Libra Sun, Capricorn Moon

The blend of social harmony and purposeful, ambitious undertakings.

To be viewed by society as a “good” person,i.e. someone who is generally fair, kind and humane is what fuels your life force. You want to be well-liked and structure communication with others on the basis of building bridges of understanding rather than raising points of contention.

What makes you feel alive is knowing that you’re continually refining the art of human interaction and you improve upon this through a sincere interest in people. Being in your presence makes others feel understood and listened to.

Life structure is one of your primary emotional needs. You need to know that no matter what you’re “going somewhere”. An organized plan of action and personal development has the potential to nourish your desire to achieve in a tangible way. Having something to show for your discipline and efforts is a must.

What needs to be understood is that in the midst of life  “business”, everyone may not walk away from the table happy. You will find yourself in situations where practical decisions may have to trump social relationships.

Your cordiality and diplomacy is in no way designed to offset your need to deal with the bottom line or bare bones of a situation. In fact, it’s purpose is to smooth out what may otherwise be rough terrain when you’re the bearer of unpleasant news.

On the flip side, with your potential to lead and manage you’re being called to display a “personal impersonality”. Never losing the human touch, yet distancing yourself enough as to not allow relationships to hold you hostage.

You are being challenged to remain resolute in your decision making. Holding fast to your logic and integrity while avoiding the traps of flailing in the whirlwind of the social approval scale. Often, you may feel like you have to decide between being true to your principles or being “liked”.

Remember that those who are genuine will respect your firmness and you only had the illusory approval of people who would want to revoke it because of decisions they happen to disagree with.

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Taurus Sun, Libra Moon

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In a birth chart, when the Sun is in Taurus and the Moon is in Libra, a double dose of Venusian energy permeates the atmosphere.

The core life energy of the individual is directed toward  stability, comfort and consistency.

Building, slowly but surely, towards a future which enhances material and spiritual value is the “fuel” which stimulates. The Libra Moon borrows the suns light to reflect a personality who needs to balance their need for self approval and societal acceptance.

There’s a sense of being emotionally nourished by being seen as a fair, just and kind person. Someone who’s able to build bridges and negotiate seemingly polarized energies.

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Gemini Sun, Libra Moon

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In an individual birth chart, when the Sun is placed in Gemini and the Moon in Libra, the person is fueled by variety of perspectives. The core life energy is geared toward quenching an almost insatiable intellectual curiosity. This consists of gathering facts, classifying information, defining and labeling with the ultimate goal of differentiation.

The Sun’s placement in Gemini suggests the the potential to express oneself with mental agility as well as strength in logical analysis.

The Libra Moon uses the Gemini Sun’s light to reflect a personality whose essential need is to balance acceptance of self with societal approval. There is an emotional need to be seen as a humane, kind and affable person. Someone who “gets along with everyone.”

Harmonious relations are what nourish the individual with the Moon in Libra. The placement suggests that if effort is applied, a considerable amount of progress can be made in building bridges and finding common ground with others.

When this Sun-Moon blend is operating dysfunctionally within a person, they have the potential to be the MASTER conflict dodger. Since the Gemini Sun’s placement suggests the life energy that surrounds verbal dexterity: a.k.a, being slick with words, and “rubbing others the wrong way” is a Libra Moon’s anathema, facing the reality that disagreements are going to happen can pose as a challenge.

Astrologer Hadyn Paul writes:

“Your need for approval may mean that you follow the group path rather than listening to your own inner promptings or your own personal needs, due to a fear of becoming ostracized or alienated from group acceptance. You need to belong, and this need is projected out onto social groupings, but perhaps the deeper need is that of owning and reflecting your whole nature.

In trying to please others and make yourself indispensable you may be repressing areas of your own nature, especially the moon qualities resulting in emotional repression and denial of your own feeling instincts.

In an attempt to minimize disharmony, Libra can tend to evade, whether inner or outer, especially those painful areas of self and life, preferring to ignore or run away from them. This is often the case where the alternative is to face up to the realities of a relationship where the need is for direct confrontation designed to resolve developing differences and for a deeper level of communication to clear the air.”

The key to using this Sun-Moon blend effectively is to develop the capacity for communicating and relating at deeper levels even though the result may not necessarily carry the breezy “lightness” that you’re used to.

Also, to use the gift of gab and social astuteness as not only vehicles to align yourself with others, but also as devices to help navigate conflict resolution rather than the wholesale avoidance of confrontation.

Reference: Queen of the Night: Exploring the Astrological Moon by Hadyn Paul (Element Books)

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Libra Sun, Aquarius Moon

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With the Sun in Libra and the Moon in Aquarius, your life is infused by aspirations of maintaining harmonious relationships with others, but this isn’t to come at the expense of your own individuality.  To sacrifice who you are, at your essential core, in order to please or placate is working backward.

You may find yourself with the need to find an avenue of expression for your many eccentricities.  One of your tasks is figuring out how to give “life” to your quirks and have meaningful encounters with others in the process.

Your core energy centers around maintaining equilibrium, and one of the most effective ways in which this is achieved is to pursue your own individuation, as that fulfills the needs of your personality.  While you may want to feel part of a “group” to feel sane, or even thought of as a “nice”, kind and just person, your ability to distinguish yourself FROM any group is also of paramount importance.

Issues of social consciousness and the welfare of humanity pique your interest and you can be suited to delve into them and serve as one who provides a contribution which is both diplomatic and organizationally effective.

In intimacy, it’s important to realize that differences between people can be celebrated rather than used as “bait” for discord.

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Aries Sun, Libra Moon

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The blending of the Sun in Aries and the Moon in Libra is fundamentally illustrative of the need to integrate the dynamics of the assertion of individuality and harmonious social relations. The natural opposition, or complimentary force between the signs calls for awareness of ourselves and the other.

With an Aries Sun, the person’s essential life energy and stimulus consists of thrusting the identity into the world with force and distinguishing the self as an individual, distinct from the herd,asserting and claiming themselves as number one in their chosen field of endeavor.

This solar placement suggests an initiating quality which can manifest behaviorally in the form of dynamic, courageous and empowering leadership when operating on a functional level. The Sun in Aries potential centers around the drive to leap forward into action and using their strength to defeat any impediments which may be present.

 

When operating dysfunctionally, the Aries Sun can manifest as someone who’s so vitally “alive” that they think they’re the ONLY one’s alive. The overfunctioning of the ego serves to alienate those who might otherwise be allies.

The Libra Moon uses the Sun’s light to reflect a personality whose nourishment depends on balancing self-approval with social appreciation. Where the Aries Sun is focused on self, the Libra Moon’s orientation is toward others, with a tendency to evaluate themselves from the observer’s point of view. Cooperation, social relatedness and the joining of forces toward a common goal are some of the emotional needs suggested by a Libra Moon.

 

When  the Moon’s placement in Libra is operating dysfunctionally, the individual OVER relates to others. He or she becomes confused about who they are outside of their relationships. There may be a ‘peace at all costs” philosophy at work where the person suppresses their identity in favor of amicable relations. However, this set up ultimately leaves the door open for animosity to creep in causing an eruption of epic proportions. The very dynamic which was trying to be avoided through accommodating behavior has now been created because the individual wanted to be seen as “fair” and “good”.

 Navigating the balance point between the assertion of self as a separate entity and the recognition of how that impacts our relations with other people is the key to constructively integrating this Sun-Moon blendTo have confidence that we can simultaneously claim our individual selfhood and relate as equals to our fellow human beings is essential.

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8/11/73: The Night That Changed The World: The Birth Chart of Hip Hop

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One of the ideas surrounding Astrology is that everything has a birth.Whether it’s a person or an event, the placement of the planets at any given moment in time reflects the nature of that moment and whatever is born will embody the qualities of that particular time.

To say that August 11, 1973 changed the world would be a gross understatement.

What initially began as Cindy Campbell’s end of summer/back to school Jam for a few children in a rec room at 1520 Sedgwick Avenue in the Bronx, turned into her brother, Clive Campbell, better known as Kool Herc, hot wiring the base of a street lamp to juice up his Herculoid speakers for three thousand people. The party eventually had to be moved from Sedgwick to Cedar Park. (Source: Joe Conzo)

Since this time, a large number of us have witnessed hip hop expand into a culture of mythic proportions.

There are very few parts of the world or avenues of expression which hip hop hasn’t affected and we see it’s influence alive and well every day as we board the subway trains, listen to our radios, turn on our ipods, or flip the channels on the television remote.

All of this being said, the questions are: how has hip hop handled this massive growth and transition? What’s next for the culture?  Will the jam at Sedgwick ave always have a place in its heart?

Hip hop was born on August 11, 1973 at 9:00 pm in the Bronx, NY (the birth time came from a flyer advertising the party).

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With it’s charts’ hemispheric emphasis being in the westthere’s the necessity to interact with others.

Hip Hop culture is about participation. It’s subject to what individuals have to contribute to it via their unique style and flavor.

Also, with some planets in the east, the life of hip hop culture is conditioned by ego justification: not only is it about participation, but also who’s the baddest, freshest, dopest and illest.

 With the blend of the Sun in Leo and the Moon in Capricorn, hip hop’s life force is fueled by creative self-expression,  ego acknowledgement and validation of it’s identity.

It desires to be noticed as a shining and authoritative force in the world. This is reflected in a personality form which has a reigning need for status and recognition. It’s nourished by it’s influence over the masses, it’s ambition and the ability to make things happen. 

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The Pisces Ascendant suggest that it’s thrust into the world is a unitive one. Seeking to dissolve boundaries and barriers between individuals and link into the oneness of the collective.

However, in many instances, there is an element of camouflage and some of the energy surrounding the culture isn’t as it appears to be.

The Sun’s placement in the 6th house indicates that the self-expressive and stylistic renderings of Leo would be best served in a field of experience which promotes service to others. Furthermore, the pursuance of becoming master of one’s craft and offering that as one’s work is highly pronounced.

Mercury in Leo’s communication needs center around oratorical flamboyance and the unquestioning self-assurance which makes heroes and heroines.

Mercury is trine Neptune which suggests a free flowing infusion of idealism, creative visualization and lyrical flow. There’s a solid strength in the ability to paint pictures with words. 

However, this can easily escape into the world of fantasy, smokescreens and delusion. The direct opposite of the “keep it real” mentality that has pervaded the culture for so many years. Additionally, Mercury’s wide opposition to Jupiter further enhances the vibe of persuasive, yet grandiose and excessive verbal messages.

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Continuing along the lines of communication, Uranus, Pluto and Venus in the Mercury ruled 7th house suggests that the manner in which hip hop relates to the public has the potential to be highly artistic and creative with shockingly transformative overtones.

Venus in Virgo’s tight square to the Sagittarius Midheaven is indicitave of developmental tension between the purity of culture which hip hop seeks to preserve and the universal face it wishes to present to the world as it’s crowning achievement.

There are regular and sometimes volatile discussions about what staying true to “pure” hip hop culture actually means. So, this might result in the dynamic of large scale striving in the world with less thought of hip hop’s efficient functioning or competence when placed in a social and relational context.

Jupiter’s placement in Aquarius outlines that the rewards for hip hop come through it’s innovation and thinking outside the box.

The ability to push the envelope when it comes to convention and to assert it’s “voice” with courage and emotional fervor as the Moon square to Mars indicates.

However, the flip side of the coin is to strike the balance between it’s obvious business needs (Moon in Capricorn) and it’s desire to apply energy in the world aggressively and sometimes without caution (Mars in Aries).

Tying up the chart, the nodal axis in Capricorn/Cancer means that a balance must be achieved between the deep attunement to roots,culture and security (Cancer) and it’s potential to affect progress and span a broader base of influence (Capricorn).

The difficult questions continue to remain about how hip hop becoming more corporate and commercial has effected the familial environment it was birthed in on Sedgwick Avenue.

Again, as hip hop’s Pisces Ascendant suggests, it presents itself to the world in an inspirational fashion, but the actual reality appears to be much more nebulous and something which can’t be readily grasped at this time. Only time will tell which direction the culture is headed.

Integrating Opposite Signs in the Birth Chart

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“I’m a True Sagittarius !” “I’m all Gemini, and proud of it !” I’m the epitome of a Scorpio !”

If you ask most Astrologers, chances are that they’ve heard statements similar to these a countless number of times.

So, what do these declarations really mean?

If I had to guess, I would say that people tend to identify very strongly with the characteristics which are representative of their sun signs. Of course, those of us who have had our charts done know that it’s impossible to be “all” or 100% of any sign. And, to take this statement a little further, you probably wouldn’t want to be. 

I know that this may sound particularly peculiar coming from someone who has titled his blog “Sagittarian Mind”. However, I’m discovering that some of us are really ‘missing the boat’ in failing to grasp the inherent gifts contained in the totality of our charts. Especially our opposite or complementary signs, which add a considerable amount of balance and “fill in the blanks.”

As Piero Ferrci stated in his book “What We may Be” :

” People identified with one pole may be rich in the quality of the opposite one but repress it, and consciously devalue it.”

If we’re truly striving to become integrated human beings, this line of thinking is worthy of serious consideration. Here’s how I have applied this idea to the twelve signs of the zodiac:

In Aries, we have the initiator, leader and pioneer. The Ram suggests aspirations of an assertive “go-getter” who spearheads projects and delegates to others with the aim of successful completion. Aries can call on it’s opposite sign’s (Libra) qualities of instituting teamwork, cooperation and maintaining harmony to make this happen.

In Taurus,  there’s the energy which suggests consistency and stability. The builder and conservative who is reserved in expression, yet solid as a rock. Patient and practical with a great deal of common sense. However, he or she knows that they cannot remain in the same rigid pattern which produces inertia. Taurus can call on it’s opposite sign, Scorpio for depth perception and the capacity to transform through elimination of people, places and objects that have reached their expiration date and no longer contribute to self-empowerment.

In Gemini, we have the versatile ‘jack of all trades who is driven by a compulsive need to gather information. Here we have the reporter, journalist and social butterfly. The twins are curious, witty and highly intelligent. However, Gemini can call on it’s opposite sign of Sagittarius to teach them the difference between information and knowledge. To point Gemini towards a larger understanding and context in which to place the many details they’ve acquired.

In Cancer, we have the sensitive nurturer who takes care of family and fiercely protects their loved ones. Fortified by the world of emotions and imagination, Cancer can call on it’s opposite sign of Capricorn to educate them on the process of exposing themselves to the world of feelings, yet not becoming engulfed in them. In turn, this tutoring will allow Cancer to help others help themselves. Tenderly, yet objectively pointing then to the road of self-sufficiency.

In Leo, we have the charismatic, self-expressive hero. Generous in sharing time and energy with others, the Lion and Lioness radiate as they feel the power of their individuality surging through their veins.Leo’s opposite sign of Aquarius can teach that these ensigns weren’t just granted for personal use, but for the good of the collective and humanity in general. The Water Bearer can show the Lion how to make the stage large enough to accommodate all.

In Virgo, we have the critical thinker. Analytical, discriminating and precise with TWO eyes for detail.

Virgo’s opposite sign of Pisces can introduce the value of listening to intuition and resisting the urge to deconstruct people and situations with cold, hard facts. Pisces says to Virgo :” I.Q. is great, but E.Q. is equally valid.”

In Libra, we have the diplomat. Charming, peaceful and tactful. Able to navigate virtually any social situation with grace,the scales have an entire etiquette class stored in their brain.

Libra’s opposite sign of Aries grabs them off the proverbial “fence” that they’ve been riding all night and shows the scales how to make their wishes known and start a sentence with “I”.

In Scorpio, we have the probing, investigating depth psychologist. The scorpion’s breakfast consists of passion pancakes and intensity tea. Their ability to get to the bottom of people and situations is second to none.

However, the opposite sign of Taurus can teach the scorpion that maybe your next door neighbor didn’t mean anything else than “good morning.” The bull can bring stability to Scorpio and ease it’s emotional turbulence by providing the grounding of the earth.

ISagittarius, we have knowledge, wisdom and understanding. The philosopher, teacher and metaphysician. Questing, traveling and seeking. Sagittarians know that “foreign exchange” isn’t just trading in your U.S. Dollars for Euros, rather it’s the exchanging of thoughts and ideas regarding concepts which were essentially “foreign” before you became exposed to them. Sagittarius’ opposite sign of Gemini can help the archer keep it’s facts straight and accurate. The twins can help Sagittarians, who have a penchant for overlooking details, to keep their ducks in a row. Gemini says to Sag: “Don’t forget to double check the math in that checkbook register !Remember, we still have a week to go on this trip!”

In Capricorn, we have the CEO, the achiever and the producer. Caps are In the office sipping on coffee at 6 am reading the Wall Street Journal in their traditional dark blue suits. A master at delaying short-term gratification in exchange for long term value, the goat has reached success through self-discipline and becoming his own inner authority. Capricorn’s opposite sign of Cancer teaches how to tenderly give of themselves and protect others in a sensitive way without relinquishing their title. Only adding another dimension towards their wholeness.

In Aquarius, we have the activist, revolutionary and the rebel. Willing to fight with”the people” for a common cause. Although relating to individuals on somewhat of an impersonal level, the water bearer is a true friend to humanity. Aquarius’ opposite sign of Leo can teach him that sometimes you have to be your own best friend. Also, it’s okay to let your light shine above the crowd every now and then. Leo says: It’s okay to lend your talents to the collective, but you have to be able to embark on a repo mission at any time to take your skills back for personal use !

In Pisces, we have the creative musician, imaginative artist and the compassionate healer. The fish have the capacity to travel the invisible realms of life and return with a full report. Pisces realizes that were all bound together by cords. That all manifestations of life are spiritual in nature, and that term must be broadened and a wider net must be cast. Virgo, the opposite sign of Pisces can teach the fish the value of rational analysis and provide the much needed filters of discrimination. Virgo says to Pisces: the expression of spirituality and intuitive faculty does not excuse us from having to separate the wheat from the chaff.

Pisces Sun, Libra Moon

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Within this combination, the need for personal refinement and gentility is wed with aspirations of merging with an entity greater than oneself through artistic endeavors.

Your energy for self-expression is collected in a private space. The inner life is of utmost importance. You’re constantly engaged in your lifetime homework of discovering the unifying cords which permeate our existence.

You have an emotional need to bring beauty into the world, but may struggle because of questioning whether your sense of aesthetic appreciation is acceptable to others. After all, establishing harmony and win-win situations is your forte.

Visionary ideals that are all inclusive inspire you. Personal relationships are viewed in the context of everyone’s membership in the human family. Quality associations with progressive, creative souls can provide invaluable assistance in connecting to your own spiritual power source.

To maintain your vitality, it’s essential that you look at your life as a blank canvas, painting lines and contours which reflect your unique worldview. Your highly developed sense of intuition can serve you as a guide.

Allowing yourself to become immersed in the “flow” of life while avoiding the trap of using your head or heart exclusively, promotes your equilibrium.

What you’re really trying to accomplish is to paint a clear portrait of whatever your inner landscape is at the time and offer it as a gift to the world.

It’s important to keep in mind that exploring your connection to life not only consists of cohesive factors, but also how you’re distinctly and decidedly YOURSELF.

Lack of concrete boundaries and an overfunctioning need for approval can emerge as your achilles heel if sufficient effort isn’t expended in cultivating a solid sense of identity.

There’s a difference between displaying fluidity, which helps you adapt to others, and neglecting your need for personal autonomy.

Libra Sun, Pisces Moon

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Within this combination, social and creative intelligence form an iron clad coalition. Merging oneself with the intangible realms of life via artistic channels of self-reflection is the gateway to balancing one’s identity. This sun-moon blend suggests that to feel “alive” and maintain vitality, one’s concerns should be directed toward the development of intuition and interpersonal savvy.

You shine in the realm of being interested in others and it reflects through a personality which holds peace and idealism in high esteem.

With aesthetic sensitivity and creative imagination as your handmaidens, people feel understood intellectually as well as emotionally in your presence. It’s as if you’ve slid right under your skin and started gently peeling away at the inner layers.

As a result of your tremendous fluency in the languages of the head and heart, your challenge will be to maintain who you are without becoming submerged in the “skin” of others.

Objectivity and empathy can serve you consistently as strengths if you can listen with an open heart and seek to understand, resisting the inclination to provide unsolicited evaluations.

Seek to sincerely connect in order to open the pathway to deeper. more meaningful dialogue with others.

In the sphere of intimate relationships, there’s an emphasis on granting wishes and fulfilling fantasies.

To have your love feeling “full” in mind, heart and spirit is the goal, along with idealistic hopes that an unspoken reciprocation will be soon to follow.

You will no doubt be faced with the dilemma of how to keep your union “polished” when the luster inevitably fades; of stoking the fire when the heat dissipates. Have confidence in your enormous charm, mammoth imagination and your capacity to meet one halfway and they will not fail you.

 

The Courage To Explore: Intimate Relationships & What Lies Beneath

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It’s amazing how relationships can move so swiftly, from the point that says: ” I really want to get to know you better.” “I accept every part of you.” “For better of for worse.” Or, “what we have is SO real,” and then revert to a dismal: “Clearly, you weren’t who I thought you were.” “You fooled me.” Or, the best : “You fake ass mother f%$&*% !”

How do our relationships vacillate  to such extremes in a matter of months, weeks or even days?

My contention is that over idealism and intoxication, compliments of “fairy dust” can blind us to the possibilities that something more complex and sinister lurks beneath the surface. In many cases, we outright refuse to acknowledge the shadow which pervades intimate relationships.

Actually, the force is only “sinister” if we choose to ignore the dark, as if it doesn’t exist. Otherwise, these dynamics can assist us in arriving at a deeper place with our partners, if that’s what we truly want.

Additionally, it’s important to understand that we must deal with the shadow, not only in our relationships with others, but also in our MOST intimate relationship: with OURSELVES.

To plumb the depths of our psyches isn’t a journey for the faint of heart. There’s a considerable risk of discovering contents which we’re uncomfortable with.

You know: those which increase our heart beat, incite nausea and cause us to squirm. We feel this way because if ANYONE discovered that these thoughts were a part of our psychological framework, we feel as is we would be immediately be judged, ostracized and rejected.

However, what bears consideration is that these very same contents, while acknowledged and given a constructive outlet for expression can serve is as an agent in our development and ultimate transformation.

Much of the time, during the beginning stages of a relationship, a decision is made by one or both partners to engage in strategies which are designed to cover up the parts of ourselves which we deem as being “ugly”. We construct a veneer of bullshit  and call it ourselves, and no matter how sophisticated our tactics may be, every time we turn around, the bullshit is there, just hanging out.

As a result, between two people, intimacy is stifled and given a snowball’s chance in hell” of developing because it can’t surface in an environment so ripe with dishonesty.

Generally, we’ve bought the bill of goods society has sold us: telling to us that we can have a genuine relationship without being genuine. We’ve been told that the correct course of action is to hide our blemishes and make only the acceptable parts of ourselves visible.

The lingering hope is this: by the time the other person recognizes all of our bullshit (there’s that word again), they’ll be so invested (a mortgage, 2 or 3 children deep, etc..) that they won’t have the strength, sanity or peace of mind to fight for their own well-being and “at least we’ll have somebody”.

We’ve somehow become convinced of the notion that navigating difficult territory is something to be avoided at all costs. We strive to avoid pain any way that we can, thereby creating more of it because of our refusal to deal with it when it was knocking at our front door, staring us in the face.

In virtually every area of life, we’ve  been told that we can get what we want through some type of shortcut. Get rich quick, lose weight fast, a holiday meal to go in a box, quick, earth shattering astrology readings, and the list goes on.

It’s more accurate to say that successful relationships don’t materialize via mystical and magical means. The willingness of both parties to share, seek mutual understanding, create space for the honoring and expression of feelings and emotions and confronting aspects of ourselves and the other that are difficult to deal with are all part of this process.

For explorations sake, let’s follow the theory that when we feel vulnerable in relationships, we associate that with weakness. So, we go searching for a “mask” to wear that’s going to help us not appear so weak. Automatically, this obscures what we know of and desire to express about our true self. The act naturally puts shackles on our ability to experience life more deeply with another person. Immediately, limits are strapped into place and there’s only so far that we can go.

We forget that we’re human beings and life contains many dimensions which aren’t filed under the category of niceties and bliss.

While this may be an unpopular view, it doesn’t detract from its validity. I would also encourage everyone to ask themselves the question whether one of their purposes for developing intimate relationships stems more from the desire to gain a certain amount or type of social acceptance, or to explore deeper aspects of themselves as a catalyst for personal and collective growth.

Douglas and Naomi Moseley write:

“Developing an attractive personality does not eliminate the parts of ourselves that are unacceptable, they just become more disguised and layered over.”

Furthermore:

“People who are only willing to look at or be aware of one portion of themselves are essentially living in a delusion, well intended though that delusion may be. Behind their masks, they don’t know who they are or what they feel. The control they exert to present an acceptable self-image to others (and themselves) is likely to leave them numb and without passion. Major dimensions within the self are lost or repressed. Living behind a mask takes energy. The process of suppressing becomes so habitual that they forget how much energy is consumed by putting on a good, pleasant face and living up to an image.”

We stand on the rooftops and shout that we want someone to “love me for me” or “accept me as I am” and this raises two important questions: Are we willing to honestly reveal ourselves to the degree that genuine acceptance is possible and will we reciprocate?

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The universe is asking us to push ourselves to create strategies to relate as authentically as possible and discard that “shit eating grin” which we may have been carrying around with us for some time. The feedback from the cosmos is telling us that the jig is up and the masks no longer work. Can we face our own shadow? Can we vow to escape the morass of comfortable numbness and self-deceit?

If we can do this, we can jump-start true change in our lives. If not, we may find ourselves searching for discounts for costumes at Party City.

Notes: “Dancing In The Dark: The Shadow Side of Intimate Relationships by Douglas & Naomi Moseley