The Cancer-Cancer Relationship

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Features and Benefits: You both speak the same language when it comes to intimacy, and it doesn’t have to be conveyed in the form of a 200 page thesis- it just “IS”. Even if there’s a misunderstanding, it’s felt immediately and the giving nature of the union gives way to soothing the issue a.s.a.p., so the warmth, peace and security you both seek can be restored pronto.

Wow… that sounds great, but we all know it’s not the entire picture.

Where there are pools of emotion, sometimes things can tend to get a little clouded. So, we must remember that our personal reactions to things may give us INFORMATION, but not necessarily the whole story.

You both understand the language which I mentioned earlier due to your innate sensitivity to emotional undercurrents. Because you both aspire to creating safety, you may retreat to your private islands in your mind and heart until you feel like there’s no threat.

Your disagreements may indeed stem from what you both feel nurtures true security. Is it a promise or a vow? (till death do us part?) A ring? A family, or two people with steady incomes?

The “golden seal” in this union is a mutual agreement that it’s never in doubt, that issues can be worked on even if they’re tough. The minute that one person (or both) create doubts about being counted on…

Well… you know the rest of the story, folks.

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Venus in Leo, Mars in Leo

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Astrologically speaking, whenever Venus and Mars are involved, themes of the archetypal feminine and masculine rise to the surface. It’s to be emphasized that the feminine and masculine are general principles rather than gender specific.

We could say that the masculine is the driving and asserting part of us while the feminine is the yielding, flowing and collaborating one.

With this Sun-ruled combination of Venus and Mars in Leo, we automatically veer into the lane which concerns itself with gaining a sense of validation and specialness in one’s relationships as well as devising a fruitful strategy for applying one’s energy into the world in a manner which promises an opportunity for heightened creative self-expression.

One of the questions that emerges from this Venus & Mars combination is:

How can I align my personal values and relationships with my need to assert myself creatively and apply those gifts to my worldly pursuits?

One of the traps or dysfunctions of this combination can be the failure to make the distinction between when one is being and “performing.”

Where ‘being’ is a natural state the act of ‘performing’ suggests a need to be “on” for whomever or whatever is in question, whether it’s an intimate partner, family member or boss. In having this combination, one must be careful about using the reaction of others (whether positive or negative) as a barometer for one’s own worth or self-esteem.

If this is carried too far, there’s the danger of continuously seeking out the company of those who simply “make you feel good” about yourself without questioning what other redeeming value they have in your life.

Furthermore, one must avoid being overly invested in gaining and maintaining the admiration of others or allowing the concerns surrounding if people “like what they see” to debilitate one’s creative juices or risk-taking capacity.

If navigated successfully, the sheer solar energy can help carry your efforts forward in a fashion where you don’t have to continuously ask others: “how does this light make me look.?”

The fact that this combination, and all of the potentials included,  is your birthright matters more than anything that anyone else would have to say about it.

 

Leo Sun, Taurus Moon

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Earth and radiance.

Your “shine” is created through the recognition and harnessing of your inner value. Until you’re able to explore in all of its facets, what you’re worth, your personal projection ceases to generate the heat and light you aspire to.

Recognition, admiration and attention as a regal being ignites your spirit. Ideally this status is for the purposes of illuminating the potential in others as well as yourself, and allowing your expression to be a gift which emits rays of creativity than one that blinds with an inflated ego.

Building yourself up is essential, but the question remains as to how you’ll share what you’ve gathered with the larger collective.  Delving deeper into your feelings and curbing the impulse to accept them at face value is something which can benefit you.

The ability to burn away any material which causes inertia, rigidity or an one dimensional outlook is your friend. Understand that you can simultaneously maintain fixity of purpose and accept your ever changing, unfolding nature of becoming.

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Understanding the Gemini-Sagittarius Axis: Balancing the Brain

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In order for us to most effectively utilize Astrology as a vehicle for a greater depth of self-understanding and appreciation for others, it’s important for us to consider the holistic view: that the whole is greater than the sum of its parts. Choosing a reductive, isolationist approach when it comes to Astrology one can easily arrive at results which are both fragmented and unfruitful. In our attempts to explore a certain zodiac sign archetype, it’s essential that we recognize it’s relationship to every other sign and overall function in the entire “wheel of life.”

This line of thinking is especially relevant when considering the interplay between what we normally characterize as “opposite” signs, which when constructively integrated serve as complimentary forces and catalysts for a deeper level of psychological awareness and a higher level of functioning.

Astrologer Glenn Perry states:

“Especially important is the dialectic between opposing signs, for each is the complement of the other. When opposing signs are integrated and in balance, certain traits emerge that transcend either sign individually and allow for the heightened functioning of both.”

In this article, my specific focus will be the Gemini-Sagittarius axis and the potential combinations which can expand ones existence, as well as the potential challenges which can produce a state of disintegration. The latter state suggests that the energy may quite possibly function with a “rogue” or “lone wolf” orientation within the psyche.

We all have Gemini and Sagittarius energy somewhere in our birth chart, so this article is for everyone interested in how we can use that energy most effectively in service of working toward being a complete human being. This article may also be of specific interest to those who have many planetary placements in Gemini and or Sagittarius, or possibly a Gemini-Sagittarius nodal axis, which suggests a lifetime of experiences directly related to balancing this dynamic.

For the purposes of establishing context and communicating the information as clearly as possible, we’ll look at Gemini and Sagittarius independently for a moment….

The Gemini Archetype :  The Student. The Journalist. The Scribe. The Messenger. The Quiz-show contestant. The Crossword Junkie. The Talk Radio fan. The Dilettante. The Intellectual Acrobat. The Curious one. The Youth. “Chatty Chantel ” The Trivia addict. The Social Butterfly. The Jill/Jack of all trades.

In our birth charts, wherever we find Gemini energy, we’re confronted with the need to gather raw data. To collect facts and information from our immediate environment and communicate our observations based on how we’ve named, classified, grouped or categorized. There’s a youthful and mercurial curiosity which permeates the orientation of the Twins which prompts us to ask of myriad  of questions (who, what, when , where, why?) about that which is most readily within our grasp. The Gemini archetype carries the signature of the “hood”, or the block reporter that gives everyone the 411, which could be useful information, or just plain gossip or small talk. In the realm of Castor and Pollux, the left brain,  linear (straight-line)function is highlighted, which emphasizes all that’s analytical, objective and logical.

When functioning effectively in the Gemini realm, our perceptions can be strikingly quick and astute. We’re able to gain a clarity as to the basic significance of how things work as a separate entity. By employing our critical faculties, there’s a knack for to ferret important facts, and through associative thinking, we can build an intellectual skeleton which helps us navigate everyday life.

When over-functioning in the Gemini sphere, we become obsessed with minutia and the micro version of things. We feel an incessant need to make everything to “fit” “logically” even if it’s obviously a square peg in a round hole. Also, we unceasingly collect random information with no clear focus or direction. What could have been building blocks to a rich-hued rainbow of meaning is relegated to insignificant tabloid fodder through our mismanagement of this function.

The Sagittarius Archetype:  The Professor. The Wild Stallion. The Guru. The Philosopher. The “Reverend Do Good”. The Know it All. The Dogmatist. The Loud Mouth. The Synthesizer. The Promoter.The Moralist. The Bigot. The Encyclopedia. Ms./Mr. Opinionated. The Teacher. The Guide. The Proselytizer.

Wherever we find Sagittarius in our birth chart, we confront the need to find meaning.

What’s really being sought is a comprehensive view or philosophy which speaks to the order of the universe.

The intention is to teach, guide and amass the largest possible conception of truth through mental and physical travels while pondering large, existential questions which advance and enlarge the scope of discussion, thereby activating higher faculties of thought.

In the Sagittarius zone, we’re asked to use the right brain, intuitive and holistic faculties which give rise to inspired insights. While Gemini symbolizes the dictionary, which defines, Sagittarius represents the encyclopedia, which expands on the definition and provides a larger framework in which it can operate. In Gemini, we question from a localized perspective. In Sagittarius the adventure now takes off to parts unknown as to test, theorize or speculate about the facts ascertained.

When functioning constructively, Sagittarius becomes what Astrologer Caroline Casey refers to as an “Intellectual Collage Artist”, taking what are seemingly disparate parts of information and synthesizing them with the purpose of helping others to see the bigger picture more clearly and honestly.

Over-functioning or in a disintegrated state, Sagittarius energy becomes an exercise in intellectual self-righteousness. While preaching and espousing tolerance, Sagittarius’ actions, when disintegrated, suggest a “missionary” who feels that he/she comes with “good will” to browbeat and win you over to their way of thinking. Also, there’s a tendency to loudly (and annoyingly) proclaim pure opinions which aren’t supported by any particular factual basis. only an overheated evangelical zeal.

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So, what does a constructive navigation of the Gemini-Sagittarius Axis look like?

An honest appreciation of logic, while making room for intuitive insights which come by way of inspiration. Well reasoned and comprehensive arguments which are developed as a result of fact-checking and objective analysis. A realization that to have all of the answers isn’t the marker of wisdom as much as keeping one’s mind open to a vast array of possibilities, and also understanding that truth can be conveyed through many perspectives and languages, and the best teachers are the most receptive students. To navigate the Gemini-Sagittarius axis successfully, we must realize that when we arrive at an ultimate or unyielding conclusion, the conversation is most likely over or close to being so.

We may ALL do very well to take a page out of the book of  Darius Lovehall (Larenz Tate) as to how he handled Nina Mosley’s (Nia Long) question in the film “Love Jones” when she asked : “You have all the answers, don’t you?”

To which he replied: Mmm   mmm….”Just the questions”.

Notes: “Essays On Psychological Astrology: Theory & Practice” by Glenn Perry

Awareness and Integration: How to Work With Oppositions in the Natal Chart

Whether you’re fluent in the language of Astrology or someone who is just starting on your journey, you may be familiar with Astrological aspects, which are relationships between planets.

It may get your wheels turning to view the dynamics of these relationships similar to the ones we share with other human beings: some are free-flowing, while others may be tense or challenging. Depending on where we choose to place our focus, certain relationships can also be growth inducing or stagnating, but virtually all of them have the potential of bringing something into our field of vision that wasn’t present before.

Claudius Ptolemy, who was a Greco-Roman Astronomer, Astrologer and Mathematician, presented five “major” aspects in his highly influential work “Tetrabiblos”, which went on to be known as the “major” aspects : the conjunction, opposition, square, trine and sextile. It needs to be said that there are more aspects, but these are the ones that are most commonly discussed at large.

When we look at oppositions in our birth chart there can be a “tug of war” or “seesaw” vibe because opposing parts of our psyche are seeking integration and reconciliation. Keep in mind that manifestation of this aspect can occur (and usually does) on both an internal and external level.

Often, there is some type of “shift” brewing and a compromise needs to take place in order to balance ourselves. I like what Astrologer Sue Tompkins (Aspects in Astrology) said about oppositions in comparing them to the doorbells of the front and back doors ringing simultaneously. In the moment, we feel as if we have to make a choice on which facet of our nature to honor at that particular time.

When looking at oppositions in a growth oriented manner, we approach the idea of making room for parts of ourselves that we may not readily see until we’re involved with another person, and in turn- that person serves as a mirror for qualities that are latent and underdeveloped within ourselves. As a matter of fact, they may be so malnourished that we go through a process of denying that they belong to us at all.

However, if we embrace oppositions in our chart as an opportunity to become more of what we already are, it opens up the potential of broadening our range of self-expression and living a more meaningful life. On an inner level, navigating oppositions successfully is like reuniting with an old friend that we haven’t seen for a long, long time.

Oppositions are noticeable in the birth chart because they are usually between signs that are “opposite”, although I deem them as more complimentary: Aries-Libra, Taurus-Scorpio,  Gemini-Sagittarius, Cancer-Capricorn, Leo-Aquarius, and Virgo-Pisces.

There can also be out of sign oppositions depending on how the degrees fall in the various signs.

Take a look at the oppositions in your birth chart if you have any.

If you feel  like you’re struggling with them, ask yourself what the universe is seeking to illuminate or bring into your awareness. Is there something that you refuse to accept? Are you receiving repeated and similar observations from those outside of you which merit consideration?

The magic of Astrology is often not in the clear-cut, definite answers that it provides, but in the insightful and meaningful questions that it produces.

Strength and Tension: How To Work With Squares in the Natal Chart

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Amongst the sea of Astrological writing in books and on the internet, there seems to be a continuation of the view that when it comes to Astrological aspects: conjunctions are “neutral”, trines and sextiles are “good”, while oppositions and squares are “bad”.

I even notice when the “hard” aspects are written about in Astro cookbooks, the author seems to always head in the direction which doesn’t outline the developmental potential between the meetings of planets, but rather reels into a bleak and dismal fate to which we must resign ourselves regarding our relationships, communication skills or our identities.

I would like to offer another view on squares and put forth the theory that very little gets accomplished without the tension which the aspect suggests. When the word “tension” is used, this somehow triggers an anxiety filled image in people where they think something will be hoisted on them that they won’t be able to handle.

Let’s close our eyes for a minute and picture a trip to the gym for an exhilarating exercising of our muscles. Think about what your body feels like when you murmur to yourself:

“That was a damn good workout.”

We feel invigorated and empowered through the challenges we were able to face in the gym because we summoned the intestinal fortitude necessary to confront the obstacles that the workout provided.

In our natal charts, squares are there to test our capabilities. What we need to understand is: if we face up to what’s being presented to us concerning the principles that the planets in question represent, we can become a much more skillful navigator through the terrains of those energies. Another thing we need to realize it that this takes WORK. No one is saying that this is an easy ride, or there won’t be periods of time where we may feel defeated or stuck.

However, this doesn’t have to be the final outcome and there are several people, who have achieved to great heights in which squares are prominent in their birth charts, to illustrate this point.

Tension allows our “muscles” to become stronger and enhances their capacity to recover more quickly. These muscles can be those of the body, mind, heart or spirit.

Mind you, if you’re the type of person who seeks to take the path of least resistance or avoid anything which demands MORE than a minimal effort from you, there may be a problem.

If we’re truly looking to develop our capacities, as illustrated in our natal charts, to their fullest, it’s advisable that we re-examine the idea of an “easy” life. If what we desire is meaning and fulfillment, it’s important to consider that some of us may have to go “to hell and back” to discover it, but those excursions may provide a much richer existence than accepting a fabricated fate that “things are just going to be how they are.”

Please consider that the squares contained in your birth chart can be a tremendous asset to keep you motivated. You may have a bundle of energy that just needs to be released in an appropriate direction in order to assist you in providing the life that you deserve.

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Astrology, Synastry and the “TIMER”

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I love films from most genres. So, it just so happened that about a year ago, I came across “TIMER”, a film that was an official selection at the Tribeca Film festival in 2009.

TIMER  was written and directed by Jac Schaeffer and some of the cast includes: Emma Caulfield, Michelle Borth and John Patrick Amedori. The film was released in the United States on May 14, 2010.

Without getting too elaborate, the film centers around a corporation known as TIMER, which specializes in making a timing device which is designed to allow a person to know the exact time when they’ll meet their soul mate.

When I got into this movie, I started to make some connections with what I’ve heard from various folks concerning Synastry (Relationship Astrology). I’ve noticed a trend of some people becoming so immersed in comparing their charts with others to discern “compatibility” that they will actually restrain themselves from participating in a relationship with another person, only possessing a minuscule bit of information and the other person’s birth data. Often, we can combine that with an incomplete knowledge or understanding of  Holistic Astrology and a dependence on the internet to provide interpretations for them.

Much like the following clip, as related to synastry, some folks have decided that they want a sure shot guarantee in their relationships:

In this way, the timer acts just like a birth chart. Whether it’s an individual one or a comparison with another person. The questions become : (1) When will I meet “the one”? or (2)Is she/he “the one” for me?

Instead of viewing our birth charts as a guide or possibilities, we’ve started to demand an ultra specific picture of WHOM this person actually going to be and when EXACTLY we’re going to meet them.

In most cases, I always advise people to get into your own chart to decipher what it is that you really need before worrying about comparing your chart with someone that you barely even know. The risk is that you form preconceived notions which are mainly derived from random interpretations in cyberspace. More often than not, we all would be much better served to deal with the challenges that we face as an individual as indicated by our own charts, so we can be better equipped to foster and nurture the types of relationships which we’re seeking out.

In a portion of the clip above, the man at the checkout counter remarks on the customer’s blank timer:  He says: “I see your timer’s blank. She responds “And?” He replies:  you’re sweating your future though, right? It’s a shame because you could have a much more exciting present if you really wanted it.”

I think that’s an important exchange, and it’s essential that we ask ourselves just what type of present experience we would like to have. There’s more to this film and I encourage you to see it, as it will most certainly provoke more thoughts on certain attitudes we share when it comes to love and compatibility.

Venus in Scorpio, Mars in Libra

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As the owner of this Venus/Mars blend in your birth chart, your relational needs center around intensity and emotional nakedness.

It’s difficult for you to accept anything less than feeling deeply connected to your significant other or whomever you choose to engage with.

Whether you realize it or not, there’s a dance happening inside you which requires the careful navigation of its rhythms. It consists of allowing yourself to see both your beauty as well as the ugly beast within.

If there’s anything you feel that should remain in the dark “from prying eyes”, for your benefit, you have to face it without running away. In fact, there will be no peace until you do so. You have immense potential to heal and be healed through your personal relationships, but you must come to terms with the cost of admission.

Your blend suggests the application of energy in service of harmony, and this is honorable. However, avoiding the rawness of touchy issues just for the sake of serenity won’t cut it in this lifetime. Your inner peace could be very well earned through trials of fire.

We all know that sex faces aren’t pretty, but you have to let the grimace be what it is, and let the moans out- chances are you’ll feel a liberation of emotional toxins and will be on the way to experiencing the equilibrium that you value so much. Anything which can help you to reveal yourself in a no holds barred capacity is your friend. In order to create a trusting environment, you TOO must lay some cards on the table. Maybe not *every* card just yet, but enough to let others know you mean serious business.

Will you share your depths? Or will you look out the peephole until you think everything is “nice and neat”?

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Moon-Saturn Contacts in Synastry

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Back in elementary school, I remember when we studied rocks and their various classifications. Some of them were used as components to build, i.e. for structural purposes, while others seemed to be a massive obstruction, and their weight actually helped to provide a blockade or control barrier for flooding.

When we look at Moon-Saturn contacts in Synastry, we could easily make a comparison to these basic lessons. When two individuals share these aspects in relationship Astrology, the structures and containment of the emotional life is a highlighted theme.

This dynamic can operate where both partners share a safe place to express their feelings without reservations because they’ve done the work to build a mature foundation of mutual dignity and respect. There’s a certain consistency of words and actions aligning via an external demonstration of commitment and endurance despite the hardships which may permeate the relationship.

With Saturn’s influence as a glue, or binding agent,  there’s a suggestion of the long-term.

However, just because something is “built to last” doesn’t always mean it’s not supposed to be evaluated and subject to elimination in our lives if it’s not functional.

Another perspective is that such contacts can feel like a weight that we just can’t get rid of. An overbearing itch that just can’t be scratched. While in the presence of our partners, we may feel an uncomfortable emotional restriction, as if we want to open up to them, but the heart just won’t cooperate because of fear of being controlled. As if one’s feelings are saying: “If I speak, I run the risk of being ruled over, and this makes me sad,depressed and full of anxiety.”

Ultimately, when we experience these planetary aspects with another, we have to make decisions about what we’re clinging to.

Are we holding on to a relationship, which we should have  let  go a long time ago?

Are we battling our own sense of inadequacy, thinking that no matter what we say, it won’t be “good enough”?

Do we feel worthy of love and affection? Are we able to recognize where we need to grow up in matters of the heart?

Saturn is associated with tests and responsibility. Also, what we yield from the planetary fruit depends directly on the amount of time and effort we’re willing to expend in regard to the essentials of our lives.

Will we accept the challenge, and gain wisdom through pain, trial and error? Or, will we try to institute short cuts only to find that we’re trapped in a barricade of our own making?

Relationship Astrology: Sun-Moon Contacts Between Partners

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In Synastry (the astrology of human relationships) Sun-Moon contacts are heralded as a textbook factor of compatibility. While one must explore the birth charts and life experiences of both people, it STILL goes deeper than that.

The Moon has no light of its own, it  uses the solar energy by reflecting it into the universe.

Is this a “good” thing? I don’t know. Is it “bad”? Again, same answer.

I’d say it just is, and whatever we choose to make of it is our decision.

When there’s Sun-Moon contact existent between two individuals, one may have indeed met their true reflection. The parts we love about ourselves and the one’s we may be attempting to escape are right there for us in plain view if we pay attention. Essentially, the identity and aspirations of one individual are connected to the other’s emotional fulfillment.

Who one is becoming may provide nourishment and sustenance to the other. In fact, both people work in this shared dynamic. There’s an atmosphere which brings light to emotions and subconscious material— you know….. the kind which we may be projecting on others, but that’s very much a part of our own psyche.

Sun-Moon contacts serve us as an archetypal meeting of the inner masculine and feminine, and this is NOT gender specific.

These designations are more based on symbolic archetypes and less on whether you’re a Woman or Man. Either way, there’s a fusion of the mover, shaker, and generator ; the part of us that’s active, becomes aroused and asserts, and the instinctive, receptive, yielding energy which speaks to accommodation and containment.

So much of Astrological compatibility depends on the state of consciousness that two people are operating from. If both people have made solid commitments to personal integration, these contacts can prove to be much more enjoyable and sustaining than if they haven’t.

Operating functionally, there’s a climate of mutual support, emotional security and the affirmation of the humanness of both partners. Each person has a clear, illuminated  vision for the relationship and more importantly, and objective view of the other.

In an alternative scenario, we’re staring at parts of ourselves that we may have suppressed because it’s not flattering to our egos. So, of course, it’s always the other person that has “issues”. If they would just “see the light”, everything would alright.

What this dynamic produces in both parties is distortion. Instead of a sunny day, it’s a cloudy one which diminishes the capacity to truly relate to each other. So, instead of human to human contact, one or both partners has been reduced to “hey YOU over there!”

It’s understood that another person can’t “make” us whole. However, working with these contacts in a relationship can certainly provide us with valuable material for understanding what it’s going to take to reach those heights on an individual level. The questions about this Synastry aspect center around whether we’re willing to take responsibility for the material that’s OURS and work with it developmentally rather than casting blame or shame on a person that we claim to love and respect.

We would like to believe that we’re great ALL of the time, at least that’s what the bathroom mirror says, right?

The news flash says: we’re not.

The outlook is dismal if we’re not willing to confront the root causes of WHY we are the way we are. But, if we can find it in ourselves to explore this labyrinth, with loving, nurturing support from our significant others, we can certainly bring our psyches into balance and find out more about what can make us whole.

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