Sex and The Planets: Mercury


Concerning the intersection of Sex and Astrology, I feel fortunate to have the opportunity to learn more and more every day.  The broader my understanding unfolds, the more I’m arriving at the perspective that sex can be related to many parts of our birth charts in one way or another. Traditionally, Sex is a 5th house concept. However, when looking at the planets as part of one’s sexual profile, I believe that each one can symbolize an important ingredient in the recipe that we all know as sex.

When we specifically look at Mercury and how it relates to sex, we veer off into the realms of curiosity and communication. Mercury is swift, with an amoral quality; doing things JUST for the sake of doing them, trying anything once (and multiple times if they like it); classifying and gathering information. The speed at which the planet moves is symbolic of the penchant of mercurial individuals to keep going, devoid of reflection concerning if what they’re doing is particularly “good” or “bad”, or socially acceptable.

With Mercurial individuals, we have the “tinkering” and experimenting mentality where they’re playing the role of both participant and observer: gathering raw data, analyzing, measuring responses and formulating techniques. The question becomes: “If I do THIS, like THAT, what type of feedback will I get?”

For those involved with “Mercurial” sex individuals, the experience could be particularly pleasurable if you like vocabulary, details, precise descriptions, i.e.; someone explaining what it is that they’re doing to you RIGHT at the moment it’s taking place, or the “play by play”.

Or, on the other side of the coin, one could feel like a “lab rat” of sorts and only there to be another statistic or example of how certain sexual acts can elicit certain sounds or facial expressions.

As I’ve remarked before, where Mercurial individuals and sex are concerned, there could be sexual arousal associated with the sharing of ideas, conversations, linguistics, and people that are considered intellectuals- irrespective of one’s physical appearance.  Also, there may be excitement around “naming” related to specific body parts as related to sex.

When we look at specific sexual scenarios involving Mercury, we make a turn into the territory of things that are cerebral and communication oriented in nature: The writing of erotica, phone sex with detailed descriptions of sexual acts, scenarios like the “bad” librarian or school teacher, the naughty researcher or journalist, situations that involve bisexuality and polyamory, extended foreplay, or sex with multiple partners without a heavy emotional attachment.

In future articles, We’ll cover how Mercury’s combination with other planets flavors these sexual ideas and activities.

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Venus-Neptune Aspects & Erotic Fantasy

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From an Astrological perspective, it’s understood that it’s impossible to reduce a planet to exclusively ONE theme or function. This article is written from that perspective.

Although the planet Venus isn’t strictly about sex, it’s definitely part of the sexual “network” and included in that network  is the EROTIC.

Erotic is defined as: “relating to or tending to arouse sexual desire or excitement.”

In combining Venus with the planet Neptune, which is connected to one’s imaginative faculties and that which is largely invisible, we have a seductive and enthralling combination when it comes to sex. One which is frequently done, but is discussed less, and that’s sexual fantasies.

For those with Venus-Neptune aspects within their birth chart, their sexual life can manifest as a bit of a paradox: one is yearning for the most spiritual and transcendent type of love which includes unconditional acceptance and the revelation that there is a greater, all-unifying reason to be with a partner.

However, simultaneously, one’s mind and imaginative apparatus can be willing to entertain fantasies which have no limits or boundaries involved in what excites or titillates.

In other words, all of the typical constructs that are solidly in place in what we call REAL life, begin to diminish within the framework of the Venus-Neptune imaginative constructs.  There seems to be a correlation with enhanced arousal and free-flowing  ideas where sex and eroticism are concerned.

The way Venus-Neptune aspects can operate in a constructive sense is that a person has the opportunity to explore their sexual and erotic landscape on a broad level and discover that it’s connected to much more than the physical act itself. In fact, one may feel as if they don’t even NEED to engage physically with another person and the rich carousel of the mind will do just fine.

On the flip side of the coin, one must be careful not to succumb to the deceptive portion of Neptune which manifests as a convincing that there’s no value in the power of the tactile.

When this aspect is navigated well,  physicality, sensuality and a fluid imagination all take their rightful place and get their just due.


Sexual Astrology : A Holistic Perspective


As a requirement for living in this world, we’ve been accustomed to adjusting ourselves to certain pressures. While some may be more intense than others, there’s often a person, or group of people who’s more than willing to offer us a more efficient strategy for dealing with the stresses of the world. You could almost say that we get bombarded with these methods from every direction.

Identifying streamlined approaches that bring beneficial results can be a very worthwhile thing for us, However, there’s a slippery slope between following a route which saves us valuable time and energy and shortcuts which contribute to fragmented information and results.

When it comes to sex and astrology, a little information can definitely be dangerous. Sure, it may be amusing to read about the intense, porno style sex associated with Scorpios, the sexual inventiveness of Aquarius or Sagittarius’ foreign sexcapades in a 12 bunk hostel, but these are generalizations based solely on Sun signs.

Make no mistake about it, our psyche is complex. Although important, Sun signs are merely a fraction of our sexual makeup. Our sexuality is representative of us in our totality just as our astrological makeup is reflected in our entire birth chart.

If we rely on just our Sun signs for information, we need not be surprised when we come up short in understanding our own sexuality as well as that of others in any depth.

Our sexual expression is intimately connected to several facets of our birth charts and we have the potential of experiencing those parts of our charts decidedly different from anyone else.

A Mars-Saturn conjunction for one person may suggest sexual fears and inhibition. For another, it could mean that they’re sexually indefatigable. So, it’s important that we don’t throw that party quite yet just because we find out the person we’re dating has a venus-mars conjunction in the 8th house.

There’s no planetary sign/house placement/aspect(s) that “makes” us anything sexually. What our birth charts CAN do, is suggest potential patterns and tendencies as to how certain energies can manifest. AGAIN: this is relayed through the ENTIRE chart.

Not only must we take a holistic view of our birth chart, but also make room for the influences of society and culture surrounding gender roles, sexual mores, taboos and the like. YES: maybe your girlfriend or boyfriend would LIKE to express the aforementioned venus-mars conjunction more freely, but they’re shook by the ideas and concepts that their particular society has regarding sex.

After all, let’s make no mistake that in this country, we live in a patriarchal, male dominated society which sets the standards on what’s “Manly”, how Women are supposed to “behave”, how many sexual partners is “enough”, “too many”, etc..  Let’s go back to 1875 to re- visit the words of Dr. William Acton:

“The best mothers, wives,  and managers of households know little or nothing of sexual indulgences…. As a general rule, a modest woman seldom desires any sexual gratification for herself. She submits to her husband, but only to please him.” (Source: “Sex at Dawn” by Christopher Ryan & Cacilda Jetha)

WELL….. isn’t that nice??? hahahaha….!

Times have surely changed, but we’re still living with some heavy residue of opinions like these. So, there’s virtually  no way that information of this sort can be discounted in a comprehensive sexual analysis.

I’ve outlined a brief snapshot of how various planetary archetypes may contribute to the totality of our sexual expression and experience:

Sun: Our Fuel, vigor and vitality. Ego gratification.

“When your very being has been confirmed then, astrologically speaking, your sun sign has been turned on.  Solar Sex rarely leaves you feeling insignificant, diminished or small; solar sex increases your sense of selfhood. Like the Sun itself, when your being is turned on, you transmit warmth and light to those confirming your reality.”(source:  “Planetary Forces as Sexual Realities” by Antero Alli)

Moon: Emotional needs. Bonding sex. Instinctual reactions. One of the feminine archetypes.

“intimacy, tenderness, closeness, responsiveness, emotional receptivity and caring attention” (source: Person to Person Astrology – Stephen Arroyo)

“With emotional sex, you may notice an instant yet unexplainable familiarity with the other; strange and familiar. “how can i know this person after only one night?” (Alli)


Mercury: Thinking and communicating about sex. The mind as a sexual organ. Salt-n-Pepa Let’s talk about sex. Dead Prez’s “Mind Sex.”

“Mercurial sex is symbolic of those encounters that leave you chatty, either by talking to yourself or chewing the ears off of lovers who will listen. Watch for a lot of phone.”

“Mercury connections between lovers may indicate latent voyeuristic fantasies. Talking about sexual fantasies, writing erotic stories, and engaging in phone sex are three obvious outlets for the voyeuristic forces of ambisexual Mercury.” (Alli)


Venus: The capacity to connect and form rapport. One of the feminine principles channeled into human relationships. Harmonizing, socializing, attraction, enjoyment, beauty and aesthetics.


Mars: Sex drive, the libido. Application of will. How one pursues in sexual matters. The masculine principle. The heat. The sexual “vibe”. How a man may give of himself sexually.

“As the Mars force force grows stronger within us, it turns combustive and explosive, seeking expression through impulsive and spontaneous sex, hot sex, power sex, angry sex, aggressive sex, combative and rough sex.” (Alli)


Jupiter: Sexual openness, growth and expansion. Sex without shame or guilt. Uninhibited sex. Multicultural sex.  Sexual adventure, prowess. Sexual excess. One’s philosophy on sexual matters.

“Another form of Jupiter sex involves those high-flying adventures expanding your consciousness beyond belief. This kind of exotic eroticism can be aroused by courting unfamiliar, foreign experience. When there’s a strong attraction to someone of a different ethnic, ideological, cultural or racial background, Jupiter may be involved.” (Alli)

Saturn: Sexual limits, controls and restrictions. Sexual discipline and responsibility.

Note: Uranus, Neptune and Pluto also contribute to the mix, as their respective archetypes transform whatever planet they contact with some of the following energies:

Uranus: Shocks, liberates and awakens.

Neptune: Dissolves, transcends, spiritualizes, and merges.

Pluto: Explores taboos, regenerates, and “mines” the subconscious.

There’s so much more to be written about this subject, but perspective is everything. When looking at sexual astrology, an individual’s entire chart, as well as other external influences must be considered on the quest for a comprehensive profile.