Relationship Astrology: Neptune-Ascendant Contacts in Synastry : The “Dream Merchant”

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When we think about Neptunian energy, something that is not immediately graspable comes to mind. It’s elusive, nebulous and boundless. Equally, it’s ethereal and enchanting.

Upon meeting another individual, the Ascendant, a.k.a., the rising sign is usually what we’ll encounter as being their “representative”. While the Ascendant isn’t our inner essence, it makes a statement about our orientation to the world and symbolizes the “vehicle” most aptly equipped to help us navigate our life terrain.

What do we make of it when one person’s Neptune contacts another’s Ascendant (or vice versa) via synastry?

The answers to this question can range from awe inspiring and soul stirring to unbelievably delusional and deceptive. With Neptune in the picture, idealism is at the forefront of the entire interaction.

Automatically, there’s an inclination to view each other in a state of how we would WANT things to be.

While not inherently harmful, what’s important is to make the distinction of what realities are present in the relationship without using that idealism to obscure things that we might find unpleasant or difficult to deal with. The trouble begins when we invent an alternative universe because we find that the one staring us in the face to be less than Nina Mosley and Darius Lovehall’s chance meeting at “The Sanctuary”.

There’s a fascination contained in these contacts, which in true Neptunian fashion, goes above and beyond description and catapults us into the world of inspirational visions. Chances are, if you have this aspect with another person, there is a “pull” of allure that you feel that you must explore.

There’s no doubt that the Neptune-Ascendant link can denote a spiritual connection and unconditional acceptance of the other person.

There can be a feeling of “purified” admiration for each other’s self-presentation. If both people are mature and authentic in what they show the world, this aspect makes for an uplifting one where they can be of assistance to one another, infusing creativity into one another’s aspirations.

On the flip side, if we allow our imagination to run buck wild with no concrete grounding, we’ll be somewhere screaming that this person “wasn’t what i thought they were” or falling victim to the wiles of “Mr. Dream Merchant” who warns us:

“I sell dreams/sell schemes, sell you anything for a bite of that cream/but once you get what you get it’s not as good as it seems- so just open up your eyes……”

Neptune-Ascendant contacts teach us to remain awake to the possibilities, while not allowing ourselves to be lulled to sleep into a ultra quixotic dream.

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Moon-Ascendant Contacts in Synastry: “Emotional Understanding”

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When it comes to intimate relationships, emotional understanding is undoubtedly one of the most vital pieces to the puzzle of success.

Between two individuals, when major contacts are present between the Moon and Ascendant, the potential for such a dynamic is just waiting to be realized. In my opinion, it matters less whose Moon or Ascendant is doing the contacting and more, that an open, heartfelt display of feelings be honored between the two parties.

The potential attraction exists because one feels secure in the presence of the other based on their overall identity projection. It’s like both people have sniffed out an invisible “shame-free” zone in which they can operate in. A haven where judgement is pushed to the side in favor of unconditional support.

Moon-Ascendant contacts suggest that the emotional states of both parties will be easily revealed to the other, so there’s really no use in trying to hide that bad day at the office because you didn’t receive the promotion. Yeah…. you’re gonna talk about it!!

This can be beautiful, or quite troubling at times because even though both partners are on the “same page”, one may be reading far ahead of the other.  Also, with so much free flowing emotion, it’s important to remember that advantages of gaining some distance so each person owns their “stuff” and resists projecting it on to the other.

Overall, the opportunities which exist within these contacts are a sense of safety; of never feeling “under siege”. This sets up the possibility of a fearless display of love. The type of relationship where anything can be shared with either party and the responsibility that comes with having the heart of the other in the palm of one’s hand is taken with the utmost seriousness and handled with absolute care.

Gemini Sun, Capricorn Moon

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The core of your being is illuminated by maintaining a youthful, breezy adaptability, as there’s an uncanny  ability to adjust to life’s situations irrespective of what’s thrown at you. However, many times this is perceived as a lack of seriousness about life and that’s far from the case.

Inside, you struggle from bouts of inadequacy because you always think that you should be “better” in relation to anything you touch or any interaction you have. There’s a tight grip on your heart and the playfulness serves as a way to ease that weight.

Taking responsibility for your emotional life is one of your greatest lessons to learn because at your highest potential you’re designed to live a life of integrity where the public and private you is aligned. You don’t have to fake it. The reality of your feelings is one of your greatest allies. So, curbing the tendency to bury significant emotions under a veneer of jokes only enables you to further evade the root of  issues that need to be addressed.

Once that accountability is established, you’ll feel more grounded and confident. In addition, you’re able to more effectively deal with the feelings of others with an air of detachment which doesn’t say ” I don’t care”, but rather finds an objective space which will prevent you from being swayed into unhealthy decision-making.

With your Sun/Moon blend, the “youth” and the adult can work in unison. Understand that all work and no play indeed makes you dull, but also there are definitely matters in life which require the sober, ponderous and strategic approach that is naturally yours.

Balancing your sociability and solitude is also a key theme when it comes to your cosmic signature. You need time to process things and this needs to be accepted.  You will need to find the sweet spot between focus and variety. You can’t be everywhere at once and this can scatter your energies as well as your brain.

If you’re able to successfully navigate this terrain, you will undoubtedly feel as if your ideas and your life in general has gained an “elastic pragmatism” where you can entertain possibilities, but have the common sense to know which ones are worth entertaining and which ones are merely flights of fancy.

At best, you possess a solid, hard-won emotional savvy along with a mental agility that can strip people and situations down to the bare bones. At worst you refuse to allow yourself the space needed to address your inner needs and overcompensate by convincing yourself and others that your life is nothing but fun and games.

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Mars in Sagittarius

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Energy application through opinion.

There’s a missionary quality that’s illustrated by this placement.  Having the “right” answer is important, but there can also be a blind centering of oneself as the one and only truth bearer. It’s vital for one’s perspective to align with a personal belief system when Mars is placed in Sagittarius. There’s a desire present to elevate discourse, provoke thought and broaden the scope of one’s vision as well as the perspectives of others.

Sexual style is expressed in an adventurous, open-minded and uninhibited fashion, but can be prone to overindulgence when maladaptive. When ethics are taken into consideration, going “above and beyond” and exploring new heights and vistas with a willing partner is the more healthy manifestation.

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Cancer Sun, Scorpio Moon

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Emotional honesty is your pathway to internal security.

You possess massive potential to provide an unassailable haven for others to heal. It’s one of your callings to be the purveyor of the message that it may take “death” to sustain life.

There’s a tremendous gift of psychological insight contained within this solar/lunar blend. Also, an astounding responsibility in handling human emotional resources .

For those of us who view the Cancerian vibe as strictly “meek and mild”, we should think again.

This crab has a stinger.

It may be skillfully concealed, but when activated,  you will know doubt feel the potency of its existence. The “water” of which this combination is comprised of isn’t tepid from the tap, but rather supercharged H2O infused with minerals of intensity and passion.

Your combination suggests that an intimate connection to people and situations is a priority, even if the feeling isn’t reminiscent of the “clean cut” sound of a barber shop quartet. For you, the sincere acknowledgement and authentic expression of emotion looms large.

Your life force is fueled through creating a sense of safety in the world. Having confidence in your chosen method of self-protection which you use to intuitively navigate the undercurrents of human feeling. This is reflected in a personality that needs to eliminate any internal patterns of toxicity which may put you “under siege”, or activate fears of having your vulnerability exploited.

You must control through knowing; through keen, instinctual awareness of the human condition. Probably better than anyone, you realize that although it’s bright and sunny, life can also be murky, cloudy- and as dark as midnight.

Release is a central theme in your life. Burning within is the hunger for an avenue to channel the conundrum of volcanic emotional energy.

Serving others as a trusted agent in their process of transformation certainly qualifies as a productive use of your powers.

Dysfunctionally, you indiscriminately strip others “butt naked” and flip open the gates of exposure and call it “truth”, ignoring the enormous subjectivity of your lenses. Realize that this can cause not only harm to the person (or people) involved, but also to YOU.

Understand that in those precious moments, you may have betrayed your heart’s natural sense of empathy and the innate sensitivity which draws other people to you like a magnet. Preserving those gifts is an absolute key to your well being.

Acute and penetrating perception can forever be your ally. How you choose to wield a sword that cuts both ways will ultimately help write your life script.

Tender and caring incisions at the precise point of pain may be a strategy that’s well worth considering.

Your theme song is “Bloodstream” by Stateless. You can listen to it right here:

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Sagittarius Sun, Leo Moon : “Glorious”

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A radiant, life-affirming enthusiasm permeates this combination, “firing up” the self-presentation.

Embracing your need for recognition, validation and attracting the attention of others leads the way to having your philosophies and opinions respected. An intellectually sophisticated approach to demanding “center stage” is necessary.

Your life energy is ignited through releasing exploratory thought arrows within the vastness of the universe. You’re fueled by the joys of guiding and instructing, using a panoramic, all inclusive approach to inquiries of the mind.

This is reflected in a personality which possesses a need to display their authority with regal luster. It’s imperative that you beam brightly, if only in your chosen corner of the world. The question which this sun-moon combination produces is:

How will you use your light?

Will you blaze a path of understanding for others which broadens horizons and opens up new vistas of awareness?

Or, will you fancy yourself a “celebrity preacher”, developing a God complex ?

Understand that a grandiose sense of self-importance is distinctly different than honest appreciation of one’s divinity.

Infectious enthusiasm is one of your reigning strengths; an ace in the hole.

It’s vital for you to realize that the fervor you express when relaying your convictions has the power to move mountains. It also has the capacity to lead people into the metaphoric “jaws of doom”.

If you want the world to listen to what you have to say, proudly personifying the noble and lofty ideals you espouse is one of the best things that you can do.

If you have a Sagittarius Sun and Leo moon, your theme song is :” Glorious” by Skyzoo & Pete Rock. You can listen here:

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Sagittarius Sun, Sagittarius Moon:”Oh My God”

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In a birth chart, when the Sun and Moon are placed in Sagittarius the core life energy which fuels the individual and the essential needs of the personality are inseparable.

The Sun’s placement in Sagittarius suggests that the person is stimulated by the freedom to influence and shape thought via free exchange of ideas, philosophies and opinions. There’s an inclination to view the world holistically, wanting to “take in” as much as possible through a broad, panoramic view.

The Sagittarius Moon uses the light and fuel of the Sun to reflect a personality who needs to have their perspectives taken seriously; to have their views respected.  

This lunar placement suggests an emotional need to stretch barriers and boundaries and to shoot their arrows of thought into the realm of the unknown fused with the optimism that there will be new and progressive discoveries made. 

Expansion in ALL forms serves as nourishment for lunar Sagittarians. A narrow or restrictive existence is an abomination to their principles.

Speaking of principles, it would help those with this Sun-Moon blend to understand this: the same freedom and justice which they so passionately fight for must be given to others who are on a quest for establishing THEIR own set of principles and philosophy of life.

When operating dysfunctionally, an individual with this Sun-Moon blend is capable of exhibiting the most hypocritical, inflated and self-righteous behavior. 

The vast, broad overview somehow shrinks into a dogmatic and subjective bastion of “exclusive” belief. It’s as if arriving at “truth” has only ONE formula and they’re the ONLY one who is in possession of the secret concoction.

This pride, manifesting at times as a rather exalted view of oneself (perhaps as the only one who can reveal the “truth”) , is part of the dualistic nature of Sagittarius, the symbol for which is the centaur- half horse and half human. Sagittarius has the lifelong task of integrating their more idealistic nature with their more unrefined, impulsive, egocentric tendencies.”

“They often think too highly of themselves and want to project an admirable image to others.

They like to feel idealistic and upstanding, but if they look at themselves honestly, they often have to admit that they are not as impeccably honorable as they like to think; for they can rationalize their behavior as well as anyone when it is convenient or advantageous to do so.”

A constructive use of this Sun-Moon blend is to teach and assist others in casting just as wide of a net for their OWN lives as they do for themselves.

To accept others with the open arms that they expect the wide world to embrace them with. To spread infectious enthusiasm in allowing others to find their personal truths rather than forcibly creating a ready made version for them. To realize that the Sagittarian higher mind not only has it’s roots in intellectual exploration, but also in human tolerance.

Your theme song is :”Oh My  God!” by A Tribe Called Quest

You can listen here:

Reference: Person-to-Person Astrology: Energy Factors in Love, Sex & Compatibility by Stephen Arroyo (Frog, Ltd. Books)

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Aquarius Sun, Scorpio Moon : “Unorthodox”

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Your aspirations are geared toward individuating, and becoming who YOU truly think you need to be, irrespective of societal norms or cultural conditioning.

You’re ignited by the restless, rebellious journey you’re traveling. All in the name of “breaking up” with the status quo. Even if you chose not to do that, chances are, it would be quite a tumultuous marriage.

One of your keys to self-actualization is to realize that you must continuously transform yourself, and undergo a series of deaths and re-births in order to have the potent impact on humanity that you desire.

Revolutionary and radical change is your fuel, and there’s an emotional need to plumb the depths of yourself and whatever else you’re passionate about.

You may find, that in order to grasp the entirety of who you are, you’ll have to travel down a crisis filled labyrinth.

The understanding that you will need to be intrepid while facing these “turning points” is essential.

After all, there’s such a thing as growth opportunities which hold their share of danger and uncertainty.

By maintaining emotional honesty within yourself, you can shine as the eccentric…….

Your Theme song is : “Unorthodox” by Joey Badass

Take a listen:

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Honoring Mars : Your Personal Power

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Concerning Mars in our birth chart: I don’t think its importance gets emphasized enough being that its symbolic of our desire nature and the brand of power and energy that we summon to reach goals and confront the tasks that we face on an everyday basis.

Mars has a relationship to how we express the “masculine” part of us (irrespective of gender) and apply our will. also, our fighting and defense style. the mars in our chart is what’s best suited to accomplish the totality of our work here.

We tend to put ourselves at a disadvantage when we judge the planets in our chart as opposed to attempting to understand them more and how they fit into our overall framework. it’s similar to arriving at preconceived notions about a person without getting to know them.

Mars’ sign in our birth chart is similar to a war strategy. there is beauty in all 12 ( and more variations of that 12) of them as well as the type of “weaponry” that suits us the best. tapping into our mars can also improve and heighten our sex life because we can get more in tune w/ our raw, primal desires.

Also, I think it’s antithetical to fear our Mars energy. Mars is connected to the principle of action. It’s forward moving, initiating, generating & creating if we allow it to be. when we cower & refuse to recognize the warrior within, we’re without a doubt, dishonoring our mars. If we ask ourselves what type of energy and strategy we need to face life’s challenges, look to MARS. if we ask ourselves the most effective way to go about pursuing what we want, look to MARS.

We can even obtain more information about WHERE we need to spend that time and energy by looking at the house that our Mars is located in. this is all information that you can google.

“Cutting through the bullshit” isn’t the exclusive property of one planet or sign. so, this would certainly prove to be a feature and benefit of a healthy Mars. so would the ability to stand up for oneself and accept one’s true desires. When we feel taken advantage of, pushed around, controlled undervalued, etc… THIS is when we need to re-examine our relationship to what MARS represents in our birth chart. perhaps we need to re-establish contact.

All things considered, Mars is a planet that “works” to secure or defend its advantage. optimally, it puts energy toward noble motives & recognizes higher principles in its operation and can make the distinction between selfishness & self-interest. For some of us, it’s a matter of re-igniting mars. for others, it’s about recognizing what tools we have right in our midst. like: “hey…. do you know what to DO with that?” i encourage people not to allow this to remain dormant.

Your Mars sign and aspects to it can also clue you in to experiences/activities that would best suit you in regard to exerting & distributing your drive and energy. the value of mars rests in the premise that self-assertion needs to be pointed in a productive direction.

Elementally, Mars in air sign’s weaponry is intellectual & communicative. fire sign’s Mars arsenal is intrepid creative expression. while Mars in water sign’s tools are connected to emotional power, Mars in earth sign’s are directed toward building material & tangible structures.

Although Venus is typically associated with relationships, when we’re employing mars correctly, there’s generally a DIRECT and unabashed quality in how we relate to ourselves & others. and then, a specific refinement or flavoring based on the style of mars that suits us best.

Our mars isn’t placed in the sign it is by coincidence. it’s what’s most appropriate for our life purpose(s) & the work we’re asked to do in embodying what our chart looks like symbolically “unfolded”

Honor your MARS.

Pisces Sun, Cancer Moon : “Flow”

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For this combination, the importance of nourishment derived from interior energies is as vital as the air we breathe.

After all, that’s the fuel you depend on to sustain yourself through everyday interactions with the world at large. Regular intervals of solitude are more a necessity than an indulgence, as they help you recharge your battery and clarify emotions. Behind closed doors, in the privacy of your heart is where you may experience a vivid spectrum of feelings from joy and elation to anger and grief. You regard your fortress of solitude as your “safe space”.

The potential exists to discover your true spiritual aspirations via the nurturing of your center. Authentic security is the “launching pad” which breathes life into a colorful imagination and an identity which is able to convey the language of idealism.

Your adaptability can serve you as a tremendous asset, as it’s possible to  adjust to the shape of the myriad of “containers” that your presented within your life sphere.

Gifted with an internal GPS (Global Perception System), you’re adept at translating mere words into the realm of emotional linguistics. A finely crafted antennae for soaking up mood and atmosphere is your birthright.

On a regular basis, You will undoubtedly be challenged to pull yourself out of your subjective “shell” and realize that just because you feel a certain way about a particular person, issue or situation doesn’t mean the entire world shares your sentiments. There’s something to be said for incorporating a measure of  detachment in your personal affairs.

One of your most prominent life lessons is that everything doesn’t require, or even deserve the same level of emotional involvement.  Healthy integration surfaces when you’re able to discern the flow of input and output needed and refine it to suit your interests.

You possess the capability of catapulting unconditional love  and acceptance to new heights, welcoming those who are deserving into your “family” or inner circle with open arms once they’ve passed your litmus test.

In your world, it’s only right that the vulnerability displayed on your part be accepted by others as a rich and rewarding gift. Instinctively, you hope that the recipient(s) will meet your desires with equal intensity. If not, the results won’t be so pretty.

At worst, you can resign yourself to the status of a brooding victim, or the “walking wounded”. You can become so engulfed in both legitimate past hurts and imagined slights that you delude yourself.

A futile search is launched for someone or something outside the self to rectify your internal situation. You start looking for the next big thing to latch on to as a means of escape from the realities you’ve yet to confront.

Consider finding a functional and constructive channel to provide an outlet for your deep feelings and artistic inclinations. Often, it can exist in the form of service which heals. Helping others to navigate the areas which activate their fears and insecurities. When it comes to this terrain you’re far from a novice.

Your theme music is “Flow” by Sade. You can listen here:

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