Venus in Capricorn: “Undefended Love”

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As we explore the structure that’s Venus in Capricorn, we do so with the understanding that Venus can’t be reduced or limited exclusively to “love” in one’s birth chart. There are far more associations which accompany the planet. However, for the purpose of this particular article, one’s idea of love, as viewed through the Venus in Capricorn lens, will be emphasized.

For individuals with the natal placement of Venus in Capricorn, Love is solid; you can take it to the bank. Love is enduring . Love is order. Love is structure. There are “rules” to love. Love is responsibility. Love is commitment. Love is a test. Love is integrity. Love is discipline. Love is work. Love is maturity, and like fine wine, gets better with time.

Love is the neutralizing of one’s defense mechanisms in order to open up the heart space.  In the words of Edwin Louis Cole:

“Boundaries are meant to protect life, not to limit pleasures.”

Two essential developmental questions for those with Venus placed in Capricorn would be: (1) What are my ultimate responsibilities in regard to my intimate relationships and (2) How can I become a model of integrity in my relationships allowing thought, word and deed to masterfully align?

It’s clear that this is a serious situation when the fulfilling of Venus’ relating needs are sought by way of the Saturn-ruled Capricorn environment. However, in this case, serious merely means that it requires immediate and skillful attention.

Contained in this placement, is an overarching strength in understanding the importance of delayed gratification and the awareness that REAL and ORGANIC relationship processes take TIME and WORK. If there’s anyone capable of sustaining long-term relationships, it is you.

In order to successfully navigate this placement, one must be willing to exert the necessary effort towards fostering which will likely be fewer relationships (as compared to many) of quality, substance and depth.

The focus here is not light and unfettered social butterfly-ism (see the elaboration of Robert Greene’s rule 16 in his “48 Laws of Power, which states that “too much circulation makes the price go down.”), but rather the establishment of solid foundations with others that build bridges of trust, honesty and mutual respect.

To facilitate this process, it’s key to understand the all important part that the lowering of one’s defenses and self-revelation plays in its overall effectiveness. For Venus in Capricorn, the thawing of a natural reserve can be difficult for a few reasons.

Concerning the more maladaptive expressions of Venus in Capricorn, Astrologer Jeffrey Wolf Green introduces a possible theory which outlines delayed emotional development and an intense blockage, constriction and compression of one’s feelings, as a result of induced guilt from the parental relationship:

“The Venus in Capricorn person has typically been born into family structures in which the parental reality has been defined by the consensus of the society in which they live. Consequently, the parental reality has typically had a heavy undertone in which the child has been expected to conform to the parental value system. When the child deviated from these expectations to conform, he or she was made to feel guilty in covert or overt ways through the use of judgment. A related dynamic within the general pattern of expectation to conform to parental values is one wherein the parents have projected on the child a rigid code of conduct that the child is expected to adhere to even when the parents themselves do not. The cliché “Do as I say, not as I do applies here.”

What can be gathered from this is that the Venus in Capricorn individual may have witnessed, and or been a part of an environment where vulnerability, open affection and free relating were not top priorities, but rather ” conditional love from a distance” and an authoritarian stance reigned supreme.

When we consider how this may filter into ones intimate relationships at worst, we arrive at an unremarkable need to “manage” one’s image and relationships borne out of an excessive fear of rejection or feeling inadequately “prepared” to participate in relationships. The compensation for this is to view relationships as a “game” where strategic moves, or having a “one up” carry more value than a mutual sharing of intimate feelings and thoughts.

Nevertheless, for those with Venus in Capricorn the universe’s call is for them to participate in the process of “undefended love”, a term coined by Marlena Lyons and Jett Psaris:

“Intimacy-direct, unmediated, heart-to-heart connection with ourselves and with others-can only occur when the heart is undefended. To cut through our personal differences, to reach the unveiled part of ourselves that is deep enough to express the most profound and untamed aspects of our being means learning how to love and be loved without defenses and without obstructions. It means cultivating the capacity to be emotionally present even when we feel exposed or vulnerable; learning to relinquish the many strategies we have employed to feel safe and in control; and finding the courage to love without guarantees or requirements.”

Like anything else, these things take time. So, it wouldn’t be fitting with the Saturn and Capricorn archetype, if one was expected to snap into this mode of being overnight. However, the greater lesson which can be learned through conscious and active participation with this placement is :

When you, the Venus in Capricorn individual, keep your heart open, you’re able to continue an unrestricted conversation with the source which moves you toward loving and constructive actions as well as healthy choices which will nourish you emotionally.

It’s important for you to keep your “feeling portals” open, as well as your mind, and to be consistently receptive to the myriad of life’s experiences.

Developing an inner dialogue with yourself allows you to stay in the “driver’s seat” and define your own experiences and attitudes when it comes to life, love, and relationships.

If you allow unpleasant experiences with one (or more) individual(s) to control the manner in which you live and love moving forward, you’ve essentially “given up the wheel” in favor of living in perpetual fear and doubt.

It’s vital that through your growth you increase your awareness.

And, it’s gravely important for you to avoid using temporarily unfavorable outcomes as a platform for beating up on yourself. A more constructive move would be to combine your newly discovered insights with your inner wisdom and allow the synthesis to reflect in your unique life perspectives moving forward.

Even through your pain and heartbreak you will discover a marvelous teacher. Pain shows us where our limits are, allowing us to say “ouch”.

If nothing led you to this point, how would you know what hurts? Better yet, how would you know when enough is enough?

As horrible as you may have felt (or may be feeling) during trying times, if you wish to fully participate in life and loving in the most authentic sense, sooner or later, you must risk the same painful emotions resurfacing in your life.

You could possibly spend the rest of your days attempting to employ more sophisticated tactics of pain avoidance, projection, self-protection, and the like. However, by all indicators, this is not what you truly desire to do.

With Venus in Capricorn, one of the best case scenarios is that you’ll arrive in a place which demonstrates that neither genuine honesty and vulnerability or healthy human boundaries restrict you from experiencing the love and relationships you crave and deserve.

It is through these boundaries that you maintain and preserve your self-love and respect while simultaneously allowing yourself to reach out and offer the key to your heart, as a sacred gift, to another.

References: “Undefended Love” by Jett Psaris and Marlena Lyons. “The 48 Laws of Power” by Robert Greene. “Pluto Volume 2: The Soul’s Evolution Through Relationships” by Jeffrey Wolf Green

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Venus-Neptune Aspects & Erotic Fantasy

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From an Astrological perspective, it’s understood that it’s impossible to reduce a planet to exclusively ONE theme or function. This article is written from that perspective.

Although the planet Venus isn’t strictly about sex, it’s definitely part of the sexual “network” and included in that network  is the EROTIC.

Erotic is defined as: “relating to or tending to arouse sexual desire or excitement.”

In combining Venus with the planet Neptune, which is connected to one’s imaginative faculties and that which is largely invisible, we have a seductive and enthralling combination when it comes to sex. One which is frequently done, but is discussed less, and that’s sexual fantasies.

For those with Venus-Neptune aspects within their birth chart, their sexual life can manifest as a bit of a paradox: one is yearning for the most spiritual and transcendent type of love which includes unconditional acceptance and the revelation that there is a greater, all-unifying reason to be with a partner.

However, simultaneously, one’s mind and imaginative apparatus can be willing to entertain fantasies which have no limits or boundaries involved in what excites or titillates.

In other words, all of the typical constructs that are solidly in place in what we call REAL life, begin to diminish within the framework of the Venus-Neptune imaginative constructs.  There seems to be a correlation with enhanced arousal and free-flowing  ideas where sex and eroticism are concerned.

The way Venus-Neptune aspects can operate in a constructive sense is that a person has the opportunity to explore their sexual and erotic landscape on a broad level and discover that it’s connected to much more than the physical act itself. In fact, one may feel as if they don’t even NEED to engage physically with another person and the rich carousel of the mind will do just fine.

On the flip side of the coin, one must be careful not to succumb to the deceptive portion of Neptune which manifests as a convincing that there’s no value in the power of the tactile.

When this aspect is navigated well,  physicality, sensuality and a fluid imagination all take their rightful place and get their just due.

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Mercury-Mars Aspects

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When Mercury and Mars combine in a natal chart, this suggests a blending of one’s intellect with assertion and the application of will. This particular person is intent on using their mental capabilities to compete and win, and sometimes at all costs.

One of the reigning questions which this blend proposes is:

“what can I DO with this thought?”

Using this aspect successfully, one would take what they know and act on it. This is not necessarily what would be considered a ponderous combination as there can be abrupt speech which may even be labeled as rude by some, and an indicator of impatience.

However, there is a certain urgency to learn which may manifest as a request to “get on with it” or “get to the point”. Information or explanations that are “roundabout” in nature aren’t what they’re looking for.

When well developed, this can be the debate champ.  Highly skilled in verbal dexterity with an instinctive sense of where to “hit” in order to drive their points home while commanding attention for their intellectual prowess.

In it’s maladaptive state , Mercury-Mars can manifest as someone who has the audacity to chronically interrupt others because they think what they have to say is so much more important. Or, an individual who uses words as a violent weapon to purposefully injure others.

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Sun-Mercury Aspects

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For those who don’t know, Mercury travels close to the Sun. So, at any given time, the two entities can never be more than 28 degrees apart. I’ve heard of many people who say they don’t “feel” like their Sun sign discovering later that they have Mercury in that sign since the only possible aspect between these two is the conjunction.

With the Sun blended with Mercury, there’s no separation between what provides one vitality and the tools of perception, learning, communication and analysis.  Knowledge of oneself and the world figure heavily in the formation of one’s identity. Thoughts are essential to this person’s life force.

In the Bible, in the book of proverbs, there’s a passage that reads: “As a man thinketh in his heart, so is he”. That sentiment is perfect for this aspect.

However, the difficulty occurs when the individual can’t distance themselves from the opinions that they hold and think that things MUST be a certain way because they say so.

A potential strength which can be developed is cultivating a mind of one’s own and wanting your thoughts and ideas to genuinely exemplify effort toward your intellectual development.

After all, a mind is a terrible thing to waste.

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Mercury in Cancer

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With Mercury natally placed in Cancer, one’s inclination is to use the intuition as an informer to the direction that one’s thoughts need to take.

The person with this placement needs to think and communicate emotionally, as well as distribute messages which provide security to others. There’s an indirect bent to one’s speaking style and they’re able to pick up on subtle and underlying messages contained in non-verbal behavior that many of us miss. There’s strength here in imagination as well as a retentive memory which primarily contains a myriad of feeling responses rather than hardcore facts and figures.

The M.O. is to foster a sense of connection through interaction and the goal is developing intimacy, which means that a feeling of honest knowing surfaces as a result of  contact with others. Again, another strength with this placement is the ability to empathize and provide safe, non-judgmental spaces designed for open emotional expression.

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The Importance of Loving Our Astrological Makeup : “All The Stars”

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© 2017 by Sagittarian Mind Consulting

“The most common form of despair is not being who you are” – Soren Kierkegaard

With the flurry of astrological information circulating the internet, making the distinction between what is valuable, helpful and potentially injurious can be a labor intensive process. If you’re wide-eyed, bushy tailed and have just discovered Astrology it can be particularly off putting to read a random article on a website which says you’re destined to live your life in dire straits or emotional bondage because of a placement or aspect in your birth chart.

In fact, based on the feedback I receive on a regular basis, the manner in which Astrology as a whole is characterized and presented can significantly impact the cosmological lens through which we process information.

Astrology which is inclined to shock or create a fearful emotional response can leave a person believing that they’re like a puppet : resigned to the fate of the stars, just biding their time on earth, susceptible to the wrath of certain transits or “no-win” situations regarding their chart.

With this in  mind, the next step is often a psychological attempt to denounce one’s cosmic makeup;  to wish that we had an entirely different birth chart than the one that we’re blessed with.

Damage control begins. Instead of seeking the most honest and accurate depiction of ourselves and leaving room for growth and self- discovery, we may attempt to “adjust” our charts toward the interpretations that we’ve found that “aren’t so bad”, or use the house system which doesn’t necessarily depict our current reality, but contains placements that now seem to distance us from  or soften someone else’s largely negative and hazardous interpretations.

I want to make it clear that I’m an advocate of people loving their birth charts. Whatever gifts, challenges and dilemmas which are present are meant to assist you on your journey to developing into a more complete human being. When we wish for our birth chart to “be like someone else’s” because of what we’ve read on the web regarding “good” and “bad” placements or aspects, exaltations, falls, detriments and the like, we rob ourselves and the world of a unique synthesis and expression of cosmic energy.

I can’t place enough emphasis on accepting the gift that the universe has brought you.

Once we’re able to “step into” our birth charts with loving acceptance, and  without the voice of harsh criticism or judgment, an entirely new door window of potentials will make themselves known. After acceptance, we begin seeking information and knowledge which is conducive to building us up, not tearing us down. We can certainly become aware of our own challenges and limitations as human beings without loathing our astrological makeups.

When it comes down to it, it’s really a matter of choice. We can choose to dwell on the “woe is me” interpretations that are around virtually every corner, or we can take a different route which seeks meaning and brings a sense of order to our lives.

I encourage you to be aware of the potential dysfunctions of planetary placements and aspects, but also understand that there’s another side where these SAME placements and aspects can be directed in a manner which accelerates growth and produces maturity so that we may lead richer, more multi-dimensional lives.

The universe loves you. Love it back.

All the stars are closer:

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Moon-Ascendant Aspects

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Those with Lunar aspects to the Ascendant in the natal chart tend to involve acute perception, self-protection, intuition and emotional security needs as ingredients in processing their life experience.

Their strength resides in a deep awareness of the “fields of energy” that may surround them at the time. An example would be: they could potentially walk right into a room and feel the “vibe”, whether that’s joy, animosity, anger or lightheartedness. With this aspect reigning in one’s chart, a person would need to come to terms with these facets of their being and cease feeling like they have to explain to other people why they have a gut feeling, or to why they’ve decided to follow the guidance of their inner promptings.

While the Moon-Ascendant person is forever filtering their experiences on the basis of searching for “safe ground”, they’re perfectly capable of providing a secure, intimate space for other people to feel understood and fully listened to in a non-judgmental manner that exudes a warm and caring touch.

The developmental potential here is rooted in the premise that other people will open up to you based on their comfort level and you may be able to extract genuine responses from others couldn’t because your strategies lend themselves toward encouraging confiding and revealing confidences.

An often overlooked component of the Moon is its relation to roots, culture, heritage and ethnicity. With a connection to the Ascendant, these factors could also flavor the way that you perceive the world around you.

For example: if you’re an African-American Woman, you may find a need to incorporate that “lens” into the way that you see the world and this may be a necessary frame of reference from which all of the information that you contact is evaluated. (This example can surely be extended outside of this context, so feel free to insert examples which suit your particular situation).

When  integrated in a healthy manner, those with this aspect have projected themselves into the world with warmth and as someone who truly cares about people. The challenge comes with understanding the need to preserve one’s emotional resources as to have some left for the self-care that is an essential ingredient to one’s health.

Problems arise when you feel depleted because you’ve given support and time so extensively and begin to feel like so little has been extended to you in return.  The message here is that ultimately, your security base must be your own inner core.

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Aries Sun, Capricorn Moon

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In this world of shortcuts and quick fixes, we’re constantly being sold a narrative that we can get something for nothing. “Buy Now!! Pay Later!!” , is what the billboard reads. Or, the “go to” phrase of “work smarter, not harder” has permeated our psyches.  This isn’t to say that there’s no validity in handling tasks efficiently, or employing strategies that assist in maximum productivity. However, with all of this taken in consideration there’s still an understanding that someone has to get their hands dirty and do the actual WORK.

That someone is YOU.

What ignites your spirit and maintains your vitality, is the thought of making a significant impact in the world. Hence, your ultimate goal is to make a bold statement which puts an exclamation point on your right to exist and thrive as a human being. This work is done by owning your emotional need to achieve, and produce something tangible that you can constantly use, as a life structure, which reflects the diligence of your efforts.  The optimal environment for you to embark on this mission is one that contains strategies, organization, discipline, integrity and mastery as essential ingredients.

To understand that, in the world of goals, anything worth having rarely comes fast or easy, is something that you’ll need to file away both mentally and emotionally, and refer to often. Instituting the “love of labor” is a practice which can set you apart from other people, which is where you want to be. The more you’re able to “throw your hat into the ring”, with tasks and experiences that summon courage and calculated risk, the more life energy you’ll acquire.

In addition, it’s extremely important to banish the demons of fear and doubt which will attempt to tap you on the shoulder and tell you that something is wrong with you and you’re “behind the rest of us” because you’ve made the conscious choice to put in the work to get what you want. Remember: your efforts are designed to stand the test of time. If your work is solid now, the foundation which you’ve produced won’t be shaken by the first passing breeze or even more severe storms.

With your Sun/Moon combination, another valuable theme for you will be opening the door to that part of yourself which is “in charge”, and able to handle people and things. All too often, we project these qualities on others only to say: “I wish I was like that.” Or, “If only I possessed that type of assertiveness and bravery.”

GUESS WHAT?  You merely need to locate it.

Part of your work here is to allow yourself permission to desire: to want what you want without shame or guilt. After all, you have both the Sun and Moon in Cardinal signs. There’s an initiating,  spearheading and driving quality to Cardinal signs, complete with a goal-orientation.

Combining the innate enthusiasm and passion of fire and the persistence and common sense of earth, you can create a recipe for someone whose achievements, along with the life they’ve built for themselves carries the torch of endurance and valor.

There’s not much mystery in your music here, as your Sun/Moon theme song is “Work” by Gang Starr. You can listen to it right here:

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Aquarius Sun, Aries Moon: “Revolutionary Warfare”

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For those with this Sun/Moon combination, a portion of your liberation rests in taking the risk that deviating from the norm isn’t, in itself, a negative concept. In fact, the word “deviance” is simply defined as :

“The fact or state of departing from usual or accepted standards.”

For you, it can’t be stressed enough, not to confuse equality with sameness.

Your internal dialogue needs no outward sources of motivation as there is always some type of “competition” to be better, and more of what you are attempting to push itself toward fruition.  The prescription for your growth comes embedded in the realization that the emotional need to battle or wage war must be constructively directed and connected to something that’s much larger than yourself.

Simultaneously, there’s the recognition that you’re nobody’s clone and a generous portion of your own flavoring must be added to all that you do. It will certainly prove helpful to analyze to what ends your rebellion serves. An honest assessment should guide you toward the tempering or intensification of your behavior. It’s worth remembering that there’s a fine line between one who skillfully questions societal convention with a definite purpose and strategy in mind and a “crackpot revolutionary”, who’s hell-bent on operating half-cocked just to prove she or he isn’t “like the rest of us.”

Being able to make the distinction between emotional engagement and emotional entanglement is a crucial step in your development. It’s essential to neutralize erroneous beliefs surrounding your ability to feel, and that feeling working to your advantage.

Passion and strength of conviction are specific and necessary instruments of power and reflectors needed in your personality to accomplish your work of radical change and emancipation of self and others.

Check out “Revolutionary Warfare” by Nas:

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Aries Sun, Virgo Moon : “Bravebird”

You’re a bravebird
Of the rarest kind
You may be one of the walking wounded
But still you fly
You’re a bravebird
You put yourself on the line
When you shared your secret with the world
You saved another mother’s child

 

Within this solar/lunar arsenal the message is clear: you can’t paralyze yourself by waiting for conditions to be “perfect” before you take action.  Your fuel is self-assertion and plunging yourself into experiences which illicit courage of the highest order. The only question is: will you accept the challenge?

The emotional need of the Virgo Moon is to clear out the cobwebs and eliminate any impediments to taking bold action and making an impact in the world. This includes taking risks which put your “comfort” on the line.

Essentially, to shine as a leader and pioneer you need to be acutely aware of what is and isn’t functioning properly.

With this combination, the head and the gut can work together as mutual informers. To make calculated and measured assessments is wise for you, but not to the point where  you talk yourself out of following through on your plans. It’s important that you realize that life holds no guarantees that your efforts will be justly rewarded or rewarded at all for that matter.

In the face of this knowledge, you have an opportunity to actively participate in life and say that you left it all on the playing field as opposed to being the “armchair quarterback” who critiques the moves and decisions of others , but because of fear, anxiety and a relentless inner critic never allows  her/himself to discover the stuff of which they’re truly made.

Roll the dice.

As an Aries Sun, Virgo Moon, Your theme song is Amel Larrieux’s “Bravebird”.  You can listen here:

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