The Function of Mercury in Partnership Astrology (Synastry)

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When considering partnership Astrology and compatibility, I’ve always maintained that Mercury is a highly underrated planet.

It somehow gets lost in the shuffle. When many of us ask if we’re “compatible” with another individual, we seem to go straight to the Venus and Mars portion of the show, which would suggest the physical attraction,  links of passion, and the SEX.

However, upon further investigation into our relationships, we start to hear things like ; “He/She isn’t really talking about anything” or “I don’t understand how  He/She thinks.” Now, we’ve opened the door for Mercury.

In relationships (and generally) Mercury is the planet which symbolizes communication.  The “winged messenger” resides over the left brain logical processing of information, the classification of facts,  our analytical faculties and speech. The energy of Mercury is discriminating, as it reduces the whole to parts in order decipher meaning.

When two people get together, what they think about and the manner in which thoughts and ideas are processed can play a critical role in the functioning (or lack thereof) in the relationship. After all, communication is one of the primary ways in which we establish our connections with others.

 

If the placement of the two  individuals’ Mercury placements form a tense, or challenging relationship, they may be tested to see how flexible they are in understanding and accommodating the way the other thinks and processes things.

“I know you believe you understand what you think I said. But I ‘m not sure you realize that what you heard is not what I meant.” (Source: “Meta-Talk”, by Gerald Nierenberg)

Yeah….. something like that…..

The harmonious, or free flowing alignment of Mercury between two people suggests an easy rapport. Someone that we feel at ease speaking with, and usually what we would call “like -minded”. There is a mutual interest in each other and a curiosity in regard to the subject matter that both people are presenting.

There’s also likely to be a mutual agreement on the concept of learning and exactly what part it plays in the every day experience of the two people. Whether they’re on one accord about the beauty of “youthful wonder” or the ease of ignoring social issues, there’s still an understanding.

In thinking about the part that Mercury plays in our relationships, we may want to continue to examine what type of partner may suit us intellectually.

What do we like to discuss? What qualifies as mental stimulation? What value do we place on the “life of the mind?” What have we found to be the most effective ways to communicate or connect with another human being?

Think about it.

 

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Venus in Scorpio, Mars in Libra

 

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As the owner of this Venus/Mars blend in your birth chart, your relational needs center around intensity and emotional nakedness.

It’s difficult for you to accept anything less than feeling deeply connected to your significant other or whomever you choose to engage with.

Whether you realize it or not, there’s a dance happening inside you which requires the careful navigation of its rhythms. It consists of allowing yourself to see both your beauty as well as the ugly beast within.

If there’s anything you feel that should remain in the dark “from prying eyes”, for your benefit, you have to face it without running away. In fact, there will be no peace until you do so. You have immense potential to heal and be healed through your personal relationships, but you must come to terms with the cost of admission.

Your blend suggests the application of energy in service of harmony, and this is honorable. However, avoiding the rawness of touchy issues just for the sake of serenity won’t cut it in this lifetime. Your inner peace could be very well earned through trials of fire.

We all know that sex faces aren’t pretty, but you have to let the grimace be what it is, and let the moans out- chances are you’ll feel a liberation of emotional toxins and will be on the way to experiencing the equilibrium that you value so much. Anything which can help you to reveal yourself in a no holds barred capacity is your friend. In order to create a trusting environment, you TOO must lay some cards on the table. Maybe not *every* card just yet, but enough to let others know you mean serious business.

Will you share your depths? Or will you look out the peephole until you think everything is “nice and neat”?

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Scorpio Sun, Pisces Moon

 

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Inherent within this Sun/moon blend is the potential for a synthesis of the most gentle winds and a raging hurricane.

A certain need for  spirit, nuance and delicacy fills your heart , as there’s a longing to unite with a source must greater than yourself.  Not only do you have the capacity to tap into the subtlety of  emotional undercurrents, but it also fuels your vitality to plunge into the depths; right into the heart of matters which would be considered taboo.

Unless you’re penetrating life’s mysteries, peeling away layers and removing veils to uncover  truth, you may feel like a car that’s  designed to run on high-octane fuel, but has settled for regular 87.

What you really want to do is integrate the parts of your being which deal with raw, authenticity and aspire to control the seething intensity in your gut as it bubbles up to the surface, and those which long for an ideal world. On any level, profound connections are sought. Managing inner turmoil and acute sensitivity isn’t the easiest of jobs, but someone has to do it.

What may assist you is considering the perspective that sometimes, the more we seek to impose our will, to control and to manipulate people and things, the more slippery they become in our illusory grasp.

Indeed, having a sense of “flow” is something which nourishes you at your core, but the fluidity becomes blocked when other people exclusively become the focus of your psychological scrutiny as a means to navigate the waters of your personal unconscious.

Understand that you can still use your imagination and be firmly connected to reality. You can exercise empathy toward the pain of another and still walk away, and you can swim in the deep without becoming engulfed.

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Gemini Sun, Aries Moon

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Mental dexterity and emotional bravery.

Your Sun/Moon combination is summoning you for full participation and exploration in the intellectual and emotional realms of life. Are you up for the challenge?

There is little room for the type of life where you run from your thoughts and your feelings.

You’re not just meant to leave a mark, but rather an unrepeatable imprint,  for your own sake,  and for others to follow.

If you don’t quite “feel” like this, it’s encouraged that you develop the courage and the confidence to do so. One of your callings and challenges in life is to pursue your desires without guilt, or fear of being labeled selfish by others, navigating through life with agility and refusing to back down from anything which doesn’t embody a representation of your truest, most authentic self.

Creative power is generated from the lightning quick grasping of concepts, the absorbing of information and the dissemination of ideas with “heart” and passion. It’s essential that you have conviction about that which you’re speaking in order for this potential to be maximized.

This solar/lunar combination suggests the infusion of a youthful, fresh approach in whatever it is you’re doing along with the ultimate need to be number one in your own heart and life. If you choose to harness your bravery, a.k.a “fight the good fight”, understand that this is an investment in SELF, which for you, is one of the best kind because you NEED a REASON or CAUSE to champion, and why not the individual that you LOVE more than anything or anybody in this world?

With such an attitude, a myriad of winning scenarios are on the table. If you take the route of doubting yourself (especially your intellectual capacity) or using words as a weapon to inflict injury on others, you could no doubt wind up the biggest loser in the scenario that is your existence.

 

Virgo Sun, Cancer Moon, Sagittarius Rising

 

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Your willingness and ability to form emotional connections with the world and the people in it opens doors for you to be of service through refining the processes of living.

By forming a solid core, which is free from both unnecessary self-criticism and unfounded judgment of others , you clear space for yourself to approach life boldly through deep inquiry and broad exploration.

Your life is meant to serve as a quest for meaning. A thought- provoking examination of belief systems via the tools of  telescopic lenses and microscopic analysis allows you to understand your own reasoning for embarking on the life journeys that you select. With this Astrological signature, the importance of fostering an intimate relationship with oneself can’t be stressed enough.  By keeping in tune with the pulse of your own heart and all of its fluctuations, it allows you to understand the richness and range of emotion, speak its language fluently, and  offer the specific help and healing that others need.

It bears consideration that one of your strengths may be to create bridges of trust with other people. By suggesting improvements in a caring and gentle manner and opening ears and hearts through a nonjudgmental listening response, you can set the tone to unveil wider possibilities for those who cross your path.

The vehicle through which you navigate the world is of the adjustable variety. That allows you the opportunity to share in discovery with others and meet them at their level of understanding, which in itself, is comforting.  Broad perception with discriminating lenses and a big heart are your perpetual handmaidens.

 

Sagittarius Sun, Scorpio Moon

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Freedom and passion.

Not at all an unlikely pairing of needs . However, one could easily see how there could be a challenge to integrate both when involved with another individual.

The two needs would definitely have to negotiate with one another and come to a reasonable agreement . At least for that moment, or day in time.

Let’s  explore for a moment how this blend of a Sagittarius Sun and Scorpio Moon could make a lifetime out of fusing the breadth and depth which is implied by these two requirements.

With the Sun in Sagittarius, the quest to unearth a truth which will highlight the vast cosmic order and provide you with an ever broadening life philosophy is what fuels you.

The adventures of intellectual influencehaving a profound effect on the way others thinkteaching, acquiring knowledge and wisdom and obtaining the foresight to predict outcomes based on what you’ve learned serves as a stimulus for your life energy.

Your Scorpio Moon borrows your shine and reflects it back creating a personality which needs to go deep.

Your reigning needs consist of a necessity to feel life’s experiences at their most profound levels. Piercing and penetrating the veils and leaving the surface levels of existence in the dust.

You’re nourished by immersing yourself in the transformative fires of conflict and intimacy so that you may emerge reborn, wiser and more powerful.

Once a Sagittarian has been bitten by the bug of truth, he or she can’t be stopped. In a style filled with missionary zeal, they aim their arrow at their targets straight and true hoping to capture what they need until their next quest.

This life thrust blends with the energy of the lunar Scorpion, who concentrates his/her emotional reserves in a very private and strategic way only to be released when it’s appropriate. So, whether you possess this planetary placement or you’re close to someone who does. Your secrets are safe.

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Aries Sun, Scorpio Moon

 

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When an Aries Sun is blended with a Scorpio Moon in an individuals birth chart, the nucleus of the person’s life energy consists of  making a significant impact in the world by way of an assertive thrust of personal identity.

The sun’s placement here suggests that the motivating stimulus is to be recognized as number one, a leader and a pioneer who thrives on tests of internal fortitude and the grasping of challenges which allow them to “sharpen their warrior steel”.

The Scorpio Moon uses the sun’s light to reflect a personality who needs to pursue this dominance through emotional depth, knowing things and passionate penetration of anything in life which may be considered buried, hidden or taboo.

For this combination, the way to the heights of the top is through the depths of the bottom. There’s a high energy exertion contained in this blend in both the physical and the emotional worlds, so it stands to reason that extremes are something which need to be regulated. Although there’s a strong statement from the Aries Sun saying: “this is who I am”, there’s also a deep need to conserve emotional resources, as to delay full disclosure to the world.

The internal question is: if I reveal ALL that I have, what will be left for me? This combination also holds the potential for a considerable degree of personal magnetism. It suggests the ability to “hold” others whether through sheer force of  presence, or the passionate pulling of heart strings.

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Leo Sun, Capricorn Moon

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This sun/moon combination suggests that emotional and psychological fulfillment comes through harnessing one’s abilities to consolidate resources in the name of personal growth.

The type of fuel your “engine” runs on contains aspirations to gain notice from others through a creative and unique expression of yourself and your gifts. If administrative prowess and personal promotion are blended successfully, there’s potential for the high visibility which comes with leadership, provided that you inspire others through an example of sincerity as opposed to being a walking exercise in ego inflation.

The step by step building of an internal locus of control nourishes you and helps you to ground your sense of authority. If your heart space is well-organized, the beaming light which accompanies your charisma has the potential to shine though in order to gain the personal recognition which you seek.

One of your keys to becoming a well-integrated person is to take responsibility for everything that you are. To recognize your strengths as well as your limitations and how to responsibly and effectively live within them.

When you “walk the talk”, you feel as if you’re standing on a firm foundation and there are no contradictions in your thoughts, words or deeds. In turn, this affords you the insight that you never have to settle for less than you deserve in your personal relationships or dealings with others.

In essence, you’re self-validated and don’t feel guilty about asking for, or pursuing what you want.

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Planetary Portraits : Venus in Sagittarius

 

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First of all, Venus in Sagittarius doesn’t “make you act” any certain way. The placement speaks to your relational needs and values.  With this placement, mutual growth, honesty and independence is of paramount importance. You require the type of relationship where each partner isn’t threatened by the expansion of the other’s world.  By no means is this a license to do hurtful things in the name of exercising one’s freedom, but rather a call to share your ever broadening perspective with a person that you love and share space with. To serve as each other’s “tour guide” for the adventure of living.

Venus in Virgo, Mars in Leo

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For those with this Venus/Mars blend, liberation rests in relinquishing the fear of getting “caught slipping”. The modus operandi is to honestly put their best self forward and to forget about looking incompetent. It’s important to apply energy toward the honoring and promotion of one’s special attributes and achieving recognition for that. There can be the push/pull between feigning “humility” and wanting the limelight. Realize that helping and serving others will always be important to you, but one need not sacrifice appreciation of one’s self simply to be a champion for other people and nothing else.

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