Honoring Jupiter In Your Birth Chart : “We All Need a Little Church”

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The symbolism of the Jupiter archetype is quite vast. Most commonly, the planet has been associated with the energies of expansion and abundance. As the largest planet in the solar system, anything which is of “mega” proportions could reside under Jupiter’s domain.

In addition, Jupiter is associated with religion. When we read or hear that word, there seems to be an instant formulation of a conclusion. However, I would like to discuss Jupiter’s link with religion in a much wider context; not as attached to any particular doctrine or dogma, but as a form of healing that’s offered within the spirit of the planet.

Proceeding from the premise that “religion” is: a general set of beliefs about life and what it means and locating the origins of the word which range from  “ligure”,  which is: to bind or connect. Or, re-ligure: to re-connect or bind fast, and also regligio, which can be translated into: “respect for what’s sacred,” is an excellent place to begin the discussion.

Many of us associate religion with some type of church. Apparently the English word “church” was derived from older forms of the words chirche and cirice, and from a Greek phrase “kuriake oikia”, which means “the lord’s house.” (source:www.biblepages.net/gg06.htm)

Jupiter represents the “church” inside every one of us, who reside as the lord over our spiritual domain. It’s our inner “guru” or wise person. The voice which assists us in our pursuance of higher ideals and consciousness.

Additionally, Jupiter symbolizes growth in both the physical and the intellectual spheres of life. The planet’s energy is associated with aspiring to the maximum heights of potential, irrespective of the specific endeavor.

In 2004, I was fortunate enough to come into contact with “Church”, a song by legendary hip-hop group De La Soul. (produced by 9th Wonder). I think this is an excellent representation of Jupiter’s potential for actualization in all of our lives.

“Aiyyo, wake up! Wipe the sleep from ya eyecracks, It’s time to focus y’all, fix ya I-MAX
In other words, listen to the brother’s words
Ingest these anecdotes with HOPE
and ya ass, may learn how to COPE !”

The Jupiter archetype suggests an infusion of faith. That the moment we’re living in is bright. Using this frame of reference, we can tap into our well of hope that the next moment, as well as tomorrow can be progressively luminescent.

“I’d rather see you graduate the school year
Black folk, go put a book in ya face
But first give the hook a taste
Bring the preacher in!”

Heal! Heal, y’all!
We comin’ healin’! {It’s real!}
It’s real! {It’s real!} It’s real!
It’s realer than real, realer than real….

Higher education is an area which fits perfect with Jupiter.

So, “putting a book in your face” for not only Black people, but everyone is one of the essential methods of raising awareness about ourselves and the larger world around us. Learning to operate as citizens of the world and participate, through thought and action, in endeavors which stretch our cultural comfort zones as a means to creating a telescopic lens.

The hook to this song mentions healing, and I don’t think Jupiter is given it’s just due when it comes to these energies.

Typically, the planets most associated with healing are Neptune and Pluto, but I’d like to offer up that Jupiter’s energy infuses its own brand of healing via elevation and levity. Through idealism and appealing to the highest and best of the human spirit. People struggle through the week dealing with work, finances, family and relationships, and what’s one place they go to get “healed” at the end of the week?

CHURCH.

“You need to make your own choice, be your own voice. Set ya soap-box up, let your talk fight. Pull ya socks up, get ya walk right.”

As mentioned earlier, Jupiter is the place in ourselves which we locate in order to serve as our own guide. Cultivating faith in ourselves along with listening to our intuition allows us to access higher knowledge and wisdom. Hence, the “good fortune” that Jupiter is so readily associated with. However, it must be said that this “luck” comes with effort, and favors the well-prepared.

” But explore deep and you’ll the find the seed
Plant more ether, get your mind free
We roll passsionate, put your lights last in it
You’re holdin fear too close, unfasten it!”

Jupiter’s energy is open not only to risk, but the constant sense of optimism and confidence that life will work out for us in the way that we absolutely need it to. This attitude allows us to sense and rely on a greater plan being at work; an underlying meaning in the arrangement of the universe.  We begin to see the synchronicities and interrelationships. The “seeds” which are indicative of the larger patterns of our lives.

“Ain’t nothin’ wrong makin’ that bread wid’it
But don’t let the bread get to ya head, geddit?
Admit it, when you can’t stand alone
I wanna stand up, give all the pretend up”

On the not so flattering side of Jupiter, we have greed, excess and puffery, or an exaggerated sense of self-importance.

The old self-righteous “do as I say, not as I do.” complex.  In order to utilize the planet most effectively, we must certainly remain constantly aware of its dysfunctional side.

We’ll never know everything. We need to remember that we’re first and foremost students of the cosmos before we’re teachers. Part of “giving the pretend up” is to excercise humility as an embodiment of wisdom. After all, if we know so much, we would understand that everyone is treading their own span of ground trying to make their life work.

And that’s realer than real, realer than real…..

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Honoring Mars In Your Birth Chart : Your Personal Power

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Concerning Mars in our birth chart: I don’t think its importance gets emphasized enough being that its symbolic of our desire nature and the brand of power and energy that we summon to reach goals and confront the tasks that we face on an everyday basis.

Mars has a relationship to how we express the “masculine” part of us (irrespective of gender) and apply our will. also, our fighting and defense style. the mars in our chart is what’s best suited to accomplish the totality of our work here.

We tend to put ourselves at a disadvantage when we judge the planets in our chart as opposed to attempting to understand them more and how they fit into our overall framework. it’s similar to arriving at preconceived notions about a person without getting to know them.

Mars’ sign in our birth chart is similar to a war strategy. there is beauty in all 12 ( and more variations of that 12) of them as well as the type of “weaponry” that suits us the best. tapping into our mars can also improve and heighten our sex life because we can get more in tune w/ our raw, primal desires.

Also, I think it’s antithetical to fear our Mars energy. Mars is connected to the principle of action. It’s forward moving, initiating, generating & creating if we allow it to be. when we cower & refuse to recognize the warrior within, we’re without a doubt, dishonoring our mars. If we ask ourselves what type of energy and strategy we need to face life’s challenges, look to MARS. if we ask ourselves the most effective way to go about pursuing what we want, look to MARS.

We can even obtain more information about WHERE we need to spend that time and energy by looking at the house that our Mars is located in. this is all information that you can google.

“Cutting through the bullshit” isn’t the exclusive property of one planet or sign. so, this would certainly prove to be a feature and benefit of a healthy Mars. so would the ability to stand up for oneself and accept one’s true desires. When we feel taken advantage of, pushed around, controlled undervalued, etc… THIS is when we need to re-examine our relationship to what MARS represents in our birth chart. perhaps we need to re-establish contact.

All things considered, Mars is a planet that “works” to secure or defend its advantage. optimally, it puts energy toward noble motives & recognizes higher principles in its operation and can make the distinction between selfishness & self-interest. For some of us, it’s a matter of re-igniting mars. for others, it’s about recognizing what tools we have right in our midst. like: “hey…. do you know what to DO with that?” i encourage people not to allow this to remain dormant.

Your Mars sign and aspects to it can also clue you in to experiences/activities that would best suit you in regard to exerting & distributing your drive and energy. the value of mars rests in the premise that self-assertion needs to be pointed in a productive direction.

Elementally, Mars in air sign’s weaponry is intellectual & communicative. fire sign’s Mars arsenal is intrepid creative expression. while Mars in water sign’s tools are connected to emotional power, Mars in earth sign’s are directed toward building material & tangible structures.

Although Venus is typically associated with relationships, when we’re employing mars correctly, there’s generally a DIRECT and unabashed quality in how we relate to ourselves & others. and then, a specific refinement or flavoring based on the style of mars that suits us best.

Our mars isn’t placed in the sign it is by coincidence. it’s what’s most appropriate for our life purpose(s) & the work we’re asked to do in embodying what our chart looks like symbolically “unfolded”

Honor your MARS.

Leo Sun, Aries Moon: “Hot Like Fire”

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This Sun/Moon combination can be summed up by the phrase:  “hot like fire”.

Risk? No problem.

I know…. I know…. Why don’t we propose something that’s actually a CHALLENGE to you? You’re probably very familiar with the Jay-Z line : “difficult takes a day, impossible takes a week.”

Your true aspirations are fueled by recognition; of having others KNOW who you are because there’s so much creativity and SO many gifts enveloped in your overall self-expression.

Your Sun/Moon blend suggests an emotional need to have an impact on the world. To champion a cause with all of your passion and might, so that you win the war within yourself. To SAY you were there is never enough for an individual with this combination. There needs to be no doubts whatsoever about where and HOW you made your mark.

There’s potential to summon a warrior like courage to compete with yourself in becoming a personification of leadership. In addition, an opportunity to unearth a beaming, iridescent sense of confidence.

It’s important for you to understand that it could be difficult for others with a lower key orientation to adjust to your fiery style, and your charisma is best used in a generous and motivational capacity rather than allowing oneself to become a spectacle. If this is the case, you’ve gotten the cause confused with overblown distortions of the ego.

Realize that your ultimate strengths are packaged in the ability to yield flexibly and compromise so everyone has the opportunity to win together versus hijacking the victor’s circle to add to your collection of “hardware”.

Your theme song is: “Hot Like Fire” by Aaliyah

You can listen right here :

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Venus in Cancer : “The Safe Haven”

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For Venus in Cancer natives, love is warmth and security. Literally, “Love is a House”, Love is emotional nurturing and support. Love is acceptance. Love is a family by blood or worldview. Love is a cozy “nest”away from the madness of the world. Love is protection. Love is active listening. Love is sensitivity. Love is making room for vulnerability.

In the world of Cancerian Venusians, one of their deepest yearnings is to feel as if someone expended the time, care and energy to actually understand them. true connection is something that they value immensely and don’t take lightly.

As a matter of fact, when we speak of ANYTHING cancerian, the themes of emotional security automatically arise. for them, security means something that’s not in doubt. something that they can count on, something they can trust & something that leaves them no fear of being exploited or manipulated.

To nurture is to help things and people grow. the individual with this placement wants nothing more than relationships based on a commitment to MUTUAL nurturing. You’ll most likely see the “claws” of the crab only if they feel the emotional energy they lay out isn’t being reciprocated.

What the Venus in Cancer person values is something or someone that provides a sense of belonging. In relationships, someone they know that’s committed to creating and maintaining a safe space where they can listen and be listened TO and they can be themselves without judgment or ridicule.

There’s a wispy, whiny “crybaby” stereotype of this placement (as well as other Cancer ones) that needs to be scrutinized more closely or put away. For the tenacity of the crab has few equals. A combination of gut -level shrewdness & acute perception keeps them on point.

A major developmental lesson for those with Venus in Cancer is that of self-nurturing. It’s key that you develop a private space inside yourself that you can return to as a “sanctuary” of sorts. Although connection to others is important, to be a good partner to oneself is a non-negotiable.

In several respects, those with Venus in Cancer are adept at fostering the elements of what would be deemed the “complete” relationship. Offering the warm, cozy nest of safety and unconditional love. The recognition of the full gamut of emotions and feelings. The inclination to intuit a partner’s spoken and unspoken needs. Attention paid to “the little things”. Promoter of the private, intimate “just between me and you.” bonds.

While this sounds fantastic, another EQUALLY IMPORTANT developmental lesson for those with Venus in Cancer involves “helping” and “caring as a form of creating obligations in other people. If not careful, this can manifest as subtle, indirect manipulation. So, you want to make sure that EVERYTHING you do derives from the emotional truth.

Further instruction includes learning how to receive the same affection you provide and avoiding the unconscious creation of one sided relationships. Furthermore, understanding the warning signals and dangers of holding something or someone TOO tightly and confusing that behavior with love.

For the Venus in Cancer person, it’s important to claim your gifts of sensitivity, the ability to read emotional undercurrents, the ability to anticipate the needs of others, intuition and “mirroring”. It’s just as significant that you avoid projecting these on those close to you.

Understand that you’ll need to resist “clapping back” at others that say you have “too much” of the aforementioned qualities. Even if you’re unable to articulate your feelings in the moment, know that your internal radar has chosen to focus on a person or a situation that requires your attention. As a result of this, you must follow the rabbit hole until you get the answers that you require. For you, in most cases, when something doesn’t feel right, it usually isn’t.

At it’s best, Venus in Cancer can operate as a demonstration of the ideal feminine (irrespective of gender). and one who is capable of harnessing emotional support in quantity and quality with a relational style that’s sincere, soulful and heartfelt.

If you have Venus placed in Cancer in your birth chart, your theme song is : Come Close” by Common featuring Mary J. Blige. You can listen here:

Venus in Aries: “Shooting Your Shot”

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As we explore the territory that’s Venus in Aries, we do so with the understanding that Venus can’t be reduced or limited exclusively to “love” in one’s birth chart. There are far more associations which accompany the planet. However, for the purpose of this particular article, one’s idea of love, as viewed through the Venus in Aries lens, will be emphasized.

For those with Venus placed in Aries in the birth chart, love can be a battlefield, where you want to be number one with no question. Love can be a feeling of having to “fight ” for the object of your affection. Love is passionate involvement. Love is fiery. Love is independence. Love is victory. Love is risk.

Love is “shooting your shot”.

You have the potential to be the the “Love Warrior”.

Ideally, you have little problem being the initiator in forming relationships because (1) you don’t believe in wasting time and (2) there’s a dynamic thrust of identity projection at work. For you, personal relationships are a source of constant renewal, and the litmus test of the ones that serve you is how much motivation you feel to maintain them.

Independence is another key theme for you. Learning the lesson that: working in your own self-interest and selfishness are two different things will be of immense value to you in your journey.

When Archetypal Aries energy is present in intimate relationships, there’s a tremendous focus on impact: On the effect they’ve had on the other person. The continuous question is :”what’s new?”

A static existence without mutual independence is as debilitating as it gets.

The gist of an Aries infused relationship is: “take your resources and explore the world, and I’ll do the same.” Then, we’ll come back and share insights in a manner that benefits us personally and collectively.

In general, what you can provide and also what you expect from another, is a straightforward and shame-free manner of relating. Emotional directness doesn’t have to be a problem.Typically, this is a person who’s more concerned with affirmation of their being than apologizing for it.

Because of the focus on identity development, what the Ram seeks in a partner is someone who has found a source of  passionate involvement and stimulation for *themselves*.

Venus in Aries understands that to be deeply focused on what you love is to feel connected to the collective life force.

On a healthy level, the Venus in Aries individual desires to “push” their partner to fulfill potential. Always looking for ways to encourage stretching out of their comfort zone.

Dysfunctionally, they become obsessed with competition, feeling as if they have to continuously be “one up” as a source of psychological satisfaction.

Another appropriate question for Venus in Aries is: “How do I keep the fires burning?”

Aries energy is undoubtedly challenged with maintaining enthusiasm in relationships. With the natural ebb and flow of life, the initial “heat” which is automatically present in the beginning stages of a union must subside or take on a different form.

So, what will it be?

Do you choose air to fan the flames of your passions? More fire to set the world ablaze? Water to create steam? Or, earth to bring structure to your aspirations?

Great astrology raises effective questions.

Ultimately, no matter what you choose, know that you can, and are supposed to have an impact on your partner.

You have the capability to become a master motivator and a source of “juice”. Not only by your powerful words, but your life lived as a personal demonstration of how an identity and belief in a cause unfolds over time.

Venus in Aries also suggests a person that’s not adverse to risk in relationships.

Now, we return to the theme of  fearlessly going after the type of relationships which authentically suit your way of being: a.k.a.”shooting your shot”

Many years ago, I had the pleasure of coming across the work of Richard Idemon, an Astrologer who passed away in 1987. I picked up a copy of his book “Through The Looking GlassA Search For The Self In The Mirror of Relationships.”

One of the first ideas which captured my attention was that of our most fundamental need in human relationships being the re-validation of our basic myths. 

We all have a “story”, or mythology of sorts that we carry around with us. This basic psychic ground is a significant contributor to our sense of self.  As a result, the patterns which we consciously or unconsciously create are those which are going to keep co-signing on our basic myth.

Those relationships which we may feel less comfortable, or even highly unsettled are those which challenge our basic ground.

However, if growth and evolution in relationships is what we truly seek, we must ultimately head in this direction.

There is an excellent example given in this book regarding the physical territory of animals, which can directly be applied to the psychic territory of human beings.

All animals have a basic physical territory that they will not deviate from. Even when chased by a larger, more fierce animal, which is sure to eat them alive, they will not leave this territory. In fact, the animal in question will run until he/she can’t run anymore and double back into the jaws of the pursuing animal rather than leave it’s comfort zone.

If we apply this same logic and scenario to our human relationships, we now see that most of us would rather be “eaten alive” psychically largely due to our need for safety. Pushing ourselves into the unknown constitutes a psychological death. So, in our discomfort, we resist change with all our might.

What we may have failed to realize is that we won’t be able to evolve into any relationship which does not support our existing myths.

If our mythology casts us as unlovable, undeserving, fearful human beings, our relationship patterns can’t reflect anything else. The only people that we’re able to accept into our worlds at this time are going to be continual confirmers of that reality.

Even if genuine love hit us head on like a Mack truck, we would not realize it, nor could we appreciate it because of our insistence to clinging to these outmoded patterns.

It’s only when we decide to renovate and expand our personal mythology that we’re able to open our universe to a broader array of possibilities.

There are two examples given of very different relationship models. The first model is the static model and the second is the erotic model.

With the static model, the basic intent is to stay safe. To avoid risk.  As long as there are no major shake- ups, everything will be all right. “Mrs./Mr. Jones and I have been together for 30 years and everything is in it’s place just the way I like it.” However, the question remains: have you and Mrs./Mr. Jones really been together 30 years, or just one year 30 times over?

 The erotic model is far more riskybut the potential rewards are much greater.
 Having Venus in Aries natally, the erotic model of relationships is much better suited to your inclinations.
The question is: are you up for the challenge?
The prime goals of the erotic relationship model are: intimacy and growth, variety, openness to change, open communications, trust, varied and shifting roles, independence, and adult-adult relating. The author goes on to suggest that there are probably ten percent of people who have a sufficient amount of the erotic in their relationship to keep them on their toes; to have them aiming towards deep bonding and personal transformation. As you peruse this food for thought, it may help to take inventory of your personal relationships and ask yourself where you fall in the spectrum.
What are the primary goals of your relationships? What do the relationship patterns that you’ve attracted into your life say about your personal mythology and your basic groundDo you wish to embark on the journey of changing your myth? If you’re not entirely happy in where you stand in this area, please understand that you can  begin anew with a legend for yourself which reflects the highest possibilities for creating the types of relationships which will enhance the quality of your life and ultimately contribute to your personal satisfaction.

 

The shot is yours to take.

If you have Venus in Aries in your natal chart, your theme song is “Why Don’t We Fall In Love?” by Amerie You can listen right here:

*Reference: “Through The Looking Glass: A Search For The Self In The Mirror of Relationships.” by Richard Idemon

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Venus in Leo: “The Celebration of Love”

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For the individual with natal Venus in Leo, Love is a celebration. Love is a stage. Love is generosity, attention and the radiation of appreciation & warmth. Love is breathtaking. Love is “play”. Love is enjoyment. Love is creating something. Love is being yourself and accepting your partner as such. Love is recognition.

With this placement, there’s an inclination not only to want to be recognized for your uniqueness, but also offer that same gift to your partner. Praise, encouragement, and “cheerleading” are ingredients that keep the fires burning.

To the PEOPLE who have this placement: please understand that there’s absolutely nothing wrong with wanting to hear words of affirmation from your partner, be admired, and be appreciated for your specialness.

Make no mistake about it: this placement suggests that you’re the “star of your own show” and you value being the center of your own personal drama. because your life is your canvas and you’re going to paint it how you see fit.

Those with Venus in Leo are learning to harness their relationships as a means to greater creativity & self-expression. After all, the placement is “flavored” with the warmth of the Sun and designed to emit rays of “light” that invigorate & vitalize those with whom they come in contact.

In perusing for a definition of the word validation we find the following : “recognition or affirmation that a person’s feelings or opinions are valid & worthwhile.” this is what those with Venus in Leo seek to give and receive. Somehow, this has been blown out of proportion  and labeled as “overly dramatic”.

In regard to this placement, the ability to center oneself has largely been assigned a negative connotation. It’s important for Venus in Leo folks to know that to be preoccupied with one’s own affairs is natural. It only becomes an issue when you have promised something and you can’t deliver or have no intentions of doing so.

Venus in Leo is a lifetime education on the true meaning of self-esteem and self-confidence. You’re learning about a healthy regard for one’s character and abilities whose origins are internal. This severely debilitates the temptation to become addicted to external praise.

If owners of this placement should stray from an internally derived regard for self, there are chances that they can get trapped into the whirlwind of being manipulated by “pats on the back” from others and even end up interpreting the lack of constant praise as displeasure. This generates a vicious cycle of attention seeking behavior to restore themselves as #1 in the eyes of the person or people distributing the recognition. Developing the ability to self-congratulate is a strategy that’s essential for venus in leo people.

With Venus in Leo, you’re becoming additionally educated in utilizing relationships as a conduit for shaping YOUR life to its own creative ends. It’s essential that your alliances become an impetus for SHARING as opposed to an exercise in ego inflation or self-aggrandizement. If YOU, as the Venus in Leo person allow yourself to fall victim to the fallacy that there’s no supporting cast in your drama, you become an agent for the type of sunlight that blinds rather than the one that provides sustaining & nourishing energy.

All things being equal, the ideal partner for you is someone who lets you know unequivocally how great you are, but makes it clear- as a constant reminder- that you’re not the ONLY one in this world that’s great. There are other great people, too.

Also, like your fire sign counterparts (Aries & Sagittarius), you require a partner who understands your simultaneous need to indulge in passionate intimacy while harnessing the personal space required to develop consistent with your creative potential.

When it’s all said and done, to engage in the perpetual celebration of love for YOURSELF and your PARTNER is the aspiration, and you’re more than equipped to enjoy what your relationships have to offer while creating a unique and irreplaceable work of art.

If you have Venus placed in Leo in your birth chart, your theme song is “Adorn” by Miguel. You can listen here:

 

Venus in Pisces : “The Fantasy”

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As we explore the mystification that is Venus in Pisces, we do so with the understanding that Venus can’t be reduced or limited exclusively to “love” in one’s birth chart. There are far more associations which accompany the planet. However, for the purpose of this particular article, one’s idea of love, as viewed through the Venus in Pisces lens, will be emphasized.

For Venus in Pisces: love is boundless. Love is romantic. Love is imagination. Love is fantasy. Love is returning to the spiritual source. Love is not easily or clearly defined. Love is universal. Love is unconditional. Love is suffering. Love is sacrifice. Love is transcendence. Love is nirvana. Love is a sea of oceanic tranquility.

If you have this placement in your birth chart, the ways in which your societal existence has shaped your definition of what it means to love and be loved bears serious consideration. The question becomes:

“Who told me how I was supposed to feel when I was “in love”?

Venus in Pisces at its best suggests that love can be extended in a uniquely intimate way whose ingredients are unconditional acceptance, empathetic connection and captivating union. 

At it’s worst, self-deception via creating one’s version of reality despite concrete information (evidence) to the contrary and deletion of important details from one’s experience to avoid pain or discomfort can reign front and center.

This placement suggests that one can be fixated on ideals, and this lens contains its admixture of beauty and challenges.  Where Venus in Pisces is concerned, the Victim/Savior game can firmly plant its flag for as long as the hypnotic state of “love over everything” remains etched in one’s psyche.

An inclination to respond to the suffering of others without discrimination can easily lead to one’s own demise as one can only see the potential in another, rather than the infectious energy that’s contained in their state of peril. So while one thinks they’re “saving” someone else, they become so enveloped by the situation that their heart, and sometimes pocketbook is in dire straits when the smoke clears.

There’s a need to merge with a partner to feel a sense of ever-growing closeness. However, differences between individuals don’t have to be viewed as potential threats which will erode the cohesiveness of a relationship.

One of the key facets of the developmental potential of Venus in Pisces is gaining the ability to see oneself and ones partners (intimate or business) clearly.  Issues surface when there’s an insistence on thinking that always seeing someone at their best is a higher form of love than acceptance of human frailty and imperfection.

In addition, One of the challenges of the Venus in Pisces individual can not only be to assuage the disappointment when a loved one reveals themselves as a mere mortal, but to also confront a lack of compassion toward oneself , because of the sheer intensity of  effort that one has displayed in trying to live up to an unrealistic ideal of being the perfect partner, or “on” under all circumstances.

We now return to the question: “Who told me how I was supposed to feel when I was “in love”?

With Venus in Pisces, one can be particularly sensitive and impressionable toward subliminal messages of what love is supposed to be about. Music, movies, advertisements and a host of other outlets can have significant influence.

In its constructive sense, this provides a host of imaginative and creative outlets to build upon an ever expanding mosaic of human feeling. In it’s maladaptive state, these messages are swallowed up with no filter whatsoever and the conclusion is reached that if you don’t have butterflies in your stomach, can’t eat and sleep without another person and aren’t thinking about them 24 hours a day and 7 days a week, it must not be love.

Concerning the concept and feeling of interconnectedness that’s suggested by Venus in  Pisces, there can be the misconception that everyone shares the same ideals where love and relationships are concerned.

One of the larger lessons here is: establishing reasonable limits and boundaries between partners in no way takes away from the “magic” of a relationship. When it comes to the significant dimensions of relationships, solid definitions  can actually ENHANCE the enchanting dynamic that you’re seeking to keep alive.

For those with Venus placed in Pisces, your theme song is the remix of “Fantasy” by Mariah Carey featuring O.D.B. you can listen here:

 

 

 

Venus in Gemini: “The Choice is Yours”

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As we explore the carousel that is Venus in Gemini, we do so with the understanding that Venus can’t be reduced or limited exclusively to “love” in one’s birth chart. There are far more associations which accompany the planet. However, for the purpose of this particular article, one’s idea of love, as viewed through the Venus in Gemini lens, will be emphasized.

For Venus in Gemini, love is intellectual exchange. Love is Great conversation. Love is Mind stimulation. Love is flexibility and the ability to roll with duality. Love is witty and flirtatious. Love is youthful. Love is a trip to Barnes & Noble. Love is coffee shops and crossword puzzles. Love is watching “Jeopardy” in bed.

When interpreting and analyzing this planetary placement, it can’t be repeated enough times that planets or signs don’t “make” you act in any particular fashion. They don’t “do” anything to us, per se. What’s really going on here is that you’re being provided some food for thought concerning how to utilize your natal placement to develop into a more complete and fulfilled person.

For those with a Venus in Gemini placement, change is to be welcomed as a friend and not a threat. This placement suggests that the most auspicious avenues for the love principle to be expressed are through variety, curiosity, mental stimulation and adaptability.

There’s an enjoyment that comes with a fresh outlook and an attraction towards the new and a abhorrence toward stagnancy in personal relationships. If one isn’t constantly being exposed to newfangled insights, their interest soon begins wither and there becomes an immediate question as to whether such as association is necessary any longer.

With Gemini being a Mutable Air sign, a quicksilver swiftness is suggested. When combined with the Venusian principles, there’s a need for the individual to circulate. When one feels entrapped either physically or through stultifying ideas, staleness and psychological stench can set in.

It’s important for those with this planetary placement to consider the “elastic” nature that they require in a partner. Ideally, you want a best friend with whom you can indulge in conversations about a variety of topics and bounce ideas off of. This may come in the form of ONE person, or many.

However, the most important virtue for you to employ is complete honesty about what this package looks like for you coupled with the ability to communicate that to another person.

Venus’ placement in Gemini suggests that intellectual invigoration is a must and the “quiet and mysterious” may not be the move for you. Being truthful about how you’re wired can save you a lot of confusion. Consider that finding solace in the fact that “everything isn’t for everybody” is a long-term victory for you.

You need to be appreciated for your wit and multifaceted nature and this is actually the key toward your sexual arousal. For you, eroticism begins in the mind. You would much rather debate the current political climate of our country than be exposed to constant grand and romantic overtures (unless the totality of the birth chart indicates otherwise). In fact, your approach to sex may be a more cerebral one where discussion and research of sex may be just as, if not more exciting than the act itself. You may also have a mental “merry go round”  that will allow you the flexibility of entertaining certain sexual acts that you wouldn’t necessarily act out under other circumstances.

While the physical appearance of another isn’t to be discounted by any means, the qualities of verbal dexterity, sharp intellect and unceasing inquiry seem to weigh more heavily in your longer term attraction to another person.

As a Venus in Gemini person, one of your most pressing developmental challenges is to use your intelligence and penchant for questioning as a means to discovering the new when it comes to things and people that are “established”. so to speak.

To paraphrase Marcel Proust :

“The real voyage of discovery consists not in seeking new landscapes, but in having new eyes.”

With this natal placement, your theme song is : “The Choice is Yours” by Black Sheep. In the truest sense, as a Venus in Gemini person, you can get with THIS or you can get with THAT. You can listen right here :

Venus in Aquarius: “No Ordinary Love”

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As we explore the territory that’s Venus in Aquarius, we do so with the understanding that Venus can’t be reduced or limited exclusively to “love” in one’s birth chart. There are far more associations which accompany the planet. However, for the purpose of this particular article, one’s idea of love, as viewed through the Venus in Aquarius lens, will be emphasized.

For those people with Venus placed natally in Aquarius, Love is experimental. Love is custom-made. Love is unconventional. Love is rebellious. Love is humanitarian. Love is questioning societal definitions of love. Love is futuristic. Love is progressive.

Love is a lifetime course in liberation.

You’re being urged to seek and find you’re unique brand of “normal” on the spectrum of love.

On a deep level, your relationships are designed to function as an agent for the examination of your social programming and conditioning.

It’s not your business to subscribe to the typical norms concerning love and sexuality and the freedom to make choices based on your inner convictions is something that’s a prerequisite to opening the doors of your heart.

After all, your brand of love needs to be designed according to your own standards, and how can something that feels forced or coerced into qualify as genuine love?

For you, love can even be a form of healthy rebellion provided that you’re being unscrupulously honest with yourself about your intentions. You could say that it’s encoded in your DNA to question what most people allow to pass through their mental sphere without even so much as the slightest pause.

The developmental potential of Venus in Aquarius is rooted in knowing that you can, and most likely will shock and or offend those who may fancy themselves as being more “traditional” , and that’s okay. However, living this life doesn’t come without cost.

You must be prepared for the feeling of alienation, which can regularly be present as a result of your ideology. However, on the other hand, blind compliance to the “model citizen” myth will more than likely leave you mentally and emotionally incarcerated.

Perhaps a more compassionate and fair position towards yourself would be to always remember your reasons for choosing the specific relationships that you have chosen.

If you’re actively doing this work, then love becomes progress.

In order to pique your interest in relating to another, uniqueness and a pronounced investment humanitarian themes and causes must be central.

If one isn’t “different” in a clear way, interested in activating change in the world , and concerned with issues outside their front door, they don’t stand a chance with you.

As a matter of fact, as Astrologer Jeffrey Wolf Green points out,  for Venus in Aquarius individuals, people who represent a radical departure from what *they* are often stimulate their interest:

“Such a person is intimately attracted to those that are radically different. The sense or experience of passion is linked with intimacy being ignited because of the fact of being different, which ignites the curiosity of Venus in Aquarius. Because Aquarius as an Archetype desires to know how whole systems and structures are put together, the curiosity function thus creates a Venus desire to know how the individual system of someone whom they are intimately attracted to is put together in such a way as to make them different. Inwardly resonating together in their individual differences born of rebellion thus stimulates this type of Venus in Aquarius passion for individual intimate relationships.”

It’s important to mention that a typical dilemma that may face you in relationships is encountering someone who wishes to have you “all to themselves”.

What you require, is a partner that understands and supports the fact that whatever you are in the context of the relationship, you will continue to be for the ENTIRE world, and that the characteristics that you’re SO loved and appreciated for, that comprise the core of your very being, aren’t just limited to your interactions with the person that you’ve chosen to relate to on a longer term basis.

In order for your relational needs to be met, you must have the feeling that your influence is being spread on a wider scale than the circumference of your bedroom. Also, it would help if your partner is an ally with you in your pursuits, as this can serve as a point of intimate connection.

For anyone with this placement, it’s entirely possible that one of the worst moves that you can make is unceasingly surveying what everyone else is doing in their relationships as a measurement of how yours should be conducted.

Experimentation is in your DNA and it must be strongly considered that it’s far better to go that route than to wholly digest the mandate of a real or imagined “authority” figure that tells you: “this is THE way.”

When it comes to you in relation to the Venus in Aquarius placement, there’s no shame in being viewed as “out of the ordinary.”

However, you must guard in taking an aloof  and reactionary stance against others in the form of a superiority complex that reduces others to “sheep” and “followers”.

The same freedoms that you value so highly in regard to your relationships need to be honored and extended to others.

If you will choose  to utilize your capacity for openness, tolerance and your humanitarian bent, this is entirely possible.

If you have Venus placed in Aquarius in your birth chart, your theme song is “No Ordinary Love” by Sade. You can listen here:

Reference:  Pluto (Volume 2) The Soul’s Evolution Through Relationships by Jeffrey Wolf Green

 

 

Venus in Libra : “All in Love is Fair”

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For those with Venus placed in Libra natally, Love is sharing, cooperation and true partnership. Love is Beautiful. Love is the enjoyment of mutually stimulating activities. Love is “US”. Love is having everything in just the right place. Love is constant evaluation. Love is mutual grace. Love is peace.

Being interested is a way of life and this automatically leads the Venus in Libra native to be regarded as interesting to others. There’s a penchant for comparison with “the other half ” through viewpoints,counterpoints, weighing and evaluation.

In essence, the Venus in Libra person is discovering where they stand via human interaction. While some people like to socialize just for the hell of it, those with this placement are viewing the process of fraternizing more as a portal for SELF knowledge and awareness.

As I’ve said before : being born with a specific placement doesn’t automatically make you a certain way or cause you to exhibit specific behaviors. The “balance” that’s associated with the scales and Libra isn’t inherent. rather, this placement offers a lifetime course in equilibrium studies.

Where venusian themes are concerned, these folks have Libra as an “instructor”.Libra teaches that sometimes extremes are necessary to arrive at the point of balance. This applies both to living and the world of ideas.

This reminds me of an African proverb i once read which basically said when you bend a stick far enough in one direction, you have to bend it equally far in the other direction in order to make it straight again.

Venus in Libra folks are learning the practice of having to “pull on both ends” in their life in order to locate and maintain their center. so, they find themselves vacillating between frequent periods of socialization (in order to evaluate) and isolation (in order to process).

Both Taurus and Libra are Venus ruled signs and associated with the creation and maintenance of value, but with slightly different areas of focus. While Venus in Taurus is learning the art of creating & increasing value via partnerships, Venus in Libra is learning the importance of balancing the art of active participation in relationships with valuing oneself outside of the framework of the “other’s” evaluation.

A portion of the education for this placement rests in the understanding that it’s essential to be the one that emphatically and solidly places their “price tag” on themselves, in stark contrast to putting power in the hands of someone else to appraise their worth as a person.

If this isn’t done successfully, you’ll experience feelings of animosity that you’re only as “good” or “valuable” as what you can do for others. However, if the lesson is learned and internalized, you become a shining example of someone who shares themselves and  their resources ON THEIR OWN TERMS,  ONLY which are equitable to you.

Those with Venus in Libra are learning justice as it relates to themselves. With the inclination to forever explore what’s on “the other side of the tracks” as a display of non- judgment, they can easily disregard themselves in the process, negating the “fair shake” they most certainly need.

Speaking of “fair shakes”, fair & equal are the terms that i would use to describe the model of what those with this placement are seeking in their personal relationships. Although they realize all compromises aren’t of a 50/50 nature, the mutual trust & respect must be present.

It goes a long way in the development of the individuals with this placement to be able to learn to state their intellectual, emotional,  and sexual needs and desires unequivocally; to internalize the understanding that this is a form NOT of selfishness, but rather the VALUING of oneself.

If you have Venus placed in Libra in your chart, your theme song is “All in Love is Fair” by Stevie Wonder. You can listen here: