Astrological Compatibility: We’re PEOPLE, not Signs

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Every now and then, I have to remind people: any two people, irrespective of their Sun signs are capable of having a successful relationship.

No matter what the chemistry (or synastry) looks like between the birth charts of two individuals, chances are, we’ll find ourselves having to make some adjustments when it comes to learning another person.

If we’re constantly going on and on about how we’ll never date a person of a certain sign or we “just don’t get along” with Scorpio’s or Capricorns, we may find that we create a self-fulfilling prophecy of sorts. Especially, if we have no desire to do the work which will actually help us arrive at the root of our issues.

Here are the facts; when it comes to ANY sign of the zodiac, they have their functional, or constructive expressions, as well as their dysfunctional or maladaptive ones.

If both parties are willing, and committed to aspiring to the highest expressions of what their signs (and entire birth charts) have to offer, then it’s entirely possible to have a fulfilling relationship.

Granted, there are definitely some relationships which may pose more of a challenge when it comes to day- to-day living.

Sometimes, in Astrological chart comparisons, we tend to forget about the actual PEOPLE involved and obsess over planetary placements, measurements, etc. It’s important to remember that everyone is bringing their unique histories and experiences to the party.

Family dynamics, cultural factors and environment also have to be considered along with the Astrology to identify the potential for compatibility.  We also must remember that despite the “shared” dynamic, the two individuals are still on their own distinct growth journeys.

More on this topic later…..

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Venus in Gemini, Mars in Scorpio

Although you’re the type to enjoy a lighthearted “good time” and may even express your deepest feelings in the form of anecdotes,  if someone were to delve into your interior just a little bit more, they would see that it’s not all adolescent giggles and midnight games of scrabble.

You value variety, but depth is pursued in a fervent, almost “do or die” fashion. Once you get your emotional energy swirling behind a cause (especially love or lust), all bets are off.

You have the potential to relate to others with a dexterity which disarms them, but you don’t stop there. In fact, this is only a means to explore the gloss of the surface before diving into deep waters. Once you’ve arrived you like to penetrate and be penetrated : spiritually, physically, psychologically and emotionally.

One may get the idea that you’re footloose and fancy free because you seem to navigate life with such aplomb, but what they may not see unless they get extremely close to you is your craving for intensity. What people fail to understand about you is that you view sex as just one of the many vehicles that can be used to explore and solidify a deeper connection with another human being. So, your true reasons for engaging in the throes of intimacy are often at variance with what others expect.

Your psychological makeup could be compared to a burner on a stove that doesn’t turn orange when it warms up, so people try to touch you and get scorched because they had NO IDEA you were so hot.

You need your privacy, but in order to remain true to yourself, it’s important that you cultivate the ability to make your deepest needs known to others. Learning the difference between strategic self-protection and deception is part of your life’s work.

Your sword can cut both ways through verbal confrontation and strategic precisely timed action.

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Venus in Gemini: “The Love of Variety”

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As we explore the carousel that is Venus in Gemini, we do so with the understanding that Venus can’t be reduced or limited exclusively to “love” in one’s birth chart. There are far more associations which accompany the planet. However, for the purpose of this particular article, one’s idea of love, as viewed through the Venus in Gemini lens, will be emphasized.

For Venus in Gemini, love is intellectual exchange. Love is Great conversation. Love is Mind stimulation. Love is flexibility and the ability to roll with duality. Love is witty and flirtatious. Love is youthful. Love is a trip to Barnes & Noble. Love is coffee shops and crossword puzzles. Love is watching “Jeopardy” in bed.

When interpreting and analyzing this planetary placement, it can’t be repeated enough times that planets or signs don’t “make” you act in any particular fashion. They don’t “do” anything to us, per se. What’s really going on here is that you’re being provided some food for thought concerning how to utilize your natal placement to develop into a more complete and fulfilled person.

For those with a Venus in Gemini placement, change is to be welcomed as a friend and not a threat. This placement suggests that the most auspicious avenues for the love principle to be expressed are through variety, curiosity, mental stimulation and adaptability.

There’s an enjoyment that comes with a fresh outlook and an attraction towards the new and a abhorrence toward stagnancy in personal relationships. If one isn’t constantly being exposed to newfangled insights, their interest soon begins wither and there becomes an immediate question as to whether such as association is necessary any longer.

With Gemini being a Mutable Air sign, a quicksilver swiftness is suggested. When combined with the Venusian principles, there’s a need for the individual to circulate. When one feels entrapped either physically or through stultifying ideas, staleness and psychological stench can set in.

It’s important for those with this planetary placement to consider the “elastic” nature that they require in a partner. Ideally, you want a best friend with whom you can indulge in conversations about a variety of topics and bounce ideas off of. This may come in the form of ONE person, or many.

However, the most important virtue for you to employ is complete honesty about what this package looks like for you coupled with the ability to communicate that to another person.

Venus’ placement in Gemini suggests that intellectual invigoration is a must and the “quiet and mysterious” may not be the move for you. Being truthful about how you’re wired can save you a lot of confusion. Consider that finding solace in the fact that “everything isn’t for everybody” is a long-term victory for you.

You need to be appreciated for your wit and multifaceted nature and this is actually the key toward your sexual arousal. For you, eroticism begins in the mind. You would much rather debate the current political climate of our country than be exposed to constant grand and romantic overtures (unless the totality of the birth chart indicates otherwise). In fact, your approach to sex may be a more cerebral one where discussion and research of sex may be just as, if not more exciting than the act itself. You may also have a mental “merry go round”  that will allow you the flexibility of entertaining certain sexual acts that you wouldn’t necessarily act out under other circumstances.

While the physical appearance of another isn’t to be discounted by any means, the qualities of verbal dexterity, sharp intellect and unceasing inquiry seem to weigh more heavily in your longer term attraction to another person.

As a Venus in Gemini person, one of your most pressing developmental challenges is to use your intelligence and penchant for questioning as a means to discovering the new when it comes to things and people that are “established”. so to speak.

To paraphrase Marcel Proust :

“The real voyage of discovery consists not in seeking new landscapes, but in having new eyes.”

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Capricorn Sun, Gemini Moon: “Mental Stamina”

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“Thoughts are things, so we find that different kinds of thoughts become different kinds of things. Thought is always creative; it must always create after its own type. It must always give form to something, and the something to which it gives form is not a thing of itself because the thought that creates the form is the product of the thinker. The thinker comes first, then the thought, and then the form.”

-Ernest Holmes 

To many of us, how the thought world operates is somewhat elusive. We may view the material manifestation of events and circumstances as purely “happenstance” or find some other type of rationalization as to why things are the way they are.

There are many alternate ways of considering how the world around us works, and this is one of the life tasks or missions of the Capricorn Sun, Gemini Moon individual:

to embrace a insatiable curiosity and multi-faceted inquiry regarding the manner in which your personal thought and concept selection influences your reality.

This Sun/Moon blend suggests that one has the potential for self-mastery and authority through diversifying life experiences and exposure to a multitude of viewpoints and perspectives. In addition to the contact with variety, one also needs to recognize, confront and navigate the duality that presents itself within ideas you choose to explore.

The fuel which Capricorn requires to function optimally is strategic and administrative. Devising a system of progressive steps to reach a desired goal or “bottom line.”  The solar light is reflected by a personality that has the need for choices and variation. The individual is fulfilled through variation and the absence of monotony.

The questions which come from this combination center around results; what’s visible as a demonstration of one’s mental abilities. The ultimate goal is to structure one’s life-force through the use of the intellect, adaptability and the capacity to build structures that last.

A dysfunctional expression of this combination is one who lacks discipline and focus.

There’s a distinct difference between having a variety of legitimate interests and only sticking with something until the euphoric newness wears off and then flitting to the next thing which captures your momentary attention.

In this case, “so many interests” may be used as a smokescreen for actually getting down to work; to facing the internal organization it takes to map out a successful game plan.

When operating effectively, there’s an establishment of a concentrative center  and stamina within the intellectual sphere. One is aware of their ability to select their thoughts, just like they do their meals or their clothes. There’s not only the realization that “garbage in equals garbage out”, but a self-appointed responsibility toward mental productivity, with the aspirations toward producing palpable success.

With this Sun/Moon blend, your theme song is : “Mental Stamina” by Jeru The Damaja featuring Afu Ra. You can listen here:

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Libra Sun, Gemini Moon, Aquarius Rising

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Here, the mental orientation is crystal clear.

The core life energy inherent in this blend is about balancing one’s self acceptance with social approval; weighing the need to actively craft one’s identity and seeing self through the eyes of others.

This is reflected in the personality form  where the core emotional needs are related to diversification and adaptability. You’re nourished by having your hands in a little bit of everything and understand what it means to have competing priorities.

Your thrust into the world is navigated by a “vehicle” which is inclined to explore alternate ways of being which defy social conventions and challenge the status quo.

Active social circulation and sincere curiosity about others serves as a gateway to forging the interpersonal relationships which are needed to maintain your vitality.

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Gemini Sun, Capricorn Moon : “Serious”

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The core of your being is illuminated by maintaining a youthful, breezy adaptability, as there’s an uncanny  ability to adjust to life’s situations irrespective of what’s thrown at you.

However, many times this is perceived as a lack of seriousness about life and that’s far from the case. Inside, you struggle from bouts of inadequacy because you always think that you should be “better” in relation to anything you touch or any interaction you have. There’s a tight grip on your heart and the playfulness serves as a way to ease that weight.

Taking responsibility for your emotional life is one of your greatest lessons to learn because at your highest potential you’re designed to live a life of integrity where the public and private you is aligned. You don’t have to fake it. The reality of your feelings is one of your greatest allies. So, curbing the tendency to bury significant emotions under a veneer of jokes only enables you to further evade the root of  issues that need to be addressed.

Once that accountability is established, you’ll feel more grounded and confident. In addition, you’re able to more effectively deal with the feelings of others with an air of detachment which doesn’t say ” I don’t care”, but rather finds an objective space which will prevent you from being swayed into unhealthy decision-making.

With your Sun/Moon blend, the “youth” and the adult can work in unison. Understand that all work and no play indeed makes you dull, but also there are definitely matters in life which require the sober, ponderous and strategic approach that is naturally yours.

Balancing your sociability and solitude is also a key theme when it comes to your cosmic signature. You need time to process things and this needs to be accepted.  You will need to find the sweet spot between focus and variety. You can’t be everywhere at once and this can scatter your energies as well as your brain.

If you’re able to successfully navigate this terrain, you will undoubtedly feel as if your ideas and your life in general has gained an “elastic pragmatism” where you can entertain possibilities, but have the common sense to know which ones are worth entertaining and which ones are merely flights of fancy.

At best, you possess a solid, hard-won emotional savvy along with a mental agility that can strip people and situations down to the bare bones. At worst you refuse to allow yourself the space needed to address your inner needs and overcompensate by convincing yourself and others that your life is nothing but fun and games.

Your theme song is “Serious” by O.C. Take a listen here:

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Gemini Sun, Gemini Moon : “Think Twice”

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Ideally, your life is an intellectual whirlwind with multiple perspectives to explore and choose from. Variety of inquiry sustains you emotionally and also reflects your deepest aspirations. You feel most sane when you’re gathering information and adding to your mental database. One of the keys to remember concerning this combination is that FOCUS is your friend.

Sometimes when we explore ideas, we reach what we think is a dead-end. We find a question that we can’t answer, or run into difficult paradoxes where one thing seems to contradict another. The message to those with this blend is to THINK THROUGH IT and ALSO employ your INTUITION.

There’s a definite suggestion that your inclination could be to just hop to the next concept, issue, etc… only to discover the original one’s to resurface. You could easily run yourself in circles finding that you never really complete anything, and as a result, what you’re left with is a hodgepodge of disparate parts.

Rather than accepting the fate of mental fragmentation, understand that much of the meaning of life resides in whatever you assign to it. So, depending on any person, or institution to fuse what you’ve learned into larger concepts is futile.

Deciding what’s truly important to you and trusting insights which surface in your own heart is of utmost importance. You must not worry yourself it you haven’t yet been able to convert your findings into words yet.

An agile mind, unquenchable curiosity and knack for details are some of your strengths.

Learning is second nature, but can you gain a true perspective  which will advance your interests?

You’re already great at asking questions, so the cosmos is encouraging you to enlarge the scope of your inquiries to the level of universal significance.

Think of this process like college: just because you happen to pick a major doesn’t mean that you don’t integrate all of the other knowledge that you come into contact with.

If this journey is consciously undertaken, you”ll wake up to an entirely new world. If not, you may find yourself in the midst of information indigestion.

Your theme song is “Think Twice” by INI featuring Pete Rock

You can listen to it here:

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Gemini Sun, Sagittarius Moon : “Full Versatility”

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You ask:

What if my message is chalked up as having little to no significance? What is no one respects what I have to say?

With this Sun/Moon blend, these can be questions of concern.

If you believe in your words and get out of your own way, you have the capability of showing a wide range of  intelligence.

Your life energy is focused into areas which require adaptability and a multi-faceted approach. The potential and raw materials are there for you to be a quick study. In order to maintain your sanity, diversity and fresh approaches must be present.

Dissemination of information is your forte and you have the reigning need to have what you disperse reflect profound and far sighted vision. Employing and stretching your intuitive capacities is part of a road map to get where you need to be. Going above and beyond your immediate environment, whether that’s out of the country, or a short vacation from the left brain.

Let your youthful, tireless curiosity lead you into the land of synthesis and synergy- searching for connections, even if they seem unrelated at the time. You need to live robustly and largely without pretension, so getting bogged down in “classification” , facts and figures can lead to paralysis in trusting the bounty of your philosophical insight. Chances are, you want to communicate high ideas and ideals to a wide variety of people.

Be confident that they’re waiting to hear what comes out of your mouth.

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Scorpio Sun, Gemini Moon, Aquarius Rising

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Developmental Tasks: To engage in deep involvement with oneself via multifaceted inquiry. To process one’s experience through the lens of challenging the status quo.

If you think that your life’s task is to find a cozy spot smack dab in the middle of the “establishment” and go along to get along- please think again.

What you’re really here to do is live a life of deep significance which entails asking the right questions, which will “rock the boat”. Notice that I didn’t mention being liked as a top priority or concern, because when you sincerely embark upon this mission, it’s a toss up: some people will admire and love what you’re doing while others will find you unsettling because you’re disrupting their comfortable life with all of your damn questions.

Ideally, your aspirations center around turning over any and every rock which will reveal the REAL truth about precisely who and what you are. The question which permeates your astrological signature is: are you prepared to digest  “the good, the bad and the ugly”?  This arrangement in your birth chart suggests that the work of deep mining is done via an emotional need to gather, classify and analyze information. For you, there’s a safety in breaking things and sometimes people into parts in order to understand each component more fully.

An inquiring and versatile mind can serve as one of your many gifts. When optimally used, your intellect can be the instrument which can see through self-created facades as well as any b.s. that others attempt to send in your direction.

To question what seems to be “universally” accepted is one of your specialties. The things which usually get classified under: “Well, everyone knows that…..” are precisely the targets for which you aim. In your world, being well-adjusted isn’t about fitting into existing systems. Rather it’s about challenging them, rebelling against them and creating a more sound and liberating way of life for yourself and others.

As a reminder, it needs to be said that some of the lessons you’ll be learning won’t manifest in a lighthearted fashion. The minute you decide to actualize the potential that your birth chart contains, there will be tests. It’s important to ask yourself: no matter what I see or encounter, am I willing to look it directly in the eye and keep going?

A picture of this combination working in a constructive fashion is a versatile, intellectually adept rebel who’s also psychologically sophisticated.

Understanding which ideas to take seriously and implement into your life is crucial to your existence. There are a couple of things to take into consideration : (1) just because it ignites your passion doesn’t mean it’s something to run with and (2) it’s possible to agree with the majority and it still hold potential for your liberation in that area of life.

Ultimately, it’s the QUALITY of your rebellion and your learning that will determine your success, not the quantity.

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Libra Sun, Cancer Moon, Gemini Rising

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As the chief engineer of this astrological signature, your prime need is to foster a sense of emotional safety, which propels your aspirations of establishing equal partnerships built upon trust, reciprocity and kindness. Your immediate entrance into the world is flanked by an innate curiosity, which suggests an adroit “scanning” of your immediate environment for any pertinent information which will allow you to navigate it more intelligently.

The lens of observation, questioning and classification is used to process your experiences and form your worldview.

With this blend, mental flexibility,  emotional intelligence and social savvy can serve you as a solid strengths. One of the keys to the successful structuring of your energies is to understand that it’s unhealthy for you to live exclusively in the mind or the heart. Ideally these two units are supposed to serve as guides and informers for the other. To know when to make the transition in order to get where you need to go is one of your most important developmental tasks.

Another major lesson to be learned centers around how to develop a flexible definition of what constitutes internal security. To understand that safety doesn’t necessarily mean the absence of changing conditions, nor does it consist of a soul numbing predictability.

What you must do is locate the equilibrium which is most compatible with your overall temperament.

While you can certainly hold on to the ideal of living in an environment which is non-threatening and devoid of attempts at manipulation and exploitation, you must also employ your fortitude and the inner knowing that your adaptability renders you capable of handling such circumstances should they arise. Your tenacity and ingenuity will be the crafters of your eventual exit strategy.