Honoring Venus In The Birth Chart: Your Personal “Love Jones”

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“Sister to the distant, yet risin’ star….Is your name Yemaya? Oh hell nah, it’s got to be Oshun….” – Larenz Tate “Brother To The Night” (A Blues For Nina)

Venus.

Yes, some of us know her by this name.  In tandem, she is Ma’at, the constantly achieved condition of and requirements for the ideal world, society and person.  Rightness, balance and harmony permeates her being. She is Ana, Anat, Aphrodite, Astarte, Ashtar, Aurora, Sachar, Eos, Ina  or Ishtar.

In the Yoruba realm, she is Oshun (Osun), the personification of beauty and sensuality. Not the pursuer, but the pursued. So lovely and enchanting that you don’t even have to set your gaze upon her to appreciate the form. Delicacy, refinement and taste are never strangers to her door.  Oshun has reduced feminine wiles to a science, and could’ve written Robert Greene’s “The Art of Seduction” with her eyes closed.

To quote the late, great Guru from Gangstarr :”she knows what she wants, and just how to get it.” According to a pataki, which is a sacred Yoruba story, Ogun, who was the God of iron in Orishaland, was banned from the city after a quarrel with his father. As a result, Ogun  decided to relocate Dolemite style: WAY down in the jungle DEEP !

So, now Ogun is ghost and the whole community is feeling it. There’s no quality iron in arms length and brighter days seem to be a thing of the past. But wait! Who saves the day? Oshun, knowing her own power, offers to spread honey all over her body to lure Ogun back to the city. She knows he can’t resist. Now, I think this was the “G” rated version, but long story short, : Iron making was brought back to humankind.

This story easily connects to the way Venus operates: the use of feminine power with the highest aims and ideals in mind.  Astrologically, Venus symbolizes the “team player” in all of us. Do we share? Play well with others? Can we live in harmony?

Also, it speaks to our desire to love others and be loved in return; a mutual exchange of the gift of happiness. Venus is the principle of attraction- most specifically in relationships. The sign where your Venus is located in your chart will give clues as to whom you may be attracted to and how you express this attraction.

As a general rule of thumb,  A Man’s Venus sign describes the traits of his “ideal” woman. There are other aspects, or planetary relationships which can modify this, but nevertheless, the Venus sign contains clues about what attributes turn a Man’s head. So, how do you express your love Jones?  I’ve brought some musical selections to help illustrate so we can get to the bottom of this.

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Venus in Aries

“Let’s Get it On” by Marvin Gaye ; “Let’s Git it On” by Smif-N-Wessun

If your Venus is in Aries, you want action. Plain and simple. You’re very independent and have no room for the plodders. Your love style is fiery, passionate and you heat up quick.  In a Man’s chart, this Venus placement says that he wants a woman with spunk who knows her own mind. Someone who has plenty of passions to immerse herself in whether he’s in the immediate picture or not.

Venus in Taurus

“Solid as a Rock” by Ashford &Simpson

Taurus wants to be comfortable. The bull seeks a union that’s both solid and enduring. Yes, she’ll take some flowers and a nice dinner. Candlelight is great too. However, you don’t have to take things over the top because of Taurus’ inherently earthy quality. What she really wants is for you to show her that you value the consistency of the relationship. Also, that you appreciate even the smallest gestures of affection and the efforts to assist in your comfort. In a Man’s chart, this placement says: I know you have a Ph.D, but common sense will win my heart. Simple doesn’t mean simple-minded, but could we take it easy on the Jung and Freud tonight? Thank you.

Venus in Gemini

“How Many Ways” by Toni Braxton; “What’s the 411?” by Mary J. Blige feat. Grand Puba

Variety and communication. The exchange of ideas. More than any other Venus placement, Gemini needs to be talked to and stimulated mentally. It’s advisable that you go ahead and purchase the unlimited minutes package on your phone, and while you’re at it, go ahead and buy a scrabble game and give up the 7:30 pm time slot for Jeopardy for the next few years. With Venus in Gemini, there is also some new and interesting topic to delve into in order to fuel the tremendous capacity for curiosity. When this placement is in a Man’s chart, he likes his women quick-witted, mercurial, versatile, youthful, well-informed and studious.

Venus in Cancer

“Come Close” by Common &Mary JBlige; “Tender Love” by Force MD’s

True intimacy is the cornerstone of this placement. Venus in Cancer wants their love Deborah Cox style: sentimental. All the better if you can create a safe, private nest for the two of you as a shelter from the harshness of the world. Venus in Cancer prefers a relationship where their needs don’t necessarily have to be implicitly stated all of the time.They figure that you’re close enough to them to intuit how they’re feeling. In a Man’s chart, this placement will rub your back softly as you cry watching “Beaches” for the 100th time. He wants a nurturer. His ideal woman is kind, sensitive, maternal, with an innate sweetness. A great listener and supporter.

Venus in Leo

“Spotlight” by Jennifer Hudson; “Flashing Lights” by Kanye West & Dwele

If you have Venus in Leo, you need to be a star. And not so much where everyone knows your name, but this absolutely has to be reality in your small kernel of the universe. Your deep sense of dignity and your thirst for unique, creative self expression follows you with every move you make, as it begs too be recognized. To boot, this personal pride is attached to your personal relationships. Nothing less than being the King or Queen will do. You need praise, admiration and recognition as numero uno. In a Man’s chart, it’s indicated that he wants that Queen. A Venus in Leo Man would like nothing more than to have a woman whom he can show off to the world. Complete with a sense of style, flair and drama about her. A woman who is large-hearted with time, energy and resources.

Venus in Virgo

“Flawless”by Phife; “Top Ten List” by Masta Ace Incorporated

While Venus in Virgo is not the astrological placement that will overwhelm you with passion, it’s a combination of utilitarian success. Venus in Virgo is the type of partner who will show you on an everyday basis, through the most practical ways, that they love you. Usually, Venusian Virgo’s are not big fans of public displays of affection, but are surprisingly lusty behind closed doors. Again, another way to show you that they care. Sometimes the downfall of Venus in Virgo is just being too downright picky. You have your list and your checking it twice for the perfect Man or Woman who never appears and you find yourself alone in a room staring at the wall and in the back of your mind hearing your conscience call. Men with this placement are typically attracted to highly intelligent, discriminating, outwardly prim and proper women. The Librarian who eats Dewey decimal for breakfast or the health advocate who will write you a dissertation on gluten-free foods or holistic healing techniques.

Venus in Libra

“Perfect Match” by Cella Dwellas ; “Real Love” by Mary J. Blige

In Libra, Venus is just thinking about how great it is to be back in one of it’s home signs. There is no placement which can top this one when it comes to the desire for a true partnership. The thought of shared activities and the social whirl excite those with Venus in Libra.

A sense of justice, fair play and cooperation stays in the forefront. Not to mention the thought of how “we” are going to look to everyone as a couple. This is not inherently a negative pondering. However, when overdone, you have two people who have morphed into this entity where no one is able to say their names separately anymore.

A Man with Venus in Libra would be attracted to a woman who is graceful, charming, tactful and very socially adept. Someone who has a pronounced interest in maintaining a relationship with love, peace and harmony as the building blocks.

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Venus in Scorpio

“Undying Love” by Nas ; “Tsunami” by Res

As many of us know, whenever Scorpio enters the picture it gets heavy. Venus and Libra has purchased all of the hallmark cards, so there is none left for this placement. Now…. it’s time to get down to the nitty gritty. The gut level. Scorpio is all or nothing, and if you choose all, they need you to prove it. Yes, they will gladly take payment in blood if that’s what you were wondering.

Venus in Scorpio possesses and insatiable desire for an intensity filled bond. Their idea of true intimacy is not glossing over the faults of one another, rather it is confronting hard core emotional truths about the root causes of issues. Not for the faint of heart, but monumentally transformative if you have the steel reserves to play in that arena.

A Venus in Scorpio man would be attracted to a woman who possesses a profound depth of character and a sense of mystery. Someone who refuses to skate on  life’s surface. She can be exposed to all of the refuse and garbage contained in the seedy underbelly of existence and not bat an eyelash. Yes, she is hard to come by and has many men saying “My tires don’t look THAT bad slashed, I needed a new set, anyway.”

Venus in Sagittarius

“Distant Lover” by Marvin Gaye; “Truth” by Dwele; “Joy” by Talib Kweli &Mos Def; “No Tears” by Pete Rock & Leela James

Venus in Sagittarius wants expansive love. Those with this placement are very enthusiastic regarding the object of their affection and would like nothing better to wax philosophical at 4 in the morning in a hostel in Prague.

They envision a partnership as a mutually mind broadening experience. They require the space and freedom to fly solo and require honesty and trust from their partner. What they are truly seeking is a friend. Heavy emotional demands are not their scene, as it can wear on their optimistic and naturally buoyant temperament.

Men with this placement are attracted to women who are well-traveled(physically or mentally), eclectic, philosophically inclined, open minded, with a great sense of humor. The inspirational type who fuels their fire to reach even greater heights.  High minded ideals permeate this placement, so a direct line to truth is paramount.

Venus in Capricorn

“Old School” by Doom & Talib Kweli; “Faithful” by Common feat. John Legend & Bilal

Venus in Capricorn takes their relationships very seriously. At it’s highest expression, there is the potential for a deep sense of duty and responsibility to their partner. A maturity that says: “I’m going to make this relationship work no matter what.” A unshakable integrity which aligns the consistency of thoughts, words and deeds. Sliding to the lower end, this becomes fear. Insecurity which ignites a need to dictate or control the partner motivated by an illusory, mis-defined “love”. If these fears can be diagnosed and treated, this  combination can serve as a model relationship to others. Men with this placement are attracted to women with ambition and a sense of purpose. Women with traditional values who are goal oriented and know the process of delaying short term gratification for more permanent, substantial gains.

Venus in Aquarius

“No Ordinary Love” by Sade “I got cha Opin” by Black Moon

Venus in Aquarius is wide open. Original, independent, avant-garde, non-conformist- you name it. They make their own traditions and it’s this very spirit which makes them so attractive to others. They do, however, require a considerable amount of freedom in relationships and it wouldn’t be a bad thing if the union was a tad bit unconventional. Unless other facets of the chart strongly mute this placement, this is not a white picket fence type. Venus in Aquarius wants to convey the message that they accept you for who and what you are. They just ask that you truly do the same. Venus in Aquarius men are attracted to original Women. Those who are ahead of their time and unafraid to stick out. Bold women who live by their own code and have firm, logical reasons why they do so. Quirky? Offbeat? Well… the Venus in Aquarius man can dance to that rhythm.

Venus in Pisces

“Love No Limit” by Mary J. Blige; “Infinite Possibilities” by Amel Larrieux

It is very fitting that I began this piece with a photo from “Love Jones”, which is one of my favorite movies. If I had to assign an astrological placement to the film, Venus in Pisces would surely be it. Poetic Love. The type of love that enchants you and envelops you in it’s rapture. You no longer know (or care) about the time on the clock or the day of the week. Just lie here with me and keep blissing out. Let’s go watch the sunrise… no the sunset…. no the full moon. Sharing intimate, innermost thoughts. The Visions and possibilities are endless, but is it real? Can it stand the test of time when the wind blows and steals the haze of euphoria only to purchase reality? Men with Venus in Pisces are attracted to artistic women. Women that know imagination is the biggest nation in the world. Poets, mystics, spiritual seekers. Venus in Pisces men will embark on that journey in a heartbeat.

©2013 by Sagittarian Mind Consulting

Honoring Jupiter In Your Birth Chart : “We All Need a Little Church”

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The symbolism of the Jupiter archetype is quite vast. Most commonly, the planet has been associated with the energies of expansion and abundance. As the largest planet in the solar system, anything which is of “mega” proportions could reside under Jupiter’s domain.

In addition, Jupiter is associated with religion. When we read or hear that word, there seems to be an instant formulation of a conclusion. However, I would like to discuss Jupiter’s link with religion in a much wider context; not as attached to any particular doctrine or dogma, but as a form of healing that’s offered within the spirit of the planet.

Proceeding from the premise that “religion” is: a general set of beliefs about life and what it means and locating the origins of the word which range from  “ligure”,  which is: to bind or connect. Or, re-ligure: to re-connect or bind fast, and also regligio, which can be translated into: “respect for what’s sacred,” is an excellent place to begin the discussion.

Many of us associate religion with some type of church. Apparently the English word “church” was derived from older forms of the words chirche and cirice, and from a Greek phrase “kuriake oikia”, which means “the lord’s house.” (source:www.biblepages.net/gg06.htm)

Jupiter represents the “church” inside every one of us, who reside as the lord over our spiritual domain. It’s our inner “guru” or wise person. The voice which assists us in our pursuance of higher ideals and consciousness.

Additionally, Jupiter symbolizes growth in both the physical and the intellectual spheres of life. The planet’s energy is associated with aspiring to the maximum heights of potential, irrespective of the specific endeavor.

In 2004, I was fortunate enough to come into contact with “Church”, a song by legendary hip-hop group De La Soul. (produced by 9th Wonder). I think this is an excellent representation of Jupiter’s potential for actualization in all of our lives.

“Aiyyo, wake up! Wipe the sleep from ya eyecracks, It’s time to focus y’all, fix ya I-MAX
In other words, listen to the brother’s words
Ingest these anecdotes with HOPE
and ya ass, may learn how to COPE !”

The Jupiter archetype suggests an infusion of faith. That the moment we’re living in is bright. Using this frame of reference, we can tap into our well of hope that the next moment, as well as tomorrow can be progressively luminescent.

“I’d rather see you graduate the school year
Black folk, go put a book in ya face
But first give the hook a taste
Bring the preacher in!”

Heal! Heal, y’all!
We comin’ healin’! {It’s real!}
It’s real! {It’s real!} It’s real!
It’s realer than real, realer than real….

Higher education is an area which fits perfect with Jupiter.

So, “putting a book in your face” for not only Black people, but everyone is one of the essential methods of raising awareness about ourselves and the larger world around us. Learning to operate as citizens of the world and participate, through thought and action, in endeavors which stretch our cultural comfort zones as a means to creating a telescopic lens.

The hook to this song mentions healing, and I don’t think Jupiter is given it’s just due when it comes to these energies.

Typically, the planets most associated with healing are Neptune and Pluto, but I’d like to offer up that Jupiter’s energy infuses its own brand of healing via elevation and levity. Through idealism and appealing to the highest and best of the human spirit. People struggle through the week dealing with work, finances, family and relationships, and what’s one place they go to get “healed” at the end of the week?

CHURCH.

“You need to make your own choice, be your own voice. Set ya soap-box up, let your talk fight. Pull ya socks up, get ya walk right.”

As mentioned earlier, Jupiter is the place in ourselves which we locate in order to serve as our own guide. Cultivating faith in ourselves along with listening to our intuition allows us to access higher knowledge and wisdom. Hence, the “good fortune” that Jupiter is so readily associated with. However, it must be said that this “luck” comes with effort, and favors the well-prepared.

” But explore deep and you’ll the find the seed
Plant more ether, get your mind free
We roll passsionate, put your lights last in it
You’re holdin fear too close, unfasten it!”

Jupiter’s energy is open not only to risk, but the constant sense of optimism and confidence that life will work out for us in the way that we absolutely need it to. This attitude allows us to sense and rely on a greater plan being at work; an underlying meaning in the arrangement of the universe.  We begin to see the synchronicities and interrelationships. The “seeds” which are indicative of the larger patterns of our lives.

“Ain’t nothin’ wrong makin’ that bread wid’it
But don’t let the bread get to ya head, geddit?
Admit it, when you can’t stand alone
I wanna stand up, give all the pretend up”

On the not so flattering side of Jupiter, we have greed, excess and puffery, or an exaggerated sense of self-importance.

The old self-righteous “do as I say, not as I do.” complex.  In order to utilize the planet most effectively, we must certainly remain constantly aware of its dysfunctional side.

We’ll never know everything. We need to remember that we’re first and foremost students of the cosmos before we’re teachers. Part of “giving the pretend up” is to excercise humility as an embodiment of wisdom. After all, if we know so much, we would understand that everyone is treading their own span of ground trying to make their life work.

And that’s realer than real, realer than real…..

Take a listen :

©2015 by Sagittarian Mind Consulting

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Honoring Mars In Your Birth Chart : Your Personal Power

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Concerning Mars in our birth chart: I don’t think its importance gets emphasized enough being that its symbolic of our desire nature and the brand of power and energy that we summon to reach goals and confront the tasks that we face on an everyday basis.

Mars has a relationship to how we express the “masculine” part of us (irrespective of gender) and apply our will. also, our fighting and defense style. the mars in our chart is what’s best suited to accomplish the totality of our work here.

We tend to put ourselves at a disadvantage when we judge the planets in our chart as opposed to attempting to understand them more and how they fit into our overall framework. it’s similar to arriving at preconceived notions about a person without getting to know them.

Mars’ sign in our birth chart is similar to a war strategy. there is beauty in all 12 ( and more variations of that 12) of them as well as the type of “weaponry” that suits us the best. tapping into our mars can also improve and heighten our sex life because we can get more in tune w/ our raw, primal desires.

Also, I think it’s antithetical to fear our Mars energy. Mars is connected to the principle of action. It’s forward moving, initiating, generating & creating if we allow it to be. when we cower & refuse to recognize the warrior within, we’re without a doubt, dishonoring our mars. If we ask ourselves what type of energy and strategy we need to face life’s challenges, look to MARS. if we ask ourselves the most effective way to go about pursuing what we want, look to MARS.

We can even obtain more information about WHERE we need to spend that time and energy by looking at the house that our Mars is located in. this is all information that you can google.

“Cutting through the bullshit” isn’t the exclusive property of one planet or sign. so, this would certainly prove to be a feature and benefit of a healthy Mars. so would the ability to stand up for oneself and accept one’s true desires. When we feel taken advantage of, pushed around, controlled undervalued, etc… THIS is when we need to re-examine our relationship to what MARS represents in our birth chart. perhaps we need to re-establish contact.

All things considered, Mars is a planet that “works” to secure or defend its advantage. optimally, it puts energy toward noble motives & recognizes higher principles in its operation and can make the distinction between selfishness & self-interest. For some of us, it’s a matter of re-igniting mars. for others, it’s about recognizing what tools we have right in our midst. like: “hey…. do you know what to DO with that?” i encourage people not to allow this to remain dormant.

Your Mars sign and aspects to it can also clue you in to experiences/activities that would best suit you in regard to exerting & distributing your drive and energy. the value of mars rests in the premise that self-assertion needs to be pointed in a productive direction.

Elementally, Mars in air sign’s weaponry is intellectual & communicative. fire sign’s Mars arsenal is intrepid creative expression. while Mars in water sign’s tools are connected to emotional power, Mars in earth sign’s are directed toward building material & tangible structures.

Although Venus is typically associated with relationships, when we’re employing mars correctly, there’s generally a DIRECT and unabashed quality in how we relate to ourselves & others. and then, a specific refinement or flavoring based on the style of mars that suits us best.

Our mars isn’t placed in the sign it is by coincidence. it’s what’s most appropriate for our life purpose(s) & the work we’re asked to do in embodying what our chart looks like symbolically “unfolded”

Honor your MARS.

Aquarius Sun, Pisces Moon

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Where there’s unity, there’s also room for diversity.

You’re most definitely fueled by the aspirations of being your own person, but there’s also a need to tap into the collective consciousness; to be a part of something greater than yourself.

For you, fulfillment lies in dissolving all of the petty and artificial barriers which cause us from solving universal problems.

Often, you may feel a tension of sorts. Specifically between merging and individuation. Emotionally, the idea of submerging your ego in service of greater ideals appeals to you. However, you wont feel sane if you’re not allowed to bring this world the creative gifts that YOU and ONLY YOU can.

If not careful, you can cop to victim status. Distancing yourself from doing your real work and claiming that no one understands you. So, it’s important for you to understand that to rebel, or go against the grain may create a certain distance because everyone isn’t ready for the concept of radical change.

One of the potential lessons contained in this Sun/Moon blend is: to join together in a common cause, everyone doesn’t have to be the same. In fact, differences need to be recognized.

You fall into a trap when you think that to make a difference in this world and affect social change, you have to be a carbon copy or replica who purchased a “revolutionary kit” for $19.95 containing certain cookie cutter phrases, prescriptions, ideologies, physical items and so forth.

If you want to maximize your potential, you can be the spokesperson who distributes the message that everyone looks at things in a slightly different manner, and through that uniqueness of perspective, a multidimensional view is formed, which arms us with more possibilities in curing what ails our basic humanity.

You can let the world know that individuals are present to strengthen the group.

What will you contribute to the masses that’s innovative?

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Leo Sun, Aries Moon: “Hot Like Fire”

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This Sun/Moon combination can be summed up by the phrase:  “hot like fire”.

Risk? No problem.

I know…. I know…. Why don’t we propose something that’s actually a CHALLENGE to you? You’re probably very familiar with the Jay-Z line : “difficult takes a day, impossible takes a week.”

Your true aspirations are fueled by recognition; of having others KNOW who you are because there’s so much creativity and SO many gifts enveloped in your overall self-expression.

Your Sun/Moon blend suggests an emotional need to have an impact on the world. To champion a cause with all of your passion and might, so that you win the war within yourself. To SAY you were there is never enough for an individual with this combination. There needs to be no doubts whatsoever about where and HOW you made your mark.

There’s potential to summon a warrior like courage to compete with yourself in becoming a personification of leadership. In addition, an opportunity to unearth a beaming, iridescent sense of confidence.

It’s important for you to understand that it could be difficult for others with a lower key orientation to adjust to your fiery style, and your charisma is best used in a generous and motivational capacity rather than allowing oneself to become a spectacle. If this is the case, you’ve gotten the cause confused with overblown distortions of the ego.

Realize that your ultimate strengths are packaged in the ability to yield flexibly and compromise so everyone has the opportunity to win together versus hijacking the victor’s circle to add to your collection of “hardware”.

Your theme song is: “Hot Like Fire” by Aaliyah

You can listen right here :

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Venus in Cancer : “The Safe Haven”

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For Venus in Cancer natives, love is warmth and security. Literally, “Love is a House”, Love is emotional nurturing and support. Love is acceptance. Love is a family by blood or worldview. Love is a cozy “nest”away from the madness of the world. Love is protection. Love is active listening. Love is sensitivity. Love is making room for vulnerability.

In the world of Cancerian Venusians, one of their deepest yearnings is to feel as if someone expended the time, care and energy to actually understand them. true connection is something that they value immensely and don’t take lightly.

As a matter of fact, when we speak of ANYTHING cancerian, the themes of emotional security automatically arise. for them, security means something that’s not in doubt. something that they can count on, something they can trust & something that leaves them no fear of being exploited or manipulated.

To nurture is to help things and people grow. the individual with this placement wants nothing more than relationships based on a commitment to MUTUAL nurturing. You’ll most likely see the “claws” of the crab only if they feel the emotional energy they lay out isn’t being reciprocated.

What the Venus in Cancer person values is something or someone that provides a sense of belonging. In relationships, someone they know that’s committed to creating and maintaining a safe space where they can listen and be listened TO and they can be themselves without judgment or ridicule.

There’s a wispy, whiny “crybaby” stereotype of this placement (as well as other Cancer ones) that needs to be scrutinized more closely or put away. For the tenacity of the crab has few equals. A combination of gut -level shrewdness & acute perception keeps them on point.

A major developmental lesson for those with Venus in Cancer is that of self-nurturing. It’s key that you develop a private space inside yourself that you can return to as a “sanctuary” of sorts. Although connection to others is important, to be a good partner to oneself is a non-negotiable.

In several respects, those with Venus in Cancer are adept at fostering the elements of what would be deemed the “complete” relationship. Offering the warm, cozy nest of safety and unconditional love. The recognition of the full gamut of emotions and feelings. The inclination to intuit a partner’s spoken and unspoken needs. Attention paid to “the little things”. Promoter of the private, intimate “just between me and you.” bonds.

While this sounds fantastic, another EQUALLY IMPORTANT developmental lesson for those with Venus in Cancer involves “helping” and “caring as a form of creating obligations in other people. If not careful, this can manifest as subtle, indirect manipulation. So, you want to make sure that EVERYTHING you do derives from the emotional truth.

Further instruction includes learning how to receive the same affection you provide and avoiding the unconscious creation of one sided relationships. Furthermore, understanding the warning signals and dangers of holding something or someone TOO tightly and confusing that behavior with love.

For the Venus in Cancer person, it’s important to claim your gifts of sensitivity, the ability to read emotional undercurrents, the ability to anticipate the needs of others, intuition and “mirroring”. It’s just as significant that you avoid projecting these on those close to you.

Understand that you’ll need to resist “clapping back” at others that say you have “too much” of the aforementioned qualities. Even if you’re unable to articulate your feelings in the moment, know that your internal radar has chosen to focus on a person or a situation that requires your attention. As a result of this, you must follow the rabbit hole until you get the answers that you require. For you, in most cases, when something doesn’t feel right, it usually isn’t.

At it’s best, Venus in Cancer can operate as a demonstration of the ideal feminine (irrespective of gender). and one who is capable of harnessing emotional support in quantity and quality with a relational style that’s sincere, soulful and heartfelt.

If you have Venus placed in Cancer in your birth chart, your theme song is : Come Close” by Common featuring Mary J. Blige. You can listen here:

Venus in Aries: “Shooting Your Shot”

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As we explore the territory that’s Venus in Aries, we do so with the understanding that Venus can’t be reduced or limited exclusively to “love” in one’s birth chart. There are far more associations which accompany the planet. However, for the purpose of this particular article, one’s idea of love, as viewed through the Venus in Aries lens, will be emphasized.

For those with Venus placed in Aries in the birth chart, love can be a battlefield, where you want to be number one with no question. Love can be a feeling of having to “fight ” for the object of your affection. Love is passionate involvement. Love is fiery. Love is independence. Love is victory. Love is risk.

Love is “shooting your shot”.

You have the potential to be the the “Love Warrior”.

Ideally, you have little problem being the initiator in forming relationships because (1) you don’t believe in wasting time and (2) there’s a dynamic thrust of identity projection at work. For you, personal relationships are a source of constant renewal, and the litmus test of the ones that serve you is how much motivation you feel to maintain them.

Independence is another key theme for you. Learning the lesson that: working in your own self-interest and selfishness are two different things will be of immense value to you in your journey.

When Archetypal Aries energy is present in intimate relationships, there’s a tremendous focus on impact: On the effect they’ve had on the other person. The continuous question is :”what’s new?”

A static existence without mutual independence is as debilitating as it gets.

The gist of an Aries infused relationship is: “take your resources and explore the world, and I’ll do the same.” Then, we’ll come back and share insights in a manner that benefits us personally and collectively.

In general, what you can provide and also what you expect from another, is a straightforward and shame-free manner of relating. Emotional directness doesn’t have to be a problem.Typically, this is a person who’s more concerned with affirmation of their being than apologizing for it.

Because of the focus on identity development, what the Ram seeks in a partner is someone who has found a source of  passionate involvement and stimulation for *themselves*.

Venus in Aries understands that to be deeply focused on what you love is to feel connected to the collective life force.

On a healthy level, the Venus in Aries individual desires to “push” their partner to fulfill potential. Always looking for ways to encourage stretching out of their comfort zone.

Dysfunctionally, they become obsessed with competition, feeling as if they have to continuously be “one up” as a source of psychological satisfaction.

Another appropriate question for Venus in Aries is: “How do I keep the fires burning?”

Aries energy is undoubtedly challenged with maintaining enthusiasm in relationships. With the natural ebb and flow of life, the initial “heat” which is automatically present in the beginning stages of a union must subside or take on a different form.

So, what will it be?

Do you choose air to fan the flames of your passions? More fire to set the world ablaze? Water to create steam? Or, earth to bring structure to your aspirations?

Great astrology raises effective questions.

Ultimately, no matter what you choose, know that you can, and are supposed to have an impact on your partner.

You have the capability to become a master motivator and a source of “juice”. Not only by your powerful words, but your life lived as a personal demonstration of how an identity and belief in a cause unfolds over time.

Venus in Aries also suggests a person that’s not adverse to risk in relationships.

Now, we return to the theme of  fearlessly going after the type of relationships which authentically suit your way of being: a.k.a.”shooting your shot”

Many years ago, I had the pleasure of coming across the work of Richard Idemon, an Astrologer who passed away in 1987. I picked up a copy of his book “Through The Looking GlassA Search For The Self In The Mirror of Relationships.”

One of the first ideas which captured my attention was that of our most fundamental need in human relationships being the re-validation of our basic myths. 

We all have a “story”, or mythology of sorts that we carry around with us. This basic psychic ground is a significant contributor to our sense of self.  As a result, the patterns which we consciously or unconsciously create are those which are going to keep co-signing on our basic myth.

Those relationships which we may feel less comfortable, or even highly unsettled are those which challenge our basic ground.

However, if growth and evolution in relationships is what we truly seek, we must ultimately head in this direction.

There is an excellent example given in this book regarding the physical territory of animals, which can directly be applied to the psychic territory of human beings.

All animals have a basic physical territory that they will not deviate from. Even when chased by a larger, more fierce animal, which is sure to eat them alive, they will not leave this territory. In fact, the animal in question will run until he/she can’t run anymore and double back into the jaws of the pursuing animal rather than leave it’s comfort zone.

If we apply this same logic and scenario to our human relationships, we now see that most of us would rather be “eaten alive” psychically largely due to our need for safety. Pushing ourselves into the unknown constitutes a psychological death. So, in our discomfort, we resist change with all our might.

What we may have failed to realize is that we won’t be able to evolve into any relationship which does not support our existing myths.

If our mythology casts us as unlovable, undeserving, fearful human beings, our relationship patterns can’t reflect anything else. The only people that we’re able to accept into our worlds at this time are going to be continual confirmers of that reality.

Even if genuine love hit us head on like a Mack truck, we would not realize it, nor could we appreciate it because of our insistence to clinging to these outmoded patterns.

It’s only when we decide to renovate and expand our personal mythology that we’re able to open our universe to a broader array of possibilities.

There are two examples given of very different relationship models. The first model is the static model and the second is the erotic model.

With the static model, the basic intent is to stay safe. To avoid risk.  As long as there are no major shake- ups, everything will be all right. “Mrs./Mr. Jones and I have been together for 30 years and everything is in it’s place just the way I like it.” However, the question remains: have you and Mrs./Mr. Jones really been together 30 years, or just one year 30 times over?

 The erotic model is far more riskybut the potential rewards are much greater.
 Having Venus in Aries natally, the erotic model of relationships is much better suited to your inclinations.
The question is: are you up for the challenge?
The prime goals of the erotic relationship model are: intimacy and growth, variety, openness to change, open communications, trust, varied and shifting roles, independence, and adult-adult relating. The author goes on to suggest that there are probably ten percent of people who have a sufficient amount of the erotic in their relationship to keep them on their toes; to have them aiming towards deep bonding and personal transformation. As you peruse this food for thought, it may help to take inventory of your personal relationships and ask yourself where you fall in the spectrum.
What are the primary goals of your relationships? What do the relationship patterns that you’ve attracted into your life say about your personal mythology and your basic groundDo you wish to embark on the journey of changing your myth? If you’re not entirely happy in where you stand in this area, please understand that you can  begin anew with a legend for yourself which reflects the highest possibilities for creating the types of relationships which will enhance the quality of your life and ultimately contribute to your personal satisfaction.

 

The shot is yours to take.

If you have Venus in Aries in your natal chart, your theme song is “Why Don’t We Fall In Love?” by Amerie You can listen right here:

*Reference: “Through The Looking Glass: A Search For The Self In The Mirror of Relationships.” by Richard Idemon

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Venus in Leo: “The Celebration of Love”

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For the individual with natal Venus in Leo, Love is a celebration. Love is a stage. Love is generosity, attention and the radiation of appreciation & warmth. Love is breathtaking. Love is “play”. Love is enjoyment. Love is creating something. Love is being yourself and accepting your partner as such. Love is recognition.

With this placement, there’s an inclination not only to want to be recognized for your uniqueness, but also offer that same gift to your partner. Praise, encouragement, and “cheerleading” are ingredients that keep the fires burning.

To the PEOPLE who have this placement: please understand that there’s absolutely nothing wrong with wanting to hear words of affirmation from your partner, be admired, and be appreciated for your specialness.

Make no mistake about it: this placement suggests that you’re the “star of your own show” and you value being the center of your own personal drama. because your life is your canvas and you’re going to paint it how you see fit.

Those with Venus in Leo are learning to harness their relationships as a means to greater creativity & self-expression. After all, the placement is “flavored” with the warmth of the Sun and designed to emit rays of “light” that invigorate & vitalize those with whom they come in contact.

In perusing for a definition of the word validation we find the following : “recognition or affirmation that a person’s feelings or opinions are valid & worthwhile.” this is what those with Venus in Leo seek to give and receive. Somehow, this has been blown out of proportion  and labeled as “overly dramatic”.

In regard to this placement, the ability to center oneself has largely been assigned a negative connotation. It’s important for Venus in Leo folks to know that to be preoccupied with one’s own affairs is natural. It only becomes an issue when you have promised something and you can’t deliver or have no intentions of doing so.

Venus in Leo is a lifetime education on the true meaning of self-esteem and self-confidence. You’re learning about a healthy regard for one’s character and abilities whose origins are internal. This severely debilitates the temptation to become addicted to external praise.

If owners of this placement should stray from an internally derived regard for self, there are chances that they can get trapped into the whirlwind of being manipulated by “pats on the back” from others and even end up interpreting the lack of constant praise as displeasure. This generates a vicious cycle of attention seeking behavior to restore themselves as #1 in the eyes of the person or people distributing the recognition. Developing the ability to self-congratulate is a strategy that’s essential for venus in leo people.

With Venus in Leo, you’re becoming additionally educated in utilizing relationships as a conduit for shaping YOUR life to its own creative ends. It’s essential that your alliances become an impetus for SHARING as opposed to an exercise in ego inflation or self-aggrandizement. If YOU, as the Venus in Leo person allow yourself to fall victim to the fallacy that there’s no supporting cast in your drama, you become an agent for the type of sunlight that blinds rather than the one that provides sustaining & nourishing energy.

All things being equal, the ideal partner for you is someone who lets you know unequivocally how great you are, but makes it clear- as a constant reminder- that you’re not the ONLY one in this world that’s great. There are other great people, too.

Also, like your fire sign counterparts (Aries & Sagittarius), you require a partner who understands your simultaneous need to indulge in passionate intimacy while harnessing the personal space required to develop consistent with your creative potential.

When it’s all said and done, to engage in the perpetual celebration of love for YOURSELF and your PARTNER is the aspiration, and you’re more than equipped to enjoy what your relationships have to offer while creating a unique and irreplaceable work of art.

If you have Venus placed in Leo in your birth chart, your theme song is “Adorn” by Miguel. You can listen here:

 

Venus in Pisces : “The Fantasy”

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As we explore the mystification that is Venus in Pisces, we do so with the understanding that Venus can’t be reduced or limited exclusively to “love” in one’s birth chart. There are far more associations which accompany the planet. However, for the purpose of this particular article, one’s idea of love, as viewed through the Venus in Pisces lens, will be emphasized.

For Venus in Pisces: love is boundless. Love is romantic. Love is imagination. Love is fantasy. Love is returning to the spiritual source. Love is not easily or clearly defined. Love is universal. Love is unconditional. Love is suffering. Love is sacrifice. Love is transcendence. Love is nirvana. Love is a sea of oceanic tranquility.

If you have this placement in your birth chart, the ways in which your societal existence has shaped your definition of what it means to love and be loved bears serious consideration. The question becomes:

“Who told me how I was supposed to feel when I was “in love”?

Venus in Pisces at its best suggests that love can be extended in a uniquely intimate way whose ingredients are unconditional acceptance, empathetic connection and captivating union. 

At it’s worst, self-deception via creating one’s version of reality despite concrete information (evidence) to the contrary and deletion of important details from one’s experience to avoid pain or discomfort can reign front and center.

This placement suggests that one can be fixated on ideals, and this lens contains its admixture of beauty and challenges.  Where Venus in Pisces is concerned, the Victim/Savior game can firmly plant its flag for as long as the hypnotic state of “love over everything” remains etched in one’s psyche.

An inclination to respond to the suffering of others without discrimination can easily lead to one’s own demise as one can only see the potential in another, rather than the infectious energy that’s contained in their state of peril. So while one thinks they’re “saving” someone else, they become so enveloped by the situation that their heart, and sometimes pocketbook is in dire straits when the smoke clears.

There’s a need to merge with a partner to feel a sense of ever-growing closeness. However, differences between individuals don’t have to be viewed as potential threats which will erode the cohesiveness of a relationship.

One of the key facets of the developmental potential of Venus in Pisces is gaining the ability to see oneself and ones partners (intimate or business) clearly.  Issues surface when there’s an insistence on thinking that always seeing someone at their best is a higher form of love than acceptance of human frailty and imperfection.

In addition, One of the challenges of the Venus in Pisces individual can not only be to assuage the disappointment when a loved one reveals themselves as a mere mortal, but to also confront a lack of compassion toward oneself , because of the sheer intensity of  effort that one has displayed in trying to live up to an unrealistic ideal of being the perfect partner, or “on” under all circumstances.

We now return to the question: “Who told me how I was supposed to feel when I was “in love”?

With Venus in Pisces, one can be particularly sensitive and impressionable toward subliminal messages of what love is supposed to be about. Music, movies, advertisements and a host of other outlets can have significant influence.

In its constructive sense, this provides a host of imaginative and creative outlets to build upon an ever expanding mosaic of human feeling. In it’s maladaptive state, these messages are swallowed up with no filter whatsoever and the conclusion is reached that if you don’t have butterflies in your stomach, can’t eat and sleep without another person and aren’t thinking about them 24 hours a day and 7 days a week, it must not be love.

Concerning the concept and feeling of interconnectedness that’s suggested by Venus in  Pisces, there can be the misconception that everyone shares the same ideals where love and relationships are concerned.

One of the larger lessons here is: establishing reasonable limits and boundaries between partners in no way takes away from the “magic” of a relationship. When it comes to the significant dimensions of relationships, solid definitions  can actually ENHANCE the enchanting dynamic that you’re seeking to keep alive.

For those with Venus placed in Pisces, your theme song is the remix of “Fantasy” by Mariah Carey featuring O.D.B. you can listen here:

 

 

 

Venus in Gemini: “The Choice is Yours”

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As we explore the carousel that is Venus in Gemini, we do so with the understanding that Venus can’t be reduced or limited exclusively to “love” in one’s birth chart. There are far more associations which accompany the planet. However, for the purpose of this particular article, one’s idea of love, as viewed through the Venus in Gemini lens, will be emphasized.

For Venus in Gemini, love is intellectual exchange. Love is Great conversation. Love is Mind stimulation. Love is flexibility and the ability to roll with duality. Love is witty and flirtatious. Love is youthful. Love is a trip to Barnes & Noble. Love is coffee shops and crossword puzzles. Love is watching “Jeopardy” in bed.

When interpreting and analyzing this planetary placement, it can’t be repeated enough times that planets or signs don’t “make” you act in any particular fashion. They don’t “do” anything to us, per se. What’s really going on here is that you’re being provided some food for thought concerning how to utilize your natal placement to develop into a more complete and fulfilled person.

For those with a Venus in Gemini placement, change is to be welcomed as a friend and not a threat. This placement suggests that the most auspicious avenues for the love principle to be expressed are through variety, curiosity, mental stimulation and adaptability.

There’s an enjoyment that comes with a fresh outlook and an attraction towards the new and a abhorrence toward stagnancy in personal relationships. If one isn’t constantly being exposed to newfangled insights, their interest soon begins wither and there becomes an immediate question as to whether such as association is necessary any longer.

With Gemini being a Mutable Air sign, a quicksilver swiftness is suggested. When combined with the Venusian principles, there’s a need for the individual to circulate. When one feels entrapped either physically or through stultifying ideas, staleness and psychological stench can set in.

It’s important for those with this planetary placement to consider the “elastic” nature that they require in a partner. Ideally, you want a best friend with whom you can indulge in conversations about a variety of topics and bounce ideas off of. This may come in the form of ONE person, or many.

However, the most important virtue for you to employ is complete honesty about what this package looks like for you coupled with the ability to communicate that to another person.

Venus’ placement in Gemini suggests that intellectual invigoration is a must and the “quiet and mysterious” may not be the move for you. Being truthful about how you’re wired can save you a lot of confusion. Consider that finding solace in the fact that “everything isn’t for everybody” is a long-term victory for you.

You need to be appreciated for your wit and multifaceted nature and this is actually the key toward your sexual arousal. For you, eroticism begins in the mind. You would much rather debate the current political climate of our country than be exposed to constant grand and romantic overtures (unless the totality of the birth chart indicates otherwise). In fact, your approach to sex may be a more cerebral one where discussion and research of sex may be just as, if not more exciting than the act itself. You may also have a mental “merry go round”  that will allow you the flexibility of entertaining certain sexual acts that you wouldn’t necessarily act out under other circumstances.

While the physical appearance of another isn’t to be discounted by any means, the qualities of verbal dexterity, sharp intellect and unceasing inquiry seem to weigh more heavily in your longer term attraction to another person.

As a Venus in Gemini person, one of your most pressing developmental challenges is to use your intelligence and penchant for questioning as a means to discovering the new when it comes to things and people that are “established”. so to speak.

To paraphrase Marcel Proust :

“The real voyage of discovery consists not in seeking new landscapes, but in having new eyes.”

With this natal placement, your theme song is : “The Choice is Yours” by Black Sheep. In the truest sense, as a Venus in Gemini person, you can get with THIS or you can get with THAT. You can listen right here :