Astrological Compatibility: We’re PEOPLE, not Signs

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Every now and then, I have to remind people: any two people, irrespective of their Sun signs are capable of having a successful relationship.

No matter what the chemistry (or synastry) looks like between the birth charts of two individuals, chances are, we’ll find ourselves having to make some adjustments when it comes to learning another person.

If we’re constantly going on and on about how we’ll never date a person of a certain sign or we “just don’t get along” with Scorpio’s or Capricorns, we may find that we create a self-fulfilling prophecy of sorts. Especially, if we have no desire to do the work which will actually help us arrive at the root of our issues.

Here are the facts; when it comes to ANY sign of the zodiac, they have their functional, or constructive expressions, as well as their dysfunctional or maladaptive ones.

If both parties are willing, and committed to aspiring to the highest expressions of what their signs (and entire birth charts) have to offer, then it’s entirely possible to have a fulfilling relationship.

Granted, there are definitely some relationships which may pose more of a challenge when it comes to day- to-day living.

Sometimes, in Astrological chart comparisons, we tend to forget about the actual PEOPLE involved and obsess over planetary placements, measurements, etc. It’s important to remember that everyone is bringing their unique histories and experiences to the party.

Family dynamics, cultural factors and environment also have to be considered along with the Astrology to identify the potential for compatibility.  We also must remember that despite the “shared” dynamic, the two individuals are still on their own distinct growth journeys.

More on this topic later…..

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Moon-Ascendant Contacts in Synastry: “Emotional Understanding”

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When it comes to intimate relationships, emotional understanding is undoubtedly one of the most vital pieces to the puzzle of success.

Between two individuals, when major contacts are present between the Moon and Ascendant, the potential for such a dynamic is just waiting to be realized. In my opinion, it matters less whose Moon or Ascendant is doing the contacting and more, that an open, heartfelt display of feelings be honored between the two parties.

The potential attraction exists because one feels secure in the presence of the other based on their overall identity projection. It’s like both people have sniffed out an invisible “shame-free” zone in which they can operate in. A haven where judgement is pushed to the side in favor of unconditional support.

Moon-Ascendant contacts suggest that the emotional states of both parties will be easily revealed to the other, so there’s really no use in trying to hide that bad day at the office because you didn’t receive the promotion. Yeah…. you’re gonna talk about it!!

This can be beautiful, or quite troubling at times because even though both partners are on the “same page”, one may be reading far ahead of the other.  Also, with so much free flowing emotion, it’s important to remember that advantages of gaining some distance so each person owns their “stuff” and resists projecting it on to the other.

Overall, the opportunities which exist within these contacts are a sense of safety; of never feeling “under siege”. This sets up the possibility of a fearless display of love. The type of relationship where anything can be shared with either party and the responsibility that comes with having the heart of the other in the palm of one’s hand is taken with the utmost seriousness and handled with absolute care.

The Astrological Relationship Quartet: The Moon, Mercury, Venus & Mars in Partnership

Lets make no mistake about it: embarking on the quest of analyzing the many forms of human interaction can be a Herculean task.

With all of the rich variations of personality and shades of behavioral nuance to take into consideration, deriving chemistry, whether in friendships, work situations or partnerships is certainly nothing to sneeze at.

The focus of this article surrounds intimate relationships. In Astrological language, the appropriate term to describe the art of comparing individuals’ birth charts for the sake of compatibility is called synastry.

Often, when compatibility is discussed in popular magazines and similar publications, the focus

is strictly on Sun signs, a.k.a, the sign that were all familiar with. While this emphasis provides valuable information concerning our aspirations and what type of fuel we require to sustain our vitality, much more needs to be taken into consideration when deriving a complete picture of how two people mesh. Ideally, in a fully functioning relationship, we incorporate all of our planetary energies to some degree. For this piece, I would like to explore what I call the relationship quartetin partnership Astrology, better known as the Moon, Mercury, Venus and Mars.

All of us have these planets placed in our birth charts in one of the 12 zodiac signs. The style in which that planetary energy would most likely manifest, or be distributed is suggested by the particular sign which finds its home there. When one persons placements are compared with another, we start to derive a clearer picture of what the energy exchange” may look like.

The Moon: “Love is a House

If you ever need warmth or comfort, darling I’ll be here to hold you near. All I demand is you be my security. Love is a house, and you got the key.

– “Love is a House by The Force MDs.

In partnership Astrology, the Moon symbolizes our deepest emotional needs. Its one of the planets, along with Venus in the “intimacy network. When considering lunar dynamics between people, questions arise such as: Do I feel safe with you? Can I relax and be at home with you? Or even, “Don’t I know you from somewhere?

Our Moon signs say much about how were able to navigate the terrain of feelings and adjust ourselves to the instinctual fluctuations and reactions, to lifes ebbs and flows. Additionally, how

we nurture others, and the type of care that we require. Comparing Moon energies between two people raises questions surrounding sensitivity and responsiveness to the inner life of the participants, living arrangements and overall feelings of security and emotional compatibility.

Mercury: Tell Me If You Want Me To

But to my great surprise, ever since Ive looked in your eyes, I had one question for you…Tell me if you want me to, give you all my time….I want to make it good for you, cause you blow my mind. I promise boy that I’ll be true, youre the perfect find so tell me if you want me to

Tell me by Groove Theory

When it comes to overall compatibility, Mercury is an extremely underrated planet. As much as said about a meeting of the minds” and being on the same page, the winged messenger doesn’t get nearly enough of its just due. In plain language, Mercurial compatibility asks: Whats the vibe when we talk? Whats the subject matter of our conversations? Whats the style of the mutual process of exchanging ideas and information?

Understanding how Mercury functions in your chart as well as your partners can give you much needed insight as to why one of you wants to discuss feminism and the other NASCAR, and why this is or isn’t problematic. Also, why one of you may be the best listener in the world and the other can’t get a word in edgewise.

Venus: Come Share My Love

And I’ll give you all I have to give, all the love/all the joy/ my heart can give…hoping you will share the same with me. -“Come Share My Love by Miki Howard

Venus is the second planet in the intimacy network, and sharing is caring could definitely be the phrase that pays when describing the dynamic of its energy.

Venus is about relating to another person. Accommodating, inviting, charming and alluring. Its related to what we find beautiful and pleasing and what we enjoy. When we start to examine Venusian energy between partners we ask:

Do I like being around this person? Do we have fun together? “Is this a fair and equal partnership? “Do I find you attractive?What are the shared values in this relationship? Or equally important: “How do my partners values differ from mine?

How many of us know someone who said they weren’t a good match with someone because their tastes didn’t match? For this: check Venus out.

Mars: “Lets Talk About Sex

Lets talk about sex now/to the people at home or in the crowd/ it keeps coming up anyhow Dont be coy, avoid or make void the topic, cause that ain’t gonna stop it.

-“Lets Talk About Sex by Salt-NPepa

Passion. Heat. Raw, primal energy.

These are the themes which emerge when delving into the symbolism of the red planet.

Martian energy suggests the application of will, action and going after what we want. Mars’ sign provides clues on our different styles of doing this. The sexual energy level is also related to Mars, so if you want to explore if and how your partners libido cranks up, peep the planet.

Philosophically, we ask: Whats the sex game like? “How do we get angry and fight? Whats the m.o. for pursuing ones desires?

Along with Venus, Mars tops off the erotic potpourri, or as Astrologer Stephen Arroyo states:

The harmony (or lack of it) between ones own Venus and Mars energies and the Venus and Mars attunements of another person might be described as interpersonal emotional/erotic energy exchange.

Yeah…. It might be a long night.

Along with the relationship quartet, we have other planets and factors which make a significant contribution to synastry through augmentation, intensification or amelioration in both charts. Astrology should be understood holistically, as the whole is always greater than the sum of its parts. This article is just a mere piece to the complex and ever unfolding puzzle called human chemistry.