Astrological Compatibility & The “3 Dynamics” : A Broader View

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When traveling the road of Astrological compatibility, much of the writing I’ve read implies a point of view which excludes what I would call “holistic energies”, from the picture.

There seems to be more of an emphasis on whether “this sign works with that sign” rather than how intimate relationships can be part of a gateway which serves our total development.

So, the focus becomes whether Scorpio and Sagittarius “get along” versus what types of relationships are necessary to grow into the type of people we’re supposed to become.

One of the things I discuss frequently with clients are three dynamics, which are simultaneously individual, yet inseparable.

When considering what a truly “compatible” union actually means, all of these passages must have the potential to flourish:

(1) The dynamic of personal development– When we’re dealing with questions of compatibility. It’s essential that we ask about our own potential to develop within the framework of the relationship. Often, we find ourselves wildly attracted to the prospect of being involved with a partner only to discover later on that the coupling stifles, rather than nurtures the person we’re aspiring to be. In essence, we find ourselves trapped. While one part of the relationship may be “adequate”, we feel a certain discontent which could possibly morph into animosity, because we’re well aware that we want to maximize our gifts on a wider scale.

(2) The dynamic of the “other’s” development–  Much of what was just said now applies to the other person (or people) we may be relating to. The questions we must ask ourselves now center around if we’re providing adequate space and support for our partner(s) to grow. Due largely to our conditioning, we may feel that we should now receive exclusive “priority” in every possible situation because we’re in a relationship. However, the fact remains that our partner had goals and objectives which were completely outside of us before we met, and it’s most likely that they still do. We now have to question our capacity to develop strategies which make room for and encourage them in their pursuit of self-expression.

(3) The “shared” dynamic – This ebb and flow deals with synergy. Everything we are as a “couple”. Our collective philosophy and mission statement of the relationship. It’s what we wish to produce as a “team”, and the energy we enjoy when both people have been pursuing their self-actualization and bring it back into the fold as a tool for learning and instruction, as to strengthen and expand the union. Also, questions emerge as to what type of relationship we’re expressing to the community at large. We ask how us being together helps to affect the lives of others, and what our aims are, if any, for adding to the advancement of the collective.

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I’m putting forth the idea that compatibility be viewed in a much wider context than it has been, or else we’re most likely selling ourselves short from a holistic view.

When we ignore the totality of our being, we can easily create room for significant imbalances to creep into our relationships. We may love being with our partner, but suddenly realize we have “no life” outside of her/him.

Or, we may become so caught up in outside pursuits that we don’t effectively prioritize that special time needed for cultivation of our relationship.

In addition, we could become so engulfed in presenting a “front” to society as a “power couple”, managing our image to appear in a certain light, and forget all about the larger purpose of why we came together.

Truly effective astrology produces many more questions for further exploration than hardcore answers. I’m inviting all of you, who may be involved with a partner(s), or thinking about embarking on the journey of an intimate relationship, to carefully consider this food for thought and digest what you see fit and eliminate what doesn’t serve you at this time.

 

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Taurus Sun, Libra Moon, Sagittarius Rising

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Your vitality is fueled through the enjoyment of the senses and optimally, your life is experienced at an earthy and tangible level. What you can immediately and decidedly “put your hands on” serves as a reliable  barometer of authenticity.

In addition, you need to feel like everything is “right where it should be” in your life. Not so much of an exact equal balance, but like a recipe, in a proportion that pleases you and is agreeable to your life goals.  You’re nourished through an orientation to the “other”.  Rarely frightened by opposing points of view, you’re more likely to seek understanding as to use your newly discovered insights as a means to develop a more congruent self.

Your lens for processing experience is one of a teaching and learning orientation. Everything is approached in a manner which questions and seeks meaning with the goal of placing things into a larger context in order to soak up holistic understanding . You relish at the thought of life as an ever broadening  panorama. Your world is looked at telescopically and opportunities to incorporate eclecticism are frequently sought.

Establishing the type of grounding which will support a bold and fearless dive into the larger social arena is key.

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Sagittarius Sun, Cancer Moon: “Travellin’ Man”

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Your path to higher knowledge has the potential to be realized via your genuine emotional connections with others.

Through exhibiting  your capacity for warmth and nurturing, you’re able to serve as a sensitive teacher. An individual which creates avenues of intimate trust in order to disseminate wisdom gained through experience.

The natal placement of the Sun in Sagittarius suggests that the fuel which ignites your life force and sustains vitality is comprised of the freedom to explore and travel spiritually, intellectually and physically.

To shoot arrows of broad and free flying thought into the universe, asking the large scale questions which surround life’s meaning and illicit a panoramic search for truth.

You can span the globe by plane and or indulge yourself  in “foreign” ways of thinking, philosophies and belief systems, with the hope of broadening one’s scope on life to form a more eclectic and comprehensive world view.

The Sagittarian fuel is used by the Cancerian Moon  to reflect a personality form in which emotional security is a primary need.

In this case, emotional security is defined as :

a peaceful existence and a measure of stability in one’s feelings. The feeling safety which results from an environment which is supportive and non-threatening. Also, one which encourages open displays of love, affection and care.

With this Sun/Moon blend, not only is it important that you feelings be honored and respected, but also, your opinions and philosophical outlook. You must be supported in your quest to ask the large scale questions about the workings of the universe.

The placement of the Moon in Cancer suggests that fulfillment of your life potential resides in forging sincere, heartfelt alliances.

Forming bonds with a biological or ideological “family” which will allow you to display your potential gifts of emotional intelligence, acute intuition, and depth of feeling.

This blend has the potential to work well in that:

the gentle Cancer approach refines the strong thrust of Sagittarian intellect and also opens its channels to understand subtle undercurrents which can permeate one’s environment.

Conversely, the Sagittarian penchant for expansion provides a solid balance to the introverted energies of Cancer, which allows one to display what’s contained “in the shell” in a more outward fashion when necessary.

Astrologer Grant Lewi on the Sagittarius Sun, Cancer Moon Blend :

“This is a highly intuitive, poetic, and sensitive position with an adaptability that  makes it possible for you to use your abilities in almost any field that you want to. Whether you select a business, professional or artistic career, you are likely to master and understand it.  

You are capable of broad abstractions of thought- and of understanding details of philosophy- and hard business sense. When you are thinking clearly you can see through anyone or anything.”

“In all things -studies, business, love, ideas, philosophies- you should seek for depth rather than distance. In business, seek soundness rather than brilliance; in creation as in the arts, quality rather than quantity; in love, concentration rather than variety.

You will find the the reward of your great abilities and your high ideology directly in proportion as you concentrate and refuse to scatter your energies.”

Sagittarius, ruled by Jupiter, has the potential to elevate whatever it comes in contact with, and the lunar energies, as exhibited by Cancer, are no exception.  One could say that the qualities associated with the Moon could be brought to the pinnacle of their potential, or exaggerated and distorted beyond belief.

With a sincere, straight shooting arrow, you can find the ultimate freedom in allowing your feelings to flow. This includes allowing yourself to be vulnerable in letting others know just how much they mean to you.

Through a wide ranging mind and rich faculties of imagination, painting a picture which motivates the spirit and stirs the fires of the heart is something you can do if you’re willing to aspire to understand the emotional framework of others as well as seek to reveal your sweet, tender  interior underneath your solid covering.

It’s essential that you recognize and become well acquainted with the archetypal feminine (yin) energies which occupy your heart center, as they relate to the expression of the yang. This applies to both Women and Men alike, as the “masculine” and “feminine” are determined not by an absolute, but rather by a relative predominance of one set of characteristics over the other.

By way of the Cancer archetype, your Sagittarian energy can radiate throughout the grandeur of the cosmos.

Your theme song is Mos Def & DJ Honda’s “‘Travellin Man”

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References: “Heaven Knows What” by Grant Lewi, “The Symbolic Quest” by Edward C. Whitmont

Venus in Sagittarius, Mars in Virgo

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With this Venus/Mars combination at the helm, questions immediately arise regarding wise and discriminate use of one’s energy in reference to the ideals which they espouse. A vast appetite for personal growth is evident. There’s the thought that the “bigger” you allow yourself to be, the better.

However, concerns should be raised as to your overall level of effectiveness in your pursuits. Does your actual efficiency and production match the grandeur of your aspirations? Your bow and arrow requires precise direction, as you don’t want to be stuck on a rudderless ship with nothing but “good intentions.”

Also, it’s important for you to understand that your plan doesn’t have to be perfect in order to execute it. Your capacity to act and adjust to changing circumstances coupled with your faith is enough to get you moving. From there, you’re charged with making steady improvements.

There’s a natural square relationship between the signs of Sagittarius and Virgo which means that there’s tension present with their interaction. To navigate this terrain, pursuing constant refinement of the specific parts while never losing sight of the holistic view, is the path of development.

While your relational urges can be both expansive and hedonistic, you’re offered an anchor to ground you and enhance your staying power. One of the most valuable lessons you can learn is the dignity of finishing what you start. In doing this, your free-spirit is satiated because you’re using your freedom in a way which liberates you even more versus promoting unhealthy and overindulgent scenarios.

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Mercury in Sagittarius

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Mercury in Sagittarius suggests that one’s needs to think and communicate are broad based and telescopic. This placement is illustrative of intellectual fire and a passion for weaving ideas together in service of creating a holistic worldview.  Conversationally, the goal is to ask thought provoking questions which will elevate the nature of the discussion. Problems occur when one would rather appear as the “guru” with all of the answers rather than someone who understands the ultimate uncertainty of what we actually think we know.

 

Venus in Gemini, Mars in Sagittarius

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With this Venus/Mars combination, freedom and variety is as essential to you as oxygen. The question you will have to ask yourself is freedom for what? There’s no doubt that relationships serve you as a  source of unlimited information and intellectual stimulation. You also seek to apply what you learn in a larger context; through some all-encompassing philosophical system which provides you with more clues about what life ultimately means.

When you came to this planet, a one-dimensional experience is certainly what you DIDN’T have in mind.

Whether you’re getting your passport stamped or heavily immersed in a great work of literature, traveling is essential for you. Both your relationships and sex life need to be immersed in this theme.

No adventure and diversity might as well be a “bored to death” sentence for you, as this blend suggests a need to explore duality and a quest for a lightness and buoyancy of being.

Yes… you may be floating along with youthful exuberance, but let’s not mistake that for naiveté, as you have the potential to assert the force of your being as connected to high-minded principles, especially honesty and ethical behavior as it applies to your intimate relationships.

Maybe the lesson which you have to learn with this blend is: there can be just as much variety in getting to know a few people deeply as flitting two and fro from one relatively superficial encounter to the next.

In your life and relationships you’ll find that the more you explore, the more questions arise, so be prepared to understand that just when you think you have the ultimate answer or truth, a few more of them reveal themselves and you have to re-work the puzzle we know as life.

If you’re able to use your flexibility to adapt to that type of “weather”, you will find that you’re able to make your home anywhere and enjoy the here and now of your relationships and maintain your sense of wonder which so rightly permeates your DNA.

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Libra Sun, Sagittarius Moon

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The combination of a Libra Sun and Sagittarius Moon suggests that your utmost aspirations and emotional needs center around learning valuable lessons from interpersonal and intimate relationships.

You may find that you have traveled far and wide, either mentally, or physically to discover the meaning behind why you’ve been “linked” to others.

You’re fueled by the dynamic between how you see yourself and society’s view of you. While you ultimately seek to be a beacon of light for harmony and peaceful interaction, your heart’s desire is to have your life philosophies taken seriously and your opinions respected.

It’s essential that you undertake an exploration of how all of the pieces fit together in the jigsaw puzzle that’s your existence. You need to ponder deeply and ask the questions which bring you closer to understanding or explaining the order of your micro universe as well as the larger one. You could even go as far as to say you’re fulfilled by fusing the two.

It nourishes you to find a certain synchronicity in your triumphs as well as your mistakes. Doing that helps you to be all the better. Part of your life’s quest is to smooth and refine your inherent wisdom with the humility and awareness that we’re all in this world together. Additionally, you’re here to expand your emotional parameters, giving way to a broader range of expression which ultimately leads to a greater sense of freedom.

Be aware that it’s to your detriment to become too immersed in the opinions of other people as a focal navigational strategy for your life. To consider is one thing, but to allow yourself to be driven or controlled by the words, limitations or fears of others can restrict your vision and put clamps on your philosophical framework.

 

 

Gemini Sun, Sagittarius Moon : “Full Versatility”

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You ask:

What if my message is chalked up as having little to no significance? What is no one respects what I have to say?

With this Sun/Moon blend, these can be questions of concern.

If you believe in your words and get out of your own way, you have the capability of showing a wide range of  intelligence.

Your life energy is focused into areas which require adaptability and a multi-faceted approach. The potential and raw materials are there for you to be a quick study. In order to maintain your sanity, diversity and fresh approaches must be present.

Dissemination of information is your forte and you have the reigning need to have what you disperse reflect profound and far sighted vision. Employing and stretching your intuitive capacities is part of a road map to get where you need to be. Going above and beyond your immediate environment, whether that’s out of the country, or a short vacation from the left brain.

Let your youthful, tireless curiosity lead you into the land of synthesis and synergy- searching for connections, even if they seem unrelated at the time. You need to live robustly and largely without pretension, so getting bogged down in “classification” , facts and figures can lead to paralysis in trusting the bounty of your philosophical insight. Chances are, you want to communicate high ideas and ideals to a wide variety of people.

Be confident that they’re waiting to hear what comes out of your mouth.

Check out Kev Brown’s “Full Versatility”

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Astrological Compatibility: We’re PEOPLE, not Signs

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Every now and then, I have to remind people: any two people, irrespective of their Sun signs are capable of having a successful relationship.

No matter what the chemistry (or synastry) looks like between the birth charts of two individuals, chances are, we’ll find ourselves having to make some adjustments when it comes to learning another person.

If we’re constantly going on and on about how we’ll never date a person of a certain sign or we “just don’t get along” with Scorpio’s or Capricorns, we may find that we create a self-fulfilling prophecy of sorts. Especially, if we have no desire to do the work which will actually help us arrive at the root of our issues.

Here are the facts; when it comes to ANY sign of the zodiac, they have their functional, or constructive expressions, as well as their dysfunctional or maladaptive ones.

If both parties are willing, and committed to aspiring to the highest expressions of what their signs (and entire birth charts) have to offer, then it’s entirely possible to have a fulfilling relationship.

Granted, there are definitely some relationships which may pose more of a challenge when it comes to day- to-day living.

Sometimes, in Astrological chart comparisons, we tend to forget about the actual PEOPLE involved and obsess over planetary placements, measurements, etc. It’s important to remember that everyone is bringing their unique histories and experiences to the party.

Family dynamics, cultural factors and environment also have to be considered along with the Astrology to identify the potential for compatibility.  We also must remember that despite the “shared” dynamic, the two individuals are still on their own distinct growth journeys.

More on this topic later…..

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Leo Sun, Sagittarius Moon : “Star and the Sky”

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Here, we have a serious synthesis of warm regality and lofty and far sighted thought energy. With this Sun/Moon duo, the fuel of seeking recognition and validation for one’s uniqueness and irreplaceability is reflected and given form through a personality which aims to have an impact on the world through the ideas and IDEALS which permeate their life philosophy.

The Sagittarian arrows of expansive mental activity have the potential to be illuminated or scorched by the light of the Leo Sun, depending on one’s overall level of development.

Through this astrological signature, we develop a portrait of one who’s energized by the sheer enjoyment of life and the creativity and “play” elements that are included in one’s personal, explorative journey. Being liked, admired and seen as special by others boosts one’s vitality and having one’s opinions respected and taken seriously provides the emotional nourishment.

There’s no question that a fiery and robust spirit is present, which seeks an enormous amount of freedom to navigate the world with the specific purpose of finding more of themselves. The danger in taking this to the extreme results in a failure to recognize that you already ARE what you seek. With this combination, the notion of “hero-worship” should fly out the window because with the proper effort applied towards your personal development, you are indeed THAT HERO.

A noble warmth combined with a high-minded thirst for knowledge and understanding is the ideal for a Leo Sun, Sagittarius Moon blend.  When operating dysfunctionally, a haughty self-righteousness and an overly inflated sense of importance take the front seat, which not only blinds you, but also those around you, which in turn, obscures all of your good intentions.

More than anything, what you want is to live in passionate pursuit of ideals and then actually LIVE them out. With this double fire combination one must guard against “all INSPIRATION and no PERSPIRATION.”

Astrologer Noel Tyl states:

“Two fire signs in this blend take the ego-recognition energies and shoot them high: there’s drama, daring, adventure and love all lifted up to where ideals catch fire. The flow is almost too easy, and the enthusiasms that abound can burn up all the fuel. One can ride through life too easily on appearances and desires, rather than on effort and accomplishment.”

 

What we see as the ultimate goal stated in this combination of solar strength and distant contemplation, is:  to be as much of one’s authentic self as humanly possible by embodying and demonstrating one’s worldview through a shining example of exemplary behavior.

Your theme song is: “Star and the Sky” by Dynasty featuring Skyzoo

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Reference: Synthesis & Counseling In Astrology by Noel Tyl