Venus in Gemini: “The Love of Variety”

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As we explore the carousel that is Venus in Gemini, we do so with the understanding that Venus can’t be reduced or limited exclusively to “love” in one’s birth chart. There are far more associations which accompany the planet. However, for the purpose of this particular article, one’s idea of love, as viewed through the Venus in Gemini lens, will be emphasized.

For Venus in Gemini, love is intellectual exchange. Love is Great conversation. Love is Mind stimulation. Love is flexibility and the ability to roll with duality. Love is witty and flirtatious. Love is youthful. Love is a trip to Barnes & Noble. Love is coffee shops and crossword puzzles. Love is watching “Jeopardy” in bed.

When interpreting and analyzing this planetary placement, it can’t be repeated enough times that planets or signs don’t “make” you act in any particular fashion. They don’t “do” anything to us, per se. What’s really going on here is that you’re being provided some food for thought concerning how to utilize your natal placement to develop into a more complete and fulfilled person.

For those with a Venus in Gemini placement, change is to be welcomed as a friend and not a threat. This placement suggests that the most auspicious avenues for the love principle to be expressed are through variety, curiosity, mental stimulation and adaptability.

There’s an enjoyment that comes with a fresh outlook and an attraction towards the new and a abhorrence toward stagnancy in personal relationships. If one isn’t constantly being exposed to newfangled insights, their interest soon begins wither and there becomes an immediate question as to whether such as association is necessary any longer.

With Gemini being a Mutable Air sign, a quicksilver swiftness is suggested. When combined with the Venusian principles, there’s a need for the individual to circulate. When one feels entrapped either physically or through stultifying ideas, staleness and psychological stench can set in.

It’s important for those with this planetary placement to consider the “elastic” nature that they require in a partner. Ideally, you want a best friend with whom you can indulge in conversations about a variety of topics and bounce ideas off of. This may come in the form of ONE person, or many.

However, the most important virtue for you to employ is complete honesty about what this package looks like for you coupled with the ability to communicate that to another person.

Venus’ placement in Gemini suggests that intellectual invigoration is a must and the “quiet and mysterious” may not be the move for you. Being truthful about how you’re wired can save you a lot of confusion. Consider that finding solace in the fact that “everything isn’t for everybody” is a long-term victory for you.

You need to be appreciated for your wit and multifaceted nature and this is actually the key toward your sexual arousal. For you, eroticism begins in the mind. You would much rather debate the current political climate of our country than be exposed to constant grand and romantic overtures (unless the totality of the birth chart indicates otherwise). In fact, your approach to sex may be a more cerebral one where discussion and research of sex may be just as, if not more exciting than the act itself. You may also have a mental “merry go round”  that will allow you the flexibility of entertaining certain sexual acts that you wouldn’t necessarily act out under other circumstances.

While the physical appearance of another isn’t to be discounted by any means, the qualities of verbal dexterity, sharp intellect and unceasing inquiry seem to weigh more heavily in your longer term attraction to another person.

As a Venus in Gemini person, one of your most pressing developmental challenges is to use your intelligence and penchant for questioning as a means to discovering the new when it comes to things and people that are “established”. so to speak.

To paraphrase Marcel Proust :

“The real voyage of discovery consists not in seeking new landscapes, but in having new eyes.”

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Venus Square Neptune : Seeing Through The Fog

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Having a firm grasp on reality without feeling like we have to sacrifice our imagination can be a full time job to some.  With Venus square Neptune in the birth chart there’s a suggestion that an adjustment needs to be made in how one’s views people and relationships in general.

Developmental tension is present between one’s idealism, values and sense of unity. When operating on a dysfunctional level, this aspect suggests that one distorts perceptions of those that they’re intimately involved in and engages in “selective relating”, thereby deleting information from their experience that may cause them pain and choosing to opt for a less “traumatic” version of events.

In the worst case scenario, this individual ends up as a victim of their own rose colored spectacles and projections.

They may even go as far as to create a “pretend partner” who responds to their every request and wish in a way which supports their illusion while declining interaction of a more authentic sort out of fear it will break the “spell.”

Working with this aspect on a conscious level, one has the capacity to offer unconditional, non-judgmental acceptance of the highest caliber to another human being.  Boundaries are recognized, but the relationship doesn’t have barriers to deeper intimacy because of the choice to face reality in an uncensored fashion.

©2017 by Sagittarian Mind Consulting

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Astrological Compatibility & The “3 Dynamics” : A Broader View

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When traveling the road of Astrological compatibility, much of the writing I’ve read implies a point of view which excludes what I would call “holistic energies”, from the picture.

There seems to be more of an emphasis on whether “this sign works with that sign” rather than how intimate relationships can be part of a gateway which serves our total development.

So, the focus becomes whether Scorpio and Sagittarius “get along” versus what types of relationships are necessary to grow into the type of people we’re supposed to become.

One of the things I discuss frequently with clients are three dynamics, which are simultaneously individual, yet inseparable.

When considering what a truly “compatible” union actually means, all of these passages must have the potential to flourish:

(1) The dynamic of personal development– When we’re dealing with questions of compatibility. It’s essential that we ask about our own potential to develop within the framework of the relationship. Often, we find ourselves wildly attracted to the prospect of being involved with a partner only to discover later on that the coupling stifles, rather than nurtures the person we’re aspiring to be. In essence, we find ourselves trapped. While one part of the relationship may be “adequate”, we feel a certain discontent which could possibly morph into animosity, because we’re well aware that we want to maximize our gifts on a wider scale.

(2) The dynamic of the “other’s” development–  Much of what was just said now applies to the other person (or people) we may be relating to. The questions we must ask ourselves now center around if we’re providing adequate space and support for our partner(s) to grow. Due largely to our conditioning, we may feel that we should now receive exclusive “priority” in every possible situation because we’re in a relationship. However, the fact remains that our partner had goals and objectives which were completely outside of us before we met, and it’s most likely that they still do. We now have to question our capacity to develop strategies which make room for and encourage them in their pursuit of self-expression.

(3) The “shared” dynamic – This ebb and flow deals with synergy. Everything we are as a “couple”. Our collective philosophy and mission statement of the relationship. It’s what we wish to produce as a “team”, and the energy we enjoy when both people have been pursuing their self-actualization and bring it back into the fold as a tool for learning and instruction, as to strengthen and expand the union. Also, questions emerge as to what type of relationship we’re expressing to the community at large. We ask how us being together helps to affect the lives of others, and what our aims are, if any, for adding to the advancement of the collective.

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I’m putting forth the idea that compatibility be viewed in a much wider context than it has been, or else we’re most likely selling ourselves short from a holistic view.

When we ignore the totality of our being, we can easily create room for significant imbalances to creep into our relationships. We may love being with our partner, but suddenly realize we have “no life” outside of her/him.

Or, we may become so caught up in outside pursuits that we don’t effectively prioritize that special time needed for cultivation of our relationship.

In addition, we could become so engulfed in presenting a “front” to society as a “power couple”, managing our image to appear in a certain light, and forget all about the larger purpose of why we came together.

Truly effective astrology produces many more questions for further exploration than hardcore answers. I’m inviting all of you, who may be involved with a partner(s), or thinking about embarking on the journey of an intimate relationship, to carefully consider this food for thought and digest what you see fit and eliminate what doesn’t serve you at this time.

 

Venus in Scorpio, Mars in Libra

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As the recipient of this Venus/Mars blend in your birth chart, your relational needs center around intensity and emotional nakedness.

It’s difficult for you to accept anything less than feeling deeply connected to your significant other or whomever you choose to engage with.

Whether you realize it or not, there’s a dance happening inside you which requires the careful navigation of its rhythms. It consists of allowing yourself to see both your beauty as well as the ugly beast within.

If there’s anything you feel that should remain in the dark “from prying eyes”, for your benefit, you have to face it without running away. In fact, there will be no peace until you do so. You have immense potential to heal and be healed through your personal relationships, but you must come to terms with the cost of admission.

Your blend suggests the application of energy in service of harmony, and this is honorable. However, avoiding the rawness of touchy issues just for the sake of serenity won’t cut it in this lifetime. Your inner peace could be very well earned through trials of fire.

We all know that sex faces aren’t pretty, but you have to let the grimace be what it is, and let the moans out- chances are you’ll feel a liberation of emotional toxins and will be on the way to experiencing the equilibrium that you value so much. Anything which can help you to reveal yourself in a no holds barred capacity is your friend. In order to create a trusting environment, you TOO must lay some cards on the table. Maybe not *every* card just yet, but enough to let others know you mean serious business.

Will you share your depths? Or will you look out the peephole until you think everything is “nice and neat”?

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Planetary Portraits : Venus in Taurus

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Placement Strength & Applications: Love of stability can be used toward rock-solid and steadfast devotion to a partner. Capacity to enjoy the “here and now”; grounded in the senses. Potential to foster harmony and tranquility in personal relationships. A natural orientation which neutralizes pretentious exchange.

Developmental Challenges: To make the distinction between people and property. Understanding when “consistency” can be used to rationalize inertia or fear of fresh new approaches. To find the “sweet spot” in relationships where one balances the pleasurable and the practical while not using one as an excuse to overindulge in or minimize the other.

The Portrait: Beauty as simplicity. The natural. The potential to attract without seeking undue attention. A skillful blend of modesty and staunch inner confidence. The epitome of minding one’s own business and expecting others to do the same.

Relational Style:  Enduring, trustworthy. The keeper of her/his word. “In your corner” type of loyalty, and expects the same.

Sexual Style: PRESENT in all forms. Earthy, uncomplicated and unbothered.

You Value: The feminine, the sensual, the comfortable.

© 2017 by Sagittarian Mind Consulting

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Venus in Taurus, Mars in Libra

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With this Venus/Mars blend, there’s a need to relate with the “other” on a physical/tangible level. Stability and consistency are integral ingredients to creating a rock solid union with another.

There’s a suggestion that energy is most productively applied toward endeavors which build bridges between parties and foster harmonious rapport. However, clinging to inertia and underestimating the potential in relationships as vehicles for deep psychological change along with submergence of one’s individuality in intimate liaisons are themes which need to be squarely examined within this planetary combination.

There’s a danger in wholly accepting partnerships at “face value” without analyzing the more elaborate implications of behavior, motivations and the changes which occur in our thinking as a result of merging our concepts and values with another.

To be deeply involved is to risk. Both courageously voicing one’s observations and also accepting and considering feedback from another.

It may be helpful to understand that embracing change its most profound levels doesn’t require a relinquishment of our unfolding individuality. In fact, development of ourselves is the cornerstone of establishing what we can actually give and share with another in our relationships.

More lessons to be learned for those with this blend are: All compromise isn’t 50/50. sometimes it’s 70/30 or 60/40. Also, there will be instances where you have to fight for peace, and that’s okay.

While you’re inclined to place immense value on enjoying the moment, it’s important to never lose sight of the fact that with every breath we’re unfolding and changing. To hit the sweet spot which promotes understanding and evades stasis can go a long way in nurturing your bonds with those you care about.

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Planetary Portraits: Venus in Cancer

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Placement Strengths & Applications: Fostering and nurturing the complete relationship. Offering the warm, cozy nest of safety and unconditional love. The recognition of the full gamut of emotions and feelings. The inclination to intuit a partner’s spoken and unspoken needs. Attention paid to “the little things”. Promoter of the private “just between me & you.” bonds.

Developmental Challenges: “Helping” and “caring as a form of creating obligations in other people. Subtle, indirect manipulation. Learning how to receive the same affection you provide. Understanding warning signals and dangers of  holding something or someone too tightly and confusing that behavior with love.

The Portrait: The earth mother. A demonstration of the ideal feminine (irrespective of gender). One who is capable of harnessing emotional support in quantity and quality.

Relational Style: Sincere, soulful and heartfelt.

Sexual Style: Privately lusty.

You Value: The Sentimental & nostalgic.

©2017 by Sagittarian Mind Consulting

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Venus in Pisces, Mars in Aries

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You value what you can’t see with your eyes and you also sense subtle music which all of us can’t hear.

Like water, you’re adaptable and you can take on the shape of  whatever “container” you happen to be dealing with at the time, whether it’s a job, friendship or intimate relationship. Adaptability is one of your reigning strengths.

However, what you often experience is a conflict between empathy, i.e. walking in the shoes of others, and taking action which promotes your self-interest.

Your life questions center around whether you should be the “supportive one”, or passionately champion your own independence. You may find in time that your energy expenditure is most fruitful in developing your individuality, so you have more to give to another person. After all, you find your relational needs to be connected to merging and sharing mutual sensitivity.

A spiritual connection means a lot to you, but you’re also no stranger to the deep thrusts and eroticism, which you integrate into the whole. For you,  love should be gentle, but a little tinge of pain never hurt anyone, either.

So, in essence, your Mars/Venus blend is about the themes of not so much changing your shape to fit every container, but creating a container which is flexible and can accommodate your unfolding as a human being. You might even find that you need more than one container, or that there needs to be several. So what?

When it comes to flowing with the current of life, your potential is evident. Applying yourself toward pioneering courageous approaches to the expression of your “vibe” is also right up your alley.

You can relate with a subtlety which is adept, yet act swiftly. Both peace and passion are your birthright.

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Venus in Sagittarius, Mars in Virgo

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With this Venus/Mars combination at the helm, questions immediately arise regarding wise and discriminate use of one’s energy in reference to the ideals which they espouse. A vast appetite for personal growth is evident. There’s the thought that the “bigger” you allow yourself to be, the better.

However, concerns should be raised as to your overall level of effectiveness in your pursuits. Does your actual efficiency and production match the grandeur of your aspirations? Your bow and arrow requires precise direction, as you don’t want to be stuck on a rudderless ship with nothing but “good intentions.”

Also, it’s important for you to understand that your plan doesn’t have to be perfect in order to execute it. Your capacity to act and adjust to changing circumstances coupled with your faith is enough to get you moving. From there, you’re charged with making steady improvements.

There’s a natural square relationship between the signs of Sagittarius and Virgo which means that there’s tension present with their interaction. To navigate this terrain, pursuing constant refinement of the specific parts while never losing sight of the holistic view, is the path of development.

While your relational urges can be both expansive and hedonistic, you’re offered an anchor to ground you and enhance your staying power. One of the most valuable lessons you can learn is the dignity of finishing what you start. In doing this, your free-spirit is satiated because you’re using your freedom in a way which liberates you even more versus promoting unhealthy and overindulgent scenarios.

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Venus in Gemini, Mars in Sagittarius

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With this Venus/Mars combination, freedom and variety is as essential to you as oxygen. The question you will have to ask yourself is freedom for what? There’s no doubt that relationships serve you as a  source of unlimited information and intellectual stimulation. You also seek to apply what you learn in a larger context; through some all-encompassing philosophical system which provides you with more clues about what life ultimately means.

When you came to this planet, a one-dimensional experience is certainly what you DIDN’T have in mind.

Whether you’re getting your passport stamped or heavily immersed in a great work of literature, traveling is essential for you. Both your relationships and sex life need to be immersed in this theme.

No adventure and diversity might as well be a “bored to death” sentence for you, as this blend suggests a need to explore duality and a quest for a lightness and buoyancy of being.

Yes… you may be floating along with youthful exuberance, but let’s not mistake that for naiveté, as you have the potential to assert the force of your being as connected to high-minded principles, especially honesty and ethical behavior as it applies to your intimate relationships.

Maybe the lesson which you have to learn with this blend is: there can be just as much variety in getting to know a few people deeply as flitting two and fro from one relatively superficial encounter to the next.

In your life and relationships you’ll find that the more you explore, the more questions arise, so be prepared to understand that just when you think you have the ultimate answer or truth, a few more of them reveal themselves and you have to re-work the puzzle we know as life.

If you’re able to use your flexibility to adapt to that type of “weather”, you will find that you’re able to make your home anywhere and enjoy the here and now of your relationships and maintain your sense of wonder which so rightly permeates your DNA.

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