Venus-Neptune Contacts in Relationships (Synastry) : “Love No Limit”

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Self-admittedly, when it comes to relationships, you could say that I lean towards idealism. 

However, I don’t consider myself to be the type of Astrologer who ignores the challenges, and sometimes harsh realities that come with the care and maintenance of interpersonal unions.

I am a firm advocate of healthydynamic, adultadult relationships and this piece will be written from the perspective that we can undoubtedly have the relationships that we want if we’re willing to put forth the effort to obtain them.

Intimate relationships require work, but they don’t have to be drudgery. We don’t have to be struggling all of the time in order to feel that our partnership is growing.There’s a tremendous amount of satisfaction to be derived from genuinely connecting with another human being on a deep level.

While I agree that the specific aspect between the two individual charts may highlight the relative ease or difficulty of  the interpersonal dynamics, I also say that the potential for the positive manifestation of Venus-Neptune contact is no less potent because the two may happen to be in a “hard” aspect, i.e. a conjunction, square or opposition.

In fact, because of the sheer effort which often times needs to be expended due to the tension of the more stressful aspects, the couple actually may be able to arrive at a much deeper, solidly intimate space as the union evolves.

So, what happens when the enchanting, inspirational Neptune of one partner makes contact with the relationship-ready, great attractor Venus?

This, ladies and gents…. is the stuff dreams are made of.

In synastry, Venus-Neptune contacts are a prime indicator of two individuals who consistently look for the best in each other and give the best of themselves.
A love which displays itself in a ethereal fashion, where harsh judgement and criticism are strangers who get left out in the cold without so much as a morsel of food.
The dream man or woman from another planet. The consistent: “Where did he/she come from?”

Inherently, idealism is not a negative component within a relationship. There’s minimal harm in wanting to view your partner in their best light. To feel like the love you share can transcend the mundane plane of petty human flaws and quirks.

The problem arises when, because of fear of conflict or confrontation, there’s no recognition by either party that these differences exist. By differences, I’m not talking about Sean’s tendency to leave the cap off the toothpaste, or Denise’s propensity to push the snooze button a couple times on the alarm clock. I speak of preferences which can have a major effect on the entire tone of the relationship.

Sometimes, it’s possible to become so caught up in the other-worldliness of our partner that we fail to realize that we can’t live in that “other” world on a consistent basis.

To err is to be human and it would help us immensely to remember this regarding our significant others, so we don’t feel as if the world is crumbling around us when we wake up in the morning to “hot breath syndrome”, or we have to wait “35-45” minutes to enter the bathroom after our partner’s lambasting of the porcelain due to some subpar Mexican food.

The key to working constructively with Venus-Neptune aspects is to strive toward being perfect for each other, thereby forming a realistic ideal within the context of the relationship. Exercising open-hearted compassion for each other’s faults and frailties.

Always remembering that one another’s vulnerability is a precious gift and handling it as such. For the abuse of such an offering only contains elements which can fully erode the substance of love and cheapen the bonds of intimacy which brought you together.

Those of you who share this aspect with a significant other: know that you’re in control of sculpting the dream you wish to see manifest. Although your ideal may evolve over time, it’s not so elusive that you cannot have it, with commitment, dedication and a firm grip on mutual realities.

However, If you plan to disregard your differences, or continue to hold on to the notion that your partner walks on water and his/her breath smells minty fresh 24-7, that dream could soon become a nightmare.

With both partners remaining “wide awake”, this aspect can suggest love without limits.

If you share this aspect with someone, your theme song is : “Love No Limit” by Mary J. Blige. You can listen here:

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Moon-Jupiter Contacts in Relationships (Synastry): “It Feels Good”

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In synastry (relationship astrology), when there’s contact via aspect between one person’s Moon and the other’s Jupiter, or vice versa, it opens the door for a wide array of possibilities.

The Moon symbolizes our deepest emotional needs reflected in the form of a personality. Security, comfort, warmth, nurturing and receptivity are all fall under lunar domain.

Jupiter represents amplification, elevation, protection and magnification. Jupiter’s archetype expands whatever it touches from the highest, most inspirational peaks to the depths of gluttony, exaggeration and overindulgence.

With this dynamic present between partners, both of you may feel that you “can’t get enough” of the other person. That there’s no such thing as too much. With these planets aspecting one another, there’s a sense of mutual admiration and protection.

Also, the tendency to hold each other up to the highest ideal. There’s immense potential for a heightening of mood. when in each other’s presence. An infusion of tenderness and heartfelt emotional exchange.The open sharing of feelings.

The flip side of this aspect is that the individual worlds of both partners could be stamped with the stigma of being hopelessly mundane in comparison to the union. This dynamic can contribute to a lackluster effort to explore the world on their own terms and inhibit the joy of independent discovery. The relationship then turns into “life is no fun without you.”

As with any synastric aspect, much of the degree and style of its functioning depends on the level of maturity and  self-awareness of the individuals involved.

If you share this aspect with another person, your theme song is  “It Feels Good” by Tony, Toni,  Tone. You can Listen here:

 

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Moon in the 7th House : “Give Me Your Love”

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With one’s moon placed natally in the 7th house, there’s a fine line between emotional support and labor. Having the moon in an angular house equates to a strong position oriented towards “the other”. So, there’s the possibility of  a perpetually reactive stance to the feelings and emotions of other people.

How you navigate this space is key.

A developmental lesson of this placement is to understand the importance of owning your feelings and being in charge of them. Also, learning the true definition of empathy will prove to be important, as to be able to make the distinction between identification and sharing feelings with another and allowing yourself to become enmeshed and entrenched in others tumultuous dramas.

This natal position suggests that there’s the potential to form genuine connections with others and create avenues of trust and support. So, to care in a warm and nurturing manner which fosters growth is natural. However, to understand the limits of your support and knowing when to encourage another person to help themselves will prove to be key to your overall emotional health.

You’re not required to digest and carry the emotional burdens of others. Your reigning strength relies in providing and holding a safe, non-judgmental space where active listening and kindness are present, as well as healthy and clearly defined boundaries.

You may be someone who works directly with women or has an emotional investment in issues which affect them specifically.  Also, in your partnerships, the open expression of how one is feeling may be valued and prevent unhealthy projections.

If you have the Moon in the 7th House, your theme song is “Give Me Your Love” by Curtis Mayfield. You can listen here:

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Mercury-Neptune Aspects : “Hypnotize”

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When interpreting aspects in one’s birth chart, it’s important to keep in mind that for every constructive and helpful potential, there’s a dysfunctional and maladaptive one. The relationship between Mercury and Neptune provides an excellent example.

As we investigate the planetary archetypes, we come to realize that Mercury is the thinker and the communicator. It’s associated with our perception, information exchange, speech and our rational mind.

Neptune, on the other hand, is the archetype of all things which are nebulous and can’t be clearly defined. The planetary energy is slippery, and simultaneously enchanting and deceptive.  Ideals, escapism and lack of boundaries also fall in the Neptunian realm.

So, what type of potentials exist when these two meet up in the birth chart?  On the constructive side, there’s potential  for the flowing of the left-brain, right-brain connection. An affinity with symbols can be present and in turn, creates a strength in deciphering languages which speak to the collective in broad and universal terms like film, music, astrology, poetry, etc…

One’s speech may be refined and from the intellectual standpoint they may be able to tune into subtleties that others miss. When this aspect is working, there’s a definite power of suggestion at play. In fact, this is the same suggestion that advertisers use to “tune into” what their audience wants (or what they think they want).

There’s also a talent for understanding how ideas are interconnected which can give a person a great sense of rhythm and flow and the capacity to communicate ideas to others which reflect idealism and inspire creative activity.  A visionary with the sensitivity of mind to tap into what makes people tick and assist and heal in the subterranean realms would be a great use of this aspect.

On the other side of things, there can be a penchant for lying by omission in one’s communication, “double talk” and delusional thinking.  The maladaptive side of  this aspect can manifest as someone who is able to permeate the thought processes of others, but uses it for designs that are less than honorable, such as those that participate in the “brainwashing” process.

If you have a Mercury-Neptune aspect in your birth chart, your theme song is “Hypnotize” by Notorious B.I.G. You can listen here:

 

 

Mercury-Uranus Aspects :”Brand New Flava in Ya Ear”

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When Mercury and Uranus hook up in a natal chart,  innovative thought which seeks to release itself from the straight jacket of convention is highlighted.

I think Craig Mack said it best:

“here comes the brand new flava in ya ear….. time for new flava in ya ear…. im kickin new flava in ya ear.”

Every planetary placement or aspect in our chart can serve us as an opportunity.

With Mercury-Uranus contacts, we have the continuous chance to infuse our intellectual faculties with new and fresh ideas. To spark innovative thoughts.

Mercury represents our thought process and what we think about. Uranus symbolizes dynamic change, unconventionality and departure from the status quo.

If Mercury touches Uranus within your birth chart, the potential is there not only to shock and shake yourself out of conditioned responses, which ultimately revolutionizes your mind, you can also serve as a catalyst for others by encouraging the same type of examination and questioning concerning the usefulness of the existing thought structures.

Your perceptions have the potential to be lightning quick and accurate to boot. Trusting your intuitive faculties is an important ingredient in this cosmic recipe. We’re talking about flashes of mental insight while in the shower, on the train, driving to work- you name it.

Some astrologers say the highest manifestation of this aspect means genius. I say it can produce someone who not only colors “outside the lines” in life and stretches the boundaries of the mind, but also consistently maintains the courage to stand alone in the face of their ideas initially being branded as  “unpopular”, or highly eccentric.

An individual who knows the price of admission to non-conformity and keeps a stash of currency to cover it.

If you have this connection in your chart, it’s extremely important to develop and nurture your capacity for independent thought.

Your natural inclination is to reject the “herd” mentality. So, go ahead and keep developing your new slang and verbiage and let others take their time in catching up.

On the flip side, it’s not a good look when your authenticity is reactionary. When you attempt to be different just for the sake of it. You then become a pseudo-enigma with your “originality” predicated on looking at what everyone else is doing, and simply doing the opposite.

With a Mercury-Uranus aspect in your natal chart, your theme song is “Flava in Ya Ear” by Craig Mack. You can listen right here:

Sun-Uranus Aspects : “The Truth”

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To thine own self, be true.

Most of us have heard and read this phrase countless numbers of times. However, how many of us have stopped to actually ponder it’s meaning and deeper significance? If you have a Sun-Uranus aspect in your birth chart, part of your life’s mission is to explore this theme upside down and inside out.

Sun-Uranus aspects suggest a tremendous drive to put your unique stamp or fingerprint on everything you do. Whether it’s your signature way of brushing your teeth, the slang that you originate or a scientific breakthrough. Authenticity is of utmost importance to people with Sun-Uranus aspects. 

In fact: A portion of your path is to develop your individuality via the uprooting of conditioned behaviors, values and customs which do not serve your distinct style of evolution.

Sun- Uranus people must participate in a revolutionary act of courage which will spur their development. They must responsibly and intelligently relinquish the person they were taught to be by family, friends, and culture, and put their efforts toward becoming the person they were meant to be, complete with a genuine life philosophy which encourages their individual empowerment, devoid of societal trappings.

If the two selves are largely in alignment with one another, the act may be less shocking. However, highly functioning people with this aspect need what they’ve been taught by others to pass their litmus test before they accept and incorporate it into their lives. When Sun-Uranus aspects operate in a dysfunctional manner, nonsensical rebellion grabs center stage.

The mental faculties are no longer guided toward realization of your unique life story, but rather the desire to overcompensate and prove to everyone how widely your non-conformist capacities span. You become the type of person who refuses to admit a movie was entertaining because everyone else liked it. Or the eccentric aficionado of super, duper obscure underground hip-hop.  Becoming authentic contains its rewards as well as its responsibilities.As a Sun-Uranus person, you must use your exceptional ingenuity to create a life which honors both.      

Your Theme song is “The Truth” by Beanie Sigel

You can listen right here:

 

Capricorn Sun, Capricorn Moon : “More Levels”

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Confronting obstacles, and becoming great at what you do.

Hip Hop artist Bumpy Knuckles, a.k.a Freddie Foxxx, said it best in one of his many collaborations with legendary producer D.J. Premier:

” You’re always going to have people who don’t believe that you’re really good at what you do, you know? And that’s probably more so because they haven’t figured out how to be good at what they know, or don’t even know how to do… you know? So.. that’s just what it is.”

“You know, every level you reach, you’re going to come against obstacles, and you have to combat those obstacles in order to move forward.”

This Sun/Moon combination strongly identifies with the “grind” of the climb, as well as a search for excellence. There’s potential here to constantly unfold into a model of success, which can be emulated by others, and also fulfills you at the deepest level.

The possibilities are present to be a responsible steward of time-tested structures and traditions.

At best, you’re everything you profess to be, and there is very little variance in your thoughts, words and actions. Your inner life reflects outwardly. Serious without being somber.A strong sense of dignity and integrity, minus the posturing or pomposity.

Some keys to your development are to know when enough is enough. To understand PROCESS and realize when you’ve done your part MINUS attempting to control everything.

To reach the heights takes strategy as well as skill. The ability to trust your formula without fear or doubt is essential. This isn’t blind optimism, but rather a grounded confidence that you’re prepared, and only wish to do the best with what you have.

Being a double Capricorn, your theme song is : “More Levels” by Bumpy Knuckles and DJ Premier. You can listen right here:

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Aries Sun, Capricorn Moon : “Work”

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In this world of shortcuts and quick fixes, we’re constantly being sold a narrative that we can get something for nothing. “Buy Now!! Pay Later!!” , is what the billboard reads. Or, the “go to” phrase of “work smarter, not harder” has permeated our psyches.  This isn’t to say that there’s no validity in handling tasks efficiently, or employing strategies that assist in maximum productivity. However, with all of this taken in consideration there’s still an understanding that someone has to get their hands dirty and do the actual WORK.

That someone is YOU.

What ignites your spirit and maintains your vitality, is the thought of making a significant impact in the world. Hence, your ultimate goal is to make a bold statement which puts an exclamation point on your right to exist and thrive as a human being. This work is done by owning your emotional need to achieve, and produce something tangible that you can constantly use, as a life structure, which reflects the diligence of your efforts.  The optimal environment for you to embark on this mission is one that contains strategies, organization, discipline, integrity and mastery as essential ingredients.

To understand that, in the world of goals, anything worth having rarely comes fast or easy, is something that you’ll need to file away both mentally and emotionally, and refer to often. Instituting the “love of labor” is a practice which can set you apart from other people, which is where you want to be. The more you’re able to “throw your hat into the ring”, with tasks and experiences that summon courage and calculated risk, the more life energy you’ll acquire.

In addition, it’s extremely important to banish the demons of fear and doubt which will attempt to tap you on the shoulder and tell you that something is wrong with you and you’re “behind the rest of us” because you’ve made the conscious choice to put in the work to get what you want. Remember: your efforts are designed to stand the test of time. If your work is solid now, the foundation which you’ve produced won’t be shaken by the first passing breeze or even more severe storms.

With your Sun/Moon combination, another valuable theme for you will be opening the door to that part of yourself which is “in charge”, and able to handle people and things. All too often, we project these qualities on others only to say: “I wish I was like that.” Or, “If only I possessed that type of assertiveness and bravery.”

GUESS WHAT?  You merely need to locate it.

Part of your work here is to allow yourself permission to desire: to want what you want without shame or guilt. After all, you have both the Sun and Moon in Cardinal signs. There’s an initiating,  spearheading and driving quality to Cardinal signs, complete with a goal-orientation.

Combining the innate enthusiasm and passion of fire and the persistence and common sense of earth, you can create a recipe for someone whose achievements, along with the life they’ve built for themselves carries the torch of endurance and valor.

There’s not much mystery in your music here, as your Sun/Moon theme song is “Work” by Gang Starr. You can listen to it right here:

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Cancer Sun, Aquarius Moon : “History”

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One of the most challenging parts of our unfoldment as human beings is undergoing the process of developing into autonomous people. Staking the claim of our own identities outside of the structures which can either serve as liberating forces or stultifying traps: family, educational institutions, friendships, racial groups, gender roles, etc……

Around Adolescence, which is roughly between the ages of 12 and 18, the desire to have our unique personhood validated and affirm ourselves a distinct individual is intensified.

We want to create our own codes, live by independently established values and put our original stamp on our life patterns. Most likely, we’re not solid in exactly who we are at this point,  so the freedom to try on many hats and experiment with various identities is paramount.

There are a number of tension filled conflicts which arise during this stage: peer pressure, the beginning of consistent contact and relations with the opposite sex, major concerns about body image, attractiveness, popularity and the dilemma of “fitting in” or “standing out”. 

To think that all of these polarities, complete with consistent points of crisis will be resolved neatly and cleanly by our 18th birthday is a fantasy. The process has merely started…..

The combination of  the Cancer Sun and Aquarius Moon highlights the anxious, uncertain yet exciting and electric oscillation between remaining rooted and forging forward; between the past and the future.

In a natal (birth) chart, when the Sun is in Cancer and the Moon in Aquarius, the individual is fueled by emotional and familial security. The core life energy seeks the familiarity of a tribe of like-minded individuals. The Cancerian energy is inclined to seek bonds and connections with others whether they’re “blood”, or simply because their ideologies and worldviews click.

It should also be mentioned that the dysfunction of Cancer attunement is manifested behaviorally as the inability to release these bonds, thereby holding others (and themselves) as emotional hostages. The motivation behind this behavior is often because they feel they’ve given so much of themselves through warmth, caring and active listening that it should be returned in equal measure.

The Aquarian Moon uses the Cancerian Sun’s light and energy as fuel to create a personality whose nourished by anything unconventional which doesn’t fall under the criteria of a humdrum existence. There’s a reigning emotional need to be acknowledged as a unique individual complete with all of the quirks. This person won’t be fulfilled until it’s settled that they’re “not like everyone else”.

Additionally, this Sun-Moon blend calls for the person to challenge the same tribe which stimulates their core life energy.

The misuse of the Aquarian Moon energy can be seen in behavior which is rebellious without a cause and slavish to the “fad” of non-conformity just for the sake of it, which is actually conformity by default.

When used constructively, the tension of this challenge can accelerate and broaden life development.

The Cancer fuel that’s used in belonging must make friends with the Aquarian Moon’s need for the personality to individuate.

A possible positive outcome of this Sun-Moon combination is someone who can make their “home” anywhere. An individual who has released the guilt of unnecessary familial obligation and claimed their birthright to view life through their own unique lens while remaining rooted in healthy attachments and relationships which nurture their self-actualization.

Your theme song is “History” by Mos Def featuring Talib Kweli

You can listen here:

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Scorpio Sun, Scorpio Moon : “The Best Secret”

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In a birth chart, when the Sun and Moon are located in the same sign, the core needs of the personality reflect an energy similar to what stimulates the individuals life force.

We usually call people who possess this combination “doubles”.

In your birth chart, If the Sun and Moon are both located in Scorpio , you’re a double Scorpio.

This Scorpio Sun-Moon blend suggests that this person’s fuel consists of exercising self-control and depth relations with others through knowledge and information, using it as a weapon both to capitalize on and maximize life situations, as well as to avoid being taken advantage of.

There’s an amazing quality of self-protection insinuated by this Sun-Moon combination.

In addition, the desire to know others at their deepest levels, solving life’s mysteries, and unearthing what’s hidden below the surface, no matter how unpleasant it may be, is highly pronounced.

The main motives? Transformation of self and others.

The Scorpio Moon reflects a personality who needs to be significant and penetrativethereby having an emotional effect on others. Like the Scorpion’s sting, the lunar Scorpio strives to release it’s psychological potency for the sake of healing through intense interactions.

There’s a tremendous amount of passion associated with this Sun-Moon blend, and typical Astrology seems to immediately point to Scorpio’s reputation as a SEX crazed maniac, but reality says that this hunger for emotional depth has the capacity to be channeled in countless directions.

One of the reasons for Scorpio’s highly sexual reputation is because they crave intimate contact with others at such a powerful level. However sex and intimacy are not always synonymous.

Using this combination constructively, one finds and entity which is greater than the self and is able to pursue it with unstoppable fervor , finding their life’s “healthy obsession“.

Ideally, this pursuit transforms the person through exposure to the deepest, gut-level truth which aligns with his/her intuition. The concern here is instinctive reality rather than social niceties.

The dysfunctional version of this Sun-Moon blend can manifest behaviorally as an individual who has the “I’ll get you, before you get me” mentality. Someone who strives to control their environment as a result of their inner turmoil and paranoia. There can be the wariness of a wounded animal when it comes to trusting the world. Sensible self-protection has now turned into an impenetrable fortress.

For this combination to operate efficiently, there must be the reciprocity of  “emotional and psychological nakedness”. It’s highly unrealistic for one to expect others to reveal their inner most selves while the Solar/Lunar Scorpion sits as the listener and observer.

They too, must experience the vulnerability which comes with being undressed. Staring out of the peephole and never leaving one’s emotional comfort zone will rarely provide the fuel or sustenance this combination requires.

If you’re a double Scorpio, your theme song is : “The Best Secret” by Pete Rock featuring Lords of the Underground.

You can listen right here:

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