Astrology & Compatibility: Eliminating the Myth of the “Perfect Match”

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“Everything that irritates us about others can lead us to an understanding of ourselves.” – Carl Jung

Where intimate relationships are concerned, there seems to be an ongoing debate regarding the significance of zodiac signs and astrology in general.

Some think astrology is quite helpful as a tool for self knowledge and it’s ability to highlight the themes and tendencies which may be present in their personal relationships, while others cast astrology as containing minimal merit and even playing  on the naivete and desperation of individuals who are searching for answers as to why they cannot find their dream partner or soulmate.

In true Sagittarian fashion, I’m going to give it to you straight.

Astrology is a strikingly profound art. When used constructively, practically, and with honorable intentions, it can reveal a great deal of valuable information regarding our compatibility with another individual.


However, what it doesn’t reveal is the level of consciousness at which we, or the partners we are comparing ourselves with are living out in our birth charts. Astrology does not tell us how mature we are or how accountable we are for our behavior.


In synastry,(a.k.a. relationship astrology) having a “good” chart does not let you off the hook in maintaining the relationship any more than having a beautiful front lawn excuses you from mowing and caring for it.

Conversely, while a “difficult” chart may indicate challenges, if addressed earnestly, the two individuals may produce an inseperable union built on integrity, trust and mutual respect.

If we truly plan on using astrology for guidance in dating and relationships the way it was intended, the best method of operation is for us to know ourselves first.

Let’s have our charts interpreted by a competent professional astrologer. Or, at the minimum, explore a reliable free website to obtain a copy of our birth charts.

Through active participation we will be vastly more equipped to delve into, and evaluate, with discrimination, the wealth of information available in books and cyberspace. It is a requirement that we develop a thorough understanding of our own astrological dynamics, or we will find ourselves forever uttering the dreaded sentences:

“I’ll never date a (insert zodiac sign) again” or 
“I don’t date (insert zodiac sign)”

For example, let’s say that you are now praising the celestial gods because you’ve found your “ideal” Pisces Man/Woman, and it appears that you’ll never have to deal with the cold, remote and impersonal Aquarian energies that give you the heebie- jeebies.


However, you never looked deeply enough into the totality of astrology to find out that he/she’s an Aquarius rising with a stellium of the moon, mercury and venus in aquarius in the 11th house. True, the individual may have a Pisces sun, but a major portion of their chart reflects the same Aquarian flavoring that you were so intent upon escaping from.

We may need to participate in some serious self-examination and ask ourselves honest questions regarding whether we’ve discovered another convenient scapegoat on which to pin our anxieties, insecurities and frustrations.

Or, we sincerely want to incorporate astrology as a viable system of assistance and insight, into our relationships.

Another point worth considering is: through astrological research,  we may  discover that what’s holding us back is US.

OUR fears, phobias, baggage, complexes, etc… which we have conveniently projected upon the Scorpios, Sagittarians and Libra’s of the world. Maybe we’re not personifying the highest energies of our individual planetary placements and relationships. Difficult to read? Yes. Worth considering? Also yes.


When we reduce or remove accountability from the equationand minimize the power of our own efforts at self-improvement, we have not only failed astrology, but more importantly failed ourselves.

Working in our best interest, we allow astrology to serve us as a tool, we don’t serve IT, coupled with the self-deception that some irreversible cosmic fate awaits us.

So, who is your astrological dream match?

The answer is YOU.

The better YOU that you’re becoming. The YOU that you’re sincerely and consistently working to improve. YOU, with all of your strengths, talentsgifts, flaws and challenges. The wiser YOU, who, through experience has become more enlightened, liberated from past hurts, and more loving.

The life-affirming and positive YOU, who is ready to embark on the journey of becoming fully engaged in relating to another human being in an honest, intimate and heartfelt manner. Respecting and honoring your individual destinies, while sharing a collective quest.

Know and become yourself, and watch your world expand.         

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Leo Sun, Capricorn Moon

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This sun/moon combination suggests that emotional and psychological fulfillment comes through harnessing one’s abilities to consolidate resources in the name of personal growth.

The type of fuel your “engine” runs on contains aspirations to gain notice from others through a creative and unique expression of yourself and your gifts. If administrative prowess and personal promotion are blended successfully, there’s potential for the high visibility which comes with leadership, provided that you inspire others through an example of sincerity as opposed to being a walking exercise in ego inflation.

The step by step building of an internal locus of control nourishes you and helps you to ground your sense of authority. If your heart space is well-organized, the beaming light which accompanies your charisma has the potential to shine though in order to gain the personal recognition which you seek.

One of your keys to becoming a well-integrated person is to take responsibility for everything that you are. To recognize your strengths as well as your limitations and how to responsibly and effectively live within them.

When you “walk the talk”, you feel as if you’re standing on a firm foundation and there are no contradictions in your thoughts, words or deeds. In turn, this affords you the insight that you never have to settle for less than you deserve in your personal relationships or dealings with others.

In essence, you’re self-validated and don’t feel guilty about asking for, or pursuing what you want.

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Capricorn Sun, Gemini Moon: “Mental Stamina”

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“Thoughts are things, so we find that different kinds of thoughts become different kinds of things. Thought is always creative; it must always create after its own type. It must always give form to something, and the something to which it gives form is not a thing of itself because the thought that creates the form is the product of the thinker. The thinker comes first, then the thought, and then the form.”

-Ernest Holmes 

To many of us, how the thought world operates is somewhat elusive. We may view the material manifestation of events and circumstances as purely “happenstance” or find some other type of rationalization as to why things are the way they are.

There are many alternate ways of considering how the world around us works, and this is one of the life tasks or missions of the Capricorn Sun, Gemini Moon individual:

to embrace a insatiable curiosity and multi-faceted inquiry regarding the manner in which your personal thought and concept selection influences your reality.

This Sun/Moon blend suggests that one has the potential for self-mastery and authority through diversifying life experiences and exposure to a multitude of viewpoints and perspectives. In addition to the contact with variety, one also needs to recognize, confront and navigate the duality that presents itself within ideas you choose to explore.

The fuel which Capricorn requires to function optimally is strategic and administrative. Devising a system of progressive steps to reach a desired goal or “bottom line.”  The solar light is reflected by a personality that has the need for choices and variation. The individual is fulfilled through variation and the absence of monotony.

The questions which come from this combination center around results; what’s visible as a demonstration of one’s mental abilities. The ultimate goal is to structure one’s life-force through the use of the intellect, adaptability and the capacity to build structures that last.

A dysfunctional expression of this combination is one who lacks discipline and focus.

There’s a distinct difference between having a variety of legitimate interests and only sticking with something until the euphoric newness wears off and then flitting to the next thing which captures your momentary attention.

In this case, “so many interests” may be used as a smokescreen for actually getting down to work; to facing the internal organization it takes to map out a successful game plan.

When operating effectively, there’s an establishment of a concentrative center  and stamina within the intellectual sphere. One is aware of their ability to select their thoughts, just like they do their meals or their clothes. There’s not only the realization that “garbage in equals garbage out”, but a self-appointed responsibility toward mental productivity, with the aspirations toward producing palpable success.

With this Sun/Moon blend, your theme song is : “Mental Stamina” by Jeru The Damaja featuring Afu Ra. You can listen here:

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Libra Sun, Pisces Moon : “Beautiful”

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Within this combination, social and creative intelligence form an iron clad coalition. Merging oneself with the intangible realms of life via artistic channels of self-reflection is the gateway to balancing one’s identity. This sun-moon blend suggests that to feel “alive” and maintain vitality, one’s concerns should be directed toward the development of intuition and interpersonal savvy.

You shine in the realm of being interested in others and it reflects through a personality which holds peace and idealism in high esteem.

With aesthetic sensitivity and creative imagination as your handmaidens, people feel understood intellectually as well as emotionally in your presence. It’s as if you’ve slid right under your skin and started gently peeling away at the inner layers.

As a result of your tremendous fluency in the languages of the head and heart, your challenge will be to maintain who you are without becoming submerged in the “skin” of others.

Objectivity and empathy can serve you consistently as strengths if you can listen with an open heart and seek to understand, resisting the inclination to provide unsolicited evaluations.

Seek to sincerely connect in order to open the pathway to deeper. more meaningful dialogue with others.

In the sphere of intimate relationships, there’s an emphasis on granting wishes and fulfilling fantasies.

To have your love feeling “full” in mind, heart and spirit is the goal, along with idealistic hopes that an unspoken reciprocation will be soon to follow.

You will no doubt be faced with the dilemma of how to keep your union “polished” when the luster inevitably fades; of stoking the fire when the heat dissipates. Have confidence in your enormous charm, mammoth imagination and your capacity to meet one halfway and they will not fail you.

With this Sun/Moon combo, your theme music is “Beautiful” by DJ Premier. You can listen right here:


Cancer Sun, Taurus Moon : “Home”

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In an individual birth chart, when the Sun is placed in Cancer and the Moon in Taurus, the core life energy which stimulates the person is tied to emotional intimacy and security.

The Sun placed in Cancer suggests the importance of connecting and influencing others on an emotional level as well as establishing or belonging to a “tribe” or “clan” of sorts. While “family” is also another term which can be used, it must be made clear that family can be biological or ideological in nature. Much of Cancerian energy is oriented toward nurturing. In other words, assisting in the growth and development of people or things.

The Sun’s placement in Cancer suggests a highly developed intuition and “EQ” or emotional intelligence which helps them to foster bonds of intimacy with others.

The Taurus Moon uses the Sun’s light to reflect a personality whose needs are to maintain things are in hopes of building more stability. There’s a reigning emotional need to remain “solid as a rock” The Taurus Moon’s placement suggests that the individual may be nourished by hopes of creating a structure of lasting value.

When an individual with this Sun-Moon blend is operating dysfunctionally, emotional and operational inertia are at center stage. There’s major difficulty with freeing oneself from obsolete patterns of sentiment and mind numbing daily routines.

It’s as if they’re going in circles, choosing to consistently FEEL and DO the same things over and over again. A constructive use of this blend is using the fuel of emotional depth and a rich feeling life as a tool for inner exploration to curb patterns of personal rigidity.

If you have a this combination, your theme song is “Home” by Illa J. You can listen here:


Aquarius Sun, Gemini Moon : “Aquemini”

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There are a multitude of ways to explore one’s uniqueness and part of your purpose for operating with this sun moon blend will be to place information you gather about how you function into a larger context to find out what really makes YOU the person that you are.

Your life’s mission isn’t supposed to be relegated to a static and cumbersome existence. You may find that you’ll have to “try on a number of hats” and embrace the continual transformation that’s taking place.

An insatiably inquiring mind, your ability to adjust to changing circumstances and a non-conformist bent are all resources which you need to tap into in order to maximize this solar/lunar connection. You’ll find that you will be able to display your capacity to awaken others most effectively when coming off of the heels of major insights about yourself and your multi-dimensionality.

With all of this “air” floating around, a concern is that you’ll concoct the most brilliant ideas, but will never use them. Or, you’ll get trapped into your head and rationalize that you’re so “ahead of your time” that others won’t understand you, or in some cases, don’t deserve to hear what you have to say.

Deep down, what you really want is appreciation for being an original thinker who doesn’t suffer from conceptual incarceration and is constantly open to a revolutionary stream of consciousness. However,  there needs to be a solid strategy for bringing form to your brilliance.

If you find yourself feeling stifled, it’s most likely because you haven’t truly allowed yourself the space which you need to circulate or made room for the truism that every second, you’re evolving into a different person.

Obsession about classifying every facet of your being can lead to stagnation of the highest order, so pull out all of the stops in figuring out what makes you tick and then compare what the various explorations are trying to tell you. Understand that this is a lifetime process and that you’re really seeking something that can’t be encompassed in the walls of hard-core definitions.

Your theme music is “Aquemini” by Outkast.

PS: this isn’t a horoscope or a lie!

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Cancer Sun, Leo Moon : “Soulful Shine”

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When the Sun is in Cancer and the Moon is in Leo in a birth chart, the themes of giving and receiving love push themselves to the forefront with swift and immediate action. The light which ignites the life force of Cancer is comprised of a psychological drive to nurture; to take care of people and things, assisting in their development.

Fulfillment of this mission is dependent upon the Crab’s ability to form close and intimate emotional ties, engaging in empathetic understanding and unconditional love. Thereby providing a strong, solid foundation for a person and or a relationship to flourish at maximum capacity. Tenderness, protection, affection, kindness and warmth are behavioral potentials which can contribute to the recipe of self-realization for the Cancer Sun. Because the Crab often times moves slowly and in a circuitous manner, don’t be fooled.

They fully realize what they’re doing. Often, we praise the signs which reveal their agendas shouting from the rooftops, yet fail to examine further and weigh talk versus action. When Cancer grabs a hold of an objective, person or otherwise, there are few signs which exhibit such tenacity. This unyielding disposition can work FOR them in obtaining what they want because of the emotionally charged focus that helps them to fight off obstacles in their path to success.

However it can also prove to be detrimental through extreme subjectivity and failure to realize that there may be situations and people which call for letting go. The Moon in Leo utilizes the light of the Cancer Sun and forms a personality which is nourished by the validation of their fundamental identity. The lunar Lion or Lioness possesses a reigning emotional need to be loved for WHO THEY ARE. 

While the Cancer Sun asks : “what can I do to help you feel more loved and comfortable ?” The Leo Moon wants and needs you to return the favor and show them that you sincerely appreciate the totality of their being. Leo Moon’s love being themselves and have a desire to shine in their own Kingdoms and Queendoms while simultaneously remaining the light of your life. So, what does this sun-moon combo look like when it’s well integrated?

A individual who prizes their own unique creative self-expression and views the ability to nurture and form intimate connections as a facet of their multi- dimensional identity. One who is neither overly self- absorbed or dramatically self-sacrificial. One who is able to walk the tightrope of independence and intimacy; who knows that there’s strength in offering their love as a gift to another human being, but the endowment shouldn’t come at the expense of dulling their bright colors to the world.

A person who has embraced the Queen or King within, and while they appreciate the outside applause, they can turn their back on the crowd and walk away with their head high when they so desire.

Your theme song is “Soul” by Asheru and Blue Black

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Capricorn Sun, Scorpio Moon : “I Mean Business”


In an individual birth chart, when the Sun is in Capricorn and the Moon in Scorpio, there’s the potential unfolding of an authoritative administrator in the material world synthesized with an emotional strategist. This combination suggests that playing the cards close to the vest is the order of the day.

There’s an astute way in which adversity, crisis and danger can be faced, both as an unflappable stoic and a reliable “rock”. The challenge with this combination is to keep the channels of flow and experience open, as not to become too tightly bound with rigid  and static controls which can lead to repressed elements, which may emerge as projections on others.

The optimal type of fuel for this individual to operate on is one of ever increasing opportunities to achieve status and become recognized for hard work and ambition; to embark on developmental tasks which lead to the concretization of ideals.

This fuel is blended with a personality form which needs to plumb the depths of it’s emotional body; to grasp its interior world and psyche at very profound levels with the hopes of severely minimizing superficial experiences.

Your Theme Song is “I Mean Business” by the Diamond District

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Scorpio Sun, Gemini Moon : “Investigative Reports”

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A couple of weeks ago, I made the comment that many Scorpios I know would scoff at the laws contained in Robert Greene’s bestselling book “The 48 Laws of Power”.

Their reaction wouldn’t be geared so much toward the accuracy or inaccuracy of the strategies, but more so the public’s awe over tactics which are pretty much “basic” ingredients in the scorpion’s toolbox.

In writing about the Scorpio Sun/Gemini Moon blend, I’d like to call your attention specifically to law number 23: Concentrate Your Forces.

“Conserve your forces and energies by keeping them concentrated at their strongest point. You gain more by finding a rich mine and mining it deeper , than by flitting from one shallow mine to another. Intensity defeats extensity every time”

This Sun/Moon blend requires BOTH intensity AND extensity. It needs to DIG AND FLIT.

The combination of a Scorpio Sun and Gemini Moon in an individual birth chart suggests that this person is stimulated by plumbing the depths of life experience. Their core energy is geared toward investigating and penetrating their own, as well as others  motivations for living; to discover what makes them tick. Scorpio will leave no stone unturned if it means unearthing what’s hidden from the “average” person’s view.

This placement also suggests a fearlessness of the dark. The murky waters and dismal abyss which may be met along their journey is just ‘par for the course’. After all, human nature is comprised ofeverything: both light AND dark, and the “stuff scorpions hate” is when everything is buried which might be characterized as ugly, troublesome or taboo in the name of a “Leave it To Beaver” brand of existence. No… dinner isn’t going to be served promptly at 5:00 p.m. tonight. No… it’s not piping hot on the stove as Dad walks through the door. As a matter of fact, Dad may be at the Holiday Inn with his Administrative Assistant. Yeah… you get the picture.

The Moon in Gemini uses the sun’s light to reflect a personality which needs to adapt to ever changing conditions and classify the experienceDuality, diversity, ambiguity and flexibility nourish the individual with the Moon placed in Gemini.  While the core identity (sun) says: “dig deep, penetrate, probe and scrutinize”, the needs of the personality (moon) say: stretch, diversify, get out of the narrow confines of that tight space.”  After all, Gemini is an air sign and air needs to circulate. What happens when air gets closed up in a room for too long? It becomes STALE.

“Gemini moon desperately needs mental variety and learning of all kinds. But the primary challenge to them as they go through life is confronting this question: with all of these ideas and “facts” do I have any depthsof real knowledge, and with all this learning , have I gained any understanding?”

One of the keys to successful navigation of this sun/moon combination is to acknowledge the psychological need for deep investigation and interactions and the emotional need to classify the findings within a wider frame of reference. These needs must be synthesized.

There’s nothing which says we need to choose ONE all consuming passion in life. If we dig one mine deeply, who says the other mines have to be shallow? We must recognize that we’re just as capable of burnout via ”the big heave ho” as we are through trying to do too many things at once. There needs to be a friendly agreement between our capacity to both divide and concentrate our forces and apply the appropriate strategy when necessary. These two potentials need not be at war.

Within this blend, Scorpio can add depth and focus to Gemini’s sometime wayward attention span and Gemini can bring a dash of levity to Scorpio’s frequent journeys into life’s underworld.

Your Theme song is “‘Investigative Reports” by the GZA Feat. U-God, Raekwon & Ghostface Killah

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References: “The 48 Laws of Power” by Robert Greene; “Person to Person Astrology: Energy Factors in Love, Sex & Compatibility” by Stephen Arroyo.



Sagittarius Sun, Gemini Moon : “Whirlwind Thru Cities”

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A number of years back, a film was made by HBO on the infamous boxing promoter, Don King. Mr. King was played by Ving Rhames. One of the things I’ll always remember was the completely Sagittarian philosophy King was portrayed as displaying toward the contracts of his boxers when promoting his fights : “just sign by the X and we’ll fill in the details later !!!” He exclaimed.

This leads us into the land of the Gemini-Sagittarius polarity.

In a birth chart, when the Sun is placed in Sagittarius, the core energy which provides stimulus to the individual consists of broadening the identity and worldview via physical and intellectual questing. It’s a necessity to view life from the widest frame of reference.

Psychologically, the archer is driven by the pursuit of an all encompassing truth and philosophy which provides clues to the grand cosmic design of which we’re all a part.

A thirst for knowledge and search for meaning which enlists the archetypes of the Wise Woman/Man, Visionary, Philosopher, Prophet and Teacher of High Wisdom pervades the heart of the centaur’s life force.

The Moon in Gemini uses the energy of the Sun to reflect forth an individual whose personality needs consist of the diversification of thought, social adaptability and a constant flow of mental discourse and the sharing of ideas.

This Sun-Moon blend illustrates the Sagittarian potential for synthesis of the whole along with Gemini’s possibilities in the adroit analysis of the parts. Where the energy of Gemini classifies, labels and categorizes, Sagittarius theorizes and creates more comprehensive systems of thought.

The dysfunctional expression of this Sun-Moon combination can manifest behaviorally as an individual who, amidst the excitement of their new enlightenment, proclaims that they’ve discovered the ONE and ONLY truth which applies to everything. 

Consequently a tremendous amount of time and energy is now spent trying to “convince and convert” others to their worldview while dismissing other findings of truth as being invalid and overlooking important details in the process.

Conversely, One can also become lost in the process of isolating selected pieces of information or the collection of data, never making the transition to a broader spectrum of knowledge and wisdom.

A constructive synthesis of this Sun-Moon combination consists of developing the capacity to grasp the magic of thinking big, while holding simultaneous awareness that “the devil is in the details”. Making room for youthful curiosity and wonderment to acknowledge the myriad of truths which exist within our vast universe.

Your theme song is “Whirlwind Thru Cities” by Afu Ra

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