing your expression to be a gift which emits rays of creativity than one that blinds with an inflated ego.

Building yourself up is essential, but the question remains as to how you’ll share what you’ve gathered with the larger collective.  Delving deeper into your feelings and curbing the impulse to accept them at face value is something which can benefit you.

The ability to burn away any material which causes inertia, rigidity or an one dimensional outlook is your friend. Understand that you can simultaneously maintain fixity of purpose and accept your ever changing, unfolding nature of becoming.

Your theme song is “Stay Shinin’ by Dynasty featuring Talib Kweli

You can listen right here:

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