The Zodiac Signs: 12 Developmental Paths

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For most of us, the art of Astrology has been simplified into a few “keywords” which describe personality or behavioral characteristics for each sign.

We’ve dug into Cosmo’s “Bedside Astrologer” or read Thelma Balfour’s “Black Sun Signs” and discovered valuable information in regard to how our signs operate in many different facets of life. So, we’ve learned how sexy Scorpio’s are, but never to cross them. Or, that your Cancer woman will have the house in order and dinner on the table at 6 pm. Even to never trust a Sagittarian with a secret, or to exercise extreme caution against allowing a Leo to borrow your mirror.

While all of these anecdotes have their place, it can become very deductive and limiting to human beings whose main focus consists of self-actualization and evolution. Our Sun signs are not only descriptive in the way that they offer insight into character, but they also represent twelve different paths of evolution and development.

Ladies and gentleman: your birthchart is not a mistake. Yes, we want to trade in our 12th house planets or our Moon in Capricorn, but these placements were bestowed upon us for a reason. Our charts are like a celestial toolbox. Given the situation, we need to be able to pull out the correct instrument. Life would be pretty tough if we looked in our containers and all we had was a set of twelve Ginsu knives when all we need is a hammer for that pesky nail. Our Sun represent the “skin” that we are growing into in this lifetime. The sign that we were given represents the most effective method, style or path of growth and development.

If your Sun is in Aries, you’re walking the path of the warrior. Initiating and acting courageously. Sometimes you have to embark on your journey alone. However, you’re flexing muscles that you never even knew you had. It’s not that warriors never become afraid; they just don’t allow this temporary fear from paralyzing their ability to take effective, decisive action. As an Aries Sun, you are straying from your path when you become too impulsive, acting in a “knee jerk” manner without thinking. Or, you fail to realize that the most intense competition will always be internal.

With the Sun in Taurus, you’re on the path of the builder. Stable and grounded. Using your common sense. Developing persistence to solidify and maintain a structure which “works”. Knowing that slow and steady wins the race and accuracy can never be sacrificed for speed. You have strayed from the builder’s path when you become too rigid. Using familiarity as a crutch
instead of a foundation. Making assessments of value based on how much “discomfort” or change will be involved.

If your Sun is in Gemini, you’re walking the path of the informer. The skin that you must grow into is that of a distributor of valuable information to humanity. You must “get the word” out and use a wide variety of communication methods. Network, make connections and become a “jack
of all trades”. Versatility is your middle name. The title of “eternal student” is your birthright. Your curiosity serves as a guide to keep you open to fresh ideas and perspectives. You have strayed from this path when substance regresses to gossip, trivia and idle chatter. Or, when your connections, become lost in ultra breezy superficiality. When you become compulsively addicted to skating on the surface of life because it’s so “fun”, it may be time for a self-check.

With the Sun in Cancer,  you’re on the path of the protector. Instinctively knowing what to do to make those around you most comfortable. Calming, soothing and nurturing. Letting those that you love and care about deeply know that you have their back. Creating a “safe space” for them to return to whenever they require such care. Embracing your family, whether biological or ideological and supporting your race, country and tribe. You’ve strayed from the path when the “itis” of nostalgia overrides the ability to be objective. When you become obsessed with the past and cranky because you’ve forgotten to create the same secure haven for yourself as you
have for others.

If your Sun is in Leo, you’re walking the path of the performer. Lights, camera and action. It’s time for you to shine. There is a deeply ingrained “star quality” bursting at the seams to be released. The skin that life is calling for you to grow into consists of maximizing your powers of self expression and allowing the world to stand up and take notice of who you truly are. Choosing to enjoy life in a playful and childlike manner. Exercising your sense of wonderment while maintaining a fundamental internal dignity. You stray from the path when you can no longer distinguish your true self from the “roles” that you’re playing. When you become compulsively addicted to praise and approval and your need for external stimuli has reached an all time high and you have to google “introspection.”

With the Sun in Virgo, you’re on the path of the perfectionist. You excel at being able to view the whole and dissect the parts. Amazingly adept at separating the genuine from a” fugazi”, you’re being called to step into any situation and use your powers of observation and analysis and improve the status. You stray from your path when others become “fix it” projects. Or, when you become self critical because you’re so obsessed with what you’re not, or what you “should be” instead of using your energy to actually become that.

If your Sun is in Libra, you’re walking the path of the moderator. You’re a natural at building bridges and alliances. Always appearing in your best light. The ultimate diplomat and “representative.” Charm and grace will never be strangers to your door. You possess extraordinary and refined aesthetic taste.Your’re being called to serve as a artistic authority in whatever area of life that you choose. You stray from your path when you become a chronic ‘fence sitter” when it’s time to choose sides. Or, when an unpleasant truth is necessary and you become too much of a “TACT-ician” instead of offering valuable assistance.

With the Sun in Scorpio, you’re on the path of the healer. Innately equipped for heavy, intense emotional experience. You eat realities for breakfast that would make the hardest thugs crawl up in a corner with a baby bottle. You’ve been through the trials of fire and have emerged reborn and ready to school these mere mortals on “transformation 101”. Life is calling you to fly at your highest heights because you’re well versed in the lowest depths.You stray from your path when you use your piercing insight to sting, manipulate or indulge in power games or emotional blackmail. When you use knowledge to “devour” rather than feed others.

If your Sun is in Sagittarius, you’re walking the path of the wise teacher. You are the embodiment of a true “Renaissance Man” or Woman. Your eclectic telescopic worldview is something to behold. Well-traveled and thirsty for all of the knowledge and experience that life has to offer, you turn expansion into an art form. Your guru-like ability to see the wholeness of life and the big picture deserves a round of applause that would make your Leo cousins blush. However,  you stray from your path when you think you have the copyright on truth. Yeah, you just know it all, don’t you? Well, let’s talk with your friends who paid for your bail. Or, your cousin who wired that money to Vegas so you could get back home to be at work on Monday morning. Dogmatism should not be your forte. Yes, Sadge you can get off your soapbox now.

With the Sun in Capricorn, you’re on the path of the achiever. You have a natural gift for organization which allows you maximum productivity. Because of your capacity for discipline and restraint, getting work done has never been an issue. In fact, you assume a natural executive like authority that makes it extremely easy to respect you. You are being called to embody timeless principles which are revealed in your outward status and success. The skin
you’re supposed to grow into is that of one who produces a tangible product that is worthy of his or her ambitions. You’re deviating from your path when you allow yourself to become cold, controlling and unfeeling in order to become “somebody” in the eyes of society. So, you’ve climbed that mountain and reached the pinnacle. Sadly, you’re all alone. Where did all the “slackers” go?

If your Sun is in Aquarius, you’re walking the path of the revolutionary. You’re being called to shake humanity out of their comfort zones. It’s you who needs to pose the questions regarding if people think and act the way they do because of societal dictates. Testing others and reminding them that walking familial, racial, political and social “party” lines can be poisonous to their mental health and registers at “rock bottom” on their freedom meter. Your skin is that of the catalyst and reformer. Forming perspectives to liberate those stuck in a proverbial rut. You’ve strayed from the path when true change becomes a novelty and you advocate being different just for the hell of it. When you’ve become a slave to rebellion and can’t recognize that your bondage is just as problematic as the person who’s constrained by the chains of convention.

With the Sun in Pisces, you’re on the path of the mystic. There is an ethereal quality that colors your aura so richly that when people ask you where your from, they’re not expecting to receive your answer in the form of a city, state or country. You have access to realms of the mind and spirit that most of us can only read or speculate about. Highly intuitive, you’re being called to be “above the clouds”. Your skin is comprised of exercising your gifts in selfless service to humanity and checking your ego at the door. Through your super powers of imagination and visualization, you can create in solid form. Dreams and symbols are as comfortable to you as that old faithful pair of slippers. You stray from your path when the world you create is mired in deception, haziness and smokescreens. When you choose to be the victim rather than the victor and use your fingers exclusively as pointing instruments in order to relinquish ownership for negative situations which are clearly of your own making.

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Astrological Compatibility & The “3 Dynamics” : A Broader View

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When traveling the road of Astrological compatibility, much of the writing I’ve read implies a point of view which excludes what I would call “holistic energies”, from the picture.

There seems to be more of an emphasis on whether “this sign works with that sign” rather than how intimate relationships can be part of a gateway which serves our total development.

So, the focus becomes whether Scorpio and Sagittarius “get along” versus what types of relationships are necessary to grow into the type of people we’re supposed to become.

One of the things I discuss frequently with clients are three dynamics, which are simultaneously individual, yet inseparable.

When considering what a truly “compatible” union actually means, all of these passages must have the potential to flourish:

(1) The dynamic of personal development– When we’re dealing with questions of compatibility. It’s essential that we ask about our own potential to develop within the framework of the relationship. Often, we find ourselves wildly attracted to the prospect of being involved with a partner only to discover later on that the coupling stifles, rather than nurtures the person we’re aspiring to be. In essence, we find ourselves trapped. While one part of the relationship may be “adequate”, we feel a certain discontent which could possibly morph into animosity, because we’re well aware that we want to maximize our gifts on a wider scale.

(2) The dynamic of the “other’s” development–  Much of what was just said now applies to the other person (or people) we may be relating to. The questions we must ask ourselves now center around if we’re providing adequate space and support for our partner(s) to grow. Due largely to our conditioning, we may feel that we should now receive exclusive “priority” in every possible situation because we’re in a relationship. However, the fact remains that our partner had goals and objectives which were completely outside of us before we met, and it’s most likely that they still do. We now have to question our capacity to develop strategies which make room for and encourage them in their pursuit of self-expression.

(3) The “shared” dynamic – This ebb and flow deals with synergy. Everything we are as a “couple”. Our collective philosophy and mission statement of the relationship. It’s what we wish to produce as a “team”, and the energy we enjoy when both people have been pursuing their self-actualization and bring it back into the fold as a tool for learning and instruction, as to strengthen and expand the union. Also, questions emerge as to what type of relationship we’re expressing to the community at large. We ask how us being together helps to affect the lives of others, and what our aims are, if any, for adding to the advancement of the collective.

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I’m putting forth the idea that compatibility be viewed in a much wider context than it has been, or else we’re most likely selling ourselves short from a holistic view.

When we ignore the totality of our being, we can easily create room for significant imbalances to creep into our relationships. We may love being with our partner, but suddenly realize we have “no life” outside of her/him.

Or, we may become so caught up in outside pursuits that we don’t effectively prioritize that special time needed for cultivation of our relationship.

In addition, we could become so engulfed in presenting a “front” to society as a “power couple”, managing our image to appear in a certain light, and forget all about the larger purpose of why we came together.

Truly effective astrology produces many more questions for further exploration than hardcore answers. I’m inviting all of you, who may be involved with a partner(s), or thinking about embarking on the journey of an intimate relationship, to carefully consider this food for thought and digest what you see fit and eliminate what doesn’t serve you at this time.

 

The Cancer-Cancer Relationship

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Features and Benefits: You both speak the same language when it comes to intimacy, and it doesn’t have to be conveyed in the form of a 200 page thesis- it just “IS”. Even if there’s a misunderstanding, it’s felt immediately and the giving nature of the union gives way to soothing the issue a.s.a.p., so the warmth, peace and security you both seek can be restored pronto.

Wow… that sounds great, but we all know it’s not the entire picture.

Where there are pools of emotion, sometimes things can tend to get a little clouded. So, we must remember that our personal reactions to things may give us INFORMATION, but not necessarily the whole story.

You both understand the language which I mentioned earlier due to your innate sensitivity to emotional undercurrents. Because you both aspire to creating safety, you may retreat to your private islands in your mind and heart until you feel like there’s no threat.

Your disagreements may indeed stem from what you both feel nurtures true security. Is it a promise or a vow? (till death do us part?) A ring? A family, or two people with steady incomes?

The “golden seal” in this union is a mutual agreement that it’s never in doubt, that issues can be worked on even if they’re tough. The minute that one person (or both) create doubts about being counted on…

Well… you know the rest of the story, folks.

©2017 by Sagittarian Mind Consulting

Cancer Sun, Aquarius Moon : “Looking Back to Move Forward”

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One of the most challenging parts of our unfoldment as human beings is undergoing the process of developing into autonomous people. Staking the claim of our own identities outside of the structures which can either serve as liberating forces or stultifying traps: family, educational institutions, friendships, racial groups, gender roles, etc……

Around Adolescence, which is roughly between the ages of 12 and 18, the desire to have our unique personhood validated and affirm ourselves a distinct individual is intensified.

We want to create our own codes, live by independently established values and put our original stamp on our life patterns. Most likely, we’re not solid in exactly who we are at this point,  so the freedom to try on many hats and experiment with various identities is paramount.

There are a number of tension filled conflicts which arise during this stage: peer pressure, the beginning of consistent contact and relations with the opposite sex, major concerns about body image, attractiveness, popularity and the dilemma of “fitting in” or “standing out”. 

To think that all of these polarities, complete with consistent points of crisis will be resolved neatly and cleanly by our 18th birthday is a fantasy. The process has merely started…..

The combination of  the Cancer Sun and Aquarius Moon highlights the anxious, uncertain yet exciting and electric oscillation between remaining rooted and forging forward; between the past and the future.

In a natal (birth) chart, when the Sun is in Cancer and the Moon in Aquarius, the individual is fueled by emotional and familial security. The core life energy seeks the familiarity of a tribe of like-minded individuals. The Cancerian energy is inclined to seek bonds and connections with others whether they’re “blood”, or simply because their ideologies and worldviews click.

It should also be mentioned that the dysfunction of Cancer attunement is manifested behaviorally as the inability to release these bonds, thereby holding others (and themselves) as emotional hostages. The motivation behind this behavior is often because they feel they’ve given so much of themselves through warmth, caring and active listening that it should be returned in equal measure.

The Aquarian Moon uses the Cancerian Sun’s light and energy as fuel to create a personality whose nourished by anything unconventional which doesn’t fall under the criteria of a humdrum existence. There’s a reigning emotional need to be acknowledged as a unique individual complete with all of the quirks. This person won’t be fulfilled until it’s settled that they’re “not like everyone else”.

Additionally, this Sun-Moon blend calls for the person to challenge the same tribe which stimulates their core life energy.

The misuse of the Aquarian Moon energy can be seen in behavior which is rebellious without a cause and slavish to the “fad” of non-conformity just for the sake of it, which is actually conformity by default.

When used constructively, the tension of this challenge can accelerate and broaden life development.

The Cancer fuel that’s used in belonging must make friends with the Aquarian Moon’s need for the personality to individuate.

A possible positive outcome of this Sun-Moon combination is someone who can make their “home” anywhere. An individual who has released the guilt of unnecessary familial obligation and claimed their birthright to view life through their own unique lens while remaining rooted in healthy attachments and relationships which nurture their self-actualization.

Your theme song is “History” by Mos Def featuring Talib Kweli

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The Moon in Cancer

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The Cancer archetype symbolizes the emotional security and comfort that a “family” provides for us.

This family can be biological or ideological. Related by blood, or those who simply have values and worldviews which nourish and affirm us.

In a birth chart, when the Moon in Cancer, the needs of the personality are fulfilled not only by dealings with the aforementioned things, but also self-parenting and finding our deepest sense of internal security.
Treating ourselves well and providing the nurturing , personal care that we all deserve.
Listening to our intuition is also a prominent theme with the Moon placed in the sign of the Crab. For optimum fulfillment, those with this placement need to learn to refine our emotional intelligence.
In Daniel Goleman’s book : “Emotional Intelligence: Why it can matter more than IQ” , there’s a chapter entitled “The Cost of Emotional Illiteracy.”
Every time that we betray our intuition and ignore our inner voices, we leave ourselves susceptible to paying this cost.
The importance of striving to synthesize our emotional and intellectual lives cannot be stressed enough, as society has continued to put messages forth that exalt one and devalue the other- or even assign the faculties as exclusive to specific genders, which is equally troublesome.
Goleman sums our journey up succinctly:
“In a sense we have two brains-two minds- and two different kinds of intelligence: rational and emotional. How we do in life is determined by BOTH- it is not just IQ, but emotional intelligence that matters. Indeed intellect cannot work at its best without emotional intelligence.

Ordinarily the complementarity of limbic system and neocortex, amygdala and prefrontal lobes, means each is a full partner in mental life. When these partners interact well, emotional intelligence rises-as does intellectual ability.

This turns the old understanding of the tension of reason and feeling on its head: it is not that we have to do away with emotion and put reason in its place as Erasmus had it, but instead find the intelligent balance of the two.

The old paradigm held an ideal of reason freed of the pull of emotion. The new paradigm urges us to harmonize head and heart. To do that well in our lives means we must first understand more exactly what it means to use emotion intelligently.”

If you have the Moon placed in Cancer, or other prominent positions in the birth chart there, this is something definitely worth thinking about.

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Cancer Sun, Virgo Moon : The Helping Hand

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Healing and helping.

These are two words and concepts which are no stranger to your vocabulary.

Emotional connections ignite your life force, and you have the potential of being able to offer warmth and tenderness with precision; in the EXACT manner required for the moment.

You can not only be considered a useful person, but also a trusted confidant.

When you help make situations better, your work is evident by the reactions of others and how they rave about the many positive changes in their lives- all because of you.

What you seek is the “soft spot” in others in order to support them in the most efficient manner possible. To soothe the heart and feed the intellect.

However, one of the questions that this combination produces is: with all of this service to humanity, how do I navigate my own self-care?

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Sagittarius Sun, Cancer Moon: “Travellin’ Man”

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Your path to higher knowledge has the potential to be realized via your genuine emotional connections with others.

Through exhibiting  your capacity for warmth and nurturing, you’re able to serve as a sensitive teacher. An individual which creates avenues of intimate trust in order to disseminate wisdom gained through experience.

The natal placement of the Sun in Sagittarius suggests that the fuel which ignites your life force and sustains vitality is comprised of the freedom to explore and travel spiritually, intellectually and physically.

To shoot arrows of broad and free flying thought into the universe, asking the large scale questions which surround life’s meaning and illicit a panoramic search for truth.

You can span the globe by plane and or indulge yourself  in “foreign” ways of thinking, philosophies and belief systems, with the hope of broadening one’s scope on life to form a more eclectic and comprehensive world view.

The Sagittarian fuel is used by the Cancerian Moon  to reflect a personality form in which emotional security is a primary need.

In this case, emotional security is defined as :

a peaceful existence and a measure of stability in one’s feelings. The feeling safety which results from an environment which is supportive and non-threatening. Also, one which encourages open displays of love, affection and care.

With this Sun/Moon blend, not only is it important that you feelings be honored and respected, but also, your opinions and philosophical outlook. You must be supported in your quest to ask the large scale questions about the workings of the universe.

The placement of the Moon in Cancer suggests that fulfillment of your life potential resides in forging sincere, heartfelt alliances.

Forming bonds with a biological or ideological “family” which will allow you to display your potential gifts of emotional intelligence, acute intuition, and depth of feeling.

This blend has the potential to work well in that:

the gentle Cancer approach refines the strong thrust of Sagittarian intellect and also opens its channels to understand subtle undercurrents which can permeate one’s environment.

Conversely, the Sagittarian penchant for expansion provides a solid balance to the introverted energies of Cancer, which allows one to display what’s contained “in the shell” in a more outward fashion when necessary.

Astrologer Grant Lewi on the Sagittarius Sun, Cancer Moon Blend :

“This is a highly intuitive, poetic, and sensitive position with an adaptability that  makes it possible for you to use your abilities in almost any field that you want to. Whether you select a business, professional or artistic career, you are likely to master and understand it.  

You are capable of broad abstractions of thought- and of understanding details of philosophy- and hard business sense. When you are thinking clearly you can see through anyone or anything.”

“In all things -studies, business, love, ideas, philosophies- you should seek for depth rather than distance. In business, seek soundness rather than brilliance; in creation as in the arts, quality rather than quantity; in love, concentration rather than variety.

You will find the the reward of your great abilities and your high ideology directly in proportion as you concentrate and refuse to scatter your energies.”

Sagittarius, ruled by Jupiter, has the potential to elevate whatever it comes in contact with, and the lunar energies, as exhibited by Cancer, are no exception.  One could say that the qualities associated with the Moon could be brought to the pinnacle of their potential, or exaggerated and distorted beyond belief.

With a sincere, straight shooting arrow, you can find the ultimate freedom in allowing your feelings to flow. This includes allowing yourself to be vulnerable in letting others know just how much they mean to you.

Through a wide ranging mind and rich faculties of imagination, painting a picture which motivates the spirit and stirs the fires of the heart is something you can do if you’re willing to aspire to understand the emotional framework of others as well as seek to reveal your sweet, tender  interior underneath your solid covering.

It’s essential that you recognize and become well acquainted with the archetypal feminine (yin) energies which occupy your heart center, as they relate to the expression of the yang. This applies to both Women and Men alike, as the “masculine” and “feminine” are determined not by an absolute, but rather by a relative predominance of one set of characteristics over the other.

By way of the Cancer archetype, your Sagittarian energy can radiate throughout the grandeur of the cosmos.

Your theme song is Mos Def & DJ Honda’s “‘Travellin Man”

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References: “Heaven Knows What” by Grant Lewi, “The Symbolic Quest” by Edward C. Whitmont

Planetary Portraits: Venus in Cancer

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Placement Strengths & Applications: Fostering and nurturing the complete relationship. Offering the warm, cozy nest of safety and unconditional love. The recognition of the full gamut of emotions and feelings. The inclination to intuit a partner’s spoken and unspoken needs. Attention paid to “the little things”. Promoter of the private “just between me & you.” bonds.

Developmental Challenges: “Helping” and “caring as a form of creating obligations in other people. Subtle, indirect manipulation. Learning how to receive the same affection you provide. Understanding warning signals and dangers of  holding something or someone too tightly and confusing that behavior with love.

The Portrait: The earth mother. A demonstration of the ideal feminine (irrespective of gender). One who is capable of harnessing emotional support in quantity and quality.

Relational Style: Sincere, soulful and heartfelt.

Sexual Style: Privately lusty.

You Value: The Sentimental & nostalgic.

©2017 by Sagittarian Mind Consulting

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Mercury in Cancer

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With Mercury natally placed in Cancer, one’s inclination is to use the intuition as an informer to the direction that one’s thoughts need to take.

The person with this placement needs to think and communicate emotionally, as well as distribute messages which provide security to others. There’s an indirect bent to one’s speaking style and they’re able to pick up on subtle and underlying messages contained in non-verbal behavior that many of us miss. There’s strength here in imagination as well as a retentive memory which primarily contains a myriad of feeling responses rather than hardcore facts and figures.

The M.O. is to foster a sense of connection through interaction and the goal is developing intimacy, which means that a feeling of honest knowing surfaces as a result of  contact with others. Again, another strength with this placement is the ability to empathize and provide safe, non-judgmental spaces designed for open emotional expression.

Astrology & Compatibility: Eliminating the Myth of the “Perfect Match”

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“Everything that irritates us about others can lead us to an understanding of ourselves.” – Carl Jung

Where intimate relationships are concerned, there seems to be an ongoing debate regarding the significance of zodiac signs and astrology in general.

Some think astrology is quite helpful as a tool for self knowledge and it’s ability to highlight the themes and tendencies which may be present in their personal relationships, while others cast astrology as containing minimal merit and even playing  on the naivete and desperation of individuals who are searching for answers as to why they cannot find their dream partner or soulmate.

In true Sagittarian fashion, I’m going to give it to you straight.

Astrology is a strikingly profound art. When used constructively, practically, and with honorable intentions, it can reveal a great deal of valuable information regarding our compatibility with another individual.

 

However, what it doesn’t reveal is the level of consciousness at which we, or the partners we are comparing ourselves with are living out in our birth charts. Astrology does not tell us how mature we are or how accountable we are for our behavior.

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In synastry,(a.k.a. relationship astrology) having a “good” chart does not let you off the hook in maintaining the relationship any more than having a beautiful front lawn excuses you from mowing and caring for it.

Conversely, while a “difficult” chart may indicate challenges, if addressed earnestly, the two individuals may produce an inseperable union built on integrity, trust and mutual respect.

If we truly plan on using astrology for guidance in dating and relationships the way it was intended, the best method of operation is for us to know ourselves first.

Let’s have our charts interpreted by a competent professional astrologer. Or, at the minimum, explore a reliable free website to obtain a copy of our birth charts.

Through active participation we will be vastly more equipped to delve into, and evaluate, with discrimination, the wealth of information available in books and cyberspace. It is a requirement that we develop a thorough understanding of our own astrological dynamics, or we will find ourselves forever uttering the dreaded sentences:

“I’ll never date a (insert zodiac sign) again” or 
“I don’t date (insert zodiac sign)”

For example, let’s say that you are now praising the celestial gods because you’ve found your “ideal” Pisces Man/Woman, and it appears that you’ll never have to deal with the cold, remote and impersonal Aquarian energies that give you the heebie- jeebies.

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However, you never looked deeply enough into the totality of astrology to find out that he/she’s an Aquarius rising with a stellium of the moon, mercury and venus in aquarius in the 11th house. True, the individual may have a Pisces sun, but a major portion of their chart reflects the same Aquarian flavoring that you were so intent upon escaping from.

We may need to participate in some serious self-examination and ask ourselves honest questions regarding whether we’ve discovered another convenient scapegoat on which to pin our anxieties, insecurities and frustrations.

Or, we sincerely want to incorporate astrology as a viable system of assistance and insight, into our relationships.

Another point worth considering is: through astrological research,  we may  discover that what’s holding us back is US.

OUR fears, phobias, baggage, complexes, etc… which we have conveniently projected upon the Scorpios, Sagittarians and Libra’s of the world. Maybe we’re not personifying the highest energies of our individual planetary placements and relationships. Difficult to read? Yes. Worth considering? Also yes.

 

When we reduce or remove accountability from the equationand minimize the power of our own efforts at self-improvement, we have not only failed astrology, but more importantly failed ourselves.

Working in our best interest, we allow astrology to serve us as a tool, we don’t serve IT, coupled with the self-deception that some irreversible cosmic fate awaits us.

So, who is your astrological dream match?

The answer is YOU.

The better YOU that you’re becoming. The YOU that you’re sincerely and consistently working to improve. YOU, with all of your strengths, talentsgifts, flaws and challenges. The wiser YOU, who, through experience has become more enlightened, liberated from past hurts, and more loving.

The life-affirming and positive YOU, who is ready to embark on the journey of becoming fully engaged in relating to another human being in an honest, intimate and heartfelt manner. Respecting and honoring your individual destinies, while sharing a collective quest.

Know and become yourself, and watch your world expand.         

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